I am so slacking off! Welcome to your lodge! SO sorry it is late!
Welcome to your lodge
Oh man! I am so sorry I didn't notice- I would have started this for you! Welcome to your lodge, Jennifer!!! Come and share your stories with us!
Welcome to your lodge!
Welcome to your lodge! I look forward to following your birthing adventure!
Wow, thanks girls! I am feeling about ready to pop, but I have another two weeks left, so we will see when this little guy decides to make his appearance. I have a strong feeling that he is pretty big already, so I am kind of hoping he will come sooner than later. I am feeling a little concerned with him getting too big and running into problems with my natural birth plan.
My Birth Plan:
Labor and Delivery
• Prefer to move freely throughout labor and pushing and be in positions other than lying on my back
• Prefer intermittent, external fetal heart rate monitoring (wireless if possible)
• Prefer to eat and drink, and not have an I.V. for fluids
• Prefer to tear naturally with the assistance of positioning, warm compresses, and counter pressure
• Prefer to push when I feel the urge
• Please allow the cord to stop pulsating before clamping and allow the placenta to come naturally without aggressive management: no pulling and tugging without medical necessity
• Prefer not to have an epidural
• Please do not ask what my pain level is or offer me pain medications unless I ask for them
• Would like to be consulted before administering any medication
• Prefer to deliver placenta naturally and not have Pitocin administered after birth
• Prefer to have baby placed directly on my chest, skin‐to‐skin, immediately after birth
• Prefer to start breastfeeding as soon as possible from skin‐to‐skin position
• Prefer to allow cord’s pulse to slow before cutting
• Prefer to wait at least an hour before beginning newborn examination in the room
• We do not want the eye ointment or Hep. B vaccine administered
• Prefer to avoid artificial nipples (bottles, pacifiers)
• Prefer to have baby with us at all times, please only perform tests that we approve
• We want our baby to be circumcised
• In the event a C‐section is necessary, I would like to remain awake and to have a hand free to be
• able to touch the baby and hold my husband’s hand
• Prefer the baby be given to me for skin-to-skin contact immediately after birth, if possible. If not possible, prefer the baby be given to my husband
• My husband should be with the baby at all times and I would like my doula to be with me if he needs to leave me to stay with the baby
• Prefer to breastfeed as soon as possible
Would love any input you may have...
Yes, welcome again! I can't think of anything to add to your plan off the top of my head. Really, the shorter and simpler the better.
Welcome to your lodge!
The birth plan looks great to me!
Welcome! The birth plan looks great, I like that it's just in a very simple format. I know for me, the less I have to read the more likely I am to pay attention to what's written (unless of course it's a smut novel but that's a whole other discussion LOL!).
(unless of course it's a smut novel but that's a whole other discussion LOL!).
I think your birth plan looks great. I did similar type bullet points and they actually sat there and read them during each stage. The only thing I seperated was things during labor and things specifically during delivery. Might be easier for them to find during the heat of the moment.
How have you been feeling? Is your DD excited about the new baby?
Welcome to your lodge! I'm so excited for you! I love your birth plan - it's very simple and straightforward.
Welcome to your lodge! Wow...very nice birth plan. Its so organized and straight to the point. I never brought a typed up plan with me. Maybe I should try doing that this time around... I have had a great relationship with my midwife and was able to vocalize my wants and what I didn't want with her...but having a plan on paper for everyone else is a good idea. Think I may try that.
My doula actually gave me the template for the birth plan (she calls it a birth wish list) and I was able to go in and take out, edit and add-in as I desired. The original is a Word Document that actually has a photo of DH and I on it, an intro, a thank you at the end and my OB's name and baby's Pediatrician name in the footnote. Kaiser also had a checklist birth plan they had me go through and turn in at my last appointment that has much of the same information, so I am kid of doubting that they will even look at my "pretty" one when I go to the hospital. But I was pleased to see much of the same material on Kaiser's plan.
