Welcome to your lodge! I can't wait to learn more about you and follow the last stretch of your pregnancy and birth!
Kimia - welcome to your lodge! I'm thinking your lodge from here to delivery may be short! LOL
Welcome to your lodge!!!! Yippee!!!!
Aww...thanks ladies! I can't believe its finally lodge time for me. Wow! Crazy how times seems to fly near the end...and also go by so slowly when we are all so uncomfortable and so ready to have our babies.
I am excited to finally be near the end. Being this pregnant in the summer is no joke. I have been hiding out indoors almost the whole summer so far. The heat here is awful this year. Upper 90s and breaking 100 a few times also.
I will try to type out an intro up to this point sometime this evening. We are heading to a family reunion tomorrow until Sunday but luckily my aunt and uncle have the internet and we are bringing the laptop so I will still get to get online and update and stuff while there also.
Thanks again for the warm welcome.
[LEFT]DH and I met in college back in 2002. I was sitting in the ballroom upstairs watching the drama class do their thing and he walked up and saw me...so he walked over and introduced himself. He is a very friendly outgoing guy and made it a point to get to know everyone. The first thing he did was come up to me and grab my hand and lean over and kiss it and then introduced himself. I was very surprised cause not many guys do that these days. Lol...
Anyway, we started talking and became friends. He knew my roommates already and so we had that similar connection. Eventually I started teasing him asking why he always called our apartment and talked to my roommates but never called me. So then he started calling me. He started to make efforts to come and visit me on his lunch breaks and stuff but I always had an excuse for him.
I think I was just intimidated by him. Here was this extremely outgoing popular foreign man who was showing interest in me and I had never had a real boyfriend in my life. My husband is from the Congo in Africa, so it was very different from what I was used to. Completely different backgrounds, cultures, etc.
After a while of me blowing him off cause I was afraid of taking it to the next step...he eventually stopped trying. He told me later that he will try once, and if the person turns him down he will give it one more shot. If they turn him down more than once, he will move on. He tried to hang out with me several times, and eventually gave up.
But you know the saying..."Absence makes the heart grow fonder." After not hearing from him anymore or seeing him, I realized how much I really did like him and missed him...and I thought I blew all my chances. Several weeks went by and one day I was out and my roommate called me and said..."Come home right away...Olivier is here." (She knew how I was feeling and wanted me to have the opportunity to talk to him if I could) so I rushed back and he was there and man did he look good. hehehe...
I finally pulled him out to the balcony and basically said..."I still like you...is there any way I still have a chance with you?" I obviously had never done this before, usually the guy expressed interest in me first, I wasn't the one going after the guy. Well, DH decided to give me a taste of my own medicine and told me ...."I will think about it." What a twirp he was...! He made me wait 3 days before telling me that he was still very interested. It was a hard three days for me. Haha!
Anyway, after that point...we started dating and became inseparable. We got engaged about 8 months later, and then got married 4 months after that. We officially started dating in June 2002, got married in June 2003, and then as fate would have it...had our first child in June of 2004. June was our month!! I got pregnant 3 months after we got married...and we began to start our family....[/LEFT]
Jordan's birth story.....
My pregnancy with DS (my first born) went as well as could be. Around 8-9 weeks I spotted a little and was really worried I was having a miscarriage but all was well. I worked the whole pregnancy. We got married the end of June, and I got pregnant with DS in September. The first several months was hard because I was working a customer service job at a retail craft store and was on my feet all day long dealing with crabby customers. I quit that job the beginning of January and then got another job as a data entry person entering in tax return info. I worked full time and that got harder near the end cause I was sitting in a chair all day...so although sitting was easier than standing...too much sitting can be tough. I had to take frequent breaks just to stand and stretch my legs.
DH and I had successfully moved from our little 1 bedroom apartment into a 2 bedroom apartment around Feb.-March and we got the second bedroom all ready for DS. Since my husband is from Africa, he was not a resident or citizen, so he applied for his green card after we got married. Well, as luck would have it, his big important interview that we both had to attend was scheduled for June 14th...exactly 4 days after my due date. I was worried that if I went to my due date or overdue that it would conflict with the interview and we couldn't miss it. It was very important and was booked several months in advance.
Well, luck was on our side because after a long day of work, on the evening of June 2nd...I had my first real contraction. Its kind of funny but I had my first contraction when we were DTD...hehehe...we still laugh about that. Anyway, they kept up all night long...can't remember how close or far apart they were but they didn't stop. They continued on into the next day. Since they were further apart, DH went to work and a friend of mine from college came and stayed with me. She helped me time them, we walked to DH's work...only a few blocks away...hoping that walking would help, we stopped at Mcdonalds so I could get a spicy chicken sandwich hoping that would help...came back home...eventually around 4-4:30 in the afternoon after almost a full day of labor my contractions got close enough that we decided we should go to the hospital. So DH came home from work and my roommate left and we went in.
