Welcome to your lodge!
Yay!! I'm so excited, this is my very first lodge!! I'm off to put kids to bed, and relax a little, but will do an intro (hopefully) tomorrow!
Welcome to your lodge, Tina! Can't wait to hear your story!
Yay! Welcome to your lodge! So close now.
Busy, busy, busy cleaning the house today. I'll try to get my intro written in bits and pieces, whenever I need a little break.
I'm going to start waaayyyy back in 1996. I had gotten married to my high school sweetheart in March, at the very young age of 18yrs (+ a month and a day!). We had been planning our wedding for about a year, and had been "not preventing" for longer than I care to admit on a public forum... We found out we were pregnant in April, and I was thrilled! I have always, as far back as I can remember, wanted to be a mommy.
Thanksgiving day I woke up around 5a.m. to pee... again. As I was trying to fall back asleep, I thought I felt a contraction. I kept dozing in and out of sleep, checking the clock as I'd wake up to my belly tightening and cramping. When there was an obvious pattern, I woke up my husband. We spent the next couple hours timing contractions and getting ready to head to the hospital. I think it was around 11a-12p when we got there. The details are pretty foggy now, but I stayed in the bed, or rocking chair the entire time I labored. At some point, my OB broke my water, and had put an internal monitor in baby's scalp. There were no real discussions about why, he just said he wanted to, and I agreed. When I would have a contraction I would just breathe through them. I didn't really want anyone touching me or talking to me. Sometime shortly after 4:00, the nurse checked my cervix and asked me if I have been having any pushy feelings. Before she finished the question, I felt the incredible urge to bear down. She then told me the Dr had just left to go baste his Thanksgiving turkey! She had him paged, and started prepping the room for delivery. I tried not to push, like she instructed, but my body just took over. Baby was crowning when my OB came rushing into the room. He had just enough time to get gloves on, and catch her. Danielle Kathleen was born on November 28, 1996 4:29pm at 39w, 0days, weighing 6lbs, 4oz. She was perfect. I was proud of her.
Now older and more experienced, I am so proud of what I did. I had, at 18yrs young brought a baby into this world with no pain meds! I know at the time I didn't really realize how amazing that was. All I knew was that sh!t hurt, and whenever the nurses asked me if I wanted something for the pain, I kept thinking there was no way tylenol was going to help. They just needed to leave me alone to get through it. I had no idea what options were available, and for that I am thankful.
I love that story!
I really don't get why they tell women to try not to push. If the doctor isn't ready, that's kinda his problem. With ds2, I was afraid we might not be able to get to the hospital on time, so I read up on unassisted birth. One of the first instructions given (including to firefighters and the like) is never to tell the mom to try to "hold it in." It was really weird to see how much hospital procedures differ from unassisted delivery instructions.
Anyway, awesome story! Can't wait to read the rest!
My husband and I had decided that we wanted to try to have our kids about 3 years apart. So, around the time Dani turned 2, we started TTC. It only took a couple months, and we were expecting in October 1999! I was doing licensed daycare in my home. One Friday afternoon, I had laid down on the couch to rest while the kids were all napping. When it was time to start getting them up (about 4pm), I sat up on the couch and felt a pop in my belly. When I stood up there was some leaking, and I knew it was delivery day. As the daycare parents arrived to pick up their kiddos, I made sure to let them know my maternity leave was starting on Monday. I don't really remember when the contractions started, but I had plenty of time to eat dinner, shower, finish getting things ready, etc. And off we went to the hospital... contractions were not very close, but I was told to go in because my water had broken. After a short time being monitored, my OB was not satisfied at the rate which things were progressing. I was given pitocin to speed it up. These contractions were so much harder than I had remembered, but I kept declining pain meds. I knew if I had made it through dd's birth without meds, I could do it again! I got through it all the same way I had the first time. Focus and breathing, inside myself, in the rocking chair or bed. I had a male nurse for this labor, and he had just done a routine cervix check and announced that I was 6-7cm. Only a few more hours to go! Very shortly after he left the room, I told my mom I felt like I wanted to push. She knew from her own deliveries, as well as mine with dd, that I was probably not mistaken, and baby was on the way, now!... someone (there were about 4-5 family members/friends "keeping me company" at this time) pushed the nurse call button. The room cleared out, and the nurse casually made his way in. He didn't believe that I was pushing already until he got his glove on to check me, and there was baby's head already on it's way out! He panicked, and ran away to get help! That worried me, but my mom reassured me that it was OK, that we could do it without any help. The nurse came back with another (more experienced) nurse. And she calmly caught my baby boy as she tried to calm down my nurse. They then proceeded with setting up the room and checking baby. Within a short time my doctor came in and laughed because he was "late to the party"! Ryan Richard was born on October 2, 1999 2:08am at 38w, 0days, weighing 7lbs, 5oz. My sweet little girl now had a baby brother!
