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Who We Are

This is a board for everyone interested in any aspect of learning and informed choice regarding pregnancy and childbirth. In general, we believe natural childbirth (childbirth without interventions) is the healthiest path for both mother and baby. We do recognized that sometimes medical intervention is warranted. We believe every mother has the right to informed consent regarding those interventions.

You do not have to be currently pregnant or even trying to conceive to post here. We welcome everyone interested in natural birth including moms, dads, grandparents, those trying to conceive, those pregnant, those thinking about future births or even those simply interested in the process.

Also, if you attempt natural birth and do end up needing interventions, please keep posting here! We have many many Moms who have been in those shoes, and we all recognize that interventions are sometimes needed. Each birth is so different. Check out the healing thread for more on that.


This sticky is here to help you find out more information about your birth options. You will find wonderful resources here including:

Informed Consent Question Set
Question Set for Interviewing Midwives/Doctors/Doulas
Favorite Links
Book Recommendations
Sample Birth Plans
Birth Quotes

We look forward to getting to know you!

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* Midwife Definitions come from the Midwives Alliance of North America website.

OB/Gyn : a physician who specializes in obstetrics and gynecology, a surgeon, a doctor

CM (Certified Midwife): an individual educated in the discipline of midwifery, who possesses evidence of certification according to the requirements of the American College of Nurse-Midwives.

CNM (Certified Nurse Midwife): is an individual educated in the two disciplines of nursing and midwifery, who possesses evidence of certification according to the requirements of the American College of Nurse-Midwives.

CPM (Certified Professional Midwife): a knowledgeable, skilled and professional independent midwifery practitioner who has met the standards for certification set by the North American Registry of Midwives (NARM) and is qualified to provide the midwifery model of care. The CPM is the only international credential that requires knowledge about and experience in out-of-hospital settings.

DEM (Direct Entry Midwife): an independent practitioner educated in the discipline of midwifery through self-study, apprenticeship, a midwifery school, or a college- or university-based program distinct from the discipline of nursing.

Lay Midwife: an uncertified or unlicensed midwife who was educated through informal routes such as self-study or apprenticeship rather than through a formal program.

Licensed Midwife (LM): a midwife who is licensed to practice in a particular jurisdiction (usually a state or province).

Midwives Model of Care™: based on the fact that pregnancy and birth are normal life events. The Midwives Model of Care includes:
- monitoring the physical, psychological and social well-being of the mother throughout the childbearing cycle
- providing the mother with individualized education, counseling, and prenatal care, continuous hands-on assistance during labor and delivery, and postpartum support
- minimizing technological interventions and;
- identifying and referring women who require obstetrical attention

The application of this model has been proven to reduce to incidence of birth injury, trauma, and cesarean section.

The Midwives Model of Care definition above is Copyright © 1996-2001, Midwifery Task Force, All Rights Reserved.

Perinatologist: An obstetrical subspecialist concerned with the care of the mother and baby at higher risk for complications.

Family Doctor: Your family's general care provider. Some family doctors also catch babies.

Doula: a non-medical support person for the Mom and Dad during labor and after the birth. Doula's are trained in ways to support women (pain-easing techniques or support for the birth plan) during childbirth and beyond.

Hospital: Medical Facility

Hospital Birth Center: Usually a birthing wing within a hospital unit.

Free-standing birth center: A "home away from home" middle ground (in between a hospital and home) setting for women to have their babies. Free standing birth centers are independent of hospitals and usually run by midwives.

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Informed Consent Question Set

Originally posted by Spacers:

I recommend including these in your birth plan and make sure your birth partners know them. A friend who is a doula has them printed on an index card that she can hand to the mom whenever interventions are brought up.

Informed Consent Questions

1. Is this an emergency, or do we have time to talk?
2. What would be the benefits of doing this?
3. What would be the risks?
4. If we do this, what other procedures or treatments might we end up needing as a result?
5. What else could we try first or instead?
6. What would happen if we waited an hour or two (a day or two, a week or two, etc.) before doing it?
7. What would happen if we didn't do it at all?