I was only dilated 3 1/2 centimeters when they checked me! I couldn't believe it. I walked around a little more and then they admitted me when I was a 4. I had the same midwife two of my sisters had and I loved her. I was able to get into the jacuzzi tub and labor in there for a bit and it got me to a 6 1/2. And then my contractions really backed off. So my midwife said she wanted to give me some pitocin to get things moving cause I had been at it for so long. By this time it was close to 10pm and I agreed. It had been a full 24 hours since I had slept without contractions and I was so tired. I had already decided before that I was not going to have an epidural or any drugs to help with the pain and even with the pitocin given to me I stuck with that and had my baby drug free and felt every single thing...but I don't regret it one bit. DH was a great support to me and helped me through everything. He was the only person I had in there other than my midwife and a nurse who helped with the delivery.
She started me on pitocin and that got me the rest of the way dilated. I started pushing shortly after midnight on June 4th. I pushed and pushed and after almost 45 minutes of pushing my midwife suggested that she give me an episiotomy because I was not progressing much near the end. So she gave me one and in the next one or two pushes, my baby was born. He was born at 12:56 am weighing 6 lbs 15 oz and was 19 inches long. He was beautiful! Had a full head of black hair and big brown eyes. He was so alert and perfect. He was as healthy as can be. Jordan is now 8 and such a sweet boy. I can't imagine our family without him in it.
More to come...
Welcome to your lodge!!! I can't believe it's time for your lodge already!!!
What great stories! I love the whole cat and mouse game you and DH played after you met... haha!
Welcome to your lodge!! Great stories so far. I look forward to getting to know you!
Jasmines birth story...(DD1)
This story is much more exciting than my first birth. It all went down so differently. DS was almost 3, and I was due with DD1 on May 13th...only a few weeks before DS's 3rd birthday. DH was finishing up his bachelor's degree and about to start his Masters degree in the Physicians Assistant program. Only 36 people are chosen each year out of 500+ plus applicants and he was one of the lucky ones chosen. He was scheduled to start P.A. school on May 14th...only 1 day after my due date.
DH was graduating with his bachelors on May 4th...and then had a whole week off before starting the P.A. program. We thought that would be the perfect time to have the baby...a week early so DH would be home with us for a week before starting the new school year. I hoped and prayed and kept thinking that weekend in my head and somehow it all worked out.
We were at DH's graduation ceremony on Friday May 4th when I had my first real contraction. It was the first one that hurt so I knew it was different than the others. I timed them and they were consistent throughout the ceremony and after party and our drive home...and the rest of the evening. But they were 30 minutes apart. So I wasn't too concerned at that point. I figured they would get closer eventually.
DH and I dropped DS off at our friends house so we could go on one last date before we had two kids and we wet and saw the Spiderman movie...can't remember which one was in theaters at that time. My contractions stayed 30 minutes apart. After we picked up DS and went home...and then went to bed about 10:30pm. I woke up only 2 hours later with a really strong contraction and from that point on they went from 30 minutes apart to 10 minutes apart. They stayed 10 minutes apart the whole rest of the night so I didn't really get any sleep. The next morning they were still 10 minutes apart but strong enough that I had to breathe through them. I figured that if I didn't get these closer together I would be laboring all day and another night and I couldn't fathom another night without sleep. So around 10am I took DS for a walk around our complex in the stroller and when I was walking they were 2-3 minutes apart. But as soon as we stopped they went back to 10 minutes apart.
A little while later, DH and I were trying to decide if we should give DS his nap first and then take him to my sisters house who lived 20 minutes away, or if we should take him first. We decided to give him a nap since I wasn't progressing (or so I thought)...only a little while after DS went down for his nap something crazy happened. I was trying to get comfortable on our bed and rest in between contractions when all of a sudden they started coming very fast and sudden and much stronger....and when we timed them they were no longer 10 minutes apart...they were 2 minutes apart!!
DH was so crazy, he was like...I gotta jump in the shower!!! So he took a quick shower while I am on the phone trying to talk in between these contractions...I was trying to figure out what to do with DS because we knew we had to get to the hospital asap. I was worried that the pain would get even worse and I was thinking "If this isn't the worst of it, I don't know how much more I can take!" Little did I know that I was in transition and only had a short amount of time before DD1 would be born.
DH quickly got dressed, woke up DS and carried him out to the car. We realized that we would NOT have time to bring him to my sisters and she would not have time to get to our house. We had to go now!! I had to bum scoot all the way down the stairs of our house because the contractions were so strong and intense. I grabbed a few more things we needed, threw them in my hospital bag and we proceeded to race to the hospital. Poor DS probably had no clue what was going on. Its a good thing a cop didn't pull us over, but we would have had a good excuse if he had.
By the time we got to the hospital it was about 1:30pm...I walked in first with DS and my bags and pillow. I insisted DH grab the camcorder and stuff cause I knew we didn't have much time. I walked in and probably looked so funny...in hard labor with a toddler and a bunch of bags and no one else in sight. I don't think they took me too seriously until they checked me. They brought me into a room, had me put on a gown, and checked me. The nurse looked shocked and said "You are already 9 1/2 centimeters...we are going to have a baby!" She ran out to call other people to bring the stuff in asap and they called my midwife...and I was just praying she would get there in time. A male Asian doctor came in and said he would deliver my baby if my midwife couldn't make it and I was hoping I wouldn't have to have some stranger deliver my baby.
