~*~Anna's (AnnaRO) Birth Lodge~*~

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~*~Anna's (AnnaRO) Birth Lodge~*~

Welcome to your lodge Anna!!!
We are so excited to be starting this lodge for you together and can't wait to continue following your amazing journey.

Erin Wrote:

Welcome to your lodge mama!! I'm overjoyed to follow you through the final weeks of your amazing journey. I can't believe its been just a little over 2 years since we first "met." Somehow, it feels like I've known you forever and at the same time it feels like we were just getting our Jan 2010 BFPs yesterday. You are everything a girl could want in an on-line friend ... forget that ... a FRIEND. I wouldn't be the mom I am today without your unending support, advice, love, laughter, and blinkies . I love your strength, your creativity, your passion, your tenacity, and your funny accent. It pains me that the last few weeks have been so rough for you. The loss of a loved one is something no pregnant woman should ever have to suffer. In the coming weeks, I hope you can find a way to focus your energies inward and enjoy the end of your pregnancy before your joyous VBAC. I can't wait to "meet" Kole!!

Christa Wrote:

"You're getting oh so close to meeting your new little boy. I'm so excited to get to 'meet' him too! You've been such an amazing friend to me. Even though we've never met (yet) in person, you've been here for me when I've needed you. I'll never forget that you were the person I turned to on Christmas Eve and you were right there when I needed someone, thank you! You're always here for all of us when we need someone. I hope we can do a good job supporting you right now in your time of need.

You're incredibly strong Anna, please don't forget that when the time comes that you need to draw on that. You are an amazing mom to Lyla and will totally rock being a mom to two. Lean on us when you need to, we'll always be here for you, and don't forget to lean on your friends and family when you need to.

'Only with trust, faith, and support can the woman allow the birth experience to enlighten and empower her. ~ Claudia Lowe'"

Jackie Wrote:

Anna, all of us from Oct/Nov 2010 BB love you! I know I'm super excited that it's time for your birth lodge and for everyone to follow you as you get to achieve your dream of a VBAC. I have no doubt that you are stubborn enough to do whatever it is that you might have to do to get what you want. You have been a wonderful supportive friend since I first "met" you all those years ago on the TTC for the 1st Time board. I am sending you nothing but positive vibes as you prepare for Kole's coming. Welcome to your lodge!!!

Wendy Wrote:

Anna,
Congratulations on being 36 weeks and starting your lodge. It has been wonderful following your journey so far and I can't wait to hear all about these last few weeks. Your determination and strength inspire me for when I eventually get my chance to Vbac. I know these last weeks haven't been the ideal for relaxing and preparing to bring your little man into the world, but I hope you are able to take some time to relax and have some time to spend listening to your hypnobabies to prepare. Wishing you all the best and you are going to rock being a Mama to two.

Joy Wrote:

I still can't believe it nearly time to welcome these new LO's to the world! Doesn't seem that long ago that we were just meeting on the Oct. 2010 BB. I've been blessed not only to share that journey with you but also this new one as well. I love that I have a friend that totally gets everything I'm going through having a young toddler and new baby on the way. I'm so excited and proud of all the work you are doing to prepare for your VBAC. I know that these last few weeks of your pregnancy have not been ideal in any way. If there was anything I could do to ease the pain you know I would. But I'm sending you more positive energy, strength, power, and determination than you will ever know. You are already such a strong and amazing person already. If ever you are down just remember how much we are all here for you and support you. And know that I'll soon be birthing right along with you (in spirit) and you can do this! I can't wait to meet you little Kole!

We love you Anna! And again, welcome to your lodge!

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Welcome to your lodge, Anna! Can't wait to hear your story!

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Welcome, welcome!

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Oh wow! Way to make me cry when I thought I was all cried out, ladies. It means the world to me to know that I have you ladies to lean on and turn to in the best of times and the worst of times. I can't thank you enough for the support you have provided me the last couple of years, and especially now that I'm going through the most difficult and painful time of my life to date.

Today was so very difficult, but I was very surprised at how well I held up and kept it together. There were so very many people at the funeral today, many of whom I didn't even know, or had ever met before. Family, from both my dad's side and my mom's side came from places like Canada and Mexico to be there for us. It's impossible to imagine that my dad is gone. I can't imagine that I will never sit on a tailgate with him or a porch step and have a 3 hour conversation with him about the meaning of life and any random topic that came to mind. He was by far the strongest influence in my life and in shaping the person I am today. Knowing that he was proud of me and that he delighted in how my life turned out is a great comfort. He was thrilled to be expecting his first grandson this spring and it makes me very sad that he will not get to meet Kole and that my kids will not remember their grandpa.

