I'm not a stranger to this board but I feel silly because I have to re-introduce myself a third time because I didn't keep up with much once I went back to work last year. Perhaps this is what has kept me a lurker for so long.
My name is Conni. I've had two wonderful natural births and am pregnant with my 3rd and possibly last baby. This will be a different experience for me than my other two as I've had to switch care givers. After being with an amazing midwife program I am now with an OB. I still believe I can have a natural and hopefully wonderful birth experience as I am very confident in myself and my abilities but I will admit the change up is unnerving.
Last year a wonderful thing happened in our province. Until last April midwives were not covered under our provincial healthcare insurance - but now they are. I was so excited that THIS would be the year I would get my homebirth. But it turned out that it also ended up being my downfall as the midwives here are so full that I ended on a waiting list for several different midwife practices. In the meantime I started seeing my gp for basic care and access to diclectin which I need for severe morning sickness. As 20 weeks approached and no word from any of the midwives we decided to go ahead and get me in with an OB. Looks like this is where I am staying for now. Part of me is a little heartbroken and maybe that's why I've been quiet - but I know I will really need support especially given the new situation.
I've seen my OB once now and I've heard rave reviews about her but yet to find out really what the hospital's policies are. I honestly dont' care about her. She'll be there for all of 15 minutes if at all. It's more what I need to be mindful of as far as hospital policies. My plan right now since we're so close to the hospital is to stay home as long as possible.
Anyway I see many familiar faces and am happy to see more babies and lodges popping up for people I remember through the years I've been in and around here!
Welcome back, Conni! Congratulations on #3!
Good luck planning your birth. Too bad none of the MWs can take you. My son's birth was a natural hospital birth with an OB (I live in an area where options are kind of limited). My OB was great about making sure that the hospital staff read my birth plan and respected what I wanted (she also met me at the hospital and was with me for about 4 hours before he was born)
Welcome back and congrats on your third pregnancy! I love the picture of your DD!
Mara & Joel, 2009
Thanks for the warm welcome! Adelle doesn't have natural curls like her brother does (unfair that the boys get the lashes and the curls right?) I rollered her hair for her "two year old" shoot and she screamed or glared at me the entire time. She is definitely my challenge!
I definitely miss my old hospital - it was so nbc friendly I didn't even need a birth plan since everything they did lined up with how I wanted things! I completely agree the OB doesn't matter as much as the culture of the hospital, and staff, and policies matter. Hopefully it won't be too bad.
Hey, nice to hear from you! I haven't been on PO as much lately, and primarily lurking when I'm on here. What a bummer, to hear that you haven't been able to find a midwife. I have heard that is just the way things are now, with the funding in place. It will be several more years I'm sure before we have enough MW's for everyone.
I hope things go really well with this new OB you've got. I do agree that it really is more dependent on the hospital's policies. I'm assuming you're talking about the GN hospital? That's where Alicia was born. I can try to answer any questions you have, if you want, let me know.... Then again, that was 4 () years ago, I guess maybe things have changed!! Are you going to have a doula? That might help you out a fair bit. Or just stay home long enough to have an "accidental" homebirth.
I don't know if you still have the mental/emotional energy to keep trying with the midwives, but if you do, then you should. Certainly there will be some midwifery clients risking out of midwife care in their 3rd tri, and there's always the possibility that you could get in. It may not hurt to be in touch with some of the MW's and see how far down their waiting list you would be. But at some point I can see not wanting to be in "limbo" too much and just wanting to accept the situation as it is.
Thank goodness you have the experience of 2 natural births behind you to reassure you that you can do this even in a not-so-NCB-friendly hospital! Reallllly hope things go fabulously for you! Looking forward to your lodge.