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~*~ Melissa's (Sweet Pea Twins) lodge ~*~

Welcome to your lodge! Can't wait to get to know you more and follow the rest of your journey! Please tell us about you. Smile

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Yay! Its finally your lodge time. That means my lodge is right behind you as my due date is only 6 days behind yours. So exciting! I have already been following you on our August board, but now I get to follow you in your lodge also. Looking forward to reading your intro story and continuing to share this journey with you. Smile

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Glad to see your lodge has begun! In many ways this is all new to you. It's been a while since you had a lodge at all, no less never before for a little baby boy! Exciting happy times!

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:woohoo: How exciting! Welcome to your lodge!

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Woo hoo!! How exciting - this makes it all seem so close! I will come back later today to share my story...

Thanks for the welcome ladies!

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Welcome to your lodge! Can't wait to hear all about you and follow your journey!

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Wow! Where has the time gone?! Welcome to your lodge Melissa!

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Welcome to your lodge, can't wait to read your story Biggrin

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SOrry it's taken so long - we have construction going on at our house, so our wireless is disconnected and I couldn't get online this weekend!

I'm not sure where to start with my story... I guess a little background about my life before my current marriage and pregnancy would be good. When I was 23, I married my first husband. A couple of months after we got married, I got pregnant for the first time. The pregnancy was super easy, I just had some slight nausea and food aversions in the first trimester, and my uterus was measuring small. At around 16 weeks, I asked the OB if it was possible that there were 2 in there. I had no reason to really believe that - nothing pointed toward a multiple pregnancy, and we had conceived naturally without any kind of infertility drugs or anything (as a matter of fact, the pregnancy wasn't exactly "planned" at that point), but call it a "feeling" or intuition. The OB totally ignored it and said no, and never explored the possibility. I opted to have the triple screen done when I was 18 weeks or so, and the test results came back abnormal. My OB gave me all of the info about all of the things that could be wrong, and scheduled a level II ultrasound at the hospital, but we couldn't get in until three weeks later. Talk about torture. So when I finally got the level II u/s, I was 22 weeks along. Imagine our surprise when it turned out that the test results had come back abnormal because I was pregnant with TWINS!

My pregnancy went well, no major complications. But I had a lot of trouble with my OB practice getting a decent level of care - when I was 28 weeks, I had an appointment with an OB that I had never met before. She whizzed into the room, grabbed the doppler to check heartbeats, found one and declared that everything sounded great. I said, "what about the other one?" She looked at me and said, "other one, what?" I was furious. The woman had grabbed my chart off the door, not even LOOKED at the front which had a bright neon sticker on it that read "HIGH RISK" (an automatic classification there because it was a multiple pregnancy), and had completely failed to open the folder to see my history before performing a prenatal appointment.

After that, I immediately knew it was time to change doctors. So I asked around for recommendations, and my boss, who had just had a baby a few months before, recommended a doctor that she loved. At 28 weeks, I drove to the other side of town to interview an OB for my twin pregnancy, and immediately loved him!! I talked to him about all of my concerns, the fact that I wanted to avoid a c-section at almost all costs, etc, etc, etc. He listened and sat and really talked to me. AND, at the office where he worked, I would be able to see him and only him, and unless there was some emergency, he would be the one to deliver my baby - I wouldn't just have any on-call doctor. I immediately switched my records to his clinic and proceeded to get amazing prenatal care.

By 36 weeks I was absolutely HUGE, and I was begging for an induction. My OB wouldn't induce me, however, until I hit 39 weeks. The next couple of weeks dragged on, and finally, at 38 weeks, my OB scheduled an induction for me for the next week...

(Sorry - off to a meeting - I'll continue later today!)

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Welcome to your lodge!!!! It's really that time isn't it, EEEKKKK!!!!!! Can't wait to share this journey with you Smile

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Very interesting intro so far. Looking forward to reading the rest. Smile

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Love the intro so far! Can't wait to read more Smile

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(continued)

I made it to my induction with my twins - 39 weeks to the day. Here is the link to my birth story - written soon after their birth when I was still in new-mom euphoria:

My Twin Birth Story

When I look back, now, it's not nearly as wonderful as I had thought it was at the time... lol. Now when I tell the story, I think of all of the things that I didn't have control over, and how invaded I was by my family and ex's family after the birth. I still am very thankful that the birth itself went off without any complications, and that I was able to have both girls vaginally. And the whole deal really gave me a sense of trust in my OB.