It wasn't until years later that I learned that pit contrax are harder than natural ones. Aha! That's why this labor seemed so difficult compared to my first! Once again, I'm thankful for my lack of knowledge. I might have caved and accepted some pain meds had I known it was truly harder, and not just my imagination. But I kept on keeping on because I had made it through once before!
Baby fever kicked in less than 2 years later, and we were back to TTC. It happened quickly again, and my husband and I were excited to be due in mid May 2002. About 11:45 one Saturday night, as I was getting out of bed (to pee, haha!), I felt that familiar popping sensation, followed by quite a gush of fluid. I told my husband, and he made the call for his dad to come and stay with the kids, so we could head to the hospital. I figured this would be like last time, and I had hours to go. I got into the shower I was already having good contractions, but didn't realize how good, or how fast they were coming. I took my time relaxing and shaving in the shower! When I got out, and finished getting ready, my FIL was there already. So, off we went. The 15 minute ride to the hospital was pretty brutal. The contractions felt like they were coming one on top of another, and STRONG! We pulled into the parking lot at 1:14am. While checking in, first at the ER, then at the L&D desk, I kept my happy face on, and quietly breathed through the pain. A nurse brought me to a room, instructed me to change clothes, and pee in a cup. I went into the bathroom, changed. As soon as I sat down to pee, I felt a ton of pressure, followed by that pushing urge. I told my husband something was happening, and he called the nurse. She came into the room and was irritated that I didn't pee in the cup, then she tried to strap the monitor on me!! I politely argued with her, trying to convince her that baby was coming. My husband then told her that I did in fact have fast deliveries, and she should check me. When she did, she was shocked that there was a baby well on his way out! My OB had just gotten to the hospital, and was rushed into the room (in his street clothes) just in time for my son to make his way into the world. Coleton Robert was born on May 5, 2002 1:29am at 38w, 5days, weighing 7lbs, 3oz. Just 15 minutes after pulling into the hospital parking lot. He came in a hurry, but was very healthy and so alert!
After his birth, all the nurses on the floor were talking about how calm I was when I had arrived. No one would have guessed I was that close to delivering. They screened Cole's blood for drugs, because of the speedy delivery. Of course it came back clean, but that really pi#*ed me off. I was concerned about GBS, (I had tested + when pregnant with my dd, and was supposed to automatically be given antibiotics with every delivery) because there was no time for meds during labor. The nurses said "ohh, it's no big deal, we'll just watch him for signs of infection". These 2 things really made me start questioning the routine medical approach to birth. This made me want to learn more about why they do certain things.
Very cool stories! I love that you thought they were offering you pain meds like Tylenol.
Ugh why do some nurses think they know everything though? They seem to think their patients don't know what they are talking about. If someone says they need to push, they probably need to push darn it.
Can't wait to read more!
That's hilarious the nurse panicked and high five to your mom for being so supportive and awesome!
Way to birth some babies. I love your birth stories. So happy you have some great support in your family.
A belated welcome to your lodge! I love your story. How funny that the doctor had stepped out to baste his turkey hah! What a blessing in disguise about the medication thing.
ETA: I just realized you posted your next two birth stories too. How awesome and fast your births have gone. I would have been furious about the screening for drugs too. As if a woman can't be calm and centered for birth!
Great stories! I love the name Coleton.
Really awesome stories! I think you are pretty much the only person I have ever heard of being uninformed being a good thing in birth! But it did really work for you!!
Can't wait to read the rest!
Loving all the stories so far Tina! Can't wait to hear the rest.
Thanks for all the comments. I need to figure out how to do the multi-quote thing on here... It is pretty backwards that my lack of knowledge worked to my advantage. I think that was only possible because the nurses thought I knew more than I did? And the whole "don't push" thing is just crazy! So many people have been told that though! I like to think I was pretty controlled during my deliveries, but there did come a point where I was putting in no effort to push. My body just did it, there was no way I could've stopped it.
I've officially finished my super clean of the house, packed most of my birth center bag, and picked up a bassinet from a friend last night. Those were the last things I needed to get done. Baby girl now has my permission to arrive whenever she's ready! In the meantime, I'll try to finish my intro, and then move on to the smaller things I wanted to get done before her arrival.