DH still wasn't there...he took the elevator to the wrong floor and eventually walked in about 1:50 followed by one of my sisters whom I had invited to attend the birth. My midwife was also luckily in her office in the same building even though it was a Saturday...she was doing some paperwork and had heard that I was in labor earlier so she decided to wait around in case I came in. Thank goodness she did, cause it was raining and she lived 30 minutes away and wouldn't have made it in time if she wasn't there. She walked in right after my husband. Within a few minutes of my midwife arriving, I was complete and they had me start pushing at 2pm. It took me 16 minutes to birth my daughter and she was born at 2:16pm on Saturday May 5th weighing 7 lbs 7 ounces. She is my Cinco De Mayo baby....she was perfect. I did the whole thing completely natural with no drugs, no pitocin this time, no episiotomy, nothing. I was so proud of myself. Even if I wanted an epidural I wouldn't have been able to cause it was so fast. I had her within 45 minutes of arriving to the hospital.
My DH even had time to set up the camcorder so we could get the whole thing on tape. Jasmine was such a cute little girl with lots of black hair. We could also tell that she was going to be darker than DS, she had a darker skin tone but it was so beautiful. Oh that reminds me!!! DS witnessed the whole thing! He came in the room with me and they gave him some crackers and juice and he sat still wide eyed but very quiet. My oldest sister who was supposed to watch DS for me arrived at the hospital right before I started pushing and she could have taken him home at that point but she really wanted to stay, and I was fine with it as long as DS didn't get scared. So he was able to witness his sister being born. It was a great experience to have him there right after to see her and hug and kiss her. He did so well. Was very quiet and my sister just comforted him and told him that everything was ok. He was mostly concerned about me and the pain I was in...but everything turned out great.
Out of my three births so far, that one was my favorite. Even though it was sudden and quick near the end...it was so much better when it happened naturally on its own. No pitocin, no form of induction, no episiotomy...just me doing it and doing it well.
Jaedyn's birth story...(DD2)
DH had just graduated P.A. school the month before. DD2 was due October 7th 2009 but DH was scheduled to start his new job on October 1st and we wanted to try and have our baby before that so he would be there and it wouldn't conflict with his new patients or anything. We tried everything we could think of to naturally start labor. DTD, walking, spicy food, pineapple, pressure points, etc. Nothing worked.
My midwife wouldn't induce until I was at least 39 weeks, so the date of that fell on September 30th...one day before he was scheduled to start work. It was cutting it close but we had so much going on and I was very stressed and anxious to have the baby before he started work so I opted to induce on Wednesday Sep. 30. We were also in the process of moving. We had moved out of our condo, into our neighbors basement, and had to stay there for a month in between...waiting for the paperwork to go through on the house we had just bought. It was a very crazy time for us...lots going on.
We went into the hospital around 7am on Wednesday morning September 30, 2009. Filled out the paperwork and put on a gown, got situated, etc. My midwife came in around 9am and broke my water, then we got the pitocin going around 10:30-11. They had the pit on the highest dose they could give me and I was handling the contractions fine for the first couple hours. My mother arrived around 10am and was there with us the whole day. So it was me, my mom, and DH. I laboured on a birth ball, in a rocker, in the tub, and in the bed.
Around 3pm, they checked me and I was progressed to a 6ish I believe...so the last few hours is when things moved quickly. Things started to get bad around 3:30-4pm. I was handling it, but it was tough. My midwife had them put a needle in me that stayed in my arm but the cord thing could be removed from the needle, so I could get up and walk around if I had to. So when I was hooked to that, I had the pit going in me, but when they unhooked it, it wasn't going in me. I thought that was nice that I had the option to get up and move around. I tried several different positions near the last hour. It was getting pretty unbearable for me as I was doing it all natural once again...no pain drugs or anything. They kept readjusting the hospital bed so I could try different positions. My midwife wanted me to labour on my knees bent over, so I did that for a bit but that was hard.
I got to 9 1/2 cm for the last little bit and I was just desperate to start pushing. I was hoping I was complete but every time she checked me there was still a little bit of cervix left there. She really didn't want me to push with that there. She eventually asked me if I wanted her to help stretch me and get rid of that last little bit. I said yes, and man when she did it...wow! That hurt so bad!!! But it helped me get complete and I was able to start pushing. It only took me 7 minutes to push her out. And she was born at 6:22 pm. What a beautiful little girl she was and still is!
We recorded the whole thing and I love watching it and reminiscing. Overall, it was a great labour and delivery of our third child. No complications, did it all completely natural. So except for the intervention of the induction I did it all on my own. After, I always think, what was I thinking? But I always do it natural the next time around.
So other than being induced, the whole thing was great. She was able to latch on very quickly and nurse and be with me. They took her back to the nursery 1 1/2-2 hours after she was born, and had her back by 9ish. Enough time for DH to say goodbye to her and make sure we were both okay for the night before he went home to try and get some sleep before starting his job the very next day. I was alone in the hospital for the next two days except for when I had visitors and DH came back the next morning before work and brought me flowers, and came back that night, and then took us home on Friday. The kids came to see her on Thursday also and they fell in love instantly.
It was funny, I let the nursery take her the first night so I could get some sleep and asked them to please page me and wake me up if they needed to bring her up to nurse, and after only 2 hours they woke me up and the nurse said she was hungry. She brought her to me and she said she tried to soothe Jaeda but couldn't get her to sleep or be content. She just wanted to be with me. As soon as they handed her to me she was happy. So she became a mamas girl from the first night. And pretty much slept with me the whole time we were at the hospital.
