Do you treat every day/night as though today/tonight could be the night?
While talking to the new midwife today (and my doula who knew my story already), I was telling her how the night I went into labor with DD I had a house full of guests and we stayed up til 2am laughing and talking and having a good ole time. They gave me such a hard time about it! But, I was 39 weeks pregnant with my first, totally convinced I would go overdue, not go early... and I felt fine! In the end, I made it through my birth fine too- but they both said, "good thing you had an easy, quick birth..."
Anyway...I can totally get if you're tired, etc, to honor that and get as much rest as you feel like you need... but, I was seriously feeling great and having fun with friends.
So just wondering...am I alone in feeling like what I did wasn't that big a deal, or do you all really spend 37+ weeks acting like any moment could be the one you have to be fully ready, rested, etc???
Mara & Joel, 2009
No way. I did everything I could to pretend it WASN'T about to happen, hoping it would trick the baby into surprising me We bought tickets and went to a baseball game on the fourth of July---I was 6 days overdue and had to walk about a half mile to and from the car. I was timing contractions on the scoreboard. I do wish I'd gone to bed when we got home instead of staying up and trying to keep the contractions going, but other than that, it was great--kept my mind off the waiting and wondering, and we had fun.
Do what feels right to you!
I agree, totally do what feels right to you!
Last labor for me was long and I stayed up too late, didn't eat a proper dinner, and had a busy day. But seriously I can't see not living life those last weeks of pregnancy just wondering what if. So maybe I'll try to be better rested this time, if I can, but mostly my mind is on overdrive getting stuff done and in order so it probably won't happen. I think if we all just knew that today would be the day or this would be the week then we could probably make sure to be extra rested and all.
~Joy~ DS1-8/5/05, DS2-10/18/10 (VBAC#1), DS3- 4/11/12 (VBAC#2!)
Yeah, it's just so funny to me, because my doula said like, "You were 39 weeks pregnant! You should have been in bed early!" And I was just think, "JUST because I was 39 weeks pregnant!?!?" I just can't imagine! I don't feel bad- I was just wondering how other people feel about that stuff.
And yeah, Leigh, in that last week before Beni was born, I went to the theater, to the movies I think, then had friends in for the weekend... it was great! I can't imagine pushing myself if I DO feel really tired (like this last week I have been going to bed pretty early because I am actually tired at night)... but, if I'm just feeling good...totally going to just enjoy things and try to ignore an approaching due date!
Mara & Joel, 2009
I didn't really do anything other than watch TV the days leading up to DS's birth but it was still sweltering hot and I couldn't sleep despite trying. But that was 41 weeks. At 37-40 weeks I was still really active. I went on a lot of walks, shopping, base events, etc. I even went to the base club one Friday night and hung out there for several hours. I figured it was better to be distracted than stay at home wondering when.
I went 38w4d and 38w3d so I was active right up until with both. In fact we went out to dinner and stayed up late the night of Ethan's birth and went to my big work Christmas party the day before Olivia was born.
If you're tired, rest. If not, go party lady!
Ethan - June 21, 2009
Olivia - December 5, 2010
5w3d - October/November 2012
My Ovulation Chart
I've only been 39 weeks pregnant once and 38 weeks three times out of five, so I do make sure I'm ready every night from around 36 weeks on. I don't stay home or go to bed early per se, but I do make sure things are clean and I try to get a nap every afternoon just in case.
Day after my due date I was at my sister's birth of her son. I didn't get home until midnight and then I went into labour at 3:30am (followed by a 28hr labour!) I wouldn't change a thing! And I would do it all again!
I think you should do what feels good. If you're having a good time with friends, then have a good time! If you feel like being in bed early instead of out with friends: listen to your body. But ultimately, do whatever feels best!
I didn't have time to think about that stuff because DD was born at 38w4d. I was doing everything I could to act like I was going to 42 weeks and wasn't even thinking about labor (or at least wasn't trying to). I went into labor in the middle of the night after a pretty standard work day, a nice dinner with my Dad, and some late night swimming. Wouldn't change a thing! Sure, you shouldn't stay up all night and your labor partner probably shouldn't be getting wasted every night but I say act normally or as normally as one can who is expecting a baby.
I didn't act any differently, really. With DD it was kinda of scheduled, but even then we just went to bed at our normal time and got up early to head to the hospital. So far with this one, I just do what I feel like doing. If I feel tired, I sit and rest, but I've actually been feeling more like running around and getting errands accomplished.