Fast forward to 2004. Again deciding we were ready to add to our family, we were blessed with pregnancy #4 very quickly. I was really ready for another girl this time, but our 20 week ultrasound showed our September baby would be our 3rd boy. I wasn't too disappointed because I wanted a big family anyway, so maybe next time! With how fast Cole's birth went, my OB and I shared the concern that I could have this one in the car, so my induction was scheduled. On the big day, I arrived at the hospital early in the morning (I think it was either 6 or 7am), and got all settled into my room. We started with pitocin, and my body responded pretty quickly. By this point, I was very confident in my labor and delivery skills, and my OB's knowledge of my history. Things moved along well, the laboring went pretty much the same as the others. I just tuned into my body and relaxed through the contractions. Again, staying in the bed or rocking chair. When I was dilated enough, the Dr. went ahead and broke my water. I had a few more intense contractions, and asked the nurse to check me. I was at 5 or 6. She had obviously been well informed about my history, because she immediately let my Dr. know, began prepping the room and breaking down the bed! The Dr. came in started suiting up, and there were those pushing sensations. This was such a different feeling, having everything and everyone ready and waiting when it was time! It was nice and calm. I pushed just a few times and William James was born. September 15, 2006 12:09pm at 39w, 0days, weighing 7lbs, 5oz. Liam fit right into our family, like he had always been there.
Over the next year, my marriage starting really seeming shaky. My husband and I had become 2 different people than we were as teenagers when we fell in love. We didn't share the same priorities in life. I began to feel like the kids and I just lived our own life, and tried to stay out of his way. I felt like he saw us as a burden, always loud and busy when he just wanted to sleep, watch tv, or spend time on the computer. I did my best to keep this hidden from everyone, because I wanted to be the exception to teenage romance, and stay with him forever. But there came a point when friends would ask me if I was going to have more kids, and I started responding with "not with him!". I played it off like I was teasing, but in my heart I knew he was not the kind of man I wanted my sons to be.
I was still breastfeeding Liam, but he was over a year old, and eating table foods too. I was going to switch from the mini pill to some other form of bc, but was busy being a mom, and just hadn't made the appointment yet. In the meantime, we were using condoms. But, you know... it only takes once, one night of too lazy, too quick, or whatever... A few weeks later, I realized I was late. I told myself it was probably due to breastfeeding, hormone changes, stress, etc., but I took a test to "ease my mind", hahaha! It was very positive. My reaction was "Sh!t.", his was "are you f---ing kidding me?!". We were shocked, scared, angry with each other and ourselves. I cried a lot in the early weeks of pregnancy. This was the kind of thing that happened to unwed, inexperienced people. Not a responsible, mature couple with 4 kids. I also felt like I was cheating Liam out of his babyhood.
At the end of my 1st tri, I started to come around, maybe even let myself get a little excited. I had convinced myself that this baby was a girl. There was no way I'd be given this surprise pregnancy, and it would be another boy, right? Well, wrong. The ultrasound told us we were having boy #4! I cried some more. Knowing this was probably my last baby, (unless someday my husband and I did split up, and I remarried a man who wanted more kids with the crazy divorced mother of 5, riiiighhht, like that would ever happen!) I had to grieve the baby girl I had hoped for. I had to come to terms with the fact that my daughter would never have a sister.
Ok, enough sadness! So what if my life was not turning out to be exactly what I had planned?! It was amazing anyway, and I am an expert improviser!! I was going to have another baby, and that was awesome! Come on unexpected little son, let's take this life of yours and make it magnificent! My due date this time was just 2 years and 2 days after Liam's. I thought it would be super cool if my boys shared a birthday, but what are the chances of that?! Wellll... the night before Liam's birthday, my sister and I took our kids on a hike at the local nature center. We joked about it being an attempt at putting me into labor. I went home feeling fine. I thought I'd try some nipple stimulation and see what might happen. It did indeed start some great contractions! I got bored with it after an hour or so, and wondered if I stopped, would the contractions? They did peter out, and I went to bed. But, sometime between 12 & 1 am, they came back. Not very strong, not very regular, but definitely there. I got up to go to the bathroom, and guess what?! My water broke! It was now very clear that this little guy would in fact share a birthday with his big brother! My husband and I knew the drill. He called his dad, and we headed into the hospital as soon as FIL got to our house. Our labor time at the hospital was almost identical to my 1st, 2nd, and 4th babies. Although, things were seeming to drag on (probably because we were tired), so I agreed to pitocin again. My body didn't seem to respond as quickly as it had the last time, but eventually I got to that 5-6cm point, and once again my Dr. and his staff knew just what to do with me. The delivery was eerily similar to Liam's. Calm, exciting, 2-3 pushes, and there he was. Mason David was born September 15, 2006 8:48am at 38w, 5days, weighing 5lbs, 14oz. My tiniest baby, but he has the biggest personality!