She is such a precious little girl now. So smart and fun! She didn't start walking until about 14 months, but then started talking only 1 month later. She talks so well for her age and was speaking in sentences at 18 months. We can't imagine our lives without her. So happy to have her in our family.
Okay...for those of you who got through all my intro and background stories...great job! I know they were kind of long. Now that I am all caught up in that area...I will catch you up on what is happening now.
This pregnancy has gone very smoothly. I had morning sickness until 20 weeks which was longer than my others, but other than that I have felt pretty good. Except for the last couple weeks where things have been getting more uncomfortable, harder to walk, harder to sleep at night, etc.
We decided that we wanted to be surprised on the baby's gender this time around. We already have 1 boy, and 2 girls, so I figured why not? It would add some extra excitement to it all and would give me something extra to work towards when I am in hard labor. DH was not on board with this idea at first but he eventually came around and let me have my way. It has made it extra exciting for us and the kids like the idea of a big surprise at the end of it all. I thought it would be hard for me to not know but it has been really fun actually and I haven't been bothered at all by it.
I posted this next info on my August BB yesterday so I will copy and paste it here so I don't have to re-type it.
I finally got back from my 36 week appointment. It did not go as I thought it would go. I had to bring all 3 kids with me cause DH is working today on his usual day off...they were pretty good though. I got my GBS swab and my midwife asked me if I wanted her to check me. I figured why not since she is already doing the swab. So she checked me and its still pretty high up there...my cervix is really soft but I am only 1 centimeter dilated. That was all fine.
The shocking news was that when she measured the baby it was measuring at 40 weeks!!! She said that is really big for 36 weeks, so just to check I want you to get an ultrasound. So I was luckily able to get squeezed in this morning so I wouldn't have to come back just for that, and went to get the ultrasound.
I have never had an ultrasound past 20 weeks, so this was very new and different for me and the kids to be able to see the baby fully developed pretty much looking like he/she will look when born. It was so amazing! The baby is so adorable...nice chubby cheeks, full perfect lips, we could even see the hair on the baby's head!
So the ultrasound was pretty much right on with what my midwife measured...the baby is measuring 39 weeks, 6 days...and they usually take off 2 days...so about 39 weeks, 4 days. I also have tons of amniotic fluid which is great for the baby...but its a LOT! The ultrasound tech said the average amount of fluid is about 8 centimeters to 24 centimeters...and that being the high end...Well, my fluid is measuring 25.25 centimeters of fluid so I am even above the high end.
She is obviously not my midwife, but she said based on these results she wouldn't be surprised if my midwife wanted to induce me in the next week or so. According to the report, the baby is looking to be about 8 lbs 4 oz. already, and they said they usually take off about 1/2 a lb...so about 7 lbs 8 oz - 7 lbs 12 oz right now. If I were to go full term I could very easily have a baby as big as between 9-10 lbs.
My midwife is leaving on vacation from August 5th-12th...so if she wants to induce me before I hit 39 weeks which by then the baby will be much bigger, her only option would be to do it next week as soon as I hit 37 weeks, so we can have the baby before she leaves.
This all just has me reeling. I was not expecting this. I will have to wait until tomorrow or Friday to have them call me so we can talk about the results and see what we will do, so until then I will be kind of anxious to find out if I will possibly be having my baby as early as next week. So crazy! Anyway, just had to share. Luckily, other than the baby measuring big...everything looks great.
I really did not want to be induced this time around. I was induced with my last one, DD2, and I really preferred when it all happened naturally without pitocin....I went into labor on my own with my first two. I still labor and deliver drug free with pitocin and with no pitocin, so I know I can do it...but it is harder than when it happens naturally.
I don't want to jump to any conclusions but I really can't see my midwife waiting until I am 39 weeks if size of the baby really is the issue. If I had a choice I would be induced around 38 weeks so I could see if it would happen naturally on its own...but she will be out of town that whole week so our only option really is 37 weeks or 39 weeks and to me 39 weeks is cutting it too close...the baby will be much bigger by then.
So I am guessing it will happen next week unless she isn't concerned by the report. I know a lot of times people get induced for fear of a big baby and their baby ends up being much smaller than was measured at. So I think it will ultimately be up to me and DH to decide if we want to be induced as early as next week, or if we want to wait and see if baby will come on its own.
I would like to think that I have enough faith and confidence in my body to know when it and baby are both ready, but I am scared of the idea of pushing out a big baby. My three baby's were only 6'15, 7'7, and 7'8...so I don't have very big babies normally. I don't know if I could do a 9 or 10 pounder. Its all so confusing...sigh.
As far as being ready goes, I am pretty much ready when it comes to car seat being washed, clothes being washed, burp cloths/bibs being washed, blankets being washed, nursery set up and ready, etc. The only things left to do are to clear off my end table and move into the baby's room temporarily so I can put the bassinet next to my side of the bed in our room. And also, I haven't packed any hospital bag yet. Those are the two main things I need to do. This is kind of overwhelming... But until I hear from my midwife on Friday, I will just try to relax and take it one day at a time.
My midwife called me yesterday right before she went home. She said that they are not going to induce based on estimated size of baby so we are still going to wait and see if I go into labor naturally on my own. I am ok with that. I didn't want to be induced this time around as I was last time and it was not fun at all. I am a little nervous about delivering a bigger baby than I have in the past but I will trust my body and have faith that I can do it whenever my body and baby decide its time.