Six months after having the twins, I got pregnant again. It took ONE time without a condom (our method of BC at the time because I was breastfeeding) - literally one. We were at ex-DH's family farm for a weekend dealing with some family stuff, and we were bored... lol. We didn't have any BC with us, and we figured that we didn't have a whole lot to worry about. Well, that night my youngest DD was conceived.

I was, of course, continuing care with my awesome OB. Because I was so near the birth of my twins, my body hadn't had adequate time to heal, and their birth had done a number on my pelvis and hips. I ended up attending physical therapy to try to realign everything and reduce the pain that the pregnancy was causing. It worked very minimally. I wish now that I had known the advantaged of prenatal chiropractic and other options. But natural prenatal care and birth were really not on my radar at the time, and I had few resources.

My OB had moved to a different clinic by now, so I had followed him. It was nice to still get continuing care from my same doc, but at the new practice, he was no longer on call 24/7 - so I would be delivered by whoever was on call on that particular day. So when my OB offered an induction at 39 weeks again, which would also guarantee that he would deliver me, I jumped at the chance. Again, I wrote my birth story soon after her birth, so it's all euphoric again. But when I tell the story now days, it's not nearly as beautiful. LOL

Deborah's Birth Story

I remember the constant fighting to keep my blood pressure up... the nausea and sweats that came along with that, the decels in my baby's heart beat, and the nurses who would NOT listen to me when I said that I needed to push: "No, I just checked you and you were still at an 8." Excuse me - I may have a freaking epidural, but I can TELL THAT I HAVE TO PUSH. It's obvious to me, NOW, that if I hadn't been strapped down by the epidural, and had been able to move around, that I would have dilated much quicker and been able to get my baby out faster.

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In 2008, DH and I split up. I continued to be friends with our "joint" friends and continued to go out with them occasionally. Once night when we were out celebrating my 30th birthday, I started talking with a guy friend who I had known forever, who happened to have "originally" been ex-DHs friend. We had both gotten engaged to our respective partners on the same day, and had weddings just months apart. My ex-DH had been in his wedding, and he had been in ours. He and his wife had split up a few years earlier, and now we had also split up. So we started talking because we had a lot in common - we could relate to each other. We became really good friends, and he was there for me through my difficult divorce. About six months after ex-DH and I split up, Jason and I started dating. Since we had been friends for almost 10 years, and had never really considered each other as anything more until that point, it was a strange thing to be dating. Our first kiss was wonderful, but after it we looked at each other and laughed because the whole idea was so strange!

My relationship with Jason grew very quickly - because we had known each other for so long, there was never that relationship stage where we had to get to know each other, each others' friends, etc. We also had spent 6 months talking about our broken marriages, and what we had learned - what had gone wrong, how we had changed, and what we wanted to do different if we ever got married again. So we had a very deep understanding of each other, and there was an amazing honesty between us that I never knew was possible with a romantic partner. He knew all of my darkest secrets, and what each of my skeletons were wearing and where they were hiding, and he didn't care. He loved me anyway.

My girls loved him - it was an easy thing to integrate Jason into our little family of girls because they had known him their entire lives. He doesn't have any children (besides the one we're waiting on!), but took to step-fatherhood (or simply "fatherhood" as I like to consider it) very naturally.

When he proposed to me on January 11, 2011, there was no hesitation at all for me to say yes. It wasn't fancy, but it was perfectly us. He was over at my house, and we had just put the girls to bed for the night. He said that he had brought over ice cream and went to the freezer to get a pint of my favorite white chocolate raspberry frozen yogurt and a spoon. I was sitting on the couch watching TV, and he knelt down in front of me and handed me the pint of ice cream. I opened the top, and inside, sticking out of the top of the ice cream, was the most gorgeous ring I had ever seen. It was magic.

In April we moved in to his house, and we got married on September 17, 2011 at a small ceremony at my church.

Jason had always wanted to have children, and I told him that I was willing to have another child or two, but that I really didn't want to wait too long... I told him that once I hit 35, I was done getting pregnant. lol So last October, just weeks after our wedding, and once week before we left on our honeymoon cruise, I had my IUD removed. I got pregnant on Thanksgiving. Biggrin

So, here we are. Sorry for such a long story to get to the present...