I have been through so much stress and heartache the last month as my dad was admitted to the hospital and then his condition continued to deteriorate. My DH is very concerned about me and what effect the stress is having on the pregnancy, he is planning on going to my Tuesday appointment with me to talk to my OB about it.

I will post my DD's birth story and more, hopefully tomorrow. Again, thank you ladies so much for the support and love! It means more than words can say.

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Welcome to your lodge, Anna! You have been through so much lately, and my heart goes out to you. But we are all here for you as you prepare to meet your little boy! I cannot believe you are almost full term! I'm excited that you now have your lodge and cannot wait to follow your journey!

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I really feel for you from the bottom of my heart, having to deal with such extremes of emotion at the same time. I think your husband is very smart to support you in talking to someone who can hopefully make some suggestions to help you through this.

My father died suddenly six weeks after my wedding, and even though that was years before we had our daughter, when I did have her it still brought up all my feelings of sadness that she would never know her grandpa (and that my husband never really got to know him, either--they only met at the wedding!)...I really understand that feeling. And I won't lie, I still get sad about it sometimes, especially when I cook a cajun meal or hear a certain song...but the more I think about it, the more I realize how she WILL know him, and in ways that are different but still so real. Your kids won't make their own memories of their grandpa, but they'll inherit yours--and through the ways he influenced you, you will in turn influence them. He really does live on in many ways, and he will be there for your kids through you. Not in person, but absolutely in spirit.

I hope you and your family are able to find peace and comfort as you move forward, and that the arrival of your son will help restore a little joy in your lives. I look forward to following your journey and I hope you get all the support you need, both here and IRL!

Good luck and :bigarmhug:

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Welcome to your lodge! I look forward to following your journey! Hugs to you as you go through this difficult time! :bighug:

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Welcome to your lodge! I look forward to sharing your VBAC journey with you!

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Welcome to your lodge! So so sorry to hear of your Dads passing. He will be watching over you as you have your wonderful empowering VBAC.

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"cactuswren" wrote:

My father died suddenly six weeks after my wedding, and even though that was years before we had our daughter, when I did have her it still brought up all my feelings of sadness that she would never know her grandpa (and that my husband never really got to know him, either--they only met at the wedding!)...I really understand that feeling. And I won't lie, I still get sad about it sometimes, especially when I cook a cajun meal or hear a certain song...but the more I think about it, the more I realize how she WILL know him, and in ways that are different but still so real. Your kids won't make their own memories of their grandpa, but they'll inherit yours--and through the ways he influenced you, you will in turn influence them. He really does live on in many ways, and he will be there for your kids through you. Not in person, but absolutely in spirit.

So incredibly well written and so very true!

My dad would've absolutely loved his grandson but they never got to meet but you're right that even though Grady doesn't have actual memories from his grandpa he has so much from his grandpa through our stories and some of our traditions. Lyla and Kole will have that too Anna, Leigh is absolutely correct!

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TTC and my first pregnancy:

We first started TTC in September of 2007 and I fully expected to be pg within a few months. When nothing happened, I figured my body was still trying to get over the Depo shot I'd had in early June 2007 since AF was still way irregular. My cycle became somewhat regular in May 2008 and so I figured it would happen fairly quickly after that, but nothing happened. When I still wasn't pg by November I made an appointment with my OB. Everything checked out fine and he set me up for an HSG in December. The HSG was very painful but showed that my tubes were clear, so we decided to give it a few more months. Still nothing happened. The summer of 2009 for 4 cycles I was on Clomid with no luck, so we stopped the Clomid. At that point I decided to stop charting, temping, using OPK's or really even tracking anything anymore and after discussing it we decided to NTNP until after I finished grad school and got a job, then we planned to go for IUI. Well on January 30, 2010 I was cleaning my bathroom and ran across an FRER HPT and decided to POAS. I set it on the counter and was organizing things and looked back at it and saw a second line. I ran to the back yard to get DH and tell him to come and look at it. He just told me not to get too excited until we had it confirmed. So I went through all of the bathroom stuff and found another Answer brand HPT and it too came up with a second line. The next day I took a digital, which read pregnant so we called it official and excited called our families to tell them the news.