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Question Set for Interviewing Midwives/Doctors

Midwife Questions:

List Compiled by Robinna, Carmen19b, 24me, & fuchsiasky:

I would want to know:
- the structure of the practice; does she work with other MWs, OBs, nurses.
- Does she have hospital priviledges, and at what hospital.
- Does she do home births.
- who attends the actual birth
- what are her % rates for epidurals, episiotomies, transfer to OB
- does she catch breeches, and if not, who does she refer you to for a vaginal breech birth (this is important because by the time a persistent breech is diagnosed there's very little time to find a new caregiver; better to have a plan in place that you don't need than to deal with no plan at 37 wks)
- What are the circumstances under which she transfers to the hospital?
- How long is she willing to wait after your water breaks?
- What's her philosophy on birth?
- Is she hands-on or hands-off?
- Does she work with an assistant or midwifery student?
- How long past your due date is she comfortable with letting you go to?
- What tests does she require?
- definitely ask how many midwives are in the practice, which one will be there for the birth...
-what's their policy on big fetuses
-how do they monitor health of overdue babies, what would they do in alarm scenarios
-have them give you an overview of care - what can you expect for the rest of pregnancy/delivery
- what does she know about alternative medicine (herbs etc)
- how does she deal with GBS
- does she do alternative testing for things like Gestational Diabetes
- also read up on some of the midwifery guidelines for your area so you know what they have to and don't have to do.

Doctor Questions:

List Compiled by chevylfan & boilermaker:

1. What is your cesarean birth rate?
2. What is your episiotomy rate?
3. What is your instrument delivery rate? (Is that the right phrase? I'm looking at it and the more I look at it, the funnier it looks. I mean forceps/vacuum extraction.)
4. What, if any, limitations do you have on carrying baby past EDD?
5. What, if any, policy do you have for CFM (continuous fetal monitoring)?
6. What is your induction rate?
7. What is your opinion of unmedicated birth?
8. Do you support a mother's right to VBAC?
9. What is the chance that you'll actually be at my birth?
10. When was the last natural birth you attended?
11. How do you feel about having a doula present?
12. How many people are allowed in the delivery room?

Doula Questions:

List Compiled by keops, blueindigo79, DNesbitt:

1) Can you give me some client references that I could contact?
2) What training do you have?
3) How many birth did you attend?
4) Are you comfortable working me?
5) Will you accept other clients other than me during my "on call time"?
6) How long will she be with you if you have a crazy long labor? Will she send in a replacement? 7) If she's sick or her kid is sick and she can't make it will she have a back-up?
8 ) What is your style of comfort (massage, etc)?
9) Will you be with me the whole time? How can my husband be involved?

More FAQ for doula's found here:

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Favorite Links

List compiled by Robinna, Teegs, JorgieGirl, Awini8, and Chevlfan :

Related pregnancy.org forums:

VBAC support

Info on Nutrition During Pregnancy:

The Brewer Pregnancy Diet is a nutrition plan designed to give you and your baby all the necessary nutrients for a healthy pregnancy. There is some evidence that following a healthy diet like this one can reduce the risks of certain pregnancy complications, such as preterm labor and pre-eclampsia, which make medical intervention in childbirth necessary.

Info About Breech Birth and Baby Positions:

Spinning babies is a website to help get baby in optimal position for birth. If baby is breach or just not laying in the best way for birth, check out this website.

Founded by a PGO member, the Coalition for Breech Birth is an international organization (US and Canada) dedicated to restoring the option vaginal breech birth to normalcy and availablity to all women. The site contains the peer-reviewed research that should be informing caregiver policy, as well as valuable birth stories and links to other breech birth resource sites.

VBAC Info:

ICAN is an organization dedicated to reducing the number of avoidable surgical births. This site contains substantial research, including peer-reviewed research and various white papers and editorials. There is also an online forum which you can join to chat with other mamas who have btdt.

General NCB Information:

Henci Goer is an opinion leader regarding natural birth. Although she is not a midwife or a doctor, she is considered by the natural birthing community to be the "go-to" for evidence based opinion that is up to date with current research.

