~*Laneybug1's Lodge~*~

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~*Laneybug1's Lodge~*~

Welcome to your lodge!!!! Smile

Looking forward to following your story!

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Welcome to your lodge!

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So a bit about me:

I'm 28, pregnant with my first, and DH is 29. We were married 3 years ago on 10-10-10 and have been trying to get pregnant every since. After a miscarrige, we decided to just let it happen for a while because we were stressing out and then about February of this year we started actively trying again and I got pregnant our 3rd month trying. We live in a suburb of Vancouver, BC, Canada - the same suburb that I grew up in. I work at a school for children with autism (although today is my last day for 13 months) and DH is a sausage maker. We have a cat named Luna, a dog named Zelda and a Guinea Pig that was supposed to be a school pet but has ended up living with me, named Speedy Fifi Gonzalez (the kids named her but my husband calls her Miss Piggy).

A little about the pregnancy: I have a short luteal phase (10 days) and I had been taking my temperature but the particular month I got pregnant I had broken my thermometre so I don't know when I ovulated. We know it was some time around Easter based off of OPK sticks. I didn't end up testing until I was 3 days late because I had been a few days late before. I had bad morning sickness through out the pregnancy and tried to cope but ended up on Diclectin by week 14. I'm still on 1 pill at night to make sure I can eat breakfast in the morning. Other than a bit of SPD pain and some low iron that caused heart palpitations, this pregnancy has been uncomplicated and just flown by.

Desire for a natural birth and midwives: As long as I can remember I've heard my birth story and my sisters and the difference. My sister's was a really rough birth and my mom made as many changes as she could before mine and says it was much easier. I ended up being a natural birth so I have always wanted to have a natural birth. 5 years ago one of my friends had a baby and had a midwife and that got me interested. Women here usually don't get OBs (unless they're high risk), they get GPs that specialize in pregnancy and birth that work at clinics with multiple doctors. You see a different one each time and whomever is on call the day you deliver attends your birth. Also, our public health nurses no longer do home visits so there is very little support once you have a baby. Midwives are part of our medical system, can do hospital births and visit you at home at least 3 times the first week. For me, getting a midwife was a no brainer, except they can be hard to get because so many women want one. I was lucky to get in with my first choice. So far I love the care I've been getting and I love the flexibility. I originally wanted a hospital birth, then switched to planning for both and seeing where I was the day of and now I'm totally on board for a hospital birth. Even DH, who was skeptical at first really wants a home birth after doing prenatal class and doing a hospital tour.

Today is my last week of work and then we're spending the weekend getting ready for a home birth (gathering everything together in one space), packing our transfer bag, installing the car seat and cleaning the house. Baby hasn't dropped yet so I'm thinking I'll probably have her some time between Christmas Eve (due date) and New Years Eve.

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:wavehello: Welcome to your lodge! Looking forward to the journey with you. Should we call you Laney or is that your baby's nickname?

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Laney is my nickname, so go ahead and call me that or Alaina

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Are you hoping for a 2013 or 2014 baby?

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I wish I had prepped more for a natural birth with my first, sounds like you're in a good place. I'm excited for you!

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"tink9702" wrote:

Are you hoping for a 2013 or 2014 baby?

DH wants a 2013 baby because his lucky number is 13. I don't want her to be born around Christmas so I would rather she came early 2014 than right around her due date. But what will be will be

I'm on day 2 of maternity leave and I'm starting to get bored. I've prepped all my cloth diapers, clothes are washed in drawers. I'm cleaning bathrooms today then I plan on starting to gather the extra things on the home birth supplies list. I have been putting off packing my hospital transfer bag, not sure why but should get going on that.

I've had a few evening contractions here and there but otherwise nothing to make me think labour is imminent. She hasn't dropped much, still getting kicks in the ribs. I have a midwife appointment on Thursday so we'll see what they say. I get to meet the new midwife then. When I was accepted to the practice back in April, they had 3 midwives but one was leaving so I never saw her. They told me they would be actively recruiting a third midwife and now they've found one. She is from England and the BC College of Midwives have given her a conditional license to practice because she needs more experience in home births and community care model that we use up here. So more than likely she will be at my home birth.