...Off to make lunch. I WILL get this done today!
Woohoo! You made it through all my birth stories!! Now, moving on to how I got to here, from there...
Jason and I knew of each other, and had met a few times, years ago when we were teens. In Dec 2009 (right smack in the middle of my marriage ending) we happened to be at the same restaurant, at the same time, and I recognized him. I sat down and talked with him while we waited to get our tables. I told him I'd look him up on facebook, so we could stay in touch. I did just that later that day, and we started chatting a lot. He had been through divorce before, and was a great listener. We got together a couple times with my boys and his son. Over the next few months we became very close, closer than I wanted, close enough that the feelings I was having for him scared me. At the end of April 2010 I had made the final decision to file for divorce. I was very much looking forward to starting a new life, and excited about the chance to be single, and explore other fish in the sea, haha. Maybe that would help with these feelings? On May 1st, after learning of my decision, Jason said to me something along the lines of "now that you're on your way to officially single, can we be in a relationship?" I explained my concerns to him, and found out he was feeling the same toward me that I was him. We both didn't want to lose out on something that seemed to have such amazing potential, so we agreed to give it a try as long as we remained very open and honest about our feelings every step of the way. Of course when you both feel this way about each other, there really is no taking it slow. We fell hard and fast. He proposed to me spontaneously in the drive thru at LeeAnn Chin one night in August, with a plastic ring from the top of a Gatorade bottle! It was kind of a joke thing, but really we both wanted to be married someday. Him sooner than me. We also both wanted to have a child together, someday. Me sooner than him. We'd occasionally bring up one or the other of those subjects, and I kept saying I wanted to get married when it felt right, and it just wasn't time. And he wasn't completely sold on TTC yet.
Last fall he said he was ready for us to have a child together. By that time, I was having second thoughts. Our life was so great, and I worried about how it would change. But, in Oct, my IUD was expiring. I was still undecided as to whether I'd have it replaced or not. As I left for the appointment, he said "surprise me!". I opted not to get another. In January we got our BFP! At 15weeks we found out we would be having a GIRL!
In June, at a prenatal appt., the midwife asked if we were getting married before or after baby was born (because the paperwork is different for unmarried vs married parents). We told her we weren't sure, I was just waiting until it felt right. After that appt, we talked about that conversation, and I said I was ready. And the planning began... 3 weeks later, on 7/7/12 we were married under a waterfall. Our kids performed the ceremony. The only other people there were our parents, and 2 friends. It was very intimate, very perfect.
And here we are... Tina 34, & Jason 36. Expecting my 6th, his 6th, our 1st. We have my 5 kids, and his son full time. We run our own web development/technology business from home. I also recently started working part time as a breastfeeding counselor for WIC. Everyone in the house is so excited about this new baby. They love feeling her move, and all the kids, and J have been trying to convince her it's time to come out!
I am due the 25th, which is just 1 & 3 days after my last 2 boys' due dates. I am really hoping baby girl will share a birthday with them as well! Just one week away. I've been feeling pretty good. I have my usual morning sickness, alllll pregnancy long. I wake up, throw up, and get on with my day. And I had some pre-e symptoms, but just tweaked a couple things in my routine, and they seem to be improving a little. We really wanted a homebirth, and started looking into our options, but just couldn't make it happen financially. It seemed the next best thing was a birth center. So far I'm pretty happy with the care. I love that they encourage each family to make their own decisions about every little thing. The birth center we chose is about 20-30 minutes from our house, so hopefully we'll make it there in time!
Sorry this is all so long! I just started typing and it just kept going... I should look for some pics to share to break up all the reading.
That's so sweet that your kids performed the ceremony! What's your birth plan?
Wow, Tina! What a story. And it's amazing that you both had 5 kids before meeting each other. I mean, families that big aren't that common these days anyway... and you two found each other! And you guys have the 4/1 thing going on, but just opposite... you're like the real life Brady bunch. This little girl will be such a blessed little creature coming into such a big family that are all so excited about her!
And how wonderful that you're having a girl again. Seems perfect... like it was meant to be! Your daughters will have quite the age gap... but who knows... maybe it'll be the perfect gap for them to be very close!
Is it crazy to you that you've been having babies for 15 years? I mean, I know it's not like you've had one every year or anything... but I guess, I know my birthing years will only last 6-8 years max (well, most likely... that is the plan!). Are you guys done after this one, or are you open to the possibility that there might be a second child for you together?