The Coalition for Improving Maternity Services (CIMS) is a coalition of individuals and national organizations with concern for the care and well-being of mothers, babies, and families. Our mission is to promote a wellness model of maternity care that will improve birth outcomes and substantially reduce costs. This evidence-based mother-, baby-, and family-friendly model focuses on prevention and wellness as the alternatives to high-cost screening, diagnosis, and treatment programs.

Penny Simkin's website - She is a doula, birth educator, physcial therapist and author.

Plus size pregnancy

Jennifer block's website: Author of the Book "Pushed"

Dr Sears, pregnancy page - Well Known Doctor who Supports Natural Parenting

Childbirth Connection: great website full of evidence based information

Green Journal for a good source of the ob/gyn research. It's much more technical, but there's lots of good info.

Some Ways to Prepare for Natural Birth:

The Bradley Method is one way to prepare for Natural Birth.

The Lamaze website (bulletin boards are monitored by Henci!): Lamaze is one way to prepare for a Natural Birth

Hypnobabies - a way to prepare for NCB. Many who use this method say it can be pain-free without medications.

Find a Birth Center Near You:

American Association of Birth Centers has tons of information about birth centers and can help find one in your area.

The Farm Midwives: Ina May Gaskin's Midwifery Center

Have a Waterbirth:

Waterbirth International - tons of information about waterbirth

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Book Recommendations

***Be sure to check your local public library for books! You can find many of these there and check them out instead of spending the money to buy them****

Originally posted by Selkiemom:

If you are new to the idea of birthing naturally and want to explore this option, we recommend that you start with these books:

Ina May Gaskin

Henci Goer

Sheila Kitzinger

Pam England and Rob Horowitz
BIRTHING FROM WITHIN: An Extra-Ordinary Guide to Childbirth Preparation

Rikki Lake and Abby Epstein
YOUR BEST BIRTH: Know All Your Options, Discover the Natural Choices, and Take Back the Birth Experience

Books for Children about homebirth and natural birth:

Runa’s Birth: The Day My Sister Was Born, by Uwe and Inga Kamieth Spillmann

Mom and Dad and I are Having a Baby, by Maryanne Malecki

Welcome with Love, by Jenni Overend and Julie Vivas

Being Born, by Sheila Kitzinger

Suggested General Reading List

Janet Balaskas
NEW ACTIVE BIRTH: A Concise Guide to Natural Childbirth

Constance Bean

Jennifer Block
PUSHED: The Painful Truth about Childbirth and Modern Maternity Care

Robert A. Bradley
HUSBAND-COACHED CHILDBIRTH: The Bradley Method of Natural Childbirth

* Tina Cassidy
BIRTH: The Surprising History of How We Are Born

Marisa Cohen
DELIVER THIS: Making the Childbirth Choice That’s Right for You

Nancy Wainer Cohen
OPEN SEASON: A Survival Guide for Natural Childbirth and VBAC in the 90s

Nancy Wainer Cohen and Lois J. Estner
SILENT KNIFE: Cesarean Prevention and Vaginal Birth after Cesarean (VBAC)

Elizabeth Davis
HEART AND HANDS: A Midwife’s Guide to Pregnancy and Birth

Pam England and Rob Horowitz
BIRTHING FROM WITHIN: An Extra-Ordinary Guide to Childbirth Preparation

Ina May Gaskin

Ann-Marie Giglio
LABOR DAY: Shared Experiences from the Delivery Room

Henci Goer

Barbara Harper and Suzanne Arms

Sheila Kitzinger

Rikki Lake and Abby Epstien
YOUR BEST BIRTH: Know All Your Options, Discover the Natural Choices, and Take Back the Birth Experience

Susan McCutcheon

Robert S. Mendelsohn

Elizabeth Noble

Christine Northrup, M.D.
WOMEN’S BODIES, WOMEN’S WISDOM: Creating Physical and Emotional Health and Healing

Michael Odent and Grantly D.ick-Read

Peggy O'Mara
HAVING A BABY, NATURALLY: The Mothering Magazine Guide to Pregnancy and Childbirth

Aviva Jill Romm
THE NATURAL PREGNANCY BOOK: Herbs, Nutrition and Other Holistic Choices
VACCINATIONS: A Thoughtful Parent's Guide