I was student teaching at the time and at about 7 weeks along MS kicked in hard core and would last all day. It was rough too. By the time I was done with student teaching the MS was still going strong and it lasted until 20 weeks. At 17w2d I had some sudden bleeding and we went to the ER where we were told that it was placenta abruptia and that there was a 50% chance we'd lose the baby. Then they sent us home and told me to rest. About 2 weeks later I had my regular appointment with my OB and he said when he looked at the u/s from the ER it was a blood clot and it would likely resolve itself and everything would be fine. The rest of my pregnancy went well with the exception of the severe edema that started right before 20 weeks and only got worse. My blood pressure never went up though and I never had any protein in my urine so my OB said it was okay.

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DD's Birth Story

Lyla Klaire

7lb 3oz, 18 1/2 inches long
October 6, 2010 @ 7:02am

At my 37 week appointment it was discovered that DD had gone from head down to breech. When she was still breech at 38 weeks, my OB suggested tentatively setting up a c/s date for 39 weeks because he deemed it was unlikely she was turn at that point.

We got up at a little after 4am to get to the hospital by 5. Once we got to the hospital I was immediately put in a recovery room and hooked up to monitors. It indicated I was actually having some pretty strong contractions already, some of which I didn't even feel. After they had me all set up on the monitors, they hooked up my IV in my hand. A few minutes later the other nurse was checking something else and discovered that my IV was leaking so she messed with it for a while to get it to stop. After that, my IV was even more uncomfortable.

People started coming in one at a time and explaining different parts of the process to me. A nurse came in and told me who all was going to be there and what their role would be. She also gave me a brief overview of the whole process. A little later my OB came in to check on my and gave me another overview of the whole thing and explained a little more about the actual surgery part. The anesthesiologist was next and she explained the entire process in vivid detail about how the anesthesia part would work. She explained how I would feel, how long it would take, etc. Once she left I started to feel a little panicky. Suddenly the fear set in and I really didn't want to go through with it. I knew that I didn't have a choice and that this was really happening and I needed to come to terms with it. So a laid back on the bed and took some deep breaths and gave myself a pep talk.

A little more than 5 minutes before 7am a group of nurses came in with a wheelchair and wheeled me out. DH was given his scrubs to put on and told to remain where he was until they came and got him. I cannot describe what I was feeling as I was wheeled away from DH.

In the O.R. they had me sit down on this very narrow table where the anesthesiologist first gave me a numbing shot, then she explained everything to me as she put in the epidural needle followed by the epidural catheter. I felt the sting of the numbing needle, but didn't feel much of the rest of the process. My legs and feet started to tingle immediately. They laid me down on the operating table and put my catheter in (which I didn't feel at all, thank God). Someone laid a really warm blanket on top of me, but I hadn't even realized I was cold. Suddenly all these people were there and this curtain thing was being hooked up right in front of me. I heard someone tell someone else to go get the husband, and I knew it was happening.

DH came in and sat down by my head and grabbed my hand. I could feel people touching me on the other side of the curtain thing and knew they were getting ready to get the baby out. I kept waiting for some sort of sensation that I was being cut into, or some tugging or pulling feelings, but before I knew it, I heard a baby crying. Everyone started to talk excitedly and making comments about how cute she was and how clean she was. My little girl was finally here.

Internally I was completely freaking out. I could hear her, but I couldn't see her at all and I desperately wanted to see her and hold her! I have never felt such a desperate feeling in my life. They called DH over to the baby and he jumped up and practically ran over there. I heard them announce her weight and length. Then someone told DH to walk around and show her to me. When he did, he was initially still about 3 feet away from me.

I could see her and she was unbelievably beautiful. It did not feel real at all that this was MY baby. DH came in close and put her right by my face and I kissed by baby girl. I will never forget how warm and soft she was. They told DH to bring the baby with him and follow them to the nursery, so DH left me there and went with Lyla to the nursery where he stayed the whole time.

In the meantime, they were stitching me up. It didn't take long at all and I felt non of it. Once they were done, I was wheeled back to the same recovery room I had been in. I was desperate for my baby and kept asking the nurses when I could have her. They told me that I would be in recovery for 2 hours before I would be taken to a regular room where I would be reunited with my daughter. It was complete torture. About an hour later, DH came in for a few minutes to show me pictures of Lyla he had already taken and told me all about her. He said they were waiting for her temperature to come up to 98 degrees, and then they were going to bathe her. He said that they had to wait until I was in a regular room before they could bring her to me. The nurse then stepped in and said that I would be moved shortly since I was already regaining feeling in my legs, so I would get moved early.
DH got all excited and went off to go get pictures of them washing Lyla.