My father has decided that he'd like to drive us to the hospital so that we don't have to pay for parking (really expensive) and he's worried about the weather and he has a 4X4 (Vancouver normally is fine snow wise but the temperature is starting to drop off and they have put snow in the forecast a number of times and then taken it out so who knows, winter storms tend to paralyze us, which is all the more reason to plan a home birth). Our plan all along has been to tell our families that things progressed to quickly and she ended up being born at home. We'll see how that goes. Our home birth is on a need to know basis and they don't need to know.

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I never packed a transfer bag because most of the stuff I would want were things I was still using. I made a detailed list of what to pack and where to find it all. I did end up transferring with my son and packing my bag gave DH something to do while the midwives were getting me dressed and into the car.

And I like your need to know plan. Smile

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Sounds great on the need to know plan! Smile I shared with family my desire to have a med free birth (in the hospital) and my family freaked out and started telling me horror stories about how much birth hurts! I was so mad!!! I still smirk to this day that it wasn't nearly anything like they said and I was right! Wink So I totally support every woman who wants to keep things from her family when it involves birth! The only one who needs to know your plan is your healthcare provider and your significant other! Smile

anyway....I hope you like the new midwife! If you're bored, I'd personally head to the bookstore or library and curl up with a book or two for the day! Smile

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Welcome to your lodge! I am also a Canadian, though I live in Ontario. I hear you about keeping the home birth on a need-to-know basis. That's what I did with my homebirth. My husband's family seemed a bit concerned that we would have a homebirth so we told them that we'd have a hospital birth (it's wasn't totally lying, we didn't know for sure we'd be able to stay home until labour went smoothly) Anyways, It's easier to beg for forgiveness then ask for permission...lol....No one said a word to me once a healthy baby was born!

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Welcome to your lodge! I hope everything continues to go well and I am excited to hear the news when the big day arrives. Take it easy and enjoy your time off.

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How are things going Laney?

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Sorry, I've been really busy. Things are going well.

I finished my first week of maternity leave and I got through it, a little bored but I'm glad I've got this time to get the house in shape. We met our new 3rd midwife and we really liked her, so that's good because she'll more than likely be at our homebirth. Baby is still not engaged but I found 2 studies that showed that babies are not engaged by the time labour starts in about 70-75% of first time mom's (not the stat I was lead to believe, that all first time moms engage early). I have another appointment today so I'll be asking the midwife if she's really high and we're at risk for cord prolapse if my water breaks or not.

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Really starting to think I'm going to go late as I don't feel like anything is happening. But then again, I don't know what I should feel. Went to a La Leche meeting yesterday and really enjoyed it. Plan for today is hula dancing and hula hooping on the Wii and cleaning the floors. See if that brings her down.

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Have you been having any braxton hicks contractions? Notice that she is lower at all?

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How are you doing this week?

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it's still pretty early for a first time mom I'd guess. Remember all the #'s on stats are thrown off by the "not letting women go after 40 or 42 weeks doctors".

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I get a few Braxton hicks a day, but not many. My sister thinks I look lower but she hadn't seen me in a few weeks. I notice I'm peeing more, so maybe she's starting to come down. I got DH to blow up my yoga ball and I've been sitting on that since Saturday and I notice that after I sit in it for awhile and make circles with my hips or bounce that I feel a lot of cervical pressure, so perhaps it's doing something.

I'm honestly feeling pretty down. I have a history of anxiety and depression so everyone has been watching me closely for antenatal depression. I have been off work for 2 weeks, starting my third and I'm feeling really alone and isolated. Everyone keeps telling me that it will get better when the baby comes but what if it doesn't and I get full blown post parting depression? I haven't had a depressive episode in a few years and I've been med free for almost as long but it's something I'm starting to get worries about. DH and I were living together through the last episode so he knows what to look for. I try to get out every day but I don't get a lot if human interaction. I do have a lunch on Wednesday with a friend from prenatal class and I'm going to make a list of people I can call when I'm feeling really down. But there just isn't a lot to do here.

