My name is Alissa, and I am 20 weeks pregnant (well, tomorrow I will be ) I had kind of a bad birth experience with my son (now 4) because basically the epidural stopped working after they turned on the pitocin (which of course they had to do since the epi stalled out my labor) and once the epi is in they won't let you get out of bed no matter how much you kick your legs and wiggle your toes and flat out whine and cry to show you can move and feel. So this time, I am thinking about going natural so at least I won't be stuck in bed if it's going to be awful and painful anyway. (I have a great attitude, don't I? )
With my first, I took all of the childbirth classes offered at my hospital, and they did do a little bit on some relaxation and pain management techniques, but not a ton.
I would love to go with a midwife this time around, but I am too high risk because of gestational diabetes and a history of recurrent loss (2 first tri m/cs).
And all of the natural childbirth classes in my area are like $200-$300, which is quite a bit of money.
So, I'm feeling kind of stuck between a rock and a hard place, and feeling like I don't know where to go to get myself prepared for a natual birth. Also, scared out of my mind to actually do a natural birth. The birth sucked soooo bad last time.
I'm thinking about buying the Hypnobabies home study course, even though that is still like $160.
Other than that, I guess I'm just looking for some other resources that anyone knows of, or short of that, maybe a "Go Alissa, you can do this!" LOL
Glad to see you on this board! I'm currently doing the Hypnobabies homestudy and I'm very hopeful that it will be amazing! That's a bummer you are too high risk for a midwife I hope you are able to find a NCB friendly OB!
Mama to Kostas with the Mostest, born 07/10/07
and Marek "Cricket" Joshua, born 12/07/12
Congratulations on your pregnancy and welcome to the board! It's a little long winded, but I'll share the gist of my NCB experience with DD in a hospital being high risk.
I decided early on in my pregnancy with DD that I wanted to go natural. I was high risk (ICP and had some PIH symptoms the last couple weeks, PTL twice that had to be stopped and PTD at 36 weeks) and my OB and MW team (an office that works through my local hospital) were completely supportive and encouraging of having a NCB. With DD, I took the free child birthing classes. I got lucky in that my teacher was very NCB friendly (had three herself) but having to cover everything, she didn't get to spend a ton of time on NCB.
I was on bed rest for the majority of my pregnancy, and didn't want to spend the money on classes so I just familiarized myself with as much as I could and really practiced my focused meditation and breathing/centering techniques. I don't mean to downgrade any NCB studies, but this ended up working out really well for me. I got the birth I wanted and am feeling really confident about repeating the experience despite being high risk again.
I think the most important thing is being comfortable with your medical team and having everyone be on the same page. With your past experience you can better prepare yourself to handle things and feel/stay more in control of the pain. Perhaps you can find a practice that has OBs and MWs who are MCB friendly? Let us know how things go!
I have no experience with the high risk issue, but I do recommend Hypnobabies. I've used it twice and other than right in transition it really made a huge difference to manage how I was feeling and stay in control. I always have that point when I say "I can't do this anymore" and the MW checks me and I'm basically fully dilated! LOL!
I think you'll find that "regular" contractions without pitocin are also a lot easier to handle so stay at home until the contractions are coming along! Mostly, have faith in yourself that you CAN DO IT!!!!!
I like my OB a LOT (he has seen me through 1 successful pregnancy, 2 m/cs, and now hopefully another successful pregnancy and has been completely supportive and helped me get my issues with blood clotting figured out) so I don't want to leave his practice, but I have an appt next week and will ask him for recommends about NCB.
I am also going to call the hospital and see what "ammenities" they have to help. Maybe they'll have a tub or something.
Good to hear great things about Hypobabies. I think I will go ahead and take the plunge on that then. Shauna, I can't wait to hear all about your birth experience.
You can do it
I didn't do anything other than what I learned at my baby class and I didn't use any of it. I breathed through the contractions the first time. I thought nothing could hurt more than those contractions until I had my second
Both times I asked for an epidural right as it was time to push so I never got it. My labours are fast and I can't imagine going longer at my pain level without an epidural.
I find pushing an easy stage because it is the only stage I feel like I have the ability to make the baby come out. As soon as the baby is born, I feel great and that is why I would try to do an unmedicated birth again.
I have nothing against epidurals and think they have their place. I hate how anesthesia makes me feel and with my first I was concerned about it lowering my blood pressure because it was low through the pregnancy.
DD1 July 2008 (41w3d)
November 2010 (13 weeks)
DD2 August 2011 (33w5d)
Welcome! I've been doing the hypnobabies home study too! Will be putting it to the test soon. It came with a lot of helpful info, not just using hypno, so it's been helpful over here with getting past my fears, gaining confidence with information (reading Ina May helps! lol), and feeling confident that I'm going to have a great birth! I had a cascade of interventions including pit and epi with my son that ended with a c/s, so I'm doing everything I can to avoid all of that.
Go Alissa, you can do this!!! Haha.
I'm scared of natural birth too, but I'm going for it. NCB prep classes are SO expensive. It's crazy. I'm going to do these Birth Boot Camp? Natural Childbirth Education Classes - Online and Instructor-led because my doula recommended them and she's giving me a coupon for them.
Well best of luck to you! I will keep cheering you on!
I think this is my first post on this board as I generally lurk, but I wanted to chime in with my experience regarding the natural childbirth classes. I gave birth to my dd without an epidural or any pain meds and my prep consisted of reading every book I could find on natural childbirth from the library, reading natural childbirth stories online and also watching videos of natural childbirth online all for free, so I don't think you have to spend money to attend natural childbirth classes to be able to do this. I didn't use the hypnobabies (didn't use anything really, just went along with my body) but I know a lot of people have good things to say about that so I think would be a good one to use. And stay at home as long as possible when you go into labor-it is much easier to relax and not have to worry about the hospital policies at home so definitely stay as long as you are able!
After reading others responses the key thing I'd add about Hypnobabies is the Fear Releasing aspect. there is a whole section/CD on it and for anyone who has a fear of either what birth is like, can I stand the pain, or a fear that you really can't do NCB I highly recommend that track specifically. Hypnobabies believes/teaches that fear inhibits birth and that you should release your fears in order to have a better/smoother birth. HTH!
I also highly recommend a tub if there is one available. it's more relaxing and for many women does reduce the intensity of the contractions.