I got moved a little later, but they didn't bring me my baby as I expected them to. I was left there pretty much by myself, except for a nurse who came in and checked my vitals every few minutes. I was really starting to get the feeling back in my legs and abdomen area and it hurt A LOT. It felt like I was on fire and I was cramping so very bad too. About an hour and a half after I got moved into the room, they finally came in to hook up my morphine to my IV. It was about that time when DH came in with Lyla. Before they even finished hooking up the morphine, most of the pain was gone once I had my baby girl in my arms.

Overall, I am extremely glad that we didn’t have any visitors that first day.

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#2

After DD was born we went straight into NTNP since we expected another long TTC journey. However, on July 29, 2011 after only 2 50+ day cycles I got a BFP. We had just decided in June to begin actively TTC once AF arrived again. This pregnancy has been extremely easy compared to my first one. I haven't had any MS at all and no edema until I was 32 weeks and even at 36 weeks I can still wear all my regular shoes. The pregnancy itself has been quite uneventful.

After I had my c/s with DD I immediately knew that I would attempt an unmedicated VBAC with a subsequent pregnancy. So I've been planning that since before I got my BFP. Thanks to some amazing friends I met on this site, I am in possession of NCB books and even Hypnobabies!! Yahoo I am really excited about my VBAC and have my birth plan all set up with my OB. Unfortunately, I have also been under a lot of stress lately. DH became unemployed in November and is still looking for a new job, so that has been stressful for us both.

On February 9, 2012, my mom called to tell me that my dad was being admitted into the hospital for some abdominal swelling and edema. After they had him there and ran some tests they discovered his white blood cell count was extremely high and they couldn't remove his gallbladder like they wanted to. He was also diagnosed with emphysema and cirrhosis of the liver, but the initial concern was to remove his gallbladder. A week after being admitted they performed the surgery and removed his gallbladder successfully and seemingly without complications. A day after his surgery he was walking around the hospital and looking forward to being released by the weekend. However, once the weekend came he started having some breathing issues and they refused to release him. By Monday he was being transferred to ICU and they were putting in a ventilator. After a week like that my mom called and told me to come see him and that he was in bad shape. DH and I made the 6 hour drive and stayed about a a week so I could spend some time with him. He was lucid, but couldn't talk or even write. He tried so hard to write stuff down but all he could get down was scribble. The day I left I told him to hurry up and get better because he had to come visit me when his first grandson was born. He gave me a thumbs up. I told him that I loved him and that I would see him soon. After another week of no change in his condition, he was finally transferred to a bigger hospital. The next day that told my mom that dad was in bad shape was likely wouldn't survive the night. He did, but never got better. At 6:24am on March 4 my mom called and said the hospital had called her to come back to the hospital immediately, dad was fading fast. At 1:11pm that day, surrounded my my 2 brother, 2 sisters my mom and some other family members, my dad's heart stopped beating. My brother called me at 1:13pm in broken words that his heart stopped.

On Thursday, March 8, we said our last goodbye. It still doesn't seem real that I won't see him, speak to him, or hug him ever again. He was only 52 years old. At the funeral, my sister told me his boots are at home next to his recliner where he always took them off when he came from work.

This is the picture we displayed at the funeral service.

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welcome to your lodge Anna! So excited to follow your journey towards a VBAC. if you ever need anything I am always available Smile

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I'm so glad this pregnancy has been a breeze compared to Lyla's. Hopefully Kole's birth will follow the same pattern. How did you like the Hypnobirthing stuff? Have you had a chance to read it? Have you been practicing the relaxation? I found the relaxation tracks so helpful in the last few weeks of my pregnancy. The rainbow relaxation track put me right to sleep most nights. They worked so well, I've actually thought about whipping them out again! If your mind is racing at night they really do help to push away all the mental (and physical) weight that's accumulated throughout the day. As a bonus, they train your mind to slip into a state of relaxation more easily. I think that's why I had such an easy time remaining calm during T's birth. My mind just knew what to do after several weeks of practice.

