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Welcome to your lodge!

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Oo! I have a lodge! Cool!

Last two births had a lot of prelabor, but I'm hopeful that wont be the case this time. Right now, baby is vertex, head engaged, sporadic contractions, and I started losing my plug a couple days ago. Hopefully that means that I have less than a month left this time!

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welcome to your lodge!! Can't wait to follow your story!

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I'm one day away from 37 weeks and the prelabor is playing games with my mind! This last week I've started having minor, but real, contractions--like strong menstrual cramps. In the last 24 hours, they've picked up in frequency to the point that I just couldn't pull myself out of bed this morning. I don't have to breathe through them or anything, but I do have to stop whatever I'm doing and focus on them.

I've also lost part of my plug, and I can tell that baby is VERY low. Every BH contraction pushes the little guy against my cervix.

On the one hand it all sounds like things are getting ready to go. On the other, I'm trying to ignore it because my body did this kind of stuff for a full month with each of my other boys.

I'm going to have my mw check me at our next appt (Friday) to get a better idea of what is or isn't going on.

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I just realized I should probably give a little background info, since that's what other ladies do in their lodges.

I'm 28, and DH and I have been together for 11 years. We have two boys already (ages 4 and 2). I've also suffered three early miscarriages, so this is baby 3 and pregnancy #6 for me. This baby is another boy, and were all thrilled, especially ds1. We live in eastern California.

Both my previous births were unmedicated and pretty fast, but they were both induced with castor oil because my body just doesn't like to take the hint to go into labor. Ds1 was born in a planned hb at 42 weeks. I had dilated to 6cm over the preceding 6 weeks, but showed no signs of going into labor on my own. I was also fully effaced. Once we got contractions going, ds1 was born 8 hours later at 10#10oz. His head wasn't moulded at all, and I only required seven stitches.

Ds2 had me nervous. Everyone said baby 2 is always bigger than baby 1, so I was determined not to get to 40 weeks with him. Ds1's size had caused all kinds of difficulty both with nursing and pediatrics. When I started having signs of prelabor with ds2 at 37 weeks, I promptly started to encourage things, but to no avail. I lived with contractions every two minutes for a month, which meant i was n bedrest while caring for a 2yo.

This time, we were not able to pay in advance for a hb, and I had no doctor, because we had been living overseas and only returned home as my third tri began. I was finally able to get an ob who agreed to induce me at 40 weeks on the dot. The night before my induction, I took some castor oil and that got things moving. At a certain point, I decided we had better get to the hospital while I could still get down the stairs safely. Then I transitioned at the top of the stairs. I didn't recognize the shaking for what it was, though, because it was snowing out and I just thought I was shivering. When I got to l&d I was dilated to 9. A few minutes later, my ob arrived. I started pushing while he was putting on his gloves, and ds2 was born half an hour after we arrived and only 4 hours after labor started. He was 9# 4oz, and I had no tearing.

While the birth went really well, I really hated the hospital experience. There was this subliminal message that the whole parenting thing was just too hard for an individual to handle. I wasn't allowed to do anything with my baby without a nurse looking over my shoulder. The nurses and doctors were lovely people, but the culture of the institution was just awful. On top of that, insurance reneged on my maternity coverage, and we were turned down for emergency coverage by MediCal for being too poor, so we now have the better part of 6k in medical debt to pay for what amounted to half an hour of work that I did. Looking back, I wish I had recognized transition and birthed at home--as recommended by emergency unassisted birth guidelines (your not supposed to move a woman who has transitioned).

This time, we're planning another home birth. I would love to labor spontaneously, but I would also love not to have a month of prelabor! This time, I would like to try laboring on my knees, and I would like to catch the baby myself. But most of all, I would like to wash my baby myself after the birth. I wasn't able to the first time because my mw was worried that I was bleeding too much, and it was against hospital policy the second time.

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Wow you have had some quick labors/births. And some big babies! Sorry to hear your hospital experience was bad. I'm glad you are getting to do a home birth this time. I wouldn't worry about going late. It's your 3rd baby, it could happen much quicker this time. And you just hit full term! Sounds like things are moving in the right direction!