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"laneybug1" wrote:

I'm honestly feeling pretty down. I have a history of anxiety and depression so everyone has been watching me closely for antenatal depression. I have been off work for 2 weeks, starting my third and I'm feeling really alone and isolated. Everyone keeps telling me that it will get better when the baby comes but what if it doesn't and I get full blown post parting depression? I haven't had a depressive episode in a few years and I've been med free for almost as long but it's something I'm starting to get worries about. DH and I were living together through the last episode so he knows what to look for. I try to get out every day but I don't get a lot if human interaction. I do have a lunch on Wednesday with a friend from prenatal class and I'm going to make a list of people I can call when I'm feeling really down. But there just isn't a lot to do here.

To the bolded: Then you talk with your doctor and get on some meds. There are many that are safe while breastfeeding. Check out Dr. Thomas Hale's Infant Risk website if your doctor isn't sure. Depression isn't something to fear or to feel ashamed about; it is a physiological imbalance of the chemicals in your body. Your body will be going through a bunch of physiological and chemical changes in the next few weeks, and it might just need some help getting over the hump. You can't be a good mom to your baby when you aren't feeling good, physically or emotionally. (That's also why, if you have a c-section, you take your pain meds by the clock for the first week at least. Pain interferes with milk production, and it interferes wtih bonding.) And then you make sure to take care of yourself in all the other usual ways and when you're feeling stable, you can try weaning off the meds and see how it goes.

I'm glad your DH is on the watch for this, and both of you should be aware of what is normal & what's not. It's normal to cry for no apparent reason, it's normal to miss being pregnant, it's normal to want to stay in bed snuggling your baby, it's normal to not want to sleep because it's so much fun to watch your baby sleep, and it's normal to feel like you're never going to lose the belly that still looks pregnant. It's NOT normal not be able to stop crying, it's NOT normal to not want to sleep because something bad might happen to the baby, and it's NOT normal to want to stay in bed because you can't fathom expending that much energy. Keep an open line of communication and ask him to check in with you if you seem a bit off even if you don't say something, kwim? Also, see if there's a local new moms group so you can get out with baby and meet some moms who are going through the same things you are.
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Stacey had some great points above. I would look for a new mom's group too. I'm sure they'd let you join before baby gets here!!! Smile 18 months after DS's birth I realized I'd had PPD with DS. I had no idea when I went through it that I was actually depressed not just the baby blues. But with DD's birth I went "whoa, what the heck, that wasn't normal with DS was it!". Basically I'm saying your DH knowing to look for it is a great thing.

Are there any prenatal yoga classes? Or are you crafty - take some knitting, cake making, or some other class right now?

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Feeling much better this week. I was able to keep myself very busy. I had a midwife appointment today and she attempted a stretch and sweep but I am 0 cm dilated and I was high and posterior. Honestly, I know that it has no bearing on when I'll go I to labour but I just hoped that I would have seen some progress. We'll try again next week. There's still time for her to come before Christmas and if not, I think the 28th would make an awesome birthday.

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glad you are feeling more positive!

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I was rooting for you yesterday to have a Winter Solstice baby. To help with your boredom....

How are you sleeping these days?
Where is baby going to sleep after her arrival?
Have you chosen a name, or are you waiting to meet her first?
If you've chosen a name, does anyone IRL know what it is?
Does baby have a nickname?
Do you have a nursery? What is the theme?
I know you're planning a homebirth, but did you pack a transfer bag or just make a list?
Do you celebrate Christmas? If so, what are you plans with and without baby?

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I Hope your absence means you had the baby. Looking forward to getting an update from you.

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thinking of you this week!