Janet Schwegel and Pam England
ADVENTURES IN NATURAL CHILDBIRTH: Tales from Women on the Joys, Fears, Pleasures, and Pains of Giving Birth Naturally

Dr. William Sears

Penny Simkin

Denise Spatafora
BETTER BIRTH: The Ultimate Guide to Childbirth from Home Births to Hosptials

Juju Sundin

Helen Wessel
THE JOY OF NATURAL CHILDBIRTH: Fifth Edition of Natural Childbirth and the Christian Family

*book may want to be avoided while practicing hypnobirthing

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Sample Birth Plans

Sample Plan for a HypnoBirth (shared by thaigirl1):

Here's my birth plan. I tried to keep it short so it fit on one page. There is one reference about not using words like "pain" and that has to do with Hypnobabies training.

Birth Plan for XXX

Hi! We are looking forward to celebrating the birth of our second child with the staff at XXX. This “plan” is an outline of a best-case scenario. We are open and flexible to any medical intervention that may become necessary in the case of a medical emergency. If at any point *mother's name* becomes incapacitated, *father's name* is to make all of the decisions concerning *mother's name* and Baby.

1st stage:
- Drug free birth, please do not offer any meds
- A nurse experienced in/or pro NCB would be appreciated.
- No routine cervical checks-only as requested
- I request the right to eat or drink if I am able, or so desire
- I request the right to move about freely
- No IV or hep-lock unless complications arise
- No visitors during labor, please ask first if there is someone who would like to see us
- Intermittent monitoring please
- I request a quiet and dimly lit room
- Please avoid using the words “pain”, “labor”, or “contractions” if possible. I would prefer “discomfort”, “birthing time”, and “pressure waves”.

2nd Stage:
- No directed pushing please, unless it is to prevent tearing. I will push when I feel the urge. Please do not count.
- I request the right to push in the position I am most comfortable in.
- I do not consent to an episiotomy
- I do not consent to AROM

- Immediate skin to skin contact
- Delay cord clamping for at least 5 min please
- Delay weighing/measuring
- Delay antibiotic eye drops/ointment
- No vitamin K shot, I will be taking vitamin K supplements and nursing
- Breastfeeding only, no formula, sugar water, or pacifiers to be given
- No vaccines to be administered at the hospital
- Parent to accompany Baby at all times
- Newborn exam performed in our presence
- First bath we would like to assist

In the event of complications:
-PPH- I prefer aggressive uterine massage to pitocin or misoprostal, but if my care provider thinks either are necessary, she may ask for my consent
- Caesarean Section-
o I would like my husband present.
o I would like to be awake if at all possible
o I would like to have the drape dropped so I can witness the birth.
o I would like to announce the sex.


Sample Plan for a Vaginal Breech Scenario (shared by Robinna):

Another birth plan, built to deal with a vaginal breech scenario. It is 3 pages in MS Word (the c/s contingency plan is separate, page 3):


Dear Anne-Marie, Dr. P and Hospital Staff: Thank you in advance for your support and sensitivity for our individual needs and wishes. We have educated ourselves in the birthing process (including breech delivery and caesarean birth) and if there are no direct medical contraindications, would like the following preferences to be honoured throughout all stages of our baby’s birth and during our hospital stay.

IN THE EVENT OF AN EMERGENCY: In the event that the situation becomes life-threatening for either Robin or our baby, we will, of course, yield to any request for life saving intervention, upon the briefest of consultation. In the strong likelihood that we have the natural vaginal birth that we are expecting, we ask that you refrain from any routine interventions or measures that we have not previously agreed upon. We do not believe that vaginal breech birth is an emergency, but rather a variation of normal, and deeply appreciate your support in this.

· As we did for our first birth, we will be using self-hypnosis for the management of labour discomfort, and for this reason we will bring soft music, use dimmed lighting, and ask for the staff to please use a low voice. Please avoid references to “pain”, “hurting” or “hard work.” These words are disruptive to our hypnosis process, and we thank you for respecting our unique needs. Please do not offer us drugs.
· Support: our Midwife, and name or name, will attend the birth, and are authorized to be present during any examinations or procedures.