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The past month I've really fallen off the wagon with all of it, to be honest. Before that I was doing good with reading and listening to the tracks. The tracks always put me right to sleep too, so I'm not sure I'm doing it right when I listen to the tracks. Hopefully I'll get back into it now and be able to get enough of it to help me with the birth itself. I actually want to get back into listening to the hypnobabies tracks again just to get that escape from reality for a bit.

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Beccasweet said the tracks made her fall asleep! All good. It's never too late to get back into it. Smile

I knew your whole history, but I have to say that I still really enjoyed reading it all again. You've come such a long way in your journey to motherhood over the years.

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I was a real slacker when it came to "studying" my hypnobirthing. I really only ever listened to the one Rainbow Relaxation track and I think I started around 35ish weeks. Considering I had T at 38w3d, it was a crash course. Nevertheless, the morning after T's birth, one of the nurses said I was the "poster child" for hypnobirthing. Whatever that means. I didn't even use the tracks when I was in labor! Still, I feel like they helped a lot. You have the determination. Now all you need is to try and get yourself to a point where you can tune out the world and focus on that little man.

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Since Clara came so early I wasn't to the point that I should've been in my Hypnobabies course but it still helped me tremendously! You'll do great Anna!

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Anna I only did the hypnobirthing which was reading the book and two tracks, but I still found with that tiny bit it helped when I went for my ECV (very uncomfortable) and in early labour and calming myself enough I was a completly hysterical mess when they said I needed a c section and putting the spinal in because I am terrified of needles. You really retain more than you think you do, I only listened to it once a week after antenatal classes while I sat in the car waiting for hubby to finish work.

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Anna, welcome to your lodge! I wish I could take away all of your heartache. I really look forward to sharing our wonderful vbac experiences with each other. I am rooting for you mama!

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Yay on your lodge!!! I will be looking forward to updates and reading your posts. Smile You are strong and will get through this heartache.

:openarms:

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I totally fall asleep when listening to hypnobabies too. Initially I had to fast forward through all the relaxation and just listen to the main part a few times while doing something else so I could at least hear what it was saying while awake.

I'm glad that you and DH will be going to the doctor togther this week and talking to him about all the stress and how its effecting you.

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Anna, I always fell asleep during the hypnobabies tracks and they were still very helpful. Even though I never had time to use the birthing tracks. Have you listened to affirmations yet? I loved affirmations. They always made me feel so powerful and in control.

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Kristi's post reminded me of something ... don't listen to Hypnobirthing tracks while driving!! Smile

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I always fell asleep during the Rainbow Relaxation at night (although not as fast as DH...we joke that all he has to hear is that first "And now..." and he is SNORING.) But I loved the control room visualization as a rest period during the day, and I had the affirmations on all the time near the end. You retain it whether it puts you to sleep or not. Don't worry!

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Welcome to your lodge, Anna!! I know the days are tough right now but sweet baby Kole is going to bring such joy to you and your whole family!! Best wishes in your VBAC journey and lots of loves and hugs!!!

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Welcome to your lodge Anna! I lost my father suddenly 5 years ago (he was 53) and I can't imagine dealing with that and being as far along as you are. You are an amazing woman!

I don't think I ever made it through the rainbow relaxation, even during labor it put me to sleep for a couple minutes and the next contraction jolted me awake because I wasn't doing my breathing and wasn't prepared because I was asleep. Odd part was that it couldn't have been more than 5 minutes but I felt like I had been asleep for an hour.

For me the most helpful parts of the Hypno was the breathing and ribbon visualization for the contractions. I don't think that's the correct name but the one where you visualize the uterine muscles as soft ribbons pulling the cervix up and open. I found imagining what was going on inside made it normal instead of painful.

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You ladies are so amazing. I know you are all probably a bit tired of me going on and on about my dad and what I'm feeling, but I feel like expressing my emotions about it all openly is really helping me deal with the whole situation. I am so blessed to have such a great support system that includes you ladies. I don't think I'll ever get over losing him and it feels like there will always be this empty, gaping hole inside me, but I am still managing to function and do the things that need to be done.

I am having some moments of doubt that are pretty pervasive, feeling like I'm not going to be able to do this unmedicated VBAC like I want. It's coming up so fast and I'm so way behind on the hypnobabies, though I've read the workbook and was listening to the tracks earlier in my pregnancy. I'm worried that because I haven't followed it to the letter, I'm setting myself up to fail. DH is out doing contract work today, so I'm planning on listening to the affirmations all day today as I do chores around the house. I have my 36 week appointment tomorrow, so I'll post an update then.

