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Sorry we're late starting this, but know that we're all behind you and excited to follow you on your journey!!!

:blob3: Welcome to your lodge!!! :blob3:

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Welcome to your lodge! Biggrin

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Thank you! :)I will get on with a real introduction later.

I do have to say that I am excited to be considered "full term" now at 37 weeks. I went to my appointment yesterday at the Birth Center. They sent me to see the OB that they work with in the event of an emergency and he OKed me to deliver at the birth center so now IF and when I do go into labor I belong to the midwives! Yay! I feel like I am in such good hands with them and I am very exicted about this delivery.

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That's fantastic! Glad things are already lining up well. Biggrin

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Yay!! Welcome to your lodge!! I can't wait to hear more background info and follow your journey! Smile

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Welcome to your lodge Claire! So glad your appointment went well and that you were cleared by the OB!

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Introduction:
My name is Claire, 29 and I am married to Chris, 36. We have one DS named James who is 6 years old. We are soooo happy to welcome this 2nd little baby boy into our family!

I met DH thru some friends when I was 21 years old. We all went out to dinner one night and he and we ended up getting in deep conversation with one another at the table. We just hit it off. I honestly was not interested in him as anything more than a friend though. I just liked him as a person and enjoyed talking to him. He now tells me that he knew from the moment he met me that he wanted to be with me. Smile I had just come out of a terrible relationship and I still had some healing to do. DH lived in the neighborhood across the street from mine so we often rode together to meet up with friends and so forth. Eventually, we started hanging out one on one together. We always had good time. I remember thinking that he may like me as more than a friend, but he always seemed to keep it at the friend level until one night he just came out and openly told me about his feelings when we were riding home together. I was kind of shocked and flattered, but I still didn't think about him like that. You would think that him telling me would have made our relationship weird after that, but it really didn't. He just kind of made jokes about it here and there. We went on being friends for months until one night he told me he was going on a date with another girl. I guess he got sick of waiting around or maybe he hoped I would have a reaction to it. I could not believe how jealous I felt. I guess that was all it took for me to see him as more than a friend. He went out with her one time and I remember the very next day telling him that I didn't want him to see other people and that I really did have feelings for him. We started dating after that. It was amazing. I guess I had never dated someone I had been friends with and so it was kind of cool to already feel so comfortable around someone but at the same time look at them in such a different light. I was pleasantly surprised by the chemistry we had. I fell in love with him pretty much immediately and I have never ever stopped loving him. He is the most amazing husband to me.

We got married in June of 2005. It was a small wedding with only family and close friends. We were not planning on getting pregnant any time soon after we got married, but that October I started feeling the onset of M/S although I didn't know it at the time. I was on BC so I didn't think I would be pregnant. (I was not taking the BC at the same exact time every single day and low and behold I ended up in that small percentile that gets pregnant!) Anyway, I knew my period had not come, but I think I was in a little bit of denial to be honest. I went to my Dr and told them that I was feeling sick. Of course they gave me a pregnancy test on the spot that turned out to be positive and I was just shocked! I couldn't wrap my head around it. So I will stop here as that pretty much brings me to DS's birth story.

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So I want to share a part of my story that is a little random. I don't usually share this with people at all. In fact, only my close friends & family know about this, but I think it's important that I share it with you all since it's shaped why I feel so strongly about having a natural birth this go around. (Each delivery has helped push me to the point of wanting natural birth, but this was my 1st experience with it so I was the most naive and most unsure of myself.)

So basically, this is my 1st birth story. When I was 16 years old, I got pregnant. I was dating my 1st real BF and my first real love. We used a condom, but somehow it came off(I don't think he knew how to even put it on correctly to be honest) and I got pregnant. This was only the 2nd time I had ever had sex. I was scared out of my mind, but I didn't know about the Morning After Pill or really any of my options. I didn't tell my parents because I didn't want them to know that I was having sex. So 2 weeks later my period didn't come. I was devastated. I could not believe it. I really coudn't. I was really enjoying high school at the time. I was having lots of fun being a teenager and getting pregnant was NOT part of the plan. I coudln't even imagine myself pregnant.

The story is really long and personal, but I do want to give some details at least as to what happened leading up to her birth. I initally wanted an abortion when I found out, but at the same time I was in such conflict with myself because I already felt love towards the little life in my tummy. Its just that I really couldn't see myself having a child at all. I still felt like a kid! My BF at the time was actually adopted. His birth mother had given him up at a young age to his adoptive parents. I LOVED his parents and really looked up to them. I remember that my BF and I kept it a secret from friends and family for several weeks mainly because we didn't know what to do and partly because we were in denial. I sat on the end of my bed one night in total conflict with myself on what to do. I hadn't told my family yet and I knew the time was coming that I needed to tell them. I was just sick about the whole thing. I sat there and I simply said this really small prayer to God. I just said, "Please help me." I never really prayed or had any faith at the time. I think I was just desperate. All of the sudden and strong sense of peace overwhelmed me. I could picture myself 9 months pregnant, standing in the kitchen at my BF's house talking to him mother and we were smiling. I am not sure why this picture popped in my head or why it brought me such peace, but from that moment on I knew I would have the baby, put it up for adoption, and that it would all work out some how.