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Amazing srories! I can relate to so much of what you wrote about looking at your deliveries through very different eyes now. I feel the same way as you. I think when I initially had my DS, I was okay with his birth, but now looking back on things I just see it in a whole new light. I can see times where my body was trying to tell me something or the nurses did things without really listening to me. All of that has driven me to do it completely differently this time. The way my body was made to do it! It makes me happy just thinking about it although I am nervous as I prepare myself for something I have never really expereinced. I am excited for you and can't wait to follow your birth and the new addition to your family!
I can also relate to part of your story with DH. I was also good friends with my DH before we dated and so when we fell in love it was similar to what you were describing. I remember the first kiss also being amazing, but funny since we were friends. Smile

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So this pregnancy has been MUCH different than my first two. For the first time ever, I dealt with horrible morning sickness during the first trimester. I could barely function most days, and other days I couldn't function at all. My OB gave me drugs to combat the m/s, but they caused HORRIBLE constipation which would back me up so bad that I would spend nights balling and vomiting because the pain was so bad. I took the m/s drugs as little as possible, but my sick time at work was dwindling fast...

When I hit the second trimester, I finally started to feel normal again. However, I was having horrible pain in my pelvis, my pubic area, and my hips. Thanks to wonderful advice that I received on this board, I started seeing a prenatal chiropractor who has been my saving grace this pregnancy!! Biggrin

I first started considering natural birth, and learning more about it all early in my second trimester. I have been taking anxiety medication since 2009, following my split up with ex-DH. And when I have missed a few days, or tried weaning off of them at all, I have been a total mess and the panic attacks would come back full-force right away. Because I was SO sick in the first trimester, I couldn't take my meds. AT ALL. So I weaned off of them cold turkey, but strangely I wasn't suffering from major anxiety. I was having a little bit, but I was able to deal with it using relaxation techniques and meditation. I figure that the hormonal changes are part of the reason that I'm dealing so well with my anxiety, and I have been med free the whole pregnancy.

But I am significantly worried about the postpartum stage, so I was looking at natural things that I could do postpartum to deal with it. Someone on my birth board began talking about placental encapsulation, so I began to research it. Convinced it certainly couldn't hurt, and definitely could help keep my hormones and stuff at bay, I contacted a doula who offered placental encapsulation services... and from there I started research more natural birthing stuff... and it was like a domino effect. I wondered how my other births may have been different if I had gone into labor on my own without induction, etc. I found this board and started reading your lodges, and spent time reading the resource sticky. I already knew that my ideas had begun to be much more "crunchy" as I was getting older and knew more... but I soon realized that my desires for my birth this time around were much more in line with the natural birth options, so I began learning here and everywhere I could.

I started talking with DH about getting a doula to increase my chances of a successful natural birth, and after some initial push-back, he eventually agreed and since then has really gotten on board with my natural birth. I ended up hiring the doula who I had contracted with to do my placental encapsulation, getting routine chiropractic care, I've read and researched lots about natural birth, and written a birth plan in line with my current plans. I will still be delivering at a hospital with my current OB, but just as I trusted him with my previous pregnancies, I trust him this time around. He has offered an induction again as an option so that I can be guaranteed that he is on-call when I'm delivering, but I have turned it down. I've let him know that my goal is to birth as naturally as possible, and shared my birth plan with him and the staff. If I am not delivered by him, I may face some challenges with some of the other doctors in the practice, but I am prepared to advocate for myself as needed, and will have the full support of my doula and my DH.

So that brings me to right now. I had my 36 week appointment with my Dr. on Friday. About a month ago, when he checked me because of some spotting I was having, he discovered a Nebothian cyst on my cervix that was about the size of a ping-pong ball. He said that he didn't think it would cause any issues or hinder dilation or anything, but that we might want to consider trying to drain it to reduce its size. So at Friday's appointment, he went ahead and drained it with a needle. He got 15 mL of fluid out with the needle, plus got more out by squeezing... and he said that he probably ended up getting 3/4 of the fluid out in all. Seriously, that's a TON of fluid, and it's not all out! So we're hoping that it doesn't simply refill itself before labor... all we can do is wait and see.

My Dr. left for vacation this last weekend and is out of the office, now, until August 6th, so in the mean time I will see one of his partners. I actually am familiar with him as he delivered my SILs children - both of which I was in the delivery room for, so I am pretty comfortable with him. I hope that this baby waits until my dr. gets back, though!

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Welcome to your lodge and I loved reading your birth stories. It's great that you have a lot of support.