I guess I should also start packing a hospital bag. . .

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You can do it! The key part of Hypno for me wasn't self hypnotizing myself, it was staying relaxed and breathing. I listened to the rainbow relaxation just the once during labor and didn't do any other real hypnosis. I was texting Jackie, watching TV, talking to my husband, showering, ect and just pausing to breath and imagine the ribbons during the contractions. If you feel like you don't have enough time to read/watch/practice everything maybe just choose what relaxes you the most and practice that and the breathing.

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Let it all out honey. This is your lodge to say what you will and we're all here to listen.

"beccasweet" wrote:

The key part of Hypno for me wasn't self hypnotizing myself, it was staying relaxed and breathing.

Ditto this!! You most definitely do not have to follow the course to the letter to succeed. Heck, you don't need to study anything in order to succeed. All the things natural mamas do to prepare are just things that help. Its YOU that's going to get you through this. I have so much faith in you, Anna. Besides, no woman has ever failed during labor. Things may or may not go to plan but you'll never fail. Having misgivings about your ability to go natural are perfectly normal and I'd venture to say that 100% of women have them. Just don't let yourself get hung up on those thoughts. Instead, read as many positive birth stories as you can. You have plenty of time left to prepare. Try to spend some time every day practicing your relaxation. It'll benefit you in so many ways.

What else is going on in baby land? How is Kole treating you these days?

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Yeah, as Erin asked, how is the little prince doing in there?!

You will do great! I'm thinking we all have enough faith in you to carry you through Smile

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Hey Anna! I just wanted to echo the thought that while Hypno anything is great and works for a lot of women, it is not necessary for a natural or even a mostly pain-free birth. So don't get caught up in that. Do what you can, and use what you will... you have every capability to have a natural birth without it...and like momW said- we all believe in you!!!

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Totally agree with what Beccasweet said in that it wasn't so much they hypnotizing, but rather the breathing and relaxation I gained from listening to my program that really helped. I must have said 'peace' a million times during labor because that was the phrase I took from listening that really got me to relax. Honestly I never used a finger drop or light switch during the actual labor cause that wasn't what did it for me. Just find the things, hypno or not, that help you to relax and let go.

You are going to do great! Do you have any books right now with good NCB stories in them? Totally read a few of those each day. They will get you excited and empowered for your birth as well.

How are you feeling these days? Its getting sooooo hard for me to carry Odin around, especially up and down the stairs, and I swear he wants to be held so much all of a sudden. Are you finding it hard to carry Lyla at this point? Let us know the appointment goes tomorrow.

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"TiggersMommy" wrote:

What else is going on in baby land? How is Kole treating you these days?

He's doing good. He doesn't move as much as Lyla did, but has moments in the evenings where he gets really active. The pregnancy is something I can't really complain about at all. I didn't get m/s really and the only big symptom I've had has been fatigue and some acne. Now I'm getting really big and it's harder getting around and bending and all that, so I'm just really uncomfortable all the time.

"jolly11sd" wrote:

How are you feeling these days? Its getting sooooo hard for me to carry Odin around, especially up and down the stairs, and I swear he wants to be held so much all of a sudden. Are you finding it hard to carry Lyla at this point? Let us know the appointment goes tomorrow.

We are lucky to not have stairs, but my aunts house had a basement playroom this past week and that was rough going up and down carrying her. I still pick her up quite a bit, but it makes my back and lower stomach feel really sore and tired. It quickly wears me out. I'm getting to where I'm ready for my body to be some form of it's normal self, but at the same time I don't know if I'm ready for a newborn and an 18month old.

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So I had my appointment this morning. It was a very boring appointment. Gained 2 pounds since the last one, BP was 127/72, and Kole's heartrate was good and strong. I did mention my dad and he offered condolences but didn't raise any concerns as far as the pregnancy was concerned at all, so I guess he's not worried about it. And from what I've found in my research high stress is a greater concern in early pregnancy, so hopefully my kid won't have mental issues from the stress hormones.