So that is what we did. Our families were supportive. My friends were great. My BF and I were able to stay together through the process. It really couldn't have gone much smoother considering the circumstances. I found out at my 20 week U/S that it was a girl. Around the same time we also chose a family though an adoption agency. It was pretty much a closed adoption per our choice. None of us felt like we could have open visits with this little baby once she was born and not want to keep her for ourselves.

So that brings me to her birth. I had a very uneventful pregnancy. I gained about 20 lbs total and she and I were healthy the whole time. Only issue was the m/s during the 1st 3 months and then I was anemic for a little while. At the time she was due, my BF had started his freshman year of college 3 hours away from where we lived. I was a senior in high school, but I was doing the homebound thing until her birth since she was due in September and I would only miss 2 months of school. At 38 weeks I would have contractions every single night for like a week. I remember wondering if they would ever be "the real thing." I totally planned on getting an epidural and whatever else they wanted me to have at the hospital. So I went in for my 39 week appointment on a Friday and I remember the OB checking me and telling me that I was 2cm dilated and that I could go into labor any day now. She said that if I hadn't had the baby by that Monday, they would schedule an induction for that Tuesday. LOL at the time this sounded awesome to me! That way I could have it all planned out for my BF to be home from college, the family to be ready to come pick up the baby, etc. Little did I know how terrible pitocin would be!

So I never went into labor on my own and my induction was scheduled. My mother and I went to the hospital early that Tuesday morning. Around 8:00 AM they broke my water and it was green. Meconium! Ugh. They then hooked me up to pitocin. My contractions immediately started hard and fast. And I do mean fast. They gave me an epidural fairly quickly so I don't remember really feeling much pain, but I knew I was contracting like crazy. I kept throwing up and feeling sick. After a couple hours, they came back and put something in my IV to slow the contractions down! The baby and my body were getting no break in between them and they were INTENSE. I can't imagine what that labor would have felt like without the epidural... My body couldn't handle it. So around 2pm(6 hours after they broke my water) I felt like I needed to push. They brought in my OB and told me that sure enough I was at 10 and ready to push. I began pushing, but the baby didn't feel like she was ready to come out. I only pushed for 30 minutes, but it was hard. It took all my strength and the epidural wasn't helping anything. She was born at 2:30pm. I was given an episiotomy. (Ugh that was the most painful recovery!) She was 7 lbs 1 oz and 19 inches long. She was beautiful. They had to work on her because of the meconium, but she was just fine. They let me hold her as soon as they knew she was okay. I am so grateful to have had those first moments with her. My BF laid in the bed with me and we spent what little time we did have with her loving her and saying our goodbyes. It was hard as hell. It felt unnatural to let her go because it was, but at the same time I KNEW without any doubt that I was making the right choice. I knew that she would have parents like my BF's parents. I knew they would love her and cherish her. They would give her the life that I coudln't at that time. I still get pictures of her now and again from them. She is doing great. My BF and I broke up a couple years after her birth, but we still live in the same town and we still keep in touch to some degree. Mainly just about her.

I appreciate you all reading that part of my story. I think her birth pushed me to be a little more informed about my DS's birth which was good, but I still wasn't at the point I am at now. I just knew that I didn't want a c-section if possible, that I never wanted to be induced again if possible, and that episiotomies are awful! I still couldn't imagine every having a baby without an epidural or outside of a hospital setting though. That would come later. Smile

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Wow. I can't imagine how difficult that whole year was on you.
Can't wait to read about your son's birth. Smile

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Wow, that is a hard situation but it sounds like you all handled it beautifully! Can't wait to read your next birth story!

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Welcome to your lodge! I look forward to reading your full intro including your son's birth soon! Smile

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So on to my DS's birth story Smile

My pregnancy with DS was both eventful and uneventful at the same time. What I mean is that while we were both healthy and great the entire pregnancy, it was just plain hard because for some reason I was literally sick with him almost the entire pregnancy. I was very happy that he was a boy since I really wanted a little boy so badly. Everything about his pregnancy was truly great except that I threw up all day every day for 7 months and even at the end it still lingered. I seriously tried evey thing including meds to help with the m/s but nothing helped it. I just kind of surrendered to it and knew that he would be worth it and of course he is. Smile

DS, James, was due June 13, 2006. I was soooo excited for him to come! I worked up until labor and then the plan was for me to take a year off with him. So basically I was in the process of training someone to take over my job around his due date. It was nice to know I was going to have lots of time to spend with him. (I say that because this time I will only get 12 weeks and then I need to return to work. Luckily my neighbor is going to nanny for us and I like my job so it's all good.) Anyway, I never really showed any signs of labor like I did in my 1st pregnancy. I kept waiting to notice contractions or really ANYTHING that would give me a hint of impending labor. I had no real birth plan except to avoid c-section and get my epidural once we got to the hospital. I definitely wanted an epidural and I couldn't even imagine doing it without one.

