Welcome to your lodge Amber!
Can't wait to follow you on your journey!
Yay! This is my 3rd lodge, but hopefully the first one that I'm able to stick with and get it off the ground!
I cannot believe I'm already 37 weeks with this baby! It seems like last week that I realized my period was late and took a pregnancy test on the Thursday before Mother's Day and got a big blaring PREGNANT on the EPT digital test. We weren't trying, and that is new for us because it took almost a year of serious trying to conceive Evan, and then it took a year and a half of trying to get Lindy. We had fertility testing done before we conceived her and it turned out that my husband had issues. I cannot remember now what his numbers were, but the fertility doc at the time told us that we would need IUI in order to become pregnant. Not having $400/cycle to do that, I did research and put my husband on supplements. We were pregnant with our daughter soon after, and then with this baby, my husband had started taking them again so when we were ready to start trying, he'd be where he needed to be health wise. Well, it turned out that he was just fine because we got pregnant with this baby without trying at all. That was nice, because all that trying was so hard and I hated it.
So...by my LMP, my due date is 1/15, but my OB did an early ultrasound this pregnancy and he changed my due date to 1/9, which I think is more likely anyway since I delivered my other two babies at 39 weeks. Speaking of my other two, Evan is 5 and Lindy is 2. Both of them were born in free standing birthing centers with midwives. With my son, we had CNM's, and with my daughter, we had CPM's. Comparing the two, I liked the second experience better because it was less medical, even though my daughter's birth experience was significantly harder than my son's.
With this baby, we have different insurance, and they refused to cover a birth center birth as in-network, even though our previous insurance covered it with a "gap exception" since I didn't have an in-network birth center available to me. Aetna was great to work with. Now I have BCBS, and they are horrible. I was told that there are many hospitals and obstetricians who can provide the "same service" as a birthing center, and if I choose to go out of network to a birthing center then by all means I can, but it will only be covered as out of network, which we have a $4000 deductible, instead of only $2000 if it were in network. We appealed it 3 times, and I even did an online petition which got over 100 signatures, but in the end, they wouldn't change their decision. I decided to have a homebirth initially for cost reasons, but in the end, I'm really glad that we're having the baby here at home so I don't have to worry about going anywhere during labor, or after the baby is born.
Tomorrow is my husband's last day at work until January 2 (his company shuts down for an entire week at Christmas and they pay their employees for all but 13 hours of that time, so my hubby only had to use 13 hours of vacation time. I'm really looking forward to having him at home to help me get this house in shape for this baby to arrive! My only concern is that my son had the croup this week and now my daughter's nose is getting runny and I'm starting to feel a little runny nose coming on myself. We've all been taking high doses of vitamin c, and also vitamin d3, echinacea and zinc. Today I stopped and picked up some homeopathic cold remedies that I sincerely hope works! I need this crap out of my house pronto! If anyone else has tips on anything we could take or anything we could do to strengthen our immune systems, I'm all ears. I have cancelled my birthday dinner (my bday is on Friday) to keep us from getting exposed to anything (and since Evan isn't back up to speed yet) and we're not going to be going to church any more until flu season is over. This is my first winter time baby and I have to say, I'm not normally a germ-a-phobe, but this year it's getting to me a bit. I guess I need to have more faith that God will keep us healthy and make sure this baby isn't born until we are all on the mend.
Sounds similar to my pregnancy story! And insurance change!
Welcome to your lodge!
Is it because I'm 31 now (I was 25 when Evan was born), or is it because I have 2 kids already, or is something different about this pregnancy that means I won't go as long as I did with the previous two? This feels a lot different.
Every time I stand up, there is so much pressure in my pelvic region. I get SO tired at the littlest activity and I feel HUGE! My kids tend to be large (9lb 12oz and 9lb 15oz) so it's no surprise that this one might be big too. I just don't remember feeling like this. I've also been having some contractions, which I think really are more contraction than BH's. Nothing regular, but a few times an hour definitely. I'm not in a rush really to go into labor, because my MW is on vacation until Christmas Day (she's actually out of the country) and my kids are under the weather, so it really would be better if I waited.
Sleeping at night is miserable. For the past 3 nights I've been wide awake from 1am-5am. I tried to take a nap today and that lasted all of 15 minutes before I was awake again. I'm thinking about taking some benedryl tonight but don't really want to because that just tends to make me feel drunk. If anyone has any recommendations on something that can help me sleep, I'm all for hearing it.
Christmas Eve and we didn't go anywhere because my kiddos are sick. They both have ear infections (their first EVER) and some sort of lower respiratory gunk. I'm taking tons of vitamin C every day, along with Vitamin D3, echinacea and some other things to help keep me from getting it. I hate we had to stay at home because for almost every other Christmas in my 31 years of life, I've spent it with my family at my grandma's house. This year was important because it was my nephew's first Christmas, and our first "real" Christmas without my grandpa. He passed away of pancreatic cancer right before Christmas last year, so we kind of all hated the holidays last year and ignored them.