I have been getting some random cramping. I'll compare it to the 'gotta go to the bathroom' feeling you get after eating a lot of greasy mexican or chinese food (or I guess not everyone gets that, but hopefully you know the feeling anyway). But I don't actually have to go. I've had nothing regular or repetitive at all, but my OB thought it was still a good sign that my body is starting to get ready. Maybe I'll rearrange some furniture or something to try to encourage things to move along. . . or maybe I'll just sit down on the couch with my laptop and avoid. I have everything ready for Kole, except my hospital bag is not packed. There's a lot of cleaning I could still do too, so maybe I'll focus on that. I guess I'll stop now, since I'm rambling and my 17 months old is getting cranky.

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My sister passed away suddenly last November when I was 30 weeks pregnant. The only concern my MW had was about me not getting sleep and premature labor. I do think that the stress from that might have caused calcification on the placenta and my baby to be so small, but that was 8 weeks before I gave birth and in a crucial growing period for the baby. I am sorry you have had such a hard few weeks with loosing your dad. I am sure your dad will see your little boy into this world even if he didn't get to see him before he passed. Wouldn't surprise me if their spirits are talking to each other right now.

As for the hypnosis, yeah I slept through mine EVERY time. I loved listing to the birth affirmations track though, especially in the last week of pregnancy! Just like all the PP have said, it's really the breathing techniques that really get you through it. Between my two hypnobirthing births I actually think my second, my third baby, hypnobirth was by far the easiest and best and I practiced FAR less then I did with my first hypnobirth, second birth. Crazy thing is is my third baby was posterior so it should have been more difficult to stay in control, but I seriously never lost control once but I did with my second through transition and he was born normal!

You can do this! Dealing with lose is hard and even harder when hugely pregnant, if you can make it through that with out a complete meltdown you can make it through labor.

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Simply Give Birth by Heather Cushmann-Dowdee

This book is so inspiring and so ... simple. I LOVE it!! You should see if you can get a copy.

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Yay for a boring appointment! Are you on weekly appointments now? How quickly I forget how all that works Wink Might the cramping you're describing be BH contractions? Are you having those? No worries if you are or aren't. It just might be nice to know what's going on.

What's on your hospital bag list? How far a drive is it to the hospital? My plan was to wait as long as possible (water breaking kinda messed that up) and I was dreading the ride to the birth center in active labor. I had DH make up a little birthy nest in the back seat so I could try and get comfy. I also had my iPOD ready with birth music and a sleep mask to use for the car ride. I did actually end up using the sleep mask because I wanted to do my very best to stay calm.

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"TiggersMommy" wrote:

Yay for a boring appointment! Are you on weekly appointments now? How quickly I forget how all that works Wink Might the cramping you're describing be BH contractions? Are you having those? No worries if you are or aren't. It just might be nice to know what's going on.

What's on your hospital bag list? How far a drive is it to the hospital? My plan was to wait as long as possible (water breaking kinda messed that up) and I was dreading the ride to the birth center in active labor. I had DH make up a little birthy nest in the back seat so I could try and get comfy. I also had my iPOD ready with birth music and a sleep mask to use for the car ride. I did actually end up using the sleep mask because I wanted to do my very best to stay calm.

Yup, weekly appointments now. And I'm sure the cramping I've been having is just BH. There's no consistency or regularity to them at all, no pain either, just annoying.

I don't actually have a 'list'. I've been going over, in my head, what I used/needed last time, which wasn't very much. I did pack some things this afternoon like nursing tanks, a robe, granny panties. We have a travel toiletry bag that we always keep, that way if we go anywhere overnight we never have to worry about packing soap/toothpaste/toothbrushes etc., it just stays packed. It's also been recently restocked due to circumstances. I hadn't thought about a sleep mask but I do keep one in my toiletry bag, so I may try that during labor to keep focused and calm if I feel like I'm faltering.

The drive to the hospital is about 10-15 minutes depending on traffic. It's about 2 miles from my house, so not far at all. My plan has been (and really kind of is) to wait as long as I can before going in. However, I asked my OB today what his recommendation is for when I should come in, and he said that due to me being a VBAC, he wants me to come in immediately upon going into labor and they will do what they can to create a home-like environment for me to labor in. Unfortunately, DH was there and he's nervous about VBAC risks, so now I guess I'll stay home as long as I can keep DH from being aware that I'm actually in labor. . . that could get interesting.

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Glad you had a boring appointment! Those are the best. Biggrin

I can't blame you for wanting to stay home as long as you can. Hopefully your DH ends up not panicking and you can stay home for a bit.