Labour Management
· Labour, delivery, and preferably recovery, should happen in the same room if at all possible.
· Robin will walk around and assume any position that is comfortable for her both for labour and delivery including standing, squatting, sitting, or kneeling.
· Robin will eat and drink lightly during labour as she needs to.
· Vaginal exams should be limited, and performed by our midwife.
Please avoid:
· Augmentation of labour or any use of synthetic hormones.
· Artificial rupture of the membranes.
· Shaving, enemas, or “disinfecting” of the pubic region.
· IV. If necessary, we will accept a hep lock to facilitate a later IV if it becomes needed.
· Please do not allow students or other unexpected strangers into the birthing room. If additional staff is required, please speak with Stephen in advance.

Fetal Monitoring
· We strongly prefer intermittent manual fetal monitoring with doppler.
· Please avoid electronic fetal monitoring, particularly internal fetal monitoring.

Pain Relief
· We are using self-hypnosis techniques for management of labour discomfort. Please keep voices low and calm.
· Please avoid any suggestion of artificial pain relief including oxygen, IV or oral drugs, or epidural.

Pushing and Delivery
· If possible, we would like our midwife to deliver our baby with the support and guidance of Dr. P or the OB on call.
· Robin will deliver in a position that feels natural to her and will allow her pelvis to open completely, understanding the need for a breech baby to “hang” with chin tucked during delivery.
· Please facilitate mother-directed pushing. Coached pushing interferes with self-hypnosis techniques. If the baby remains breech, Robin will be happy to accept guidance when it is time to push out the head, and would appreciate perineal support to help minimize tearing.
· Please do not perform a routine episiotomy. As proven by our previous birth, Robin’s tissues stretch easily. Please attempt any necessary manipulations first, without cutting an episiotomy. Should an episiotomy be necessary, please speak to us before making the cut, and explain what it is you need to do that cannot be done without it. Should episiotomy be unavoidable, we prefer a diagonal cut to vertical.
· We are willing to have one or two (only) additional staff in the room for breech-delivery training purposes. These people should be introduced in advance of transition, by name. Please speak to us before we reach the pushing stage to ensure this is still OK. We reserve the right to ask any of these non-essential staff to leave the room at any time.

Handling the baby
· Please place the baby on Robin’s abdomen or chest and facilitate immediate skin-to-skin contact, covering us both with blankets. We will dry and wrap the baby ourselves.
· Please defer any newborn procedures (such as weight and length measurements, eye drops, Vitamin K shot) until we have had an opportunity to get to know each other. Apgars may be performed while Robin holds the baby.
· It is important to us that the umbilical cord be left intact until it has stopped pulsing.
· Robin, Stephen, or Robin’s mother will cut the cord.
This will be included in my next “if unavoidable c/s plan”
· If the baby is ready, Robin will nurse the baby during the 3rd stage of labour.

Please avoid active management of the third stage of labour, and facilitate a natural 3rd stage. This includes the use of medication or synthetic hormones, cord traction, or heavy pressure on the abdomen. If bleeding is considered excessive, please allow us to try nursing the baby or to use nipple stimulation first to stimulate natural production of oxytocin. This will be included in my next “if unavoidable c/s plan”
· Please do not dispose of the placenta, as we want to take it home with us.
· Robin will hold or nurse the baby during the 3rd stage of labour.

· We would like time alone as a family as soon as possible after the birth.
· We will be breastfeeding, and therefore ask that the baby not be given water, supplemental feeds, or any kind of pacifier.
· Please do not bathe the baby. We will do this at home.
· The baby should be accompanied at all times by Robin or Stephen. Please do not take the baby anywhere or perform testing or procedures of any kind without one of us present.
· We would like to be discharged as soon as possible. If it is necessary to stay overnight, we would like our baby to “room in” with Robin at all times.