If it weren't for the symphysis pubis dysfunction, I'd be feeling pretty good these days. Today it went from being really sore, to kind of a burning feeling which totally isn't pleasant at all. For some reason my groin muscles hurt, but I haven't been squatting because that makes the SPD worse. And, it feels like baby Darian is trying to kick his way through my abdomen, and that was all kind of unpleasant while I was cooking dinner this evening. I finally put ice on the center of my belly just to make him move.
Happily, my MW is back in the country so labor can start anytime and I'll have her by my side. The other kids were born at 39 weeks and 39 weeks 3 days, so I wonder what this little boy will do?
Maybe try the free hypnobabies relax track (on their website for download) to help you sleep? It definitely helped me at times!
Sorry to hear your kids are sick - hope they're better soon.
I'd add more but I'm nak. Not too much longer!!!
Yeah I've tried the hypnobabies track. It does help me fall asleep but I think I'd need it on continuous loop all night to keep me asleep. Thankfully though since my husband is off work for the week, he's been scratching my back which helps me fall asleep and I guess since he's not so tired anymore, he doesn't snore as bad, so that doesn't keep me up in the middle of the night.
The kiddos do seem to be on the upswing, and all my praying and extra vitamins is keeping me from getting it.
I had what I hope to be is my last prenatal appointment today. I have to drive an hour almost to get to each appointment and it's getting tiring. Everything looked good though. I'm measuring 39 weeks, which makes me happy because I seem to remember that with the other two kids I would measure over 40 by this point! They don't do cervical checks, although I did try last night and it was so high I could only reach the front rim of it, couldn't reach any more than that, but it was quite soft, from what I could tell. My blood pressure was 124/78 which made me really happy. I'm a curvy girl, and doctors always like to think I'm going to have high blood pressure because I'm overweight, but that's not so. Not that my midwives think like that, but it's like a little victory in my head whenever I get my blood pressure taken, like I'm silently dancing around every doctor who ever thought I had hypertension just because of my size. My next appointment is scheduled for 1/8, the day before my due date. I REALLY hope I don't have to go to that one.
After my prenatal appointment, since my husband had the kids, I went and walked around Ulta a little while, looking at all the pretty makeup and resisting the urge to buy all the things I wanted. After that, I had a prenatal massage from my WONDERFUL massage therapist. My previous two pregnancies, I viewed massage as a luxury, but having found a good therapist, I realize that she is worth her weight in gold and every penny I pay her! Most of the time she helps me far more than the chiropractor does. Speaking of the chiropractor, I went to see her after the massage, so I really had a full day! I'm glad I went, my pelvis was all out of whack, completely tilted and quite the mess. She fixed it for me and did the Webster technique on my uterine ligaments, so that feels better too. I hope and pray that I stay in place.
I'm so glad your appointment went well and that you were able to get in to see your massage therapist and chiropractor. FX that baby will be here before the 8th!
Thanks Mia! I'm feeling pretty good since seeing both of them. I keep thinking that now would be a great time to have a baby because with my hubby off work for a week, I get a lot more sleep than I used to. However, I do know it would be better if he would wait until January 1st to come because we have a flex spending account that kicks in on that day and if he waits, it will pay for the whole birth because our midwife hasn't been paid yet. We worked out payment arrangements with her to pay her as soon as he came in January with the flex account, or if he came in December, she'd get paid with our tax return.
Sounds like you're doing great and just playing the waiting game!
I hear you on the hour drive. I had an hour drive to all of my appts. Going in weekly from 36 weeks till I had Zoe at 41+6 definitely got old!
That would get old going in weekly until almost 42 weeks! I guess the good thing is my MW wouldn't have me do weekly appts, only every 2 week appts so that helps.
Uggh, I cannot sleep. In this moment right now, I really feel like something is going to happen in the next 24 hours. I woke up nauseated and just generally feeling "not quite right". This is EXACTLY how labor started with Evan. I went to the bathroom and I have diarrhea. I don't think it's from dinner because that would have started hours ago if it were. I'm not having any contractions yet, but the same feeling I had with Evan is there. For the sake of paying the midwife, I really need this little boy to way until 12:01am 1/1/13 to come, so that's less than 24 hours away. I guess the best thing for me to do is go lay down and pray that God will calm me down and handle this and give me peace that He will work everything out even if this baby doesn't wait until tomorrow morning to come.
Fingers crossed you're snuggling that little babe Amber! Thinking of you!
Uggh...I wish I could say that I was, but the only place he's being snuggled is comfortably in my uterus, lol. Whatever was going on the other not STOPPED COMPLETELY and did not restart. I am so frustrated. My hubby has to go back to work tomorrow and I was hoping to extend his vacation by another week...but more than that, I'm huge and this baby feels huge and I'd rather this baby be 12lb OUTSIDE the womb instead of inside.
:bigarmhug: It's SO hard when things are back and forth like that. At the end, I was always saying I wished things would pick up or just stop completely because that limbo state is just so taxing (both emotionally and physically). I hope baby makes an appearance really soon for you. At least all those contractions and "false starts" are helping progress things little by little.
That's what I'm hoping. I still can't reach my cervix (well as of last night, I haven't tried today). I had more contractions last night, but not as frequent as the previous night and of course they stopped. I may take the kids tomorrow to Ikea and walk around for a bit and see if the walking motion helps him settle into my pelvis anymore. It's cold and rainy here, so walking outside isn't going to happen.