On the morning of June 7, 2006 I got up to get ready for work. My nausea seemed to have returned with full force over the last couple days(which I now think may have been a sign that labor was coming.) That particular morning I remember noticing how low DS had dropped into my pelvis. I started trying to get dressed and couldn't stop throwing up. I also noticed my 1st contractions even though they were not that painful. They were still coming every 10 minutes though. I called out to work simply because I didn't feel like going in 9 months pregnant and throwing up all day. My boss seemed annoyed and told me if my water had not broken yet that I should come in because I was not having the baby that day. LOL boy was she wrong. Anyway, I hung around my house and tried to rest. I called DH at work and told him what was going on. He begged me to call me to call my midwife and tell her. I remember wanting soooo badly to really be in labor that I may have exaggerated the strength & length of my contractions so she told me to come to the hospital.

Ugh I will not go to the birth center this time until I know I am in labor! That was a huge mistake on my part. DH and I headed off the hospital. His parents and sister came too. Gees. Here I am not even really sure I am in labor and I have all my in-laws in tote! My family would have come but they didn't live close by and its a good thing too. So they check me into L&D triage and get me on a monitor. Sure enough I am contracting on a regular basis, but I am only 2 cm dilated so they want to wait to make sure I am really going to progress before sending me upstairs to a real room. This was probably around lunch time. Basically, I sat or walked the halls of L&D from noon until 7pm and contracted all day. They were stupid, tiny contractions that I may as well have had at home while I could actual get some stuff done besides be bored out of my mind. At 7pm they checked me and I was at 2cm. I remember I didn't even care because I wanted to go home so bad! I was happy they were going to let me leave. They told me to call back if anything picked up or changed.

We got home and I sent DH out for food. I got in the bed because I remember being really tired for some reason. I think I actually fell asleep without ever eating. I woke back up around 11pm to DH climbing in the bed and checking on me. I told him I was feeling lots of pressure and that I had been having a hard time sleeping b/c of the contractions. He rubbed my back for a bit and I got up to go to the bathroom. When I did, it seemed like that kicked everything up a notch. Suddenly my contractions seemed MUCH stronger. I remember pulling my pants down to pee and seeing lots of bloody mucous running down my legs which quite honestly freaked me out. So we headed back to the hospital. This was around midnight. The car ride was uncomfortable just like I have read on so many other ladies birth stories. It hurt to sit on my butt so I kept trying to move positions, but nothing felt good when I was having a contraction. I finally just surrendered to a miserable ride and told DH not to make it worse with his driving.

We got back to L&D and they put me back in one of those little triage rooms and told me someone would come check me. I waited in that stupid room for like 45 minutes! I was so frustrated because the pain was getting more and more intense and it hurt to sit in the bed. Finally, DH went and got someone. She came in and checked me, but I was already well aware of the fact that I was in labor at this point. 6 cm she said so they sent me upstairs FINALLY.

Once I got upstairs I asked for an epidural. I could think of nothing else during my contractions. I remember feeling like if everyone would just be quiet and turn the lights off, then that would help me deal with the pain, but of course they didn't do that. They asked me 900 questions, started my IV, and so forth so I clenched me teeth and tried not to get mad. Honestly, I was like MAD because of the pain. Everyone was annoying. The nurse told me I had to let my IV of fluids finish before they would give me the epi so I had to wait another hour or so. They decided to check me before the Dr gave it to me. I was at 7cm and very relieved! I remember the whole time I had this fear that I would start progressing super quickly and have to deliver naturally.

So once I got the epi, I truly felt instant relief. I was so happy. BUT it was short lived. My blood pressure began to nose dive. I felt so crummy. I also got a fever(which I truly believe was b/c of that epi whether anyone else does or not.) They kept telling me that if my fever got to a certain point, then they would have to give me a c-section because it wasn't good for baby. I was so out of it. I went from feeling fine aside from the pain from my contractions which was a totally normal thing, to feeling terrible, out of it, and worried about the baby. They continued to monitor me closely and luckily I was progressing. I honestly don't remember much towards the end.