Yes, Katelyn is SUPER EXCITED about becoming a big sister! Some days, I think she is more excited than I am! Scott and I were recently talking about it, and we are almost more looking forward to seeing Katelyn in the hospital and her reaction to her baby brother than we are to ourselves meeting our baby boy! While I am honestly not looking forward to the intensity of the labor itself, I am really looking forward to those sweet moments in the hospital when I have my family of four together with me and not having anything else in the world to worry about for those first couple of days except for loving and cherishing them... So that is going to probably be my primary visualization getting through the labor itself.
I wish I had joined this group a lot earlier because I am wondering a lot what this Hypnobabies stuff is all about? Would it even be worth my looking into at this point? I do not feel anywhere near that calm and relaxed state I want to be in when I start labor. I was very relaxed and mentally prepared when I went into labor with my daughter and had a wonderful experience. But this whole pregnancy has been a roller coaster and I don't feel as prepared or confident or calm at all. It has been a very stressful pregnancy...
One weird thing I have been having the past 24 hours or so... I am getting pretty noticeable cramps for about 1-3 minutes every time I stand up after urinating. I would call them menstrual type cramps, but I don't feel that tightening like a contraction or anything. And then after the pain stops, it doesn't come back again until I pee again. I am concerned that I might have a UTI or something... anyone have any thoughts?
Could it be round ligament pain? I know that I def have pain every time I urinate that feels like cramps, but it's not something that lasts more than 30 seconds or so, and it's only once - not like in waves or anything... I don't know, just an idea...
I have had so many different pains throughout this pregnancy that we have just called round ligament pain, that it very well could be! Who knows anymore? I emailed my doctor, just to get his opinion, but from Googling (I have a pretty bad Google habit!) it seems like it is relatively normal at this point in the pregnancy, so I am not going to worry myself over it. I have no other UTI symptoms, so I don't have any reason to think that is the problem, either.
Wow... I don't know what caused me to do it, but I just pulled up my daughter Katelyn's birth story on my computer that I haven't looked at in years. So much I had forgotten! I am so glad that I typed it all out! Thought I would share here for those of you who are interested in getting to know me a little better... some of it is a little bit more info than needed, but it is exactly how I wrote it, probably a few days after we got home from the hospital...
Katelyn Joy was born on December 4, 2007 at 3:49pm Pacific Time at the Tahoe Forest Hospital in Truckee, California. She weighed 9lbs 1.2oz and was 21" long. Her head circumference was 14.5cm. She was born with dark hair and dark, slate gray eyes. Upon entering the world, her eyes were wide open and she took a long look around before opening up her lungs and letting out a good cry!
Katelyn's due date was Monday, December 3rd. I experienced some contractions beginning in the early morning hours of the 3rd. But the contractions stopped as quickly as they started after a couple hours, at 6:30 in the morning. When I went to my scheduled doctor's appointment at 9:30 on that morning, I was not dilated or effaced, as far as Dr. Coll could tell, at all. I felt very dejected. I was ready to meet my little girl! I had called my mom early in the morning and she drove from Hollister and arrived shortly after I got home from the doctor. I felt awful that she has driven all that way and that the baby didn't seem to be coming any time soon. Dr. Coll told me that there was no way of really telling when the true labor would start: it could be later that day or it could be two more weeks!
My mom stayed the day with me. We went to the Truckee quilt store and browsed for a while and then we went to lunch at the Buckhorn Grill. We shared a huge brownie sundae and had some great conversation. Even though I felt bad that she drove all that way, we had a great day together and I wouldn't change that day for the world. She decided to drive back home early that evening as the contractions hadn't started back up again and we had no idea when they would. She wanted to make sure that she was able to spend time with us after the baby arrived and could only have so much time off work. So she left around 6pm and got home after 11pm.
An hour later, my real labor contractions started. I had the first one and noted how much more intense it was than the contractions I had been feeling the day before. But, being my first pregnancy, I didn't know what to expect. There was 25 minutes between my first contraction and the second and I was able to rest in bed during that time. But after the second contraction, they came about 10 minutes apart for the next hour or so and were up to 7 minutes apart by 2:30. The pain was pretty intense and having been up most of the previous night, too, I was exhausted. I actually wanted them to stop this time so I could get a good night's sleep and then maybe start again the next day. I was also concerned that my mom had just gotten home and she, too, needed a good night's sleep. Scott awoke around this time. I was pacing the bedroom, tears streaming down my face with my kitty in my arms. I told him I didn't want to do this now, the pain was too much, and I just wanted to go to sleep. He asked me what he could do. I told him nothing and to go back to sleep so that at least one of us had some rest. I then regrouped and started trying to think more positively. I had to start breathing and focusing on the arrival of my baby!