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Thanks for sharing a peek into your life! I love reading these stories. Smile

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So last night I finally got my labor bag packed. I had my hospital stay bag and the diaper bag all ready to go last week, but the labor bag was being neglected. I was kind of overwhelmed by the decisions about what I may and may not want at the hospital for a natural labor. Then I realized that I was planning to do a lot of my laboring at home, so it could just be a bag of stuff that I happen to know where it all is that I might need. lol So I finally did it.

Today I'm feeling overwhelmed by everything that needs to get done at home and at work prior to baby's arrival. We've been finishing our lower level to build a new family room and baby's room (our master bedroom is also in the lower level). We got it all painted last weekend, and now this week we have to finish staining all of the woodwork because the contractor is coming back to do all of the finish work on Saturday, and carpet install happens on Monday. So there's a bit of stress about getting the woodwork stained, but once that is done, we're god to go. After Monday, I will finally be able to set up the nursery - and I am SO excited to get all of the baby crap out of my living room!!

At work, well, all I can do is get everything as organized as possible. I'm taking 12 weeks off, so people need to know where to find stuff. On the upside, most of the major projects that I've been working on over the last couple of months are finished or wrapping up, so for the next couple of weeks I just need to stay on top of everything so nothing falls behind. I'm kind of hating my job right now, but I think it's just because I'm already mentally checked out. I really wish that I felt like I could take off before my due date, but I can't afford to lose any of the time I would otherwise get after baby is born. So I am working until I go into labor, I guess...

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Oh, and Tina, congrats on your recent wedding!! How exciting! You'll have to email or message me and let me know where you finally settled on delivering!

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I worked up until I went into labour with DS. I was due on June 10th, and was planning on having my last day be the Friday before...the 4th...but I went into work on Wednesday and worked a full day and then went into labour at 10pm that night. I don't blame you for working up until the baby is born though, since 12 weeks isn't very long...you want as much time as you can have with baby.

Try to relax a little and not stress too much about the nursery. Hope everything gets finished before baby is here, but if for some reason its not...baby can adjust. Don't put too much pressure on yourself. You are doing great!

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"Meemers" wrote:

Try to relax a little and not stress too much about the nursery. Hope everything gets finished before baby is here, but if for some reason its not...baby can adjust. Don't put too much pressure on yourself. You are doing great!

It's not baby I'm worried about adjusting, it's me! LOL I am selfishly wanting to get it done for a couple of reasons - #1 is because I want the peace of mind to know that it's finished before I go into labor, and #2 is because I want to labor downstairs in my new family room as much as possible - and it will be done at the same time! My upstairs has hardwood floors and not very comfy furniture. My new downstairs family room will have carpet and my uber-comfy furniture, as well as my bedroom right off of it! It's also quite a bit cooler than the upstairs, and will have blackout curtains so I can labor in the darkness - which is really one of my coping mechanisms. So more than the desire to get the nursery set up to fill my nesting need, I want the downstairs as my "laboring den".

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That makes total sense. I gotcha now. Smile I don't blame you for wanting it all done before. I would be the same way. A lot of times our bodies won't go into labor if there is something stressing us out or making us extra busy cause our bodies can tell that we aren't ready yet. I bet you will get it all done before any labor starts. Still, try to get some relaxation time in. Your labor den sounds like it will be perfect. You will have to post pics of the finished product when its all done. Smile

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You're new downstairs area sounds heavenly! We are finishing up our last major remodel project, the main floor bathroom, hopefully soon. There's trim to be put on, just got done staining tonight and then a closet that needs to have shelves made and installed and that's it, well, I still need to find a window treatment for it but that will have to be an out of town trip so it might just end up being a towel for a while. I am so much more relaxed knowing we are almost done with it. Now, to get the basement organized and dig out the baby stuff. I completely understand the frustration and not being able to relax until it's done. We have so many half projects started here and there, I wish they were all going to be done but that's not going to happen, oh well. I think Kimia is right though, our bodies tend to hold off until we are ready. Here's hoping both of our LO's continue to cook until we can fit their birth into our schedules LOL.