I remember them suddenly running in my room, turning on the lights, putting O2 on me and turning me over because the baby's heartrate was dropping. Apparently, I was ready to push because the midwife told me it was time and broke my water. When they broke my water there was meconium AGAIN! I remember being too out of it to really care at that point. DS must have been right there ready to come out because I think I only pushed 2 or 3 times and he was born. He came out before the respiratory therapist had a chance to make it to the room to work on him. I didn't get to immediately hold him because just like during my 1st delivery they needed to clear his lungs. I was so happy to see him though. I remember he looked just like I thought he would. Smile He was perfect and perfectly sweet. He was born at 4:04 AM after about 17 hours of labor(7 active.) He was 7 lbs 1 oz and 19 inches long. Exactly the same as my 1st baby.

They did let DH and I hold him for a minute, but they then took him down to the NICU. This is where I must have totally blacked out. I don't remember getting stitched up for my small tear or anything. I don't remember them switching my room or really anything. I have a slight memory of being in a wheelchair down in the NICU and DH trying to scrub my hands for me so that we could go in and see him, but I have no memory of actually seeing him. I am not sure if I blacked out from my blood pressure, the epi, the delivery, or what? Maybe a combo of everything. All I know if that I do not want that stuff to happen this time if possible.

DS had to stay in the NICU for 5 days because of his breathing. I guess he just had a harder time than we would have thought after all the junk being in his lungs. It was hard to leave him there, but I remember trying to be grateful that it was only several days and not several weeks or even months like some of the other babies had to stay. Once we did get him home things were just fine. He was always a fabulous nurser. I almost think he made it TOO easy on me. We dealt with thrush and clogged ducts and so forth, but he was always a champ through it all. I hope it goes well with this baby too. I will try to dig up some pics of his birth and my pregnancy to post later. Smile

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Interesting how his birth has shaped what you want this birth to be like. With my epi with DS I too quickly felt worse and realized that for me feeling the pain would have been better than how I felt with the epi. I really hope (tons of good vibes your way!) that you have a much better experience this time with no NICU stay!

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I hope this one breaks the meconium trend for you! Do you have a birth plan for this birth?

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I loved reading your story Claire! I find it really interesting how you said that the pain from your contractions was making you angry. I think that's such a great assessment of how pain makes us feel a lot of times. I can't imagine how awful it must have felt with your BP dropping and all the chaos after your epi. I'm all about people doing whatever is best for their situation, but having an adverse reaction to pain meds has always been a huge fear of mine and a great NCB motivator.

I can't wait to hear about your plans for this birth!

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I had my 1st real contractions last night! They were not consistent at all and obviously didn't amount to real labor, but it made me happy to feel my body getting ready for this baby to come. (They ended up coming after DTD so I told DH that we are going to be doing it every night from now on! Smile ) He seemed okay with that.

My plan for this baby, Griffin's birth, is to have it at our local birth center. I feel really lucky to have such a great resource here. Initially, I was going to stick with my OB and attempt to do it naturally at our hospital, but the more I researched my options, the more it made sense for me to just do it at the birth center. Our hospital is great and I loved my OB, but it obviously just wasn't as conducive to natrual childbirth at the birth center. The birth center is free standing and made up of 4 midwives. They have 2 birthing suites and each one has a huge birthing tub. Most women end up delivering in the tub, but they let you deliver however is most comfortable for you. The center is like half a mile from the hospital so they can easily transfer if need be as well and they work with an OB over there who pretty much still lets them run the show even if I did have to be transfered. He would obviously perform a csection if it came to that, but otherwise he lets them do their thing.

I read the Bradley Method book which I was really pushing into when I still thought I was going to do it at the hospital(we switched to the center when I was 28 weeks) since it gives you lots of tools on how to deal with that kind of birth. Now that we are doing it at the center, my plan is still to have DH as my primary support person, but really I am just so happy that I will be in a nice, quiet & dark room. They are basicaly going to leave me alone and let me deal with my contractions. They point blank ask you to write on your birth plan if you would rather be left alone or have lots of touch, massage, etc. All that I wanted when I was in labor with DS was to be left alone so I am assuming I will feel the same this time? Just peace to focus thru the pain. I am nervous about pushing since have yet to feel that without an epidural, but I trust my body to do it's thing. So that's my plan in a nutshell. Smile

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Sounds like a good plan. I must say I'm envious of you getting to go to a free standing birth center! I would love to do that! There just isn't one in the town I'm birthing in. Boo. I'm very excited to read your birth story after you birth there though Smile

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Same here - I wish a free standing birth center was an option! Heck, I ideally wish a HB with a MW was an option. But alas NC sucks and no MW would risk herself to deliver a VBAC baby on federal property. Blum 3
I really hated people too. Even my husband since he wasn't the right kind of help that I needed at the time (he's more prepared this time!). lol.

And woo hoo for some prep contractions! Biggrin

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Sounds like an awesome plan and how awesome about the contractions. It all has to start somewhere. Smile

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I had my 38 week appointment this morning(a day early.)