For the next few hours, I rocked in the glider chair in the baby's room between the contractions. I played quiet Christmas music on the iPod and kept the lights off--I just had on the night light in the room. As soon as the contractions began, I could no longer sit and would stand up and pace the room, taking deep breaths. As the contractions got stronger, longer and closer together, I could no longer walk through them. So I leaned over the crib, trying to focus on the giraffe and the lion on the comforter. I think it was around 5am when I called my mother, apologized for waking her, and told her I was having contractions...again. By this time, they were ranging from about 4-6 minutes apart. I was so scared that as soon as I called my mom, the contractions would stop again, but they didn't. I woke up Scott about 5:45 and we started to get ready to leave for the hospital. I had my suitcase with clothes, the diaper bag, a bag with snacks in it, and a bag with books, magazines and my Nintendo DS. I also had a stuffed bear to use as a focal point and my IPod and the Bose Sound Dock so we could have soft music in the room. Scott packed a bag on his own. We loaded everything into the car. It was cool and a little rainy. I didn't bother getting dressed. I got into the car in my robe and pajamas at 6:35am and we drove to the hospital.
I was officially admitted at 7:01am. While standing in our labor and delivery room going through the check-in information with the nurse, I mentioned that it must be very warm in the room because I was really sweating. I noted that there was perspiration running down my legs. That "perspiration" turned out to be my water breaking. My nurse, Missy, did my first internal examination and hooked me up to the fetal monitor to monitor the baby. It was around 8am and I was 6cm dilated. I continued to labor in the room with Scott by my side. I tried sitting in the rocking chair there, but it was not the same as my glider at home. I felt better just standing up, leaning on Scott, the bed rail, or the sink for support. I did not feel comfortable lying down at all. This was unfortunate because it made it difficult for Missy to monitor the baby, which had to be done for about 20 minutes an hour. We walked the halls, slowly, for a while, stopping for the contractions. After having no back pain throughout my pregnancy, all of a sudden, the entire pain of the contractions was in my lower back. It was excruciating. Apparently, the baby had shifted and was on the nerve for my back now. Missy offered to take me to the jacuzzi, suggesting that it would help me to endure the back labor. I didn't want to go anywhere until my mom arrived.
My mom arrived just before 10am. I had my entire support team with me now: my wonderful husband, my mother and my great nurse, Missy. Soon after my mom arrived, I agreed to try the jacuzzi for a while. I wanted to try to have a natural birth, without painkillers or an epidural, so I was willing to try just about anything else first. That hot tub was a life saver. The pain and the intensity of the contractions, while still quite noticeable, were made much less intense by the hot water and the jets. I noticed after a little while that my hands and feet had gone numb, and reported this to Missy. She said that I was breathing too fast and instructed me to slow down my breathing. I did my best at this and after about ten minutes, my hands stopped tingling. I tried to relax and breathe slowly. Missy suggested that when I exhale, I blow through my lips, making a sound like a horse might make. It seemed silly to me, but it helped. After a while, Missy asked if I wanted to go back to the room. To be completely honest, I was scared to death to get back out of that jacuzzi. The pain had been so intense before getting into the water; I couldn't imagine what it would be like now. I wanted to wait as long as I could, until it was time to push. I wanted to be able to go back to the room and get the baby out immediately.
I think three hours must have passed by the time I did finally get out of the hot tub. For about forty-five minutes, I had been feeling a pretty strong urge to push. I asked Missy how we would know when it was time, and she told me that the urge to push would become unbearable. I wasn't sure I would know what the unbearable urge would feel like, although that urge continued to get more intense. There was a murky fluid in the water that Missy said was meconium. Apparently, my baby had already passed her first bowel movement in the amniotic fluid. This was a concern, because there became the potential that my baby could inhale the meconium and have lung problems. So I began to worry about this. I decided I was ready to go back to the room and be checked again and hopefully, get the show on the road.