You are so ahead of me, I have nothing packed as a hospital bag (JIC) or my birth kit for at home. The mw gave me a few things yesterday but I really need to get this show on the road. I have yet to locate my baby stuff or clean up the carseat, both of which will be very important if we have a hospital birth. Ugh, how did we get this far along already Biggrin

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Well, last night we worked on getting more of the trim and woodwork stained for the basement. By the time we were done at 11:30pm, my back hurt so bad that I broke down into tears. I laid down in bed fully clothed and immediately fell asleep. About a half hour later, DH woke me up so that I could get ready for bed. I was freaking PISSED that he woke me up. It seems irrational, now, but at the time, I was so tired and in so much pain! I didn't let him know how mad I was... I've generally manged to internalize most of my irrational, hormonal outbursts at home so far this pregnancy - DH has no idea how bed it could really be these days. lol I'll count him as lucky. But when he woke me up, blew his nose so loud he could have woken the dead, and then laid down himself, I could have just punched him in the face. Is that normal?? LOL I think it was made worse by the fact that my back had stiffened up and when I tried to sit up I thought I might die of pain. *sigh*

Now today I'm just exhausted. And we have three more nights of this before we'll be finished. I wish with everything I have that I could quit working right now. I just can't make that work. But if I am going to be this tired every day from this day on for the rest of the pregnancy, I am going to die.

Yes, I know I'm being dramatic... but I'm hungry, tired, and pregnant at the moment, so I'm going with it. lol

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I can completely relate to the feeling of wanting to punch DH in the face at times. Some things my DH does or say are so frustrating...but I try to remember that its not really his fault. I hope that the next couple nights you guys can get your project finished and you can also get some rest. Good job with it all but try not to overdo it! Smile

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Well, last night was a lot better - no desire to punch DH in the face this time... LOL! It was a long, tiring night - I did lots of housework and scrubbed the kitchen, did a few loads of laundry, etc. My feet were swollen up like beach balls, though, so the thought of going out to the garage to help DH with staining the basement woodwork was NOT exciting. Luckily for me, my mom had come over, and was worried about the swelling (even though it's par for the course at this point - I won't argue something that gets me out of doing physical labor right at this point!) so she decided she would go help DH and instructed me to lay down and get my feet up. Well, I got to sit on the couch and fold laundry - that's as close as I could get to laying down. I am severely driven to keep the house clean right now - I can't sit and relax! It's got to the be hard core nesting setting in.

My girls, especially Gabby (one of my 9 year old twins) are really getting cute being excited for the baby. She has started kissing my tummy at night when I tuck her into bed and say goodnight to her - she says she's saying goodnight to the baby. Smile She also keeps asking me if I'm having contractions every time I stop because of movement, or have a pain or something. It's hilarious - but man, it really lets me know that she's watched too much Baby Story on TLC. And I don't even watch that show - she's been watching it this summer with my mom... *roll*

Anyway, nothing else exciting going on. Just waiting impatiently for the basement to get done and to have this little one in my arms...

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This morning when I sat up in bed, you could hear an audible "POP"... it was quite loud in the quiet of the morning. DH said, "OMG, was that your back?" When I replied that no, it was my pelvis, I think he may finally have gotten a small understanding of how uncomfortable and painful the last bit of pregnancy can be. LOL His gasp said it all...

Last night we did some more wood staining, and more laundry. I finally get to bed around midnight. I really need to start making myself go to bed earlier - I'm ready by 9, but am too busy doing housework and stuff that I am always up until midnight or later. It's really taking a toll on me. but the good news is that tomorrow all of the finishing touches go in our new basement - the contractor will be there at 8am to put in all of the oak sills, window and door casings, new doors and baseboards. By the time I get home from work Monday, the carpet will be in, and then we can finally move everything back in and get the baby's room set up. It's a relief to know that we are just three days away from completion. It's relieving a lot of the stress that I have been carrying.

And now that the renovation stress is receding, I am starting to stress about preparing for Baby D to arrive. I realized yesterday that we have spent almost every penny of our savings on the basement project, and there is very little left to get the remaining things that we need for our little guy. Maybe one of the most important things - we have no diapers, yet! We're CDing, and I have no newborn cloth diapers, and only 3 OS diapers. Ummmm, those might be a bit important! So I am thinking that we'll sign up with the local diaper service for the newborn stage, and that should give me about 2-3 months to stock up on the bigger ones. But it all requires moolah... *sigh*

I guess that's really the only immediate MUST HAVE, and really, if it were to come to an emergency, it's not like I couldn't just go out and buy a pack of freaking newborn disposables... lol. I really take things way too seriously sometimes. Everything else is not a deal-breaker - we don't have a crib mattress yet, but we have the co-sleeper, so we're set for the first couple of months in that department. We don't have a changing pad for the changing table yet, but the floor works just fine. We don't have a dresser or even a bar in the closet for the baby's room, yet, but I'm sure he could handle living out of baskets for the first few months. I guess it's all perspective.

