So, DH and I decided not to get a doula this time because my first labor went pretty fast and we really didn't make much use of our doula, plus he feels like now that he's been through a birth with me once he can handle being my main support person. Plus, we'll have the midwife (who provides labor support and doesn't just show up to catch) and a nurse, and possibly my mom (which is another post...). HOWEVER, since we decided this, DH's work schedule has gotten INSANE and he literally has NO days off (not even weekends) and will be out of town a bunch starting now until a few days before our due date. :help1: I'm terrified of going early and being alone with my DS when it happens, especially if it's the middle of the night. What would I do?? I'm anticipating a 3-5 hour labor this time, and the hospital is 40 minutes away, so that doesn't leave much time for getting childcare for DS and finding someone to drive me to the hospital. My parents will be taking turns staying with us starting June 19, which is great, but there will be a day here and there when neither of them is here, and if we can't get our triple back-up babysitter to our house in time for whatever reason (I thought we had our problem solved when we lined up a friend of ours to be our emergency back-up childcare, until I started thinking about her life...she has 2 little kids of her own and works 2 jobs...what if her kids are sleeping and no one else is home? What if she's at work and can't just leave at the drop of a hat?), DS will have to come to the hospital with us I guess. I'm sure it will all work out somehow, but there are so many moving parts it is stressing me out worrying about all the ways things could go wrong and I could end up with an unplanned, unattended home or car birth with just my 3 y.o. DS there to catch the baby:rolleyes: :shock: I'm considering calling around to some doulas, but frankly I really don't feel like spending the $, there are so many other things I'd rather spend it on, and it is an outside chance that I will end up without help in labor.