It was around 1pm when I got back into the room. They set me up in the bed and I tried to relax as best as I could. I was extremely happy to realize that the pain had moved away from my back. Apparently, while in the water, the gravity of the water helped the baby to move away from that nerve, and hopefully, into a better birthing position. They did another internal examination and I was fully dilated at 10cm and 100% effaced. I cannot recall what station I was at, but it was + something. So it was time to start pushing.
I had read that women having their first babies could expect to push for 45 minutes to an hour. So when I hit two hours, I was really beginning to despair. By this time, I was feeling physically exhausted, in just about every area of my body. I had tried pushing lying on my back with Scott and my mom helping to hold my legs. Then Missy strung a sheet on a bar over the bed and I pulled myself forward with all of my might on the sheet (it was like a rope) during contractions. Then I tried standing in a squatting position during the contractions. It felt like it went on forever. Two hours had passed and they were barely beginning to see the baby's head. I was beginning to feel like I was going to pass out and confessed that I didn't know how much longer I was going to be able to continue. Missy said she would check with the doctor and see if maybe he wanted to use a vacuum to assist me with the delivery. I really didn't want any vacuum or forceps attached to my beautiful baby's head. I wanted to be strong enough to push her out on my own, without any assistance. But I was so exhausted and I knew that if I didn't get some help soon, we were going to have bigger problems.
So I agreed to the vacuum extractor. Missy went to find Dr. Taylor. Meanwhile, she suggested that I rest through a few contractions. When I realized that the pain was way too intense to "rest" through, I decided to just push at half the effort. After three contractions this way, I had stopped shaking so much and had begun to regain some strength. Dr. Taylor came in with the vacuum and got things set up. He assured me that he should be able to get the baby out with the next contraction, in three good pushes. I pushed with all of my might, but the baby did not come out. Again we tried and still nothing. I was on the verge of tears when Dr. Taylor said he would like to do an episiotomy. I said that I really did not want an episiotomy, but that I trusted him and if that was what was necessary, that he should do it. He told me that the baby's head was bigger than he had originally thought and that without an episiotomy, I would almost definitely tear, and that a tear would be more difficult for him to repair, and, more uncomfortable for me. He used a local anesthetic and did the episiotomy. Quite frankly, I did not even notice that he was doing it with everything else that was going on.
After the episiotomy, I think it only took about two more contractions, me pushing as hard and as long as I could, before my baby's head came through. I think the local anesthetic must have numbed that pain some, or maybe by that time I was too far gone to remember, but I don't recall the pressure of her head coming through being any worse than the previous two hours or so. The rest of her body came through with another push and she was announced to the world at 15:49, or 3:49pm. They whisked her away from me and tended to her on a table close by me, so I could still see her. They had to make sure that she had not ingested or inhaled any of the meconium, clean out her lungs of the amniotic fluid, and clean her. She was big and beautiful. I recall a nurse saying, "I can't wait to get her on the scale, I bet she is over 9lbs!"
That statement amazed me because I had been expecting a 7 1/2 pound baby--maybe 8 pounds at the most. Once she was cleaned up, they took her over to the scale, and sure enough, she was 9 pounds, 1.2 ounces. The real shocker, though, was the circumference of her head. 14 and a half centimeters! Well no wonder I was having so much trouble pushing her out! I am thankful now that I had the episiotomy--there is no way that head was coming through otherwise!
While Katelyn was being cleaned up, I was being sewn up. I remember just feeling like I was floating. I was watching my baby but it hadn't quite gotten through to me that this was my baby. I felt like I had no clue who she was. Tears came to my eyes when Scott held her for the first time. He looked so proud and so happy. I am so thankful that my mother was there, snapping pictures like crazy, to save that smile and that moment for us forever. Finally, they brought her over to me. They took her out of her swaddle and placed her on my bare chest. She was so tiny and so perfect. Her hands, her little nose... I saw her eyes, so dark. I couldn't see myself or her father in her, all I could see was this perfect little individual... my little girl. Before this moment, as much as I have loved and been loved in my life, I don't think I ever really had a clue what love was. The way I felt in that precious moment is a feeling I had never before experience in my life. It was perfect, pure, and full of absolute joy. She had already succeeded in fulfilling her name, only minutes after her birth... my beautiful Katelyn Joy.