We DO have the carseat, stroller, ring sling, my boobs... you know, all of the things that are really important in the first month, besides the diapers. So I should just calm down. But the nesting in me wants to have it all done, you know?

Ahhh, the nesting. Nesting has kicked in full force and I'm driving my DH and kids nuts trying to keep the house sparkly clean. I've spent more time cleaning the bathrooms and kitchen over the last week than I have in the past year. I keep scrubbing the stove over and over, and have scrubbed the upstairs bathroom floor on my hands and knees twice. the only reason that the downstairs bathroom hasn't gotten the same treatment is because the construction dust is ever present, and I know that if I were to scrub it today, it would be filthy again by tomorrow night. So I'm holding back until after Monday...

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I totally understand wanting to have it all done right now. I am the same way. I have already started worrying about converting DH's office into the nursery. I want him to move his stuff out of there and yet we don't even have ANY of the baby furniture to put in there. I think I just worry that if I don't get it done before December, then I will be stressed about Christmas, having a newborn, family visiting, etc... BUT like you, I know it's all in perspective and it will work out just fine. They really don't even need that much stuff.
That's exciting that your basement is pretty much done! That will be nice for when you are laboring!

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Maybe you could take some of your nesting and rub it off on me because I could use a swift kick in the arse as far as scrubbing and getting ready goes. I seriously have NOTHING done and my house is still a disaster. Don't get me wrong, it's driving me crazy but when you kick it into high gear at 9pm even though you want to go to bed, I actually do go to bed when I really should spend at least a couple nights a week being productive. I'm actually getting further behind in my housework because I've picked this time to spend the most time playing with the kiddos instead of doing anything else. LOL! It's bad enough here that I think DH is actually starting to nest since I'm obviously not ROFL

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You are going to post before and after pictures of the basement right?! I can't wait to see what is sucking up so much of your time when you really should be on here chatting the nights away Biggrin

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MomW, ask for Molly Maid to come as a gift for the new Mommy! Spending time with kiddos is nothing to be feeling guilty about!

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"gardenbug" wrote:

MomW, ask for Molly Maid to come as a gift for the new Mommy! Spending time with kiddos is nothing to be feeling guilty about!

haha, she probably will but she's aka my mom! my mother cleans houses for a living and spent two days last week just getting the drywall and plaster dust cleaned up from the last 8 months worth of remodeling. I have no doubt she'll be here again after the LO arrives to get the house in order if I request it. She's quite amazing like that Smile There is still so much organizing to be done around here. The day we moved in I found out I was pregnant, spent the first few months puking my guts up and the next few months ear deep in a remodel and now I'm just too tired to finish getting everything in order. My basement looks like an episode from hoarders because we had to pack and move so quickly I didn't have time to go through things like I should have. Oh well, if Melissa shares her nesting urge with me I might be able to make this work LOL. I'm really hoping mine will kick in soon!!!

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cracks me up that your DD has been watching Baby Story! She needs some natural birth videos to watch though. Baby Story isn't exactly the greatest educator on normal birth LOL There's always some drama going on!

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A very belated welcome to your lodge! I love your birth and DH stories. Biggrin

How awesome that the renovations are almost done! We just moved into our house about 7 months ago and while it's turn key, there's stuff we'd like to change. I am just terrified of doing it with a new baby on the way as I get stressed easily over that stuff.

I can so understand wanting to have everything purchased and ready for baby now. I think the diaper service is a great idea to help get through the first couple months. I didn't use one with DD but that's one less thing to think about. A lot of diaper sites have buy 4 get 1 free sales and things like that. If you're open to prefolds and covers, that can save a lot of money too.

I hope your pelvis feels better. I winced just reading your description of the popping sensation. How cute and sweet of your DD to be kissing your tummy and asking about contractions!

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"azin_may" wrote:

cracks me up that your DD has been watching Baby Story! She needs some natural birth videos to watch though. Baby Story isn't exactly the greatest educator on normal birth LOL There's always some drama going on!

haha, Agreed! I seriously cannot stomach that show anymore. But it is really adorable that she knows what's going on and is concerned, I love it! My 14 year old daughter is less interested than my 4 year old DS in what's going on with the baby.