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Thanks for the encouragement! My babies have been big, but DH and I are big too--I'm 5'8" and he's 6'3"--so it's all relative.

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So true. Me and DH are small. I'm 5'-0" and DH is 5'-9". So, I'm expecting a small baby, but who knows, I could be surprised!

So do you guys have a name picked out for this little guy? Do you work or are you a SAHM? What do you have left to do before the baby arrives?

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"eliann" wrote:

So true. Me and DH are small. I'm 5'-0" and DH is 5'-9". So, I'm expecting a small baby, but who knows, I could be surprised!

So do you guys have a name picked out for this little guy? Do you work or are you a SAHM? What do you have left to do before the baby arrives?

Yep. Before we ever started our family, we came up with a list of names. We've changed it a little over the years, but not much. This little boy is Eamon. It's been handy to have a name already to help ds1 be involved. Smile

I'm a SAHM, which is what I've always wanted for my life. However, I do take on occasional admin jobs for my dad and my uncle. We're also a homeschool family, so I have both our boys with me all the time. We're getting ready to start kindergarten with ds1 in a few weeks.

Most of what I want to have done before baby is done. I still need to make a big batch of soup to get us through lunches for the first week. I also have a stack of the boys pants that need patches on the knees. I'd like to do that before the baby arrives, but I'm not so sure that's going to happen--and it's not a big deal if it doesn't. DH still needs to dig out and assemble the bab swing, and he also needs to get out the baby carriers so I can wash them. Otherwise, we're pretty much ready!

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Just had my 37 wk appt, and everything's looking good! I'm 2-3cm and 60% effaced. Baby is at 0 station. I described the clusters of contractions I've been having (they subsided yesterday afternoon), and she said they sounded a lot like "dropping pains". She thinks baby is going to relax for at least a few days, but that I could go any time after that.

We'll see!

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Awesome, sounds like you are progressing well.

I love the name Eamon. That was one of our top boy's names. If we have another boy, I'm pretty sure we will use it. How did you come up with it? I had actually never heard of it until about 4 years ago, when I had an Irish client named Eamon. I was like...that is a cool name!

How great that you homeschool!

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OMG!

My water broke!

I haven't had that happen at the beginning before!

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OK, now I'm glued here.... It was about 3 hours later that my son was born.
Best wishes !

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I already wrote it in the March board, but ELVs to you!

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Thanks, ladies!

Eamon Zadok was born about three hours after my water broke and about ten minutes after my mw arrived. He is 9# 3oz and 23 inches long, making him my lightest and longest baby to date.

Birth details to follow another time Smile

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Wonderful news!
Welcome Eamon!
(Amazing that I was right on about the 3 hours!)

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Oh my word! I was not expecting this when I started reading your lodge today! Congrats!!!!!

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Congrats!! WTTW Eamon!

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Wow, congrats!

I didn't expect a baby at the end of the this lodge yet! Hope everything is going well and you're enjoying your little guy.

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Congratulations!

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Sorry for my absence. Here's Eamon's birth story:

While all the action only took a few hours, the story of Eamon's birth last Sunday really starts on Friday afternoon.

Last weekend, DH went to a conference a couple hours from where we live. At 37 weeks pregnant, I was a little nervous about being on my own with the Bat and the Eel for 48 hours, but neither of us were too worried about anything else happening. Both my previous labors occurred past the 40 week mark. I had been having sporadic bouts of contractions for a couple weeks, but that was par for the course in my experience and not to be taken too seriously. By Friday, though, DH was really nervous about his original plan to go away for the whole weekend and resolved to come home on Saturday night.

Friday afternoon, I had an appointment with my midwife. Since my prior labors proceeded quickly (8 and 4 hours), and she lives an hour away, the midwife wanted to examine me to see whether we should expect labor to start soon. The results were inconclusive, but she thought it wouldn't be too long considering how low the baby was. That exam triggered mild but regular contractions for the rest of the day that progressed from 7 minutes apart in the late afternoon to 3.5 minutes apart when they petered out at 2am. Since they never intensified, I didn't take them seriously, but I'm pretty sure they were getting everything ready to go.

