Welcome to your lodge Kyla!!! I look forward to your up coming birth!
Welcome Kyla! I was just thinking today that it must be about time for your lodge. Looking forward to following your birth journey
Yea! Its my lodge time! OMG! Its my lodge time!!!!!
Not sure if I am ready for this.
We are off to soccer in a few minutes, but I will try to drop back in tonight to tell my 'stories'
Welcome to your lodge!
Welcome to your lodge!
Welcome to your lodge! Excited to follow you in this pregnancy.
Lets see, I will try to make this short
DH and I met in grade 10 and totally hit it off. But the reason we met was because a good friend of mine had a crush on him, so I was not allowed to make a move and the two of them dated for most of the remainder of highschool. DH and I then dated for a few months the year after, but it didnt work out and we broke up, but remained good friends. After that we had about 5 years where one or the other of us was dating someone else, and we were all generally pretty close. Fast forward about 5 years and we finally got together for good
When we first started dating (at that time) we were both in school and living with our parents. About a year later, he proposed and we moved in together (I wouldnt live with him before we were engaged). We lived together for about the next five years until we decided we really wanted to start a family, so we got married and then pregnant a month later About 3 months into that pregnancy, DH got accepted to the RCMP and found out that he would have to leave at the beginning of March for 6 months training. I was due at the beginning of May. We tried to find ways to get around it, but basically the only way for him to be present at the birth was to give up his chance of his dream job. At the time we lived in Calgary, and he was working repairing bank machines and working security. He was pretty miserable with what he was doing, so I told him that it was more important to me that he was happy in his job than that he was there when baby was born. Since I couldnt afford to live in Calgary on my own (especially once baby came) I moved back in with my parents on VI at the beginning of March, and he headed off to Regina for training.
My pregnancy with DD was pretty straight forward, except that I had Gestational Diabetes, which was presented to me in a dont worry, relaxed kind of way. I had to visit with the nurse and nutritionist regularly, get non-stress tests every week, and was told a Ped would have to be present at the birth. I was prepared to go as far overdue as they would let me, as I felt that the longer the baby stayed in, the younger she would be when Daddy came home. It never occurred to me I wouldn't go overdue
So at around 8pm on my due date I felt what I believed to be contractions, though they were not very strong. As they got stronger I started to time them and was concerned that they were less than 5 min apart and lasting 30 sec to a minute. I figured we should head in to the hospital because that is what the book told me to do when my contractions were less than 5 min apart and lasted longer than 30 sec. Well, my mom and I got there, the nurse took one look at me and sent me home. She told me I wasn't in nearly enough pain yet, come back when I couldn't handle it myself. I was about 4cm dialated at this point. So I went home and spent most of the night in the bathtub. Around 630am I decided I needed some drugs :), so off we went to the hospital again, with my Dad in tow. This time they had me change and hooked me up to the monitors and then checked me. When the nurse stuck her hand up there it broke my water and they lost babies heart beat on the monitor. So they moved the monitor around, but still couldnt find it. They had me moving back and forth, and at one point I remember being on all fours with 3 nurses holding 3 monitors to my stomach trying to find that heartbeat. Meanwhile, my contractions had racheted up as soon as my water broke, so I was really not in any shape to help with anything. I fully expected to be flipped back over, knocked out, and rushed to the OR any moment, but they finally found her heartbeat right before the Dr arrived (a nurse commented later that I must have been the reason Dr Walker was running through the halls that morning). When the nurse had checked me I was at 6cm, and when the Dr arrived not 15 minutes later and put in an internal monitor I was at 9 cm. At some point they put in my IV and gave me some fentanal which does NOTHING but was all they could give me at that point. Soon after I felt the need to push and told the nurse, who informed me that 'no I didnt, let that baby come down by itself'. She was stupid. I finally convinced her to check me and baby was right there! It was then another huge rush to get everything ready as they had nothing set up yet in the room. I pushed for about 5 minutes and Arianna was born.
Arianna was immediately taken to the side of the room and checked over by the pediatrician who brought her back to me swaddled and told me she was perfect. It wasnt until about an hour later that I thought to ask about breastfeeding, by which point she was really tired and this led to a difficult breastfeeding relationship for the first few weeks.