On a different note, my aunt is stressing me out a bit. When I first found out that I was pregnant, I invited my 2 sisters to come and watch our two children. One of my sisters was there for Lindy's birth, and my other is a mom now herself and I have no doubt that they'll both be just fine watching them while I labor. Well, my aunt told me to let her know what I'd like her to do when the time comes. If I thought it would come to this, I would have told her to make me a nice pot of soup and have it ready after delivery. But since I didn't say anything really (I did tell her my sisters will be here) she eventually invited herself to watch the kids. The problem with this is that she's a REALLY anxious person. I've gotten 3-4 phone calls in the past week with her asking ridiculous questions like, "What do I feed them, can they drink tap water?" to "Do I need to dress in layers?" Umm...really? I don't care what you feed them, use common sense and sure, dress in layers if that makes you feel better! I can't figure out a way to UN-invite her without hurting her feelings. We have a really small house and as it stands now it'll be me, DH, 2 sisters, 2 kids, MW, 2-3 apprentices and photographer friend. That's a lot of people in a 1 story, 1500sf house! I don't need 3 people watching my kids. I also don't need the negative or anxious energy. If anyone has any suggestions on what I can say to her that will spare her feelings (she's very sensitive) please let me know. I'm kind of hoping I'll go into labor in the middle of the night so I can just not call her and then tell her later that I just didn't want to wake her up since we had the situation covered. As it stands though, I live so close to my grandma that she could drive by any moment and see tons of cars in the yard when it happens, and then know something is going on and wonder why she wasn't called.
I wish I had better advice but I do understand not wanting the negative anxious energy around. DH's mom was going to watch my older two when I went into labor with my third but when I was about 25 weeks I was just too anxious and found someone else and just told my MIL that I no longer needed her help. She was fine with it though because she didn't want to be in the house when I had the baby, it weirded her out. I would find as nice of a way as possible to let her know that what you really want is her to stay at her house and make food for you. Just explain that your house is going to be too crowded as is. Wish I knew more how to help you. Good luck with things and I hope it all works out for you, so you can be comfortable in your birth.
Poor mama! You've got a lot going on, plus the tease of coming labor! I hope that things start settling for you and you can relax..well until you go into labor or course lol
(((hugs))) It is so hard to be super pregnant and have to deal with stress like that! I hope you get some relaxing in and your stressors ease up.
39 weeks 3 days.
By this time with my 1st, he was here (39 weeks).
By this time with my 2nd, I was in labor (39 weeks 3 days, water broke 7am, baby born 5:45pm).
This time with 3rd...NOTHING, NADA, ZILCH.
I realize that all pregnancies are different but there are some similarities here. The baby is definitely as big as the other two. Since they were 9lb 12oz and 9lb 15oz respectively, I'm thinking that this baby will be at least 10lb when he is born.
I am really ready to have this baby. We went to the mall yesterday and walked until my symphysis pubis pain could tolerate no more. I had a few contractions while we were there, but that was about it. I was really hoping to get a good night's sleep last night and wake up this morning and get this show on the road, but nothing. Not even the good night's sleep part of it all.
I realize that I'm complaining a lot here, so I guess I'll just quit.
40 weeks tomorrow
Absolutely no action. About 1 cm dilated.
Conversing with myself here in my lodge is about as interesting as the last few weeks of my pregnancy has been, but I expected that much, my last 2 lodges were like that too.
Oh poor Momma! I really hope that you get some good rest and finally have this sweet little baby!!
Maybe try swimming if you have a local indoor pool, or find a hotel for cheap?
((HUGS)) I can't imagine how frustrating it must be for you being so uncomfortable and, while knowing that every pregnancy is different, having the numbers running through your head from your other l&d experiences. Don't apologize about not being more chipper. THe end is really hard on a lot of us and you have every right to vent when you need to.
I hope that with this being your third, things will pick up for you quickly and baby will be here soon!
Thinking of you! I know how hard it can be to go past your EDD when your previous babies have come before it. Hope you are either holding your sweet baby already or will be soon!
Im hoping your lack of response means you LO is here!!
Sorry the last few weeks have been so difficult! Sorry your lodge is so slow. Mine are the same way. It really is more of me just rambling to myself. I really hope that this baby comes soon for you if it hasn't by now! Going to your due date is so hard! Especially when you have had your other babies early. Sending ELV's your way if you need them!
sending you labor vibes Amber!
ELVs thinking of you Amber!!
My baby was born on 1/12/13 at 6:24pm. We had a successful homebirth and the biggest surprise of all was that he weighed 10lb 14oz and was 23 inches long! I posted my birth story on my blog with pictures:
I had a home birth! | The REAL Real Housewife
Congratulations!!! WTTW Darian! I loved reading your birth story. Thank you for sharing. I learned a lot actually! I didn't realize there could be a pop when your water broke. How interesting. I just love your birth photos. That first one is just full of pure happiness and raw emotion, I don't even know you and I bursted into tears. How awesome that you birthed an almost 11 lbs baby! You rock!