So tonight I went to my cousin's college graduation dinner with the majority of my family (aunts, uncles, etc) and it was announced that one of my cousins, his wife is pregnant. This is their first child and she's due at the end of December. It's great and all that stuff then my aunt came over, when she told me and basically said that she told her that she should be induced at 37 weeks because that's when the baby is considered term and so she wouldn't have to wait until the holiday time to go into labor and she'd also for sure be able to claim the baby on her tax return. What I think got me, was this was my one aunt who had 4 all natural (no pain meds) hospital births; I guess I would have thought for sure that she'd be for at least waiting until the baby would be term. Even though I don't know if it's my cousin's wife's plan to try to be induced that early but it just got me a bit, i just didn't say anything, even though I really wanted to. I don't know if she said it mostly because she herself, had her oldest the day after Christmas many years ago or because her oldest was just induced on her due date a little over a month ago.... so she's just all for induction now.
I guess for me, it's just the fact of her suggesting that at 37 weeks it would be a "good" thing. I can totally understand if there's a medical need for it and everything, but just for convenience; I had a really hard time not saying that she should just go and have an elective c-section then if it's that big of a deal.
Oh, who knows what people really think....or why.
For all you know, she was setting you up, knowing this would get to you.
Besides, maybe there's a doctor out there who is sharp enough to refuse any such request for such flimsy reasons.
Then again, why do people feel the need to offer unasked for advice? That's what irks me.
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There is actually a lot of new research showing the importance of the last few weeks of pregnancy on fetal development (especially brain growth). I know in my doctor's office (as induction happy as they are) and hospital they refuse to induce prior to 39 weeks unless there is a serious medical condition. Plus the odds of her being favorable for an induction at 37 weeks probably aren't that good either. If you think your cousin and his wife are going to take your aunt seriously, I would pass this information along to them.
I also have people in my family who had natural births themselves (my mom and grandma) but are telling me to trust my doctor and go along with an induction that I don't feel comfortable with. I think I feel more let down by them because it seems like they should know better. Oh well.
Oh, and yes this would have irked me. Normally I don't care too much about how other people choose to birth, but because I feel like this would be detrimental to the baby, it would irk me. It isn't very sound advice (BTW I know someone who had an elective induction for the tax return and ended up with a pretty bad emergency c-section).
THis would have bothered me too - for all the reasons Shannon & Gardenbug mentioned. I don't know if I would have said anything to your aunt, but I definitely would try to get a better idea of what your cousin's wife was going to do and at least share the information I have with them.
Hopefully her doctor won't allow it that early. Or she will do some reading and learn that it isn't the best idea. Personally, I try not to get involved since I do not want people meddling in my birth.
It doesn't get me "angry" or anything, but it makes me sad that there is so much misinformation being spread to the public regarding best practice in health care and that most of it is driven by money-making.
It makes me more sad than anything. I don't typically respond to statements like that, but I will talk with my DH about it later. I know many people who had easy, breezy inductions, and epidurals, and wouldn't have a baby any other way. Sometimes I almost appreciate the really bad experience I had laboring and birthing DD because it has in turn become the driving force behind me educating myself. If the cousin's wife were looking at you for guidance or suggestions, then I would simply say something like, "There are many more benefits and less risks when you avoid interventions; if you want to talk, let me know." Sometimes moms have to find this out the hard way, but all of the information is out there if they desire to find it.
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That is really sad that she has that mentality. Maybe just mention it to your cousin in general conversation to see if she really is on board with it or its just her MIL's idea. I could think of a load of things I would have said to your aunt but its probably better that you didn't say anything and just hope that the parties involved become more educated on the whole thing.
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Yes, this would bother me. I'd tell her that if I were to have induced my healthy pregnancy at 37 weeks I'd have birthed a 4lb-er with potential issues, all for my convenience. You just NEVER know when those babies are ready to be born. Only the baby knows. I hope all works out for her (she has lots of time to hopefully educate herself).
It would have bothered me, too. My baby came at 36 weeks, 5 days- and at just under 8 pounds, he was no "premie". But he had some really bad jaundice problems that might have never happened had his organs had more of a chance to sort themselves out- fr the first week of his life I could only hold him 3 hours a day because he had to spend the rest on his biliruben bed. Sure, that could happen if he came later, but it's far less likely.
I would have been bothered by it. I would probably have not said anythiing but then gone home and ranted to my husband about it Just because babies are considered "not premature" at 37 weeks, it doesn't mean all babies should be born then.