At the time I was happy with my birth experience with Ari, but I have since become more educated and I think if I had the same experience today I would be very upset by it, especially with the lack of support I got from the nurses, both with the birth and with breastfeeding. My Dr was actually very supportive of me laboring any way I wanted, unfortunately I was hampered by the internal monitor and the speed of my labor.
DH got to fly home for a long weekend 6 days later to meet his baby girl. He was only home for about 36 hours when he had to fly out again. I got a ton of support living at my parents house though, which was really needed as we struggled to establish breastfeeding.
3 months after DD was born DH got posted to a small-ish town in Northern BC, about 18 hours from both our families (did I mention DH's parents live near mine?). So off we went. We have been here almost 5 years now and are very happy, but looking at a move in the next few years to try to get closer to family.
I got pregnant with DS a few years after our move and was again very happy with my prenatal care. I had Gestational Diabetes again this time, but my Dr this time was even more casual about it than my last pregnancy. I went to see the nutritionist and nurse, but the only extra test I had to do was an extra ultrasound to make sure baby didn't get too big.
A week before I was due this time I had a day with a lot of cramping. I joked with a few friends about how maybe I would have baby soon, but didn't really believe he would come early. That night I woke up at 1am with definite contractions. This time I knew I ddint want to be in the hospital, so I woke DH up and told him I was getting in the bathtub. I spent the next 3-4 hours in there as I was trying to make it to a reasonable time to call our babysitter so we wouldn't have to wake anyone up. Around 5 I decided we better head to the hospital and DH started calling, and calling, and calling! We had two friends lined up to watch DD and we couldn't get hold of either of them!!!!! We finally decided that we just had to go, and we all piled into the truck. I was having horrible back labor and that drive was excruciating! We drove to my friends house and knocked on her door. Her in laws were visiting and her MIL opened the door with 'do you know what time it is?" My DH, somewhat panicked, responded with 'yes, and my wife is in labor in the truck!!!' That got them moving Turned out my friend didnt think I would really go early either and assumed it was her fax machine when the phone kept ringing, so she unplugged it!
Anyways, we got to the hospital around 6 and the nurse checked me. Turned out my water had broken in the bathtub (I guess) cause I didnt know it was broken. I was at 6 cm. Problem was, the nurse didnt know what she was feeling and was afraid baby was breach, so they called the Dr in. While we waited I asked for drugs. After my last labor I was pretty ticked that my water had broken and I was only at a 6! Why wasn't I going as fast? They had a heck of a time getting my IV in though, just got it in as the Dr arrived and hooked up the GBS meds. The Dr checked me and determined baby was posterior (Nurse was feeling a smooth forhead instead of hair). She reassured me that I could still deliver vaginally as she knew I really didn't want a c-section, and then they gave me some fentenal (again too late for anything else). However, immediately after they gave me the drugs, Dr tripped over my IV, and I never actually got anything out of it after that. I am a little bit fuzzy here, but we were only at the hospital about 40 min and it felt like they checked me about 10 times. I suspect the Dr was more concerned about him being posterior then she let on, but I hated every check as they made me lay on my back for them. I was progressing though. The last time the Dr checked me I was at 8cm and then as I was turning back around, so did baby. I remember yelling 'He's moving, he's moving....I need to push' and that was it. Baby had flipped over and I was ready! 2 pushes later I had a squirmy naked baby in my arms! My post delivery experience was way better this time as we got immediate skin to skin. After a few minutes, while I was getting stitched up, the nurses stole him for a few minutes to check him over and then brought him right back naked to nurse. I had some trouble latching him on, after all, the last baby I nursed was 2 year old DD, but one nurse asked permission and then got right in there and helped us connect I am still grateful to that lady as we never had any latch or nursing issues after that initial fumbling
We did have some issues with Jaundice with Conner though that started at our first Drs appointment. He had what they call Breastfeeding Jaundice, and the Drs pushed me, and pushed me to put him on formula for 48 hours to clear it up. After a night in the bili bed his numbers went down, but then they continued to hover below the danger zone. He was not tired (in fact he never slept) and was happy and content, just a little yellow, but I had to take him every 2 days to get his blood checked. We do not have a ped in town, but my Dr was consulting with one the next town over who was OK with me just letting it go. DH was getting worried though so I told him that if the ped told me to I would give formula. Finally when COnner was 6 weeks old, the ped wanted to see him, but wanted me to give him formula for 48 hours first. Apparently 6 weeks is about the limit for breastfeeding jaundice and after that they start to worry it could be other things. So I cried, and bought a pump and formula and fed my baby with a dropper for 2 days. Turned out he was fine, and thankfully went right back to the breast when I offered it.