· Stephen and our midwife should be in the operating room with Robin.
· We prefer epidural or spinal anaesthetic to a general anaesthetic.
· Please insert the urinary catheter after the epidural or spinal is in place and functioning.
· During and after the procedure, please do not administer any “extra” medications including sedatives or analgesics without express permission from Robin and/or Stephen.
· Please “narrate” the procedure so that Robin knows exactly what is going on at all times.
· Please drop the curtain for delivery so that Robin can see the birth. this didn’t happen
· Please give the baby to Robin immediately after delivery (barring a requirement for emergency care for the baby) and facilitate skin-to-skin contact, covering us both with blankets. It is very important to us to hold our baby in true “new-born” state, so please do not “clean off” or dry the baby before passing her to Robin. We will do this ourselves. Apgars may be performed with Robin holding the baby.
this didn’t happen. I’m short waisted and there was NO room for the baby on my chest because the drape was right below my chin. So DH did all of the immediate skin to skin and wiping/wrapping, then brought the baby to rest right beside my face until I could get off the table.
· Please do not take the baby to the nursery, she should stay with Robin at all times unless emergency treatment is required.
· We would like to take still photos of the birth itself and during the time immediately following the birth.
· Please defer baby weight and length measurements and other newborn procedures (eye ointment, Vitamin K shot, etc) until we are out of recovery.
· Please do not dispose of the placenta, as we want to take it home with us.
· Robin would like to hold or nurse the baby while the incisions are being closed, and to nurse while in recovery.
· Should the baby require emergency care, Stephen will accompany the baby and Anne-Marie will stay with Robin.

· We would like time alone as a family as soon as possible after the birth.
· We will be exclusively breastfeeding, and therefore ask that the baby not be given water, supplemental feeds, or any kind of pacifier at any time during our hospital stay.
· Please do not bathe the baby. We will do this at home.
· The baby should be accompanied at all times by Robin or Stephen. Please do not take the baby anywhere or perform testing or procedures of any kind without one of us present.
· We would like a private room as soon as one is available.
· We would like our baby to “room in” with Robin at all times. Robin will ask for help if this is interfering with her recovery.
· As much as is possible (depending on Robin’s recovery), please assist Robin and Stephen to be our baby’s primary caregivers while in hospital.
· We would like to be discharged as soon as possible.[/QUOTE]


Sample Plan for an Out of Hospital Birth in Case of Hospital Transfer (shared by JorgieGirl):

Mother-to-be: XXXX Husband: XXXX Support Person(s): XXXX & XXX Practitioner(s): XXXX & XXXX

This birth plan is intended to express the preference and desires we have for the birth of our baby in the event of a hospital transfer. It is not intended to be a script. We fully realize that situations may arise such that our plan cannot and should not be followed. However, we hope that barring any extenuating circumstances, you will be able to keep us informed and aware of our options. Thank you.

First Stage (Labor):
* I request that my midwives and support person(s) accompany my husband and I in the labour and delivery rooms
* I would prefer my own clothes to hospital gown.
* Vaginal exams only if requested
* Maintain mobility (Walking, rocking, up to bathroom, etc.)
* Eat and drink to comfort.
* Please do not offer me pain medications, I will ask for them if I want them.
* Positioning as desired.
* I prefer intermittent manual fetal monitoring using a doppler or fetoscope
* I do not consent to routine augmentation of labour using any form of synthetic hormones or otherwise
* I do not consent to artificial rupture of membranes at any time
* I do not consent to a routine IV or Hep-lock, unless deemed medically necessary for a healthy outcome

Second Stage (Birth):
* Choice of position
* Self-directed pushing; please no coaching at any time
* Prolonged length, if progress is being made
* I do not consent to an episiotomy, and would prefer to tear. Please use compresses, massage and positioning.
* Do not announce the sex of our baby. It is very important to myself and my husband that we are the ones to announce this.

Mother Care and Baby Care:
* Our baby is to immediately be placed on my skin. Please do not swaddle or wipe down our baby.
* I do not consent to the routine use of Pitocin, cord traction or abdominal massage
* Cord cut after pulsating has stopped, with my husband prefferably cutting
* We do not consent to prophylactic eye ointment, we will sign a waiver indicating we have declined this procedure
* Breast feeding only
* No pacifiers or glucose water
* No separation of Mother & Baby. Apgars can be done while my baby is with me.
* Other newborn procedures can be delayed until breastfeeding has been established
* I do not consent to having my baby bathed by anyone other than my husband and/or myself
* If our baby needs to be sent to the NICU, Greg will accompany him/her at all times, or someone else we assign.
* Do not circumcise our son and do not retract the foreskin of our son