My midwifes bigger concern and also mine now is my amount of amniotic fluid. She said it isn't hurting the baby at all. Its like the baby is just chillin' in an olympic sized swimming pool since there is so much...so the baby is having a ball in there. The problem is that since my baby is still high up and has not dropped yet, if my water were to break there is a possibility that the umbilical cord could prolapse and come down before the baby...and then the baby would cut off the cord when he/she came down. That could possibly result in an emergency c-section if the baby wasn't getting proper oxygen from the cord because it was pinched or something.
So if my water breaks, she said I must come in immediately because I am considered high risk in that aspect. She said chances are that they would just monitor baby's heart beat and if things sounded good I could still have a vaginal birth. So I shouldn't freak out over this, but it still has me nervous and concerned. Instead of just worrying about a big baby I need to worry about something affecting the baby if the cord got jeopardized.
She also said that once I hit 39 weeks, if I want to talk induction I can probably do it then...unless there is a big change before then and they want to start things sooner because of my fluid...
As of right now, they want to monitor my fluid each week so I need to do weekly high stress tests to check the baby and also monitor my fluid. Sigh...I hope everything turns out okay and that I can have a natural vaginal birth with no complications to me or the baby. Prayers would be appreciated.
Lots of posts from me today...just trying to get you all caught up to speed before I head off to a 3 day family reunion. We are leaving this afternoon and coming back on Sunday but I will still have the laptop so I can check in each day.
So that is where I am right now...hoping and praying that baby continues to do well and I go into labor on my own without any problems with the excessive fluid or umbilical cord. I am planning on packing my hospital bag today just in case something happens and I have to leave the reunion and go straight to the hospital. Its over an hour away from here so I would be pushing it...so hopefully nothing happens this early but it doesn't hurt to be prepared just in case.
If I had a choice in the matter I would choose to go into labor on my own next week, right after I hit 37 weeks...so baby isn't much bigger than he/she is now and my midwife would for sure be here and not on her vacation. But obviously its not up to me so I just have to have faith that it will all work out and happen when the time is right.
So you've got an Olympic sized pool in your uterus, huh? LOL Over achiever!
Have fun at your family reunion! I'm happy to hear that your midwife decided not to induce you, now... I'm sure you will do fantastic, no matter what size the baby!
Hope you are enjoying your family reunion!
Welcome to your lodge. Look forward to your story.
Finally able to relax and get online since getting to the reunion several hours ago. I drove up with my 3 kids, my sister, and her two kids. DH is joining us tomorrow. My aunt and uncle own a huge property/ranch and its beautiful up here. I am lucky that I get a room in the house with a bed since I am so pregnant. No tent and air mattress for me. DH is pleased with this freebie also this year.
But I am doing more walking while here and my hips, legs, and pelvic are very much protesting. It feels so good to finally lie down. I am so sore and tired. I hope I sleep well tonight. Feeling braxton hicks a lot while up here....but nothing painful yet.
I attempted to pack some form of a hospital bag to take with me up here just in case, but its kind of a joke. I couldn't find a few things and didn't pack others. I guess I figure if I need something after the fact if I had the baby this weekend, DH could go home and get it after. I don't think anything will happen though so I didn't feel too much pressure to have everything packed. But when we get back on Sunday, I am definitely going to focus on getting the last few things ready this next week. The thing that has me the most frustrated is that I can't find my hypnobirthing book so I can refresh and practice in preparation. I hope I can find it when we get back cause I really need to work on relaxation, etc.
Looking forward to this reunion though. I think it will be fun. Its cooler up here also so that is a plus.
I enjoyed reading all of your stories! I hope that the baby's size and the amount of amnitoic fluid work out just fine for you. Sounds like your midwife has you in good hands! Enjoy your family reunion and your freebie bed too.
Great intro and birth stories. I hope and pray the extra fluid doesn't cause any issues for you and that your body decides to get things moving next week.
I love your intro stories, especially how you & DH met, so cute!
I know this is a little belated but welcome to your lodge! I love your intro story with DH and what great births you had thus far! It's always hard when a wrench gets thrown into things at the end of a pregnancy, but I hope the baby will navigate things well enough to go into labor on your own. I hope you're having a blast at the reunion! Looking forward to seeing what your little surprise is :D.
Just checking in at the end of a long day...we just got back from the reservoir near my relatives place. The kids had a blast digging and playing in the sand, making mud castles, and swimming in the lake. We are all showered and about to go down to dinner. Its been a good day so far but all the walking has been tough on me. Pushing DD2 in the stroller back and forth and walking more than usual has made me extra tired.
I talked to one of my cousins today though who is a very experienced midwife and she made me feel a lot better about my situation. She said that a cord prolapse is very rare and the small percentage when it does happen is usually with breech babies or twins...my baby is head down so the chance of that is even slimmer. Plus she said that ultrasounds can be off in their measurements so I shouldn't be as concerned about the size of the baby and shouldn't worry about the cord issue as my baby will probably drop in the next little while and then it will be even less of a chance of a problem. So I feel a lot better about my baby and his/hers safety. She also suggested that I put a belly band on to help hold in my stomach muscles better and that will help with my baby's positioning and also helping with the baby engaging and getting ready for labor. And she also suggested that I don't lounge in recliners or on comfy couches like I have been as that doesn't help with baby's positioning at all either. So I am going to try to sit more upright and start wearing a band. Hope that helps.