And that brings us another 2 years down the road to today and this pregnancy. I have a new Dr this time that I dislike, and an OB that I dislike and they are pushing an induction that I really dont want. Will update more on that later as I have a naked boy who wants help on the potty right now
Very interesting intro and birth stories! Thanks for sharing. It stinks that you don't like your DR. or OB. I am sorry if they are being pushy and not working with you well. And I am sorry to hear that they are pushing induction. I will look forward to reading your update on your current pregnancy and situation. Hope you can choose the birth you want and they don't succeed in pushing anything on you.
Welcome to your lodge! TFS your birth stories. I'm sorry you're feeling pressured about induction; is that because you have GD again? IIRC you're keeping that under control, so there should be no need to induce. Stay strong, you've done this twice before, so you know more about your own body than the doctor does!
Yes, they want to do an induction because I have GD, even though I am well controlled and have had no issues. I am supposed to start NST's twice a week soon, so as long as those continue to look well, I am going to push them back to at least my due date. DH isn't hugely comfortable with me going much longer than that, but doesn't think I will anyways.
I am just feeling like the Dr's this time dont trust me, or what my body is telling me during the pregnancy......which makes me really nervous about how things will go during the birth. Hopefully this one will come just as fast as big sister and brother did, and we wont really have time for anything
Welcome to your lodge! I loved your stories. I'm sorry you're Drs this time are being so difficult, I hope you can get the birth you want.
Welcome to your lodge! I enjoyed reading your intro and birth stories. That is a bummer that your DRs are already pushing for an induction. Stand your ground and stay firm in your decision not to be induced!
Welcome to your lodge! I enjoyed your birth stories, it sounds like your past pregnancies have gone well despite the GD so those doctors need to lighten up. I'd be aiming to arrive at the hospital as late as possible, maybe you can walk the grounds a bit too to make sure you aren't too late.
I enjoyed reading your birth stories! I hope your OBs back off and you get the birth you want, sans induction!
OK, I have a bit more time to comment a bit more. I remember a couple of months ago that you were *already* concerned about your doctor *already* saying you would need induction, so I'm guessing it's the same one. At that time, you expressed concern about him making good decisions at your birth. I think you need to very strongly consider your options now, and switching doctors should be your #1 option. If this guy isn't taking into consideration either your prior birth histories or the fact that you are keeping your GD under control with diet alone, then IMHO he's not truly looking out for your or your baby's best interests. You are going to be fighting with him every week, which a pregnant mama shouldn't have to do with anyone, especially her doctor, or you are going to be giving in to things you don't want or need, which a pregnant mama shouldn't have to do. I know you have a weird local ordinance that restricts doctors from accepting another doctor's patient, but I would just start calling them all & explaining the situation and say that you NEED to change NOW and hope that one of them is willing to put a patient's right to decent care above a stupid law. (Also might as well call someone in government about getting a waiver and/or eliminating that ridiculous ordinance, too, while you're at it!)
Your second option would be to have a heart-to-heart talk with this doctor (and maybe bring your DH but only if you think he'll back you up) and say that he needs to get his head out of his *** immediately and start dealing with you as the educated, informed, and empowered woman that you are. This paternalistic "little mommy needs to do whatever Big Doctor Man says" attitude from him needs to stop. You are the one in charge of your care and your body, and he needs to respect that. There WILL BE NO mention of induction unless your condition deteriorates. Write down your major points & concerns
Third option, and I'm not sure if this *is* an option in your area & with the Canadian health care system, but you can always just stop going to him. Arrange to have weekly or biweekly NST/BPP tests on your own, monitor your BP (you can buy a decent monitor at the drug store for about $40) and blood sugar on your own, and take your chances in labor with the hospital's residents or on-call OB.