It went great! My BP was 120/72 or something like that. I lost 2 lbs which kind of surprised me since I have been starving lately! Even though I lost a little weight, the MW said that little Griffin seemed MUCH bigger than he did last week. She made a guess to humor me and said he is about 6 1/2 lbs right now. He is head down(although he has been head down what seems like this entire pregnanacy) and in a great postion for labor.

She asked if I wanted her to check me since they haven't yet and I said yes just out of curiousity since I have been contracting at night. She said I am at 3 cm and baby has dropped into my pelvis. My cervix is still pretty thick right now. This was all a bit of a surprise to me. With my DS James, I remember I contracted all day long never getting past 2 cm so I am VERY happy to be at 3 already. At least it's less work for me whenever I do go into labor.

I have to say that I can't help but be a little excited about already being at 3 cm. I know that technically it doesn't mean that he will be born tomorrow or even next week, but it just makes me happy to know that my body it working on it and I will be holding him sooner than later. This pregnancy has been such a happy time and I just can't wait for the delivery and the BFing and all the new baby stuff. Smile

Oh yeah! I forgot to add that I am Group B Strep Negative! Woo hoo!
Here is my 38 week belly pic(hopefully it will resize if it hasn't already.) And yes, I am in the bathroom at work as always.

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Sounds like a great appointment, and that you have a good plan in place to have the birth you want this time. I loved reading your stories, and hearing about how they have shaped your decisions for your birth this time. I am excited to follow you through the rest of this journey. Smile

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What a great appointment Claire! I am so excited at the progress your body has already made. You look fantastic!

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Glad that your appt went well! YAY! Biggrin

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You look fantastic! Sounds like a great appt! I would totally be excited to know I'm 3cm already! It means your body is doing prep work already AND its less cm's you will have to work through later!

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Well, last night I had more contractions. This morning I feel like I can't even walk because there is so much pressure on my cervix. I was walking all wonky into work this AM. I think I remember feeling this way with DS at some point towards the end. It just didn't feel like he could get ANY lower, but then the day that I went into labor he was definitely lower so I guess he can and he will.

Our plans for Thanksgiving are pretty minimal. Tonight my MIL is in town and is going to watch James so that DH and I can go see Lincoln. Our last date night for awhile most likely so I plan to make the most of it! Tomorrow DH is cooking 2 turkeys(I have no idea why because its really just us eating them so 1 would be plenty.) I think he just likes to use his smoker thing. LOL I want to get the tree up with DS at some point. I usually don't put it up this early, but I figure I should go ahead and do it before I deliver. I love putting up the tree! DS is such a great little helper. He gets really into putting up all the decorations actually, but I guess he's at the perfect age of 6 to really enjoy this stuff. I will have to get some pics. I really have no pictures of me pregnant except for the silly ones I take in the bathroom at work. I have a feeling I am going to regret not taking more once I have the baby. Hope everyone has a Happy Turkey Day!

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You've got some great holiday weekend plans to me! Have a great and happy thanksgiving! Biggrin

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As much of a PITA it is, the pressure sounds so promising! Even if it's not for a while, it all leads to the same result. I always get a kick out of SO's/DH's that feel they "need" to make extra just to play with their toys :ROFL:. Your Christmas tree idea sounds really sweet. I love that DS is so involved! I hope you have an amazing holiday!

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We had a nice Thanksgiving. I did manage to get the tree up too. Seems so early to have it up, but I just can't see trying to do it after the baby comes. DS was happy to have it up now anyway. I meant to take pictures, but I only got one with my phone of DS laying on the floor watching cartoons and waiting for turkey. Smile

I haven't really had anymore real contractions over the past couple days. I have only had BHs. Keep having lots of pressure though. Last night was the 1st night that I was truly tired of being pregnant. Up until last night, I have been enjoying this sweet time since I don't know if this will be my last baby or not. But Ugh I just feel like he's grown so huge over the last week. I can't get ahead of myself though. I have 12 days until my due date and I could obviously go overdue so I need to suck it up and embrace the last few days or weeks of this.

One more thing I am hoping you ladies can help with: I think I might have a yeast infection. Sad I haven't had one since I was in high school so I am not really certain. I was going to go buy some plain yogurt and see if that helps. Anyone know of any other natural remedies for a YI? I figure some of you CDing moms might. I have an appointment on Monday so I will be sure to ask them about it too.

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Cutting out sugar and refined carbs usually gets my yeast to go away pretty quickly. If that doesn't do the trick, I peel a clove of garlic, cut off the rough end, and use it as an overnight suppository. Throw it away in the morning. Three nights in a row generally works. Some women find the garlic juice really stings, but I haven't experienced that. For me it works better than anything I can by at the drug store.