I really like the idea of a water birth, but not sure if I'll still like it while I'm in labor. I'm just going to do whatever feels good at the time. We plan on J catching baby no matter where the birth takes place. Other than that, the plan is just going natural.
I look at my dd's personality now, and I think it really is perfect timing for her to be having a sister. She has always had a pretty selfish personality, which makes me think she wouldn't have had a great relationship with a sister close to her age. She's just starting to mature enough to realize her ways, and think about others.
I did have a 5+ year break in there, lol. It is crazy to me how long I've been at this making babies thing! We are planning to TTC asap after baby is born. And if we don't conceive fairly quickly (within a year, probably), we'll more than likely be done.
Today seems like a good day to have a baby, yeah?! Water broke about an hour ago! (perfectly clear!) Contractions are mild, but coming every few minutes. Wish me luck.
Good luck Tina!!!
Oh wow. Good luck. Cant wait to hear how it goes. Good thing you made it through your birth stories. Lol. I hope you have an easy labor.
Your entire story is about good luck in your life. I have no doubt this will be a wonderful experience for your blended family!
Tina is in a FB group with me so I will post her updates as she gives them to us, since its easier for her to do on her phone. So from Tina just a few min ago.
"Contractions are 5ish mins apart, and we are 30? Mins still from the birth center. Thanks to a.m. Rush hour!"
I hope everything goes very smoothly. How exciting to start with your water breaking.
Not much longer. Thanks for the update Amber.
ELV's! I hope it all goes perfectly
Oh wow! Good luck, Tina! Though it doesn't seem you need it. You rock birth- I just hope you get there in time!
Yay! Sending lots of ELVs!!
I also enjoyed reading the rest of your story. I know you had some big ups & big downs but it seems like all had worked out in such an amazing way for you and your family.
GL and ELV!
From Tina about an hour ago!
Ivy Jae arrived at 10:25 am cst. 5lbs 13ozs, 20" we are both doing great, and on our way home.
Yay. I cant wait to hear the story. I hope it went wonderfully. Get some rest mama.
Congrats and WTTW Ivy!!
Congrats!! WTTW Ivy!! What a sweet picture! She is beautiful!
Yay Congratulations!! You got your baby girl.
Thanks so much for all the luck, and elv's, and the congrats too! It was a perfect birth! I'm going to try to get back over here later today to catch up, and catch you up on us. Feeling a little dizzy right now though, so gotta get some iron, and sleep first!
I have no idea where the last week went!
Ivy's arrival was perfect. I haven't taken the time to write out a whole nice birth story yet, but the short story is... My water broke at 4am. Contractions started pretty much right away, but were very mild and irregular. I woke J about 6. Then took a bath (and shaved my legs & bikini area!). We left for the birth center about 7, still mild contrax. Stopped at Caribou, then got stuck in morning rush hour. Finally arrived at the birth center about 8:30. They hooked me up to the monitor for a little while, just to be sure Ivy was reacting well to the contrax. Midwife checked my cervix about 9am, only a 3. That was a little disappointing, but knowing my history of quick deliveries, they got me into our room, and left us alone(myself, Jason and Danielle (my 15 yr old)). Things went pretty quick after that! Contractions got closer and stronger, Jason kept telling me to get in the tub before it was too late. I was trying to make it to 10am, so as not to slow things down. I got in the tub right at 10, had a few good contractions, then one great one where I felt Ivy moving down. I told Danielle to go get the midwife, so she could check me again, but the next contraction Ivy was crowning as the midwife walked into the room. 2 more pushes and Ivy Jae was born Sept. 10, 2012 at 10:25am into her daddy's hands underwater, with her big sister watching. She was 5lbs, 13oz & 20" long. It was amazing. She was so calm, and still is. Unless she's hungry. We need to work on the whole night and day thing. I don't remember being this tired with my other babies. Maybe it's because I'm older this time?
She's a great eater. We had some latch difficulties mostly because she's so little and my boobs... ummmm... are not! But we are working it out just fine. We had an appt Tues, Ivy was 8 days old, and her weight was 5lbs, 9oz. The goal is to get her up to birth weight by 2 weeks.
We are all just crazy about this girl. The boys are so sweet with her. And Jason is an absolutely amazing dad!
Lovely story to read...short and so sweet!
Congrats & it sounds like it went absolutely perfect. She's beautiful!
I'm glad that everything went so smoothly. She looks like a keeper!
Oh my goodness! What a cute little peanut!! So glad the birth went so well. Sounds like a dream!
She is so sweet! Sounds like a great birth too! Congratulations!
What an awesome birth story! I love her name. She is such a beautiful little peanut!