Bottom line, if you are keeping your GD under control with diet, that alone is greatly minimizing your risks and routine NSTs and BPPs will be able to keep track of baby's growth and how well your placenta is functioning anyway. If baby starts getting "too big," especially if it's too big around the abdomen, or if your placenta starts degrading, then you consider your options. There is absolutely no need for him to be pushing induction on you at this time. You don't need that stress, and you have the power to make it stop. Good luck!!!
Got a massage today, and it was heavenly! They had the special pillows where you can lay on your tummy, and it felt like baby was just floating round in there instead of laying on my pelvis. I need some of those for my bed
I also got about a foot cut off my hair. It was getting kind of gross and way too long, so I chopped it off to shoulder length and got it layered. Figured if I didnt get it done now, I would end up cutting it all off in labour, as I have been so hot! So far I like it, but I havent had to 'do' it myself yet, so we will see. I am a very low maintenance girl
At this point I havent actually seen my own Dr for 6ish weeks, as he is away. So the topic of induction hasnt actually come up with him recently. It is the OB who keeps mentioning it. But he also keeps saying that he is not the one who will be there when I am in labor, and is not in charge of my care.....though he keeps ordering tests for me :rolleyes: At this point I am in wait and see mode.
Had a lazy weekend. DH was going to take the kids camping (I prefer my own bed right now, thanks) but we had thunder storms so they stayed home. But they did roast marshmallows and play games in the moterhome while I went to a potluck dinner with a great group of women. Then yesterday I got to sleep in and then we went to see 'Brave' as a family. It was actually kind of funny, cause DD spent most of the movie on her Daddies lap with his hand over her eyes (peeking) and DS crouched behind the seats in front of him and peeked over to watch, but neither of them wanted to leave, and they both talked about how much they liked the movie all evening. Weird
Anyways, that was it for the weekend. Baby is doing good, moving like a Mexican jumping bean. I actually had a movement so strong last night that it shifted my body in my chair. Thats one strong baby in there! 3 weeks left, though DH is thinking one more, and I am going for two.....so we will see when we see
I have been busy trying to get things done on my list of ' things that need to be done before baby comes home'. I think I did too much yesterday though, cause my legs have been super crampy (Like I maybe pinched something in my back).
Anyways, one of the reasons that I have been working so hard is because we are hoping this baby comes early, due to our deadline DH wants baby to come next week, as he is in court testifying at a murder trial all the next week, and would not be able to miss it, potentially leaving me alone while in labor.
So.......I am looking for some things I can do to help this baby along next week. I dont want an induction, so no membrane sweeps or anything like that, just things that will naturally help my body get ready, and will help start things off if I am ready. I already plan to start drinking a combo of raspberry leaf and fenugeek tea on Monday (which, Im pretty sure is what go me going with DS), and I am hoping to get in for a pedicure sometime during the week too. Any other suggestions?
I had a session of acupressure with DD, and with DS I had a chiropractic adjustment, went for a long walk and had DH rub my feet (trying to get him to hit the pressure points which I found on the internet). I was in labor within 12 hours of doing these things with both. Good luck to you!
Scrubbing a floor on your hands and knees, driving on a bumpy road (did that today, not to try to start labor but just because I happened to) and had a few pretty strong contractions, so could be something to it), DTD...
I hope your little one comes sooner rather than later!! What does your DH do that he's testifying in a murder trial??? Freaky!
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He's RCMP, so he was investigating the murder He was actually head of this particular investigation for a significant amount of time, so his name is on almost all the warrants and other documents. He thinks he will probably end up testifying for a good 3 of the 5 days of the trial because if the defense can discredit him it would get rid of a lot of the evidence.
So, as much as I want him there, I dont want a murderer to go free JUST so he can be there. I want to bring my baby into a safe world, but it would make me sad if he had to miss it
Well, Im feeling stupid for worrying about being induced. At this point, I will be happy just to have a Dr in the room when this baby is born!