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I don't blame you for putting the tree up early! Just the little things we've done to prepare for the holidays early this year have been SUCH a huge help for me stress wise, I want to keep it up in the coming years. I don't have any answers on the yeast infection stuff, but as you mentioned yogurt is supposed to be good for that sort of thing. I hope the garlic helps if you try that!

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cranberry sauce made with hardly any sugar is hard to swallow but cures the problem.

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Nice job getting the tree up already!

Sorry to hear about the YI Sad I have been very prone to them in the past and I use Acidophilus supplements (capsules by mouth) when I'm starting to get one. It rocks!! Hope yours goes away soon!

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Yuck! Sorry to hear about the YI! I had my first one ever this pg and it sucked. I dont have any natural cures though. I just used the cream OTC canestan stuff. My doctor said to use just the cream and not the capsules as some preg ladies are extra sensitive to them. I was so glad it was gone!! Hope yours resolves soon!

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Thanks for all the good advice! I am hoping that it's clearing up because last night I took a bath with apple cider vinegar which I read helps and then I used the plain yogurt after I got out. I did the same thing this morning and I am starting to feel better! Here's hoping it helps! If not, then I am grateful to have more options that you ladies listed. It would suck to go into labor with this yucky YI but luckily I don't for see that happening anytime soon.

I wanted to share a pic of my stash of cloth diapers! I have slowly been building it up since we decided to CD this baby. I am starting with prefolds and covers for when he is teeny tiny(I am getting a a few newborn covers & fitteds in the mail this week that are not pictured here) and then pretty much everything else are pockets. I figure even though I don't know what will work best for us, at least I have lots of options and I can hopefully sell/trade what doesn't work out. I can't wait to diaper this babe's bottom! My family thinks we are nuts, but I can't wait to prove to them that it's not hard.

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No YI recommendations. I haven't had one in years. (*runs to knock on wood*) Hope you find a solution for yourself soon. Sad

ETA: Aw the sweet colorful fluff!!! Love it! :mrgreen:

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I'm glad the remedies you've tried so far are helping! I LOVE your CD stash! Even with hard water and the PITA that has been for our diapers, I still love CDing and find it easy. Who can resist those fluffy little bottoms!

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Glad to hear the YI feels like its improving! I'm jealous of the diversity of your fluff! I love that there are several of us on the November board who are here on the Birthing Naturally board AND the Cloth Diapering board Smile

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Awww, those diapers are adorable. I am kind of on the fence about CDing here. My daycare lady doesn't do CDs, so if we did it it would only be for home. But I am still thinking that nights and weekends would be better than nothing. Anyway, very cute. I hope that your YI is all cleared up by now. Smile

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Claire I just read your lodge and have to say your story is truely inspiring. The maturity and strength you had at such a young age is truly amazing. Then, how you nd your DH met and progressed from friends to more was fun to read. I must say, your hubby sounds like a very patient, sweet, guy. Your DS's birth sounded frustrating, but that it brought you to a better place for this birth Smile

I love the way you write, and cant wait to read Griffin's birth story Smile

Hoping that your YI is better, and that your newest little man makes his appearance sooner than later Smile

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Any updates Claire? I am thinking about you!

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Just wanted to say I hope the end of your week went well and that you've got a great weekend ahead of you Claire! Can't wait to hear an update soon. Smile

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Thinking of you! Hope things are going well!

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So sorry to have gone MIA! Our computer has been broken at our house and we finally got it back yesterday evening. Normally, I would have just checked in from my computer at work, but I had the baby so I haven't been at work. Smile

Griffin Benjamin was born on 11-30-12 at 4:16 AM. He was 19 1/2 inches and 6 lbs 12 oz. My labor was only an hour long and I ended up having a homebirth!! I delivered him on my bathroom floor. It was pretty intense, but we are both healthy and fine. The midwife form the birth center actually did make it to my house about 5 minutes before I pushed him out so it wasn't actually an unassisted birth. I will post the whole story later with what little pictures we got. Plus I want to check in on all you ladies! I have to go now because DS1 is begging me to play with him and Griffin is sleeping so its my only chance to give him my full attention.

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Wow I'm so glad everything went so well Claire!!! WTTW Griffin. What a superbirth! Can't wait to read your full birth story and see pictures. Biggrin

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YAY! So glad I was right that you had your boy and have been in baby bliss!!!! :mrgreen:

Congrats Claire! What a birth story! Can't wait to read more later. And see a picture. Wink

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yay!!! cant wait to hear all about it Smile

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OMG! CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Can't wait to read the birth story.

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Big congratulations! :sleepyboy:

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Wow! Congrats!!! Can't wait to read the full story! Enjoy that baby! WTTW, Griffin!

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WOW!!!! I cannot wait to read your birth story! Sounds like a whirlwind! Huge congrats Claire!