We are having fun at the reunion but I have been tired and sore. Going to go eat dinner...more tomorrow.
I am not a health care professional so this is just what I was told. I am retaining a bit of extra water according to my mw. She suggested I make a tea out of corn silk and drink a cup or two of that. Evidently corn silk is a natural diuretic. It might be worth asking your mw about. My mw noticed my belly is quite large and very, well, squishy and mentioned that because my last came breech that I might just have had too much fluid then as well which is what led to her flipping during labor. She's not really worried about cord prolapse because that is a very minor risk but is concerned that too much fluid might encourage a well positioned baby to get into a bad position with so much room to swim.
Glad to hear you're having fun at the reunion!!! It's got to be nice to get away and you're probably looking forward to DH joining you tomorrow
Awesome stories! Thanks for sharing. I'm glad your cousin was able to put your mind at ease a little!
Corn silk tea...I think I may try that. Thanks for the suggestion!
The end of another long reunion day...I am still in one piece although very sore and tired. We are going home tomorrow and I am very much looking forward to my own house and especially my own bed. My lower back, bum, calves, and feet are killing me. All this extra walking and exercise I am getting is really doing a number on me.
I had a couple interesting adventures today...went on a hike for a bit and a lot of it was uphill. That was tough. The only reason I went is because I was told it was flat terrain...I will probably be even more sore tomorrow.
Then my uncle took DH, my two girls, (DS was at the archery field) and I in the jeep to go on a tour of the property. They own around 300+ acres. It was beautiful scenery and a fun adventure but a very bumpy ride on their homemade jeep trail/road. I would be surprised if that had put me into labor. But I am still pregnant.
Overall, it was a good day. Sitting next to DH in bed who is already sound asleep. It was a great time, but we are looking forward to going home. I can't believe its almost August and our month to start having our babies. I am glad that I didn't go into labor while up here though cause I tried to pack a hospital bag and couldn't find half the stuff I needed and didn't have enough time to look for it all before we had to head up here. So I really need to get home and pack it once and for all so I feel more prepared.
Hope you are all doing well with your LOs if you have already had them, or your pregnancies if you are still pregnant. More later...
I am finally home! We had a good time but its so good to be home. I am really looking forward to sleeping in my bed tonight. I am still very physically sore so it will be nice to relax and try to unwind a little today.
I still have some things that need to be done for the baby. Gotta pack bags, and move the bassinet into our room.
Tomorrow morning my siblings and I (including the two sibs who live in other states but are in town right now) are heading over to our mom's house to have a serious talk with her about their lives and the situation they are all in. My mother is extremely frail and sick and is not getting any better. She had a stroke in December and hasn't not recovered well cause their situation is so bad.
They are currently taking care of their daughter (my younger sister) who has down syndrome and its just not working. My sister is a lot to handle and my mom can barely take care of herself, let alone my sister. So we want to step in and intervene and try to come up with some other solutions so we can help my sister, my mom, etc.
So I have to do that in the morning and it will be a stressful, emotional meeting. Then I will come home and try to work on some things in the house, and Tuesday visiting with my sister and her kids at a park before they head back to CA...so that will be a busy day. Then Wednesday is my DD1's dental appt. and I will be there with her all morning, then have my doctor appointment in the afternoon, so that will be busy also. I don't feel like I will have a full day to just relax and rest until Thursday. Sigh...
Also, in talking to my cousin over the weekend who is a midwife she indicated that a lot of times health care professionals tell you that you should take NSTs and things just to cover their own butts cause they are required to do so...just in case something were to go wrong...you couldn't sue them cause they covered all their bases. I asked her if she thought I should do the NSTs cause it will be extra money that we will be billed...and she said she thinks I am fine and baby is fine and that I don't need to take the tests if I don't want to. My midwife also called and left a message telling me that it was all up to me and I didn't have to do it either.
We are just stuck with a lot of extra bills right now, including my $1000 hospital bill from when I went into the hospital last month for my kidney infection, and I am trying to avoid more bills if I can help it. I feel like my baby is ok. He/she is moving every day, still feels head down, I will get heart beat checked each week at my regular appt. so I don't know if NSTs are necessary. I am just confused about the whole thing...
Why exactly are they wanting the NST's, just because baby is measuring big? I may have missed that part and I'm sorry if I did.
Pretty much yeah. Its because baby is measuring big and because I have a lot of amniotic fluid. But I know that ultrasounds can be off by several weeks. And my cousin told me that the chances of a cord prolapse are very slim especially with a head down baby, and my baby has been head down for a few weeks now. So I don't think its necessary. I feel like it would just be giving my money away when its not needed. I feel movement all the time and I feel good like I know my baby is just fine. Plus I am down to weekly appointments now so every week I will hear the heartbeat. Based on all that...I am thinking the NSTs aren't necessary...
I'm just having a hard time grasping what exactly they'll be looking for on the NST, like a specific concern. I'm just coming up with nothing. I don't even consent to NST's with my OB's only reason for them being my diet controlled gestational diabetes. I think they are extremely overused but that's just my opinion. I think they're great if there's a concern but definitely overused. Go with your gut momma!