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I packed so much freaking stuff that I never used. You won't need much, especially since hospitals have stuff to make up for anything you *need* and forget.

What's your OB's reason for wanting you to come in right away? Did he spell out any actual risk you'd encounter staying home for awhile? In all likelihood, if you were to run in upon having your first real contraction, he'd just send you home. I vote for staying home as long as possible. Still, you should have DH on board. Having to hide your labor or having him pestering you to go in will not make it easy to relax.

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Sounds like you're pretty good on the hospital bag. Are you going to bring stuff for Kole? I also found that I brought lots of stuff to the hospital that I didn't use last time!

I hope you can relax, and that your DH can too... I think staying home a.l.a.p. is a good idea! I was in active labor (already involuntarily pushing) for my drive to the hospital- which was 15-20 minutes as well. I was on my hands and knees in the back seat. There is no way I would have been able to SIT. I also figure, if you get pulled over and a cop seriously sees you laboring like that in the back seat, they'd probably be more likely to escort you the rest of the way to the hospital, than give you a ticket, don't you think? I do.

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Erin, he doesn't want me laboring at home because of the previous c/s. He wants me at the hospital from the beginning just in case there is a uterine rupture. As much as I adore my OB, he seems a bit scared of the rupture issue. I figure that if I was one of those very rare people who had that happen it would be more likely to happen further into the process and not so much in the beginnng stages. I really think that if I went in at the beginning they would keep me when they would normally send someone back home just because of the previous c/s factor.

I think I can keep DH from freaking out until I'm in actual active labor though, especially if I can get my mom up here before I go into labor.

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Yeah, try to stay home as long as possible. It would be a shame to be on the hospital clock just because of their fear. Just explain to your DH that in order for you to relax and get labor going at the beginning, you need to be in a calm familiar environment (home). Maybe get him to agree on a common point that you will go in. Like pressure waves every 5 minutes for an hour, or when its getting hard to walk and talk through waves. You guys are close enough to the hospital that if there was a true emergency you could get there really fast if needed. I hate it when they treat VBAC moms like ticking time bombs.

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I think coming up with a clear agreed-upon point you can feel good about will help you stave DH off as long as possible. My personal trigger was when I thought "a 25 minute ride sounds manageable right now, but in the very near future, it would really suck." but hopefully you can come up with something a little more specific (like 5 minute intervals for a hour, as Joy suggested--although I was stuck at that point for about 20 hours, personally) to give DH something measurable to wait for.

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I agree to wait it out at home if you can. Really, your risk of rupture as a vbac is no more than your risk of complication in any other labor and birth. There are certain signs, like extreme pain, pain that doesn't go away in between contractions, bleeding, etc that all indicate something being wrong. I'll be a vba2c and my OB agrees that it is in my best interest to wait as long as possible. Also like PP said, you are very close to the hospital if you need to get there asap.

Honestly, I've thought about not really mentioning to my DH when I think I am in the beginning of labor. I know he will be nervous and excited, and I really just want a calm, relaxed environment. I know he totally supports me, but it's so important in the beginning to rest and have privacy. I can't remember where I read it, but it says when you think labor is starting, don't turn the lights on and get up out of bed or wherever you are. Don't wake your partner. Turn the lights down and get into a warm, cozy spot, and your labor will progress much more quickly. That's my plan!

ETA: For example, the risk of cord prolapse is 1 in 37 (2.7%), or nearly ten times more likely than that of rupture.

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37 weeks! I'm officially full term! Now it's all up to Kole! Anytime you're ready little guy!

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"AnnaRO" wrote:

37 weeks! I'm officially full term! Now it's all up to Kole! Anytime you're ready little guy!

:party:

They had a great idea to set up a designated time to go to the hospital (like can't talk through contractions or something). Maybe that will help calm his fears.

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Wooot! Term party! Whenever you're ready Kole!!

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I would have loved to not clue my DH in to early labor, because the first thing he did was call his mom. She was supposed to be my doula, and I would have called her sooner than later, but he said, "Stacey's in labor," and she was here in two hours and things hadn't really gotten started at all. Unfortunately, our car had broken down & we needed to have it towed that morning, so I woke him up to deal with that and he noticed that I was stopping to breathe every few minutes. My waves were that strong from the start, having to stop & breathe, I couldn't walk or talk during one at all for my entire labor.

It sounds like you're in a really good place! I hope you can stay there until Kole arrives!

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