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You sound so much like me in my previous pregnancies! This time I'm much more laid back. I have no idea why... but I do keep wondering if it's going to hit me all of the sudden and I'll have a TON of "catching up" to do with housework, etc.
I'd love to see pics of your remodel too!

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"momW" wrote:

You are going to post before and after pictures of the basement right?! I can't wait to see what is sucking up so much of your time when you really should be on here chatting the nights away Biggrin

I will! I was MIA again this weekend while we finished it all up!! The carpet goes in today while DH is home - I can't wait to get home this afternoon and see it!! I think that tonight will be spent touching up paint, and hanging curtains. I guess we can't move any furniture in until after 24 hours, so that will have to wait until Tuesday.

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Maybe you could take some of your nesting and rub it off on me because I could use a swift kick in the arse as far as scrubbing and getting ready goes.

I'd share if I could! Let me try - POOF! Did it work? ROFL

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cracks me up that your DD has been watching Baby Story! She needs some natural birth videos to watch though. Baby Story isn't exactly the greatest educator on normal birth LOL There's always some drama going on!

OOH, ladies, I agree with the opinion on Baby Story - I keep telling her to quit watching that show but she doesn't listen! LOL The problem is that my mom watches that show and she watches my kids during the summer. I told her to quit letting my kids watch that junk and she just laughed... *sigh*

"momof5sweeties" wrote:

You sound so much like me in my previous pregnancies! This time I'm much more laid back. I have no idea why... but I do keep wondering if it's going to hit me all of the sudden and I'll have a TON of "catching up" to do with housework, etc.

Believe me - it snuck up on me! I had NO nesting going on - but all of the sudden I started cleaning everything like a fiend - and it's a daily occurrence, now, that I have a minor freakout on my girls because they keep remessing up the house!! ROFL! I finally realized it was nesting. I asked DH if he'd noticed that I'd become a bit...um... crazy about cleaning, and he said, "NO! NOT AT ALL!!" in that way that men use when they can't lie, but know better than to say anything... ROFL I love that man...

So this weekend was crazy, as usual. Friday night we worked on the basement stuff, as usual. Then Saturday was my youngest DD's 8th birthday party. Her birthday isn't until August 7th, but since that was getting kind of close to my due date, I really wanted to make sure that we wouldn't have to worry about her missing out because I was in labor or something. So we had a party at an indoor inflatables place - she had a blast! At one point I decided to go get in the huge jumping inflatable and was jumping away - it was so much freaking fun! Then Gabby (one of my twins) came in to jump and asked me what I was doing in there, and I told her I was trying to bounce the baby out - HAHA! She looked at me with huge, wide eyes and said, "mom, you CAN'T DO THAT, you're NOT IN THE HOSPITAL!!" :ROLF: OMG, I was cracking up SO hard!! Now if only I could get her to understand that labor is not instantaneous, we'll be good. LOL

Sunday I spent cleaning and watching the Olympics... and then I went downstairs to lay tile in front of the garage door and sliding glass door. WOW, was that tough to be on my hands and knees for that long... I couldn't sit on my rear because when I do I can't sit forward at all. So I couldn't lay the tile any other way, and DH has never done it before so he was nervous about getting it right. LOL

And now it's Monday and I am so depressed to be at work. Lol I keep telling myself that in a couple of weeks I will have worked my last day for three months... but it's not helping. lol In general I'm feeling pretty good today, though. I had a few contractions this weekend, but nothing significant, so I figure I've got a while yet. Which is fine since I told Baby D that he has to stay in until AT LEAST next Monday so I can get everything settled at home, and at work. We'll see how well he listens! Wink

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Wow! You are so busy! I couldnt imagine laying tiles 37 weeks pregnant. Good for you!

Try to remember to sit down every once in awhile though, or that baby just might not wait till you are ready Smile

Oh, and with all that hands and knees, I bet baby is in a great position!

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I'm so glad DD's party went well. I love your daughter's reaction at bouncing the baby out lol. Cudos on laying tile at 37 weeks! I agree with Kyla that I'd be sure to take some breaks when you. I know I just want to plow through things when I get started on something, especially when it comes to cleaning/house projects.

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WOW - you are really on top of things and active! I felt great last week (we were on holiday), but this past weekend I just feel like a slug. The only reason I look forward to work is that it's air conditionned!

Here's to another couple weeks (or less) feeling great!