I went to my appointment today, and it was the fill in Dr again, so I asked the receptionist when my Dr would be back. Apparently he wont be here until the 16th, my due date. So I asked her who would deliver the baby if I went before then and she said she thought it would be the fill in Dr, but wasn't sure (she wasn't the regular receptionist). So when the Dr came in I asked him if he would deliver me, and he said no (got the impression he doesn't have hospital privileges here), and checked my chart. Apparently it doesn't say who it will be, so he had no idea! I like this dr, but I really feel like my care is falling through the cracks at that practice. I havent even been offered the GBS screen yet, or been scheduled for a single NST which were supposed to have started last week. I mentioned that today and the Dr said that was the OB's job, but the OB told me that he was not delivering me and my care is totally in the hands of my family Dr. I see the OB tomorrow, so hopefully that will change when I tell him what is going on.......although it is kind of nice that no one has mentioned induction for a long time
Anyways, everything is good with baby, strong heartbeat and lots of movement. Blood pressure good, no swelling, measuring right on, results of my latest monthly blood test (cant remember what it is called but measures average blood sugar levels for last 3 months) was in and the number was down from last time (and they were happy with it last time).
Wow...sounds like you could just keep your head down and sail on through! Glad at least nobody's pushing you to do anything, although I'm sure feeling totally forgotten about isn't so great either! I mean really...
Lol! That is how I am feeling. I actually considered not saying anything to the OB and just coasting through, but I do think that the NSt's are important, and DH is already feeling uncomfortable that I am not getting them yet, so I better say something. I guess.
Oh, that is a weird situation to be in! I guess when you show up at the hospital, SOMEONE will be there to deliver your baby! Hopefully they forget about scheduling an induction until it's too late
Weird. I'll just get whoever happens to be on rotation when I deliver, so I won't know who will deliver me until the big day lol, but I'm sure it would be nice for you to know what is going on before then. Why do you need NSTs (if you don't mind me asking)?
I have gestational diabetes. They do the NSTs to make sure my placenta is still doing its job
Welcome to your lodge (sorry I'm late)...
LOL about being worried about being induced, and now they all seem to have forgotten about you! Glad all seems to be going well, and you can relax about most of it.
What happened to your previous doctor? Why can't you go to them?
Not sure what you mean by previous Dr? The Dr I went to with DS is retired, and her replacement (my current Dr) is away until the 16th.
I have decided not to worry about it. I will mention the NSTs to the OB tomorrow, and hopefully he can get me in for them, and if I have to catch that baby myself I will At this point I am not devastated it wont be my Dr as I was a bit apprehensive about him, it just would have been nice if they had informed me of all this earlier as it was a bit of a surprise.
I meant the on you had for DS... but you answered my question about him being retired. too bad you couldn't go back to him since he was so laid back about all this stuff and you worked better together.
Glad you can just let these things go right now. Good luck!
Well, things are looking much better today. Went to the OB and although he cant take me over as his patient without my Drs express request, he did tell me that he would deliver for me if I go before my Dr gets back, and he ordered the non-stress tests for me and will see me weekly until then as well. And he didnt say a word about induction!!!!!! In fact, he said he would see me next week, and the week after, and then he is going away the day before my Dr gets back, so my Dr will see me after that. But thats my due date, so Yay! Looks like I will have some breathing space
He said baby looks to be about 7 lbs, and my NST looked good. I am apparently having some 'tightening' as the nurse called them, but I am not feeling anything, so hopefully they are doing some work for me with no pain
It was actually pretty funny to hear the OB go off about these young Drs and how they dont understand that obstetrics is different then the rest of their practice, and they cant just leave there pregnant patients hanging like this....etc. It doesnt help that my reg. Dr is new to Canada, and is obviously still figuring out how the system here works.
Glad that you got some answers and have an idea who might deliver for you. I am sure that all makes you a little more relaxed about the situation. Glad he isn't bringing up induction either. Great update!
Happy Canada Day!!!! I took the kids to the parade today to watch Daddy march (and get candy, which I think was the main motivator:) ), and then we came home, DH picked them up, and they are back to the park for some more festivities while I get to relax by myself at home.