In the event of a Cesarean Birth:

* My husband present at all times
* Hands free, and not strapped down
* Please use double layer suturing for the incision closure (NOT staples)
* Breast feeding in recovery room as soon as possible
* Do not announce the sex of our baby. It is very important to myself and my husband that we are the ones to announce this
* We do not consent to prophylactic eye ointment, we will sign a waiver indicating we have declined this procedure
* If our baby needs to be sent to the NICU, Greg will accompany him/her at all times, or someone else we assign.

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Birth Quotes

*complied by the members of Birthing Naturally

The parallels between making love and giving birth are clear, not only in terms of passion and love, but also because we need essentially the same conditions for both experiences: privacy and safety.
-Sarah Buckley

You're six times more likely to have a doctor who is an impostor than you are to suffer a uterine rupture. Two percent of docs are phonies (1 in 50), according to several sources I found. So instead of worrying about rupture, why not take a few minutes to check up on your doctor's credentials? It'd be a more profitable use of your time and a substantially more likely cause for alarm.

The knowledge of how to give birth without outside interventions lies deep within each woman. Successful childbirth depends on an acceptance of the process.

We have a secret in our culture, it's not that birth is painful, it's that women are strong.
-Laura Stavoe Harm

Treating normal labors as though they were complicated can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Birth is an experience that demonstrates that life is not merely function and utility, but form and beauty.
-Christopher Largen

I think of midwifery as a seed full of potential - a seed that will grow into a lush, blossoming tree with green branches and plenty of ripe fruit for nurturing women, babies, and families.
-Marina Alzugaray

Natural childbirth has evolved to suit the species, and if mankind chooses to ignore her advice and interfere with her workings we must not complain about the consequences. We have only ourselves to blame.
-Margaret Jowitt

Birthing is the most profound initiation to spirituality a woman can have.
-Robin Lim

300,000 women will be giving birth with you today.
Relax and breathe and do nothing else.
Labor is hard work, it hurts and you can do it.

A healthy woman who delivers spontaneously performs a job that cannot be improved upon.
-Aidan MacFarlane

- a plant in an inappropriate location is a weed
- a plant in an appropriate location is a flower
- an obstetric technique at an inappropriate time is an intervention
- an obstetric technique at an appropriate time is a godsend!

I discovered I always have choices and sometimes it's only a choice of attitude.
-Judith M. Knowlton

Having a highly trained obstetrical surgeon attend a normal birth is analogous to having a pediatric surgeon babysit a healthy 2-year-old.
-M. Wagner

Hope has two beautiful daughters. Their names are anger and courage; anger at the way things are, and courage to see that they do not remain the way they are.

If we are to heal the planet, we must begin by healing birthing.
-Agnes Sallet Von Tannenberg

The perception that there is greater medical need for cesarean in women today ignores the reality that vast numbers of cesareans are the result of iatrogenic complications. Simply put, the obstetric community has been overly zealous in ‘treating’ a normal physiological process and has been triggering many of the medical crises that lead to cesarean surgery. Greater adherence to evidence-based medicine would drop the national cesarean rate dramatically.
Obstetricians and hospitals have found that high-intervention birth, warranted or not, is very profitable. So there is a tremendous financial incentive to bypass the clinically optimal approach, and opt for convenience and profit. For example, many hospitals across the country have eliminated facility-based midwifery practices simply because the low-intervention approach, while clinically sound, does not bring in as many dollars.
-Tonya Jamois

It's not just the making of babies, but the making of mothers that midwives see as the miracle of birth.
-Barbara Katz Rothman

"We must understand that childbirth is fundamentally a spiritual, as well as a physical, achievement. ... The birth of a child is the ultimate perfection of human love."
-Grantly D.ick-Read

"All natural birth has a purpose and a plan; who would think of tearing open the chrysalis as the butterfly is emerging? Who would break the shell to pull the chick out?"
-Marie Mongan