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Griffin Benjamin's Birth Story- Born 11-30-12 at 4:16am- 6lbs 12 oz- 19 1/2 inches long

So my labor definitely did not go as planned, but in a way it couldn't have gone much better. Smile As most of you know, my plan was to have a nice, relaxing(as possible) water birth at our free standing birth center with midwives that I trusted. I was super pumped for it and a little nervous since this was my 1st time attempting a totally drug free birth. I was very confident in my body and mentally I felt like I had prepared my mind for what was to come. Honestly, I think a LARGE part of my confidence came from this board. I read so many birth stories and got so much wonderful information from all the women on here. Each time I read another Lodge I felt more inspired.

On Thursday night, November 29, I had my first contractions. Well, I had been having them off and on for a couple weeks, but they were never consistent or anything. So when I started having them that night, I honestly didn't think much of them. It was around 10:30pm and I was watching TV with DH. I did mention to him that I was having some and I did notice that these seemed to be coming every 6-7 minutes, but like I said, I didn't get too excited. I was 39 weeks 1 day pregnant which is exactly when I went into labor with DS1 too. I decided to go to bed and figured that if I was really in labor, then I wouldn't be able to go to sleep or that they would wake me up. I am pretty sure I managed to fall asleep within a few minutes of getting in bed. DH was still downstairs watching TV when I fell asleep.

I woke up at 2:59am. I remember because I looked at the clock right when I woke up. I woke up because I had to pee. (At least I think. I don't think it was a contraction that woke me up.) I got up, used the bathroom, got back in bed. I noticed contractions that were stronger than I had had so far in my pregnancy. They continued to come pretty quickly so I got my phone which had a contraction timing ap on it. I started timing them. They were coming every minute and lasting a minute. I only timed about 5 or 6 of them because they were so intense that it was quite honestly annoying to me to even be timing them. I knew that contractions coming every minute and lasting for a minute were strange. DH had fallen asleep on the couch(I honestly think he was trying to give me the bed because I was so pregnant and cranky and he snores.) I went downstairs to tell him I was in labor. He was super excited and immediately started turning like every freakin light in the house on. I started fussing at him to calm down and turn the lights down. I apologized for fussing at him later after I delivered. I sat on the stairs trying to talk to him but I just couldn't. The contractions were very intense. I couldn't talk until my break in between them and it seemed like I was getting no break. He paged our midwife and we called my sister to come stay with DS1 who was asleep. I kept trying to get stuff together, but I would just end up on my hands and knees each time I had a contraction because that was the only position that was somewhat comfortable. There was no sense of urgency at this point despite how strong they were. I honestly thought I was being a bit of a baby. I remember telling myself that this was only the start of my labor and I needed to stay calm and not let them overwhelm me.

At 3:40am our midwife called us back. DH was talking to her while I was on my hands and knees in the kitchen attempting to get food together to take with us to the birth center. (Never could get off my hands and knees the whole labor!) The midwife asked Dh if she could talk to me. I think she was skeptical of whether or not I was really in labor because Dh told her I had only been having contractions for 30 minutes. Once she talked to me she said she would meet us at the birth center at 4:15. That sounded good to me because we still had to wait for my sister, and I was moving at the pace of snail, and it takes up about 25 minutes to get there from our house.

I had to go back upstairs to our room & bathroom to change clothes, brush my teeth, etc. I did manage to change clothes, but then I ended up on the bathroom floor with another contraction. I don't think I ever got off the floor again. LOL. I had a very big contraction and when I was done, I could do nothing but rest rather than get up and try to get stuff done to go to the birth center. At the time, DH was still wondering around the house getting stuff ready for us to go. This is when everything seemed to pick up a notch. Suddenly, I could do nothing but focus on my labor. I ended up on my knees and I hunched over the toilet for support. I remember I was having to breathe like a mad woman to get thru my contractions and I would think I was going to die and then it would end and I would totally relax. I couldn't think about anything except my labor. No more trying to get dressed or whatever. I began to throw up. I also felt the baby move down and my water break all in one contraction. I started to feel "pushy." Now I just have to say, that had I not planned on natural birth or read all the birth stories on this board, or read books on NCB, etc, then I don't think I would have felt so "OK" with what was going on, but I did. I wasn't scared which I think it amazing and just goes to show how truly natural childbirth really is. It was like my body took over and I was just along for the ride and I knew that I just had to go with it at this point. All that I learned from other women who had done this before me. Now looking at the situation thru "non laboring eyes" I don't know why I wasn't more scared, but while it was happening it felt like a very natural thing. I don't know if any of that made sense, but I hope it did.