Whoa! Those pictures ended up huge! First time I tried that!
You look great! I definitely see a difference with each pic. Not long now!!
I love you birth story! Amazing! I hope that this one goes just as well, but shorter!
Thanks, Melissa! I am hoping so, too!
She had already succeeded in fulfilling her name, only minutes after her birth... my beautiful Katelyn Joy.
This totally made me tear up. What a beautiful birth story! It reminded me of mine in a lot of ways, actually (very similar timing, for one thing!) Hope this one is speedier for you, but just as beautiful!
Thanks for sharing your birth story. It is beautiful! I love Katelyn's middle name too I'm so glad that she is excited to be a big sister and meet her new little brother.
Your belly is totaly changing! Love the pics! Can't wait to meet your new LO soon!
ETA: Hey your mom lives in the same town I do!
I'm so jealous that you delivered at Tahoe Forest. My sister lived in Truckee for a couple of summers recently and wound up there for some sort of ailment. She said it was gorgeous, not at all the dark dingy place we frequently ended up at as teenagers on ski weekends. Oh gosh, one weekend dislocated my shoulder & my stepdad dislocated his elbow, we had dinner in Truckee after we all got out of the E.R. and then drove home to Rubicon Bay in a snowstorm, yikes.
Did you ever find a doula? I can't remember. And I don't even have Preggo Brain to blame...
What a great story and big girl! Are you expecting this one to be as big?
Great story! Sounds like a few things didn't go quite as planned, but all worked out just great in the end. Hopefully things move a little faster this time though.
I know I'm late, but welcome to your lodge! I hope you have an even better birth story to come this time. I love your pics too, such a perfect baby belly!
Can't sleep... so I thought I would come check in here. Had my 39 week appointment this morning and was 2cm dilated... so my doc went ahead and "stretched" me, whatever that means. My doula said he most likely stripped the membranes. Started off some contractions that went on throughout the day. But they have yet to get intense and really go down when I lie down. I walked for a good hour and a half this afternoon and they got going pretty good... But I feel like nothing is really happening and that is discouraging. But I guess it could be a day or a week... I have had some spotting/bleeding and just had a nice big brown clump of mucus on my panties... so I guess something IS happening. And why on earth I would be looking forward to those fabulously painful contractions?? You got me! I am just so entirely ready to get this pregnancy over with and meet my son.
Who has apparently turned himself in the past three days. Not breech, just facing the wrong direction. I don't know the terminology, but one way is anterior and one was is posterior and he is turned the wrong way of the two. For the first time in I think my entire pregnancy I have been feeling kicks on the left side in the past couple of days. I didn't realize it was an issue (my doctor didn't say anything) until I was talking to my doula about it. She says it is going to make things a little more difficult, but we will be able to handle it. Yay.
So it is 2am and my DH is snoring away on 3/4 of the bed... I know I need to sleep but my whole body aches and I can't shut my head off. But I will give it another try!
Sorry to hear that you are having so much trouble sleeping. Hopefully it means you are close to something happening. I know that I had more sleepless nights right before my water broke on 'the' night.
Hope you were able to get some sleep. Sounds like you have that last minute anxiousness going on, I bet LO will be coming soon. Sounds like your body is totally gearing up. Try spending some time on hands and knees today to encourage his back to swing to the front and get in a better position. Also feels good in that position to ease some tension in your back.
What a sweet birth story, even though things didn't go exactly as planned. You did an awesome job!!
HOw are you feeling today?
What a beautiful birth story! So glad your mom could make it in time and you were able to have your precious little girl without too much hinderance. Can't wait to see how this birth goes. You are almost there!!
That was me for my whole last week....membrane strips at 2cm, walking, contractions that would eventually fizzle, and not much sleep. But then that baby finally came! You're in the end zone for sure.....
Looking good! Seems that baby has definitely dropped!
Starting to feel like he is going to drop right out!
Anyone know if it is possible to feel the pain of true labor contractions ONLY in the back? I have been having some serious back pain since around lunchtime and I can't seem to relieve it whatever I do... I sent DH to the drug store for a heating pad.