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Lots of action going on at your house. Just remember to take a break and relax once in a while. Wink

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good for you keeping so active! I'm totally lazy lately!
I hope you continue to feel great for the remainder of your pregnancy and then have a wonderful time at home with your baby Biggrin

I'm like your Mom, I can't help but watch Baby Story. I know I shouldn't but I can't help it. It's a love/hate relationship! hahaha

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"azin_may" wrote:

good for you keeping so active! I'm totally lazy lately!
I hope you continue to feel great for the remainder of your pregnancy and then have a wonderful time at home with your baby Biggrin

Ah, it's not as great as you think... If you knew how physically wrecked I was right now... *sigh* I've just gotten to the point that I have to push through the pain because it just HAS to be done. I say a little prayer every night that I'll still be able to walk the next day... Lol

So last night I got home from work to a wonderfully gorgeous, carpeted finished basement! YAY! As promised, here are a couple of before and after pics...

BEFORE:


And AFTER!





There are still a few things to do - all but one of the actual doors still need to be stained, the closet doors need to be mounted in the baby's room, and we're missing one piece of door casing trip around the garage door. Last night we touched up the walls in the baby's room, and tonight I'll touch up the walls in the family room (there were a lot of scratches and gouges in the new walls after all of the finish work and carpet were done). We even moved a bit of furniture in last night - it's awesome. Smile It's now the warmest feeling, most comfortable, snuggly place in the entire house!

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So yesterday was interesting. I got an email from my chiropractor that she has just noticed that we didn't have another appointment scheduled until August 9th, and that I should try to get in this week. It's been 2 weeks since I've been in, and I thought that it was a super long time to go between appointments, but she's the one who said when we needed to schedule the next one, so I think that maybe she accidentally skipped over a week in her appointment book when we set it. LOL So THANK GOD I am able to go in earlier. With everything I've been doing, I really need to be adjusted. I can't even sit today without being in pain. Unfortunately, she couldn't get me in until Thursday. But that's still better that a week from Thursday!

Then when I was leaving work, I got a text from my birth buddy on the August board that she was in labor and later she had her baby, so that was exciting! Then, of course, having the carpet finally in the basement was exciting... and THEN DH brought the crib in the house and we put it up in the baby's room! It was so nice to see that we were finally making headway on getting things ready! :woohoo:

Unfortunately, the crib, which is a hand me down from my exSIL, was FILTHY. I'm not sure how a crib gets so full of dirt, food, sticky crap, etc! I've never, ever, ever had food or drinks or anything like that in any of my cribs before... who does that??? So my mom (who had come over to see the basement) and I spent the next 2 hours scrubbing the thing. Then, as we were putting it all together, we realized there was a piece missing - a bar that holds the spring platform on... we hope we can get a replacement part for it, but if not, we'll have to go buy a new crib and all of this work was for nothing. *sigh*

When I finally sat down in a chair for the first time around11:30, I had the first "big girl" contraction that I've ever felt! I've had some tightening, and braxton-hicks, but nothing that actually was uncomfortable and made me stop and pay attention! I barely felt anything with either of my previous labors, and even the contractions that I DID feel with DD2's labor were all more like menstrual cramps in my back... not "uterine" feeling... so it was very strange, and actually a bit scary! I think I even scared DH a bit because he was sitting there with me and when I told him what was happening, he immediately brought me some water and seemed a bit nervous. LOL So I'm thinking it may be time to really start taking it easy. I'm not ready for this little guy to come quite yet - I need just 1 more week, at least, to get the rest of the stuff in order!

Anyway, I'm babbling... but that's nothing new...

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How fantastic. It really is a new home! It will make the upstairs feel different to have other places for things. The 'traffic flow' will be all new.

The crib issue is a pain. All that time and energy for something that may not work out. Maybe you could phone around for that one part instead of driving everywhere to look...

Most of all, settle down now and let others do the work. I well remember DH sanding floors with a friend while I was in the hospital! It was a great surprise when i returned 3 days later. I hope the chiropractor is a huge help.

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Great pictures! After all your hard work, it has finally paid off. Great job to you and your DH for getting that all done. It must be such a relief to have that almost completely finished.

Very strange about the dirty crib. I never had food or anything in my babies room or by the crib or anything so I can't figure that one out. I hope you can find a replacement part so it wasn't for nothing.

You really need to start taking it easy. Slow down and breathe, and try to take breaks more often. Hope the chiropractor helps also.

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