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thought you ladies might appreciate this

I've been working on this blog post for a few days and I thought I'd share it now that it's up. The title is intentionally controversial-sounding to get people to read it Smile

Birth Unplugged: Why Natural Childbirth is Not Important

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I like what you've said. If more women took the mother-led "birth" approach as opposed to doctor-led "delivery" approach, I believe there would be more natural births and far fewer women would feel robbed of their birth experience.

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You are the best blogger I know Wink I always enjoy reading them... thanks for sharing!

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"krazykat" wrote:

You are the best blogger I know Wink I always enjoy reading them... thanks for sharing!

Aw, thanks, Ariel! That totally makes my day!

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I really like it, and shared it with my college roomie, who is just hitting her 3rd trimester and still on the fence about NCB. Thanks Smile

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Very nice! Thanks for sharing!

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Excellent blog post!!! I totally agree.

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Yes, yes, yes!!! Thank you for putting into words, better words, what I've tried to describe to people for more than six years. I don't feel that I gave birth to Tiven. She was pulled from an incision in my body while I was sleeping, and that's not birth, that's saving a life. I love this quote:

"Being actively involved in your birth can also include deciding that your body needs help from a professional, medications, instruments, or yes, even surgery, to bring your baby into the world. In such cases, the birthing is not in the pushing, the birthing is in the choices."

That's how I felt when Weston was born. He was another Cesarean, but I was actively involved in the process. I'm the one who chose to go to the hospital when I did, I'm the one who decided to have an epidural and Pitocin, I'm the one who decided to turn off the Pitocin & move to a surgical birth, but I'm also the one who insisted on the operating room being quiet and on DH holding our baby skin-to-skin immediately after birth. What was different? Me being involved, actively making decisions. I wasn't asleep, I wasn't going along with whatever the doctor said, I wasn't choosing what was fast or easy. I was choosing what was best for myself and my baby, and when it came down to it, a surgical birth was the best decision. And I feel good about that decision, and I feel like I gave birth to Weston even though he entered the world in the same way Tiven did. It's never made sense to anyone else, but I'm glad to hear that someone else "gets it," and writes a blog so maybe others will now, too.

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Great, great post, and a very omportant discussion to be had.

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I loved it, and agree very much.

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I kind of shared your blog article on FB. I hope you don't mind. Smile

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Look at that, you're famous! A friend (Jessica, she used to be on pg) just shared a quote from your blog that apparently ICAN of Nashville shared on THEIR facebook.

Jessica ______ via ICAN of Nashville: ‎"Natural childbirth is not important. A woman being involved in the decisions about the medical care of her and her baby--that is what is important. Helping women avoid feeling assaulted because they were not involved in what happened during their births--that is the goal."

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Wow. I've been blown away by how much attention this post has gotten. I've gotten tons of traffic from facebook. I just looked at ICAN of Nashville's posting of the link, and see that they got it from the facebook page of Navelgazing Midwife (a homebirth midwife blog I follow) This was in the comments:

Navelgazing Midwife Maybe instead of "natural," we could say, "unplugged?

another poster mentioned that "unplugged" assumes that "plugged" is normal...interesting because I wrote a post about normative language back in July

On another note, I received the following comment. I think her point of view is valid, but I'm not sure how to respond:

Having a baby removed from your body by others while you are immobile is a baby-ectomy, not a birth. I won't argue with women who for whatever reasons want to call it a birth. But I don't want anyone to force that label on ME, since I have both given birth and had a cesarean, and know the difference.

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This is the response I left for the comment:

Anonymous--I strongly believe that women should be free to define their own birth experiences. If you don't consider your cesarean a birth, that is your right. I do not doubt that your experiences were different, just as my experiences of an epidural birth and a drug-free birth were very different, also.

My purpose in writing this post was to explore the language, (since language in general, and particularly in describing birth is of interest to me) and consider a different way of defining "birth" so as not to automatically categorize all cesareans, by definition, as cases in which women are robbed of "giving birth" as the empowering rite of passage experience that birth advocacy seeks to promote.

did I say the right thing?

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I think so. I can't think of a better way to put it. After all, would we say that birth in the days on full anesthesia where the mom was not conscious and the baby was extracted with forceps doesn't count as "birth"? Does it have to go through the vagina to not be a "baby-ectomy?"
Language is a very subjective thing. A definition that works for me may not work for you. But I agree that c-section mommas are entitled to "birth" too.

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"jooniper" wrote:

I think so. I can't think of a better way to put it. After all, would we say that birth in the days on full anesthesia where the mom was not conscious and the baby was extracted with forceps doesn't count as "birth"? Does it have to go through the vagina to not be a "baby-ectomy?"
Language is a very subjective thing. A definition that works for me may not work for you. But I agree that c-section mommas are entitled to "birth" too.

I absolutely agree. I was just telling my DH that Sylvia was delivered (c/s under general anesthesia and I was definitely uninformed throughout the whole process), while Justus was birthed, even if that meant by c/s with a spinal after a planned HBAC turned hospital transfer. I made decisions up until the very end with him and was not only educated, but informed as well. I was an active part of my care from beginning to end with him and I think that is why I have been ok with the outcome (and not so traumatized) this time around.