Nothing going on in Baby town, except that it is getting harder and harder to walk any distance. Hopefully that means baby is engaging though
That's all GREAT news!
As frustrating as it is to be up in the air with doctors for a bit at least the stress of the induction has decreased big time
Ooh, I'm so glad the OB stepped up and has decided to take care of you until your regular Dr. gets back! Honestly, if I were you, I think i might prefer to be delivered by the OB, especially since he hasn't mentioned anything about an induction!
Not sure what I have going on right now, but its pretty painful I am feeling really crampy, tried to time it, but doesnt seem to be close to regular. I am torn between thinking it is contractions, and that it could just be a bowel thing, as I keep having to go to the bathroom as well. I only had one tightening at my NST this morning, so it would surprise me if this is it, but we will see.
Have a feeling it was an upset stomach paired with some braxton hicks, cause it seems to have gone away now. I am still having 'tightenings' though, but they are back to being mainly painless. I am glad that wasn't it, cause my kids start a short gymnastics program tomorrow, and I really dont want them to have to miss it. So I am back to aiming for Saturday
Saturday is my birthday, and I'd be delighted to share it with your baby!
I'm so glad to hear that you're feeling good about your care now. Your OB is absolutely right; delivering babies isn't a normal job. That's why I love midwives, helping babies into this world isn't just their job, they truly embrace the birthing process & their mamas, it's a way of life for them. That's also why I love my HMO. The doctors have regular hours in the clinic and at the hospital, so they can have a life and I don't have to worry that whatever my ailment is is keeping someone from their kid's birthday party or that my doctor is running on 23 hours without sleep because he was in the clinic all day & then called in for an emergency all night & then back at the clinic all day again. That's no way to be providing medical care.
I envy all you ladies who can have midwives. I didnt know any better with my first, and we dont have any in the area that we live now.
I am much happier with what the Drs are saying now. I just wish this baby would come out NOW! I never had braxton hicks with my others, and I am finding I really dont enjoy them I am totally ready to have a baby!
I just got off the phone with my MIL who is supposed to be arriving on Monday to help me with the kids when DH is in court. She cant find her credit card, and still has not booked her flight! This is pretty typical of her, but, oh so, frustrating! We asked her to come that week, as DH cant be home during the day, and I am glad she is coming, but I hope the baby comes soon, since she will be staying until after that anyways, and she tends to drive me a little crazy at the best of times. For example, we asked her to come on the weekend so that DH would be available to pick her up from the airport, but she chose to come on Monday afternoon instead, for no particular reason, which means I will have to pick her up. No big deal as long as the baby hasnt come yet. If I am in the hospital then DH will need to find someone to watch the kids, and to pick her up from the airport, which we were trying to avoid in the first place. And that is providing she actually gets here on Monday, as she still hasnt booked her flight!!!!
So that is my frustration today Hopefully she will call this afternoon and have everything worked out......that is also her MO, to worry everyone else around her when it is really unnecessary. I am hoping that I am in the hospital for as much of her visit as possible anyways I think that might make me a bad DIL, but............I have no good justification, I am just a bad person.
Oops, double post!
I'm pretty sure that doesn't make you a bad DIL so much as a totally normal one! Except for me it would be my own mom, not MIL Hope everything works out stress-free in the end!
My goodness! My reaction would be that if she can't get there when someone can pick her up, then take a cab! We'll do our best, but if she can't do hers, that's her problem! Don't take responsibility for her inability to plan!
Sorry about the BH... they aren't always much fun!
Ditto this! This is the reason why cabs & airport shuttles exist; no one ever wants to go to the airport unless they're the ones flying! Don't go out of your way or create additional expense for yourself when she's unwilling to do her part to help. She's wanting to be there on Monday & hasn't yet booked her flight? That's going to cost her a fortune! :shock:
I'm the Mom/MIL. I take cabs, no problem. When it is easy though, it is fun to have the kids greet me at the airport with DSIL! Once his brother even came to fetch me which was very sweet of him.
My parents used to stay in hotels sometimes when they visited. That kind of annoyed us as, after all, they're family!But whatever made them happy. All the noise and activity wore them down as they got older.