Brown discharge/mucus has changed today from brown to pink and red. Not a lot, but there.
I actually heard that's how you KNOW it's real labor vs. BH, although obviously that isn't entirely true since I never felt a thing in my back. Is it coming and going, or just constant? Maybe something's on a nerve?
I've never had back labor, but I know three women IRL who barely made it to the hospital because their "backache" turned out to be real labor. One was my mom; she'd been induced with me & she told my grandma that the pain wasn't anything like she'd experienced the first time, it was just a backache. Luckily my grandma started timing them & told her that backaches don't come every 4 minutes. If it's a steady pain, or if it comes & goes with your movement, then I'd say it's probably a nerve. Try some prenatal yoga positions and/or spinning babies posterior baby positioning to help. If it comes & goes regularly regardless of your movements, then it might be labor; start timing them & see if there's a pattern. Back labor tends to happen when baby is in a poor position, so definitely check spinning babies.
I had a friend who nearly gave birth at home with her first because of back labor. Hers was constant too and it didn't come in waves just intensified throughout the day as her labor progressed. I would say try the heating pad first and maybe get on your hands and knees to see if baby is in a bad position. If it is labor then getting on your hands and knees should get baby in a a better position causing front contractions. It worked for my posterior baby, though my stinker baby wouldn't stay anterior no matter what I tried.
How are you doing? I wonder if your absence means you are in active labour and about to have your baby. Either way, I hope you and baby are doing well. Can't wait to hear an update!
Just checking in on you.
Like others have said too could be labor just in your back. I also have a friend that labors like that and then by the time she gets to the hospital she is pushing baby out. She said the back ache was constant as well so she didn't think it was labor.
Nope, no action yet. Had a horrible night of not-sleep. Between the back pain and DH snoring (OMG!!!) I just couldn't get much rest at all!
Went out and walked for about an hour this morning. Definitely felt the contractions while I was walking... maybe about 5-6 minutes apart even, but at a pain level of only about 4 or 5. As soon as I got home and sat down, I stopped noticing them at all. The back pain persists, but it is more of a constant... although it hurt more when there was also a contraction, but EVERYTHING hurt more when there was a contraction! So I don't know what to think. Been hearing lots of horror stories about women who back labor and barely make it to the hospital because they didn't realize it was true labor. I still do not feel like I am in true labor...
I am going to go try to lie down and rest for a while. If for some reason things do pick up anytime soon, I will need all the rest I can get, right?
Absolutely!!! I don't think you have too long to wait now...spend as much of it as you can just taking care of yourself!
Love the pics. How are you doing today?
I am doing all right today! Got a decent night's sleep since DH went and slept in DD's room (DD slept with me, but at least she doesn't snore!)
Woke up cramping at 4am and thought something was actually starting. But it was a constant cramping (not a start and stop like a contraction should be). I finally got up and had a bowl of cereal. The cramping went away around 5:30 and I went back to sleep. So it must have been something else entirely. But that is really the first crampy feeling I have had!
The back pain has also gone away, as has the bleeding/spotting. So I don't know what to think. My doula is also stumped. She keeps telling me something is about to happen and then nothing does and the "symptoms" disappear. I can say I am feeling tremendous amounts of pressure "down there" and continual BH type contractions--especially when standing/walking. I have been walking as much as possible and also trying to do the hands and knees stuff several times a day.
Still have a few days until my actual due date... I am just feeling more and more nervous because I know this baby is getting big. Just doing my best to trust in my body that regardless of how big he gets, I will still be more than capable of delivering him naturally!
Ugh I had the start and stop like you are experiencing with DS. I started having pink chunks (and globs) of mucus I think about 10 days before going into labor with him and was up for many nights on end in between there. It was really exhausting. I KNOW in my experience as a doula that this is often a baby positioning issue, and it was definitely a position thing with DS. He was asynclitic and posterior. I don't mean to scare you, but I would start working on positioning asap. Also, try not to worry about a big baby. Sometimes I have seen that they are actually the easier births.
(((Hugs))) mama, I hope you are resting every chance you get!