Thank you so much for your thoughts! I will go with my gut and decline. I honestly don't get why much either. They mainly were concerned about baby's size, and the chance of a cord prolapse if my water broke...but my water has not broken and baby is still kicking and doing just fine. As far as measuring the amniotic fluid weekly, that I can understand a little more as they want to make sure the amount doesn't increase...but I think I will be fine as well as baby. Plus my cousin told me that a chance of a cord prolapse is very slim, and even slimmer in a head down baby...so I am not as worried about that anymore.
I slept pretty well last night. Finally back in my own bed. I kept waking up and my hands of all things were hurting. Like the bones in them were hurting. The only thing I can figure is that I was sleeping on them wrong and had them in bad positions. But ow...
DH gave me a wonderful foot rub last night and he was pushing in my skin by the ankle just to see how swollen they were and man...he was able to form a little crater hole in my ankle that took forever to come back out. I can't wait until my fluid goes down once baby is born. That will be so nice!
Today will be an interesting day. Leaving shortly to go have a big talk with my mom about her health, living situation, etc. with my siblings. Hope it goes well and is not too stressful!
Over the next few days I really want to finish up getting ready for baby...I know I will feel better when I am all prepared.
Kimia - good luck with the talk with your mom. I hope it goes well. It's always hard to deal with family things of that caliber, especially when you are pregnant and extra hormonal.
As for your fluid retention - um, yeah, I feel you! My mom always comments about how worried she is about it whenever she's over, but I keep telling her that it's fine - it's just the pregnancy!
If I were in your position, I would probably decline the NSTs, too. I had them regularly with my twins, which I totally understand the need for them in that case, but I just don't think there is a good enough reason for you to have to have them at this point! Go with your gut.
When I was pregnant with Trent I would always wake up with one of my hands asleep. I think it was a combo of how I was sleeping, along with my body prioritizing blood to my belly and core. So if I put my hand over my head it would go numb, but that was the only way I could sleep. So I think that is pretty normal. Good luck with your mom this morning. That sounds like a really hard thing to have to deal with, but hopefully she will realize that you all just want what is best for her.
As for the NST's, I had them with my last, but we dont have to pay for any of our medical procedures here. There is no reason why you cant decline them now, and if you begin to feel less confident, change your mind later and have one done. Its not really an all or nothing thing is it? Personally I loved my NST's cause it was a time I could just focus on baby without my others around bugging me and I love hearing that heartbeat But I totally get the cost barrier, especially if you dont feel the need for them.
I hope things go well with your mom! Family stuff is hard, especially when it's a parent and they have strong feelings about things that need to change (as I'm assuming yours might). I am glad you are feeling more reassured about the prolapse thing. I had NSTs with my daughter and while they were definatly needed with her (I had to be monitored for the last trimester) if you feel they aren't necessary I'd decline them for now. It's not like they can't schedule them in if you change your mind at some point or you're concerned about something.
Melissa, Kyla, and Mia,
Thank you so much for your input! I really appreciate it. It makes me feel a lot better that others in my position would decline the NSTs also as it is not as serious as it could be. I feel a lot better about the whole thing.
If I didn't have to worry about the extra money involved, I would do it in a heartbeat (no pun intended...hehehe) I love hearing the baby's heartbeat and just lying there and focusing on it...but our main reason is money and I feel like its okay to not do it.
And thanks for the support regarding my mom. We went over there this morning and it went a lot better than I expected it to go. We still have a long ways to go, but its a start.
I have been feeling really tired today. After a 3 day weekend away, its all catching up to me how tired it made me. I am just trying to recuperate today and rest up. Been watching the olympics with my feet up. The kids are being really good and mostly entertaining themselves downstairs. I will work on baby stuff tomorrow.
I'm glad to hear things went well with your mom! I hope it continues to keep working out well.
Watch your carb intake and increase your protein intake. I get swollen much more when my carbs get high. With the exception of naturally occurring carbs, fruits, veggies, etc, those don't have any affect. It's taken me 4 pregnancies to figure that out btw
Yeah that is probably a factor. Never thought of it that way. Will have to watch my carbs a little more.
End of another day. Basically didn't do anything but rest today and I think that will help my sore muscles a lot. Going to hang out with my sister tomorrow morning at a park with her kids one last time before they head back to California. Then in the afternoon I am going to try and get some baby prep done. I really gotta start locating things for the hospital bag and pack it.
Glad you got lots of rest today - you needed it! Now if only I could take my own advice and rest... LOL
Great news! I got my GBS results back today and they were negative. That has me very happy! No antibiotics or concerns about getting something in me before baby is born. Maybe I can have another labor like DD1...show up at the hospital 30 minutes before I need to start pushing, have the baby and be done quickly.
When my midwife called me today to give me the results, we talked for a minute about the NSTs and she is fine with me declining them for now. She said I am just barely over the cut off for the amniotic fluid so its not as huge a deal either. So for right now, we will just have my regular weekly checks and I think everything will be ok.
Finally home again after being out for several hours...went to the park and met up with my sister and her kids, then went to lunch with them. After we said our goodbyes (they are heading back to CA tomorrow)...the kids and I headed to my grandma and grandpas house to visit them. They are getting old and tired and in a lot of pain, so I don't know how much longer they will be here...but I don't get a chance to often visit them, so since we were in the area today we visited them. That was nice.
