Hi ladies! We just found out we are pregnant with our second child. I had lurked here with our first and got a lot of good information. I had wanted as natural a birth as possible with my son which unfortunately didn't happen. Though my doctor had said she was supportive of our plan throughout the pregnancy as soon as I went into labor she became a witch insisting on pitocin that lead to a whole bunch of other issues.
I have a new doctor this time who has been recommended as the guy in the area to see if you want as natural a hospital birth as possible. He did my surgery to repair some damage I had from birthing my son and I really trust his quality as a physician. I have my first appointment in a few weeks and I want to be prepared to fish out whether he really is on the same page with me. Any suggestions?
I know of some great midwives but we live too far from a hospital for me to be comfortable with a home birth and we don't have a birth center in the area.
Congrats and welcome! Really, if you have a good care provider you trust, that'll make a lot of difference. Keep in mind that some things are dictated by the hospital, too, so check into whatever hospitals your OB delivers at. I'd ask the doc under what conditions (and how often) he induces, gives episiotomies, or c-sections. I'd ask if he has a certain "rate" at whch he expects a woman to progress or if he is ok with taking it at whatever speed your body takes it.
There are some lists of questions to ask a potential care provider in the resouce sticky, post #4: Welcome! Read Me First - Huge Resource Sticky
You may not need to ask all of these questions to get a feel for the provider. I would be sure to at least ask about his policies on pitocin use and if he sees a lot of natural births.
I had a natural hospital birth with the recommended natural childbirth ob in my area and she was awesome. There probably were some things that the hospital considers "policies" that she had them make exceptions on for me, most "policies" are not as set in stone as they seem.
I think I would start be asking about his statistics for induction, c/s, epis, etc. before I even got into discussing much about what I wanted. Also discuss hospital policies. That way you can go home and do some research and comparisons before your next appt and you'll better know who you are dealing with.
The facts that you already sort of know him and have a good vibe is a great start! Good luck at your appt!
Thanks for your thoughts. I did read the sticky and I guess I have the general questions in mind but I'm trying to figure out the best way to pry a little deeper.
One of the bigest problem I had last time is that beforehand the hospital said they would defer to the doctor for things like fetal monitoring, moving around, etc. At the time my doctor had said intermittent monitoring would be ok and I was encouraged to walk around. When I actually went into labor the hospital told me I had to have continuous monitoring and stay in bed unless my doctor said it was ok not to but when I called her she said she couldn't override their rules.
I know my doctor is not my advocate but I want to make sure as much as possible he is on my team. I know there's no guarantee, I just want to do my best to avoid a repeat of last time.
GL!! I hope the appointment goes well, and let us know what he says.
Ariel & John: Military Family since May 17, 2006
Sylvia: 12/18/08, Justus: 9/17/10, Bunni: 5/11/12, Surprise Baby: Guess Date 11/5/13
Congratulations, and welcome!!