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    Default Venting here, No one else gets it.

    I have a friend on FB (That I also know IRL from up north where I am from)
    She is a FTM that was induced last week because she was 4 days overdue. She labored for 10 hours and ended up being sectioned for failure to progress and heart decels.
    I tried for DAYS to kindly bring up the dangers of an induction. Also, her baby had to be hospitalized for the seizures he was having.


    BLAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH HHHHHHH.......Why do people STILL think inducing is the miracle way to not be pregnant anymore when the going gets tough and you are "done" being pregnant?

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    Ugghhhhh... it frustrates me too. My SIL and brother made the same sorts of decisions. I tried to talk to them, but as the old saying goes... "you can lead a horse to water..." She was told the baby was probably going to be too big, so that set her off with a negative mind-set to begin with. Keep in mind my brother is over 6 ft. talll and SIL is around 5'10-11'. She also did NOTHING to prepare for the birth. So after a failed induction (she did make it to pushing albeit with an epidural, and pushed for 3 hours), they made the call. Afterwards, baby had a terrible time with jaundice, and her incision became severely infected. She had to extend her maternity leave past 12 weeks b/c she was still suffering from the infection. They wanted to re-hospitalize her for it, but her mom is a retired nurse, so she attended to her at home. She spent weeks in bed because of the incision. And then, they call me and my brother says, "Nobody told us about this stuff, or that these things could happen...." OMG, I wanted to bang my head into the wall. Would he have listened anyways?!

    As hard as it is for me to step back sometimes, I just have to remind myself that you live, you learn... The information is out there, but it still kills me when I believe parents make negligent choices on the misinformation given to them by people who as a society we have been programmed to trust.

    Is your friend seeing the light now, or does she think it's just one of those things that might have happened anyways??
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    Oh and it makes me so mad when I hear people say, "goal is a healthy mom, and a healthy baby" right after they say they are going to induce at 39 weeks b/c the u/s is showing the baby is "big" at 8 lbs or so. I just want to scream at my computer, that there are so many unnecessary risks that they are not considering!!! What exactly is their definition of "healthy"?!?!
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    The one that really kills me is AFTER a mess like that, how almost always my friend will say, "oh, but I'm so glad it worked out the way it did, because the baby's cord was wrapped around it's neck, a natural delivery could have killed it... if it weren't for my doctor's lucky decision to induce, the baby would have DIED!"...
    And that's when I start banging my head against the nearest wall.
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    Jenn, I wonder if there aren't studies of cord 'situations' both with and without induction...and the results to mother and baby afterwards. I have not researched this, but each time someone you know panics,you could show them the research and statistics. Then they cannot say "But we didn't know!" Somehow it is difficult to get new parents to see that the responsibility is theirs...not that of some girlfriend, nurse or, yes, even doctor.

    Of course I feel it is the doctors and nurses who need to read these things most. That is why so many on this board spend time reading and "shopping" for their doctor or for birthing alternatives.
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    Ugh, so frustrating. This is another reason I'm soooooo grateful to have had this board as an FTM--yes, I am also a crazy research maniac and have heard a lot of it from other sources, but having such a supportive and knowledgeable group of ladies to help me stay strong in these frustrating last days of pregnancy is really an invaluable resource. I know the information is out there for anyone and I am here by choice, but I do feel lucky in some ways to be going through this so well-informed!

    With other pregnant friends I've looked for openings to just make gentle suggestions for good reading, etc. or mention what I'm doing in a non-judgmental way and just let them ask for more if they're interested. You can lead a horse to water...
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    I think that is what makes me the most angry. People that don't research/think for themselves because they think that the doctor automatically has their best interest at heart. Of course, some do. It's just so naive to think that ALL do. A doctor killed my late-husband because I was naive and thought that the 'M.D." automatically made him know more than me. Obviously, I can't legally "prove" it, but things happen that shouldn't.

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    What's worse, is that all those mammas will likely be repeat c-sections too, because the same OB will tell them that a VBAC is too dangerous.
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    Quote Originally Posted by gardenbug View Post
    Jenn, I wonder if there aren't studies of cord 'situations' both with and without induction...and the results to mother and baby afterwards. I have not researched this, but each time someone you know panics,you could show them the research and statistics. Then they cannot say "But we didn't know!" Somehow it is difficult to get new parents to see that the responsibility is theirs...not that of some girlfriend, nurse or, yes, even doctor.
    Oh, in the situations I'm talking about (it's happened 4 times to friends), they're glad of the induction because they were so closely monitored so the doctor knew to "save their babies" by emergency c-section. Honestly, they've been so GRATEFUL that the doctors had the INTUITION so know "something was wrong"- obviously that's why the doc would schedule an induction. They see every intervention as some lucky coincidence that led to the life-saving section, and they're grateful for their doctor's "intuition" that led them to save their babies from death-by-cord.

    It kills me. Honestly. I just can't take it. FOUR friends have this view of their c-sections, and all but one (who finally wised up) will probably go to their graves singing the praises of their "in-tune" doctors who knew something was wrong so they put them in a situation for an emergency c-section. UGH.
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    yeah it kills me too.. I have a friend who is due early nov and i can see it now, she's gonna get induced and end up with a c/s or just flat out schedule one.. even though she wants a NCB shes doing absolutely no research and i've sent her some info and shes always like "oh i didn't know that" but she STILL doesn't do any on her own.. it kills me..

    I have another RL friend who is convinced that her son (granted he was 9#something ounces) was just too big so thats why they had to cut her... could be the lack of food and position after her long labor that did it.. but don't tell her that.. she's planning a c/s for when she has another one although she did consider trying again she would rather do another section and get her tubes tied.. so i don't know much about that..
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