"Prepare for a no-fault birth. ... If you confidently participate in all the decisions made during your labor and delivery--even those that were not in your birth plan--yo are likely to look upon your birth with no blame and no regret."
-William and Martha Sears

Denying vaginal breech is a human rights violation in that it forces a woman to consent to surgery in order to obtain medical care. The right to informed consent is meaningless where there is no right to informed refusal. - Henci Goer

"It cannot 'overpower' you because it is a part of you, working to give birth to your baby."
- Susan McCutcheon, Natural Childbirth the Bradley Way

"...natural childbirth is not about suffering. It is about having the freedom to find comfort in many different ways. Choosing to give birth naturally does not mean that interventions will not be needed or that complications will not occur. Nature's plan for birth includes pleas for help when help is needed. Choosing natural childbirth means that women prepare for the birth of their babies confident in their own ability to give birth, being willing to feel contractions, and finding comfort in response to what they are feeling. It means that they will be surrounded by family, friends, and professionals who will encourage them to trust their inner wisdom. It means that wherever they give birth—hospital, birthing center, or home—they will have the freedom they need to respond to their contractions."
-Judith A. Lothian, RN, PhD, LCCE, FACCE, Why Natural Childbirth? Journal of Perinatal Education. 2000 Fall; 9(4): 44–46.

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Things You Should know if You're Planning a Homebirth

(compiled by chimmy, Mel02, Dese, and Panonim)

* Arrange sitters & activities for the kids
* Prepare & freeze meals
* Don't look at the clocks!
* Keep lots of towels handy for the birth
* Turn OFF the phone once midwives arrive
* NO visitors
* Make sure hose adaptor fits your faucet so you can fill your pool & that the hose is long enough to reach your pool.
* Make sure camera is charged & chip is empty
* Go over birthing supplies with DH so he understands what their for, incase he needs to use them.
* Have a basket with your supplies all together, clean & organized.
* Have a container for the placenta.
* Keep all herbs you want nearby.
* Have snacks for everyone on hand ~ make a snack list & buy what you can ahead of time.
* Look into a part time maid & cost. Also find out how much a one time full house deep cleaning would cost.
* Stool Softeners for after the birth. Over the Counter Colace is a good one - or dried apricots.
* SLEEP when the baby sleeps after the birth, even if you don't want to.
* Get some Depends type underpants for after the birth.
* Have a transfer plan ready & a hospital bag ready.
* Have some positive thoughts written out and posted on your fridge, or other misc places around the house as well as your birthing area.
* Goldenseal powder is awesome for umbilical cords
* Have a birth project ready to do, but that you don't care if it doesn't get finished.
* Bendy Straws & water bottles.
* a squeeze bottle for the perenium & while you pee.
* Emergen-C drinks
* Have some hot ginger compresses ready.
* make two birthing rice socks - great for on the back/abdomen during contractions.
* Keep plenty of Sports drinks on hand - esp. for the laboring mama.
* Plan first meal after baby is born.
* Energy bars & smoothies ~ anything with protein.
* Put a list of "honey-do's" on the fridge, for others to do.
* Meals for the midwives & doulas/attendants.
* Make sure someone is taking care of dh too.
* Olive oil for meconium, works SOOO much better then the petroleum
* Have a small area heater near by to keep the baby warm in case it's a bit chilly for her
* Have an outfit for your baby ready and out
* plan out what clothing you want to wear during labour(unless you are a naked labourer :)), and immediately postpartum.
* freeze wet menstrual pads or put frozen peas on zip-top bags for wearing under a pad for postpartum swelling and pain

Comfrey tea, go buy some comfrey leaves and brew your own tea. There are a few things you can do with it after the birth:

1. Drink the tea* asap after you give birth. Very tasty & refreshing.
2. Drink it* when ever you are nursing or when ever you get the after pains. The tea somehow soothes those nasty afterpains.
3. Put it in the peri bottle at room temp and spray
after every bathroom visit for the first few days.
4. Put it on maxi pads then freeze, it's wonderful!!

*Due to the controversy surrounding comfrey tea it is suggested you do your own research before ingesting comfrey. Comfrey is a very powerful herb and should be used with caution. It may be best to consult an herbalist for advise on how much to use in a tea you will drink.

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