Finally home. Going to put my feet up for a bit and then get some housework done and start working on my hospital bag. I have also been having more braxton hicks the last several days. And today some of them were much more intense than the previous ones.
Forgot to mention that my birth buddy from the August board had her twins today. She was only a little over 35 weeks and her water broke Sunday night...but they let her do her thing and although they gave her pitocin to help dilate quicker, she was able to have the vaginal birth that she wanted. So that was awesome that they didn't force a c section on her. I am so excited for her!
WOOT! For being GBS- !! great news.
Yay for being GBS negative!! And yay for not having to have NSTs! I hope you were able to put your feet up for a bit.
YAY for the negative GBS test! Isn't it a great feeling??
It really is a great feeling to be GBS negative. I was negative with my first two also, just positive for my last one.
Heading out to my 37 week appt. in a few minutes. It will be great to hear the heartbeat again. That never gets old. And I am sure my midwife will check me as she is going on vacation this Sunday. I will have to see another midwife at my appt. next week. Just hope I don't have the baby while she is gone.
I am so glad I am finally 37 weeks...its a huge relief to know baby is full term and if I have him/her anytime from here on out, he/she will be ok.
I will update again after my appointment.
I am pretty upset right now. Got back from my 37 week appointment a little while ago and have been crying off and on since. The baby is okay, but the baby is now breech. I am so worried about this. The baby has been head down the past several weeks, so this is a shocker for me. Baby is currently transverse, so sideways.
My midwife basically told me that we want to try and get the baby to flip naturally by me doing some things at home, and if that doesn't work...I will go into labor and delivery and she and the head OB will try an external version...where they attempt to manually flip the baby.
If that doesn't work, or if it distresses the baby....I will have to have a c section. I do NOT want a c section. I know that c sections are often times necessary, especially if its an emergency and baby and or/mom is in danger...but I feel like for me its the most unnatural thing I could have and now I feel like everything I wanted for this birth and baby is falling apart.
My midwifes office called me back after I got home and told me a few things I could do is either physical therapy or yoga. So I called my aunt who is a yoga instructor and she gave me a position that I could try.
I also called my cousin who is a midwife and talked to her and she recommended I check out the website spinningbabies.com so I intend to do that asap. I also talked to her about whether or not she does breech births and she said she has done a few, but that she couldn't do it unless she was supervising an un licensed midwife who specializes in breech births. I asked her how much they would charge, and she said the midwife she has in mind works with her but is great at breech births, and she could work something out with her...like a trade, so I wouldn't have to pay her. And my cousin normally charges about $2600 but for family she only charges for supplies...and if I have all my appts. and blood work done already, then supplies is only about $200 or so.
So we could definitely afford it if we decided to go that route. The problem is DH. I don't think he would agree to that. He would want me to get the c section cause he thinks it is safer and he thinks a breech birth is too risky. If I had to choose between the two, I would pick a home breech birth over a c section any day.
Anyway, I am very emotional about all this and any advice or thoughts I can get from you lovely ladies would be much appreciated. Thank you for listening.
First of all I think that you have written very well and clearly what you have been told.
Re-read what you have written calmly:
we want to try and get the baby to flip naturally by me doing some things at home
if that doesn't work...I will go into labor and delivery and she and the head OB will try an external version
And so you have been given some very good options. Concentrate on those and on Spinning Babies techniques.
Certainly do not panic and concentrate on the what you consider the worst possibilities! That is of no value! Please don't allow yourself to feel that "everything I wanted for this birth and baby is falling apart". You have not even begun the options suggested yet. Besides, baby has plenty of time to flip again even without techniques.
Consider how fortunate you are to have your aunt and cousin available to you for yoga and midwife assistance -not to mention the financial benefits!
Then consider having your DH speak to the midwife. Tell him to listen to her with an open heart and to consider your well informed wishes. I believe that research and facts from you will impress Olivier more than panic.
Deep down, I expect baby will rule...and flip in time.
Thank you so much for your reply and advice. I wrote my earlier post soon after getting home and was still very upset with the worst possible outcome fresh in my mind.
Since then I have looked at the spinning babies website and gotten some words of encouragement from family members. I am still worried but I am going to try and be positive about it all and do whatever I can to help baby get in the right position.
I already have a slant board that DH picked up from my sister a little while ago that I will lay on every day, and I am going to try some of the techniques like the forward leaning inversion and breech tilt daily also.
I am also going to have some time each day to just talk to my baby because I believe baby will hear me and hope that if we both have the right attitude that baby will rule and flip like you said.
I pray that all will work out. When reading up on why babies flip to breech position, one of the things it said was excessive amniotic fluid...and since that is my case I bet that is why the baby flipped. I just hope and pray that the excessive fluid won't prevent baby from going head down and cause baby to just float...I hope baby will flip again and stay that way this time. Its also frustrating that because there is no weight or pressure from baby on my cervix that it is still so high up and closed. I really hope things get better with positioning very soon so I can start to dilate more and go into labor on my own once baby is in the right position.
I better get busy with these techniques cause I really hope baby will be head down by my next appt. next week.
sending you tons of "flip" vibes!!