Hi ladies! Im a lurker here and have some questions about labor. My plan last time was to shoot for a natural but get an epi if it became too much. I talked to some moms in real life last time and was left with the impression that transition is the worst part and that if you can make it through that part you can handle second stage labor. The moms I talked to said you get relief when its time to push. So I thought once I got through transition I would be golden. I made it, painfully, to 10cm. After 30 minutes of being complete I still had no urge to push. The contractions were so painful and I was vomiting with everyone. They encouraged me to start bearing down but it intensified the pain so much I could not push. I think I started to panic because the pain was so much. I got an epi which felt like heaven. He was born an hour later.
I think my downfall was having false expectations about 2nd stage labor. Was what I was told wrong? Is pushing while contracting typically that painful? And I really don't get why I had no urge to push. I was really surprised to still be in that much pain after transition. The pain was just as intense during 2nd stage labor. I'd very much like to hear other peoples experiences here. I'm hoping if im better prepared for pushing I will be able to make it naturally.