On Sunday morning, I posted my weekly pregnancy update and then got going with my day. As I was starting a load in the wash, I felt a little trickle and deduced as I cleaned it up that my water had broken. I told DH to let the midwife know and took a shower, figuring that the rest of the fluid could come out there. It didn't.

So I set about preparing our bedroom, but the boys decided that this was a good time to interfere with those efforts, and I gave up. I switched to timing contractions, since the midwife wanted me to call her with that information anyway. That was when the rest of the fluid decided to come out. On the bed. The contractions were mild and 4.5 minutes apart.

DH took the Bat to get fast food for lunch (for all of us). My midwife asked another, closer midwife to come over and monitor me while we waited for my midwife to arrive. The backup midwife (who happens to be the midwife who delivered the Bat) asked me to collect some of the amniotic fluid in a cup for her to examine. I collected it in front of the Eel, and then had to protect the cup until the midwife arrived, because the Eel proclaimed on seeing the cup, "I thirsty!" (Shudder...)

By the time DH returned with food, I only felt like eating a little and could no longer do anything through the contractions. The backup midwife and I had also discovered that I did not have enough towels, so we sent DH and the Bat back out to buy some.

By now, the contractions were starting to get close and I was vocalizing, but I could still converse between them. I was also enjoying the fact that I was recovering enough between contractions to feel the baby move down--something I had not experienced before. The back up midwife told DH "not to dally".

While he was away, the midwife got out my birth kit and ripped up an old sheet in case DH didn't make it back in time. We joked about how this was all getting a bit frontier. At a certain point, though, I started feeling a bit shaky and nauseous, so I told her I thought I was close to transition. She told me she was pretty sure I was past that and getting close to pushing.

Not long after that, I could feel that the baby was starting to press down to crown. I wasn't pushing--he was. But my body wasn't quite ready yet. Two or three contractions later, I was ready. Sometime around this point, my midwife arrived, and DH and the Bat arrived in time to be told that the baby was crowning.

I had decided ahead of time that I wanted to try delivering the baby on my knees, and I had been kneeling throughout the labor. I had also resolved to try my best not to scream as I had with my other labors. It took some concentration, but I did manage to keep my noises low--if loud--and I think it did help.

Unlike the Bat and the Eel's births, I could not tell when Eamon's head was out and had to be told. But his head and body were out in two pushes. He was passed to me through my legs, and the midwives set to work cleaning amniotic fluid from his mouth and nose. It took him a while to pink up, but he was perfectly healthy at 9 pounds, 3 ounces and 23 inches long. He is my smallest and longest baby.

The entire labor was less than 3.5 hours, and I had no tearing. The recovery has been remarkably easy, too.

Both the Bat and the Eel handled the birth remarkably well--the Bat especially. The Bat really enjoyed learning from my midwife about the placenta when she examined it. In his words, "It's beautiful."

While the transition to having a new baby in the house has been a bit stressful on them, the boys have been very good with their new brother and are both loving, gentle, and attentive.

Because the birth was easy, I have been afforded the opportunity to approach my relationship with Eamon from a new perspective. The labor was very much a team effort: he would move, then I would respond. That sense of our being a team has carried over into our nursing relationship, whereas neither birth nor nursing felt so dynamic with the other two. It's been a really satisfying experience to feel like Eamon and I are collaborating rather than that I have a series of tasks to perform, and I am grateful for the opportunity to experience birth and infant mothering this way.

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PS. In response to a question, I found the name Eamon in my family tree--way, way back, and not connected to anyone I know anything about. In that case, it is spelled Eommon, but I figured the more common spelling would be easier for people to handle. Eamon is the Gaelic version of the Norman name Edward, and it means "strength".

Eamon's middle name--his Hebrew name, since we're Jewish--is Zadok. Zadok means "righteous" and was the name of the high priest during the reign of King David. We originally planned to name him after the prophet Zephaniah, but that just didn't feel right. We settled on Zadok, because Eamon would become very calm in the womb whenever I read scripture to myself or DH led prayers or we went to services. He is our little priest.

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What a beautiful birth story. Thanks for sharing. I love the idea of the "team effort."

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Lovely birth story! Congratulations again!

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Awesome birth story! Glad you are recovering great too! Enjoy that little boy!

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Loved your story!! How are you and Eamon getting along?