Anyway, so I was feeling like I needed to start pushing. I realized that this was transition. I couldn't walk to go get DH and I couldn't yell for him. I wasn't very vocal and I felt like I couldn't really talk or yell for some reason. I remembered that my phone was on the bathroom counter and I called him. He was downstairs and so he ran up and asked what was wrong. I was throwing up again and I just said, "I'm not going to make it to the birth center. I need to push already." He of course started to tell me how we needed to get in the car right now, wake up DS, etc. I told him no way was I having the baby in the car and that he needed to go call the midwife and tell her I was about to deliver. I have to give my DH credit because he said, "OK." He didn't keep pushing me to try and get me in the car or panic or anything. He just listened and called her and told her I wasn't going to make it. Once again, she wanted to talk to me. I remember he gave me the phone during a break in my contractions and she said, "Claire, you can't have your baby at home. It's going to be a mess. Can you really not get in the car and come?" I started to calmly explain my situation and then my contraciton started and I remember saying in a voice that did not sound like my own, "I'm having the baby! I can't come now!" I gave the phone back to DH. I could hear her and DH talking outside the bathroom. She must have been asking if my water broke because he tried to turn on the light to look and I yelled at him to turn it off. He then relayed to the midwife that I wouldn't let him turn the light on. LOL. He relayed everything I said or did to her. I honestly did not think she would be able to make it to our house, but I could hear him giving her directions. It seemed like I would have one contraction and start pushing and then the next one I wouldn't have to push. The ones where I didn't have to push about killed me. I wanted to push at that point. It hurt and felt good at the same time. Since I didn't think the midwife would make it, I figured I would just deliver alone without DH's help while he was on the phone. It's not that he wouldn't have been super helpful, but I just wanted to be alone. It was exactly how I felt in labor with DS1. I couldn't get my pants off so I figured I would just have the baby in my yoga pants and that way at least they would catch him and then I would immediately take him out. I was on my knees so someone had to catch. LOL my train of thought was not that great at the time. So I started pushing and grunting and all that lovely stuff.

Well, to my surprise I heard a woman's voice behind me say, "Hey!" I thought for a moment it was my sister and I was just like, "Oh hey" but I kept on pushing. When I looked to see her it was the midwife, Lesley! I couldn't quite believe she made it. Turns out when DH called her back she just happened to be right at our exit ramp and was able to make it there in no time. I mean what are the odds? I can't help but think it was meant to be. Lesley came in and told me we needed to get my pants off and that we needed to turn the light on. I knew she was right so I let her help me get my pants off. Suddenly, I thought that I had to poop and I remember finding some kind of internal strength or something to get off my knees and on the toilet. Lesley was like, "What are you doing?" I said, "Please let me! I have to go to the bathroom!" I refused to poop on my floor with her and DH watching. LOL I can't believe I still cared about that. While I was on the toilet she checked me and said, "Claire you can't have your baby on the toilet. I don't think you have to poop." I guess it just felt that way. So I got back off and in the squatting position. Lesley let me lean against her and I could feel him crowning and the ring of fire. It was unbelievable to me how much work my body was doing all by itself. It was so intense. I just kind of went with it and while I was going with it, to my surprise, my damn contraction stopped and he was just sitting there. I tried to keep pushing but it didn't work without my body. I remember saying, "What do I do?!" Lesley said, "Just wait a moment for your contraction." So I did and it didn't take long even though I felt like forever. I was able to push his head and his body out in the next contraction.

Lesley caught him and the cord was double wrapped around his neck, but he was totally fine and alert immediately. In fact his Apgar score was a 9 and then a 10. I think both DH and I were in shock. DH had warmed up some towels and brought me a few pillows and Griffin and I laid back on the floor while Lesley checked us out and helped me deliver the placenta. DH cut the cord and so on. I had a teeny tiny tear but nothing that needed stitches thank goodness! Woo hoo my 1st birth without stitches! Lesley said we had to move to the birth center so that they could monitor us for a couple hours and then we could come back home. At some point right before Griffin was born my sister had gotten there, but she stayed downstairs while I delivered. My sister was shocked and excited as well. She laughed and said that for a minute she thought it was her fault we hadn't made it to the birth center because she didn't get there on time to watch James. So from the time my contractions started around 3:15ish to when I delivered was around an hour. Lesley made it there 5 minutes before I delivered. We woke up DS before we went to the birth center. He was sooooo excited to see his new baby brother. He's 6 so he totally understands what having a new baby means and he too was shocked that I'd just delivered in the bathroom. In fact, my sweet sister cleaned up the bathroom for me while I was at the birth center being checked out. Apparently, DS was concerned that blood got on his toy pirate ship which was sitting next to the bath tub. Smile It didn't though. We were only at the birth center a few hours and then they let us come home. I believe we got home around 8:30 or 9:00 in the morning.

So that's it in a nutshell. I plan to get back on here tomorrow morning while DS is at school and DH is at work and it's just me and the baby. Then I can post some pictures and finally catch up on everyone else's birth stories and lodges!! I can't wait to read them! I am dying to hear how everyone is now, but I need to go right now so I can fold clothes and feed the baby. Yes, totally in baby heaven!

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