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~*~Ariel's (krazykat) Lodge ~*~

Welcome to your Lodge!!!!

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:wavehello: Welcome to your lodge, Ariel! Here's hoping this baby doesn't make us all wait quite as long as Bunny did! Blum 3

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Welcome to your lodge!

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welcome to your lodge! looking forward to following your birthing journey!

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Yay! So exciting!!

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Hey ladies!!! Thank you soooooo much!! It's so hard for me to post here from my phone, but I'm on my computer now, so I'll post my intro in just a few minutes Smile

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Hey ladies!!! Thank you soooooo much!! It's so hard for me to post here from my phone, but I'm on my computer now, so I'll post my intro in just a few minutes Smile

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Baby #4 is already almost here. It seems like this pregnancy has gone so fast...

Many of you have read "our story", but here's a recap... In January 2005 I was working night shift at a hotel and going to school full-time when I met my future husband online. He asked me if I was a real person and then if he could call me. He was a young soldier stationed in Korea for his first duty station. It was very unlike me to give out my information like that, but I did and he called. He was so nervous that he asked to call me back later. From there on out, we talked nearly every day on the phone. I can only imagine how expensive his phone bills were... he never told me. We got engaged in October of that year, he left for a year to Iraq in November, and then we were married on mid-tour in May of 2006.

It took us quite a while to get pregnant with our first child. I remember thinking we wouldn't be able to have children. I also remember thinking that if we were able to eventually have children, that I would take as many as we were blessed with. We did fertility treatments; clomid and provera. It got to be too much so we took a break for a little while and then started back again. I did the regular treatment and then went in on CD25 to see if I had ovulated. The tests said that I hadn't. I remember asking, "What if I just happened to ovulate later that day?" and the OB said, "If your cycle is that messed up, you should just take the provera and start it over again." I didn't take his advice or the provera and got my positive pregnancy test about 11 days later. John deployed to Iraq a 2nd time, and I did the last six months of the pregnancy by myself.

I was completely uninformed. I took the hospital class with a friend and had the attitude that women have babies every day, why would it be any different for me. We planned to induce while he was home on mid-tour so he could be there for her birth, which was around 39 weeks. Little did I know, there were other plans in store for us. Within a day or so of him coming home I started to get really sick. Long story, short, I ended up with a c/s under general anesthesia, and our daughter spent a week in NICU. She came home the day before he had to leave back to Iraq. She was 6 months old when he came home.

Once he got home in June, I found out I was pregnant in September. Unfortunately the excitement was short-lived as it was a chemical pregnancy. I didn't have another cycle until November, and then December 2009 we conceived again. During that same month we made the humongous move to Alaska with the military. I suprised my hubby on New Year's Day with a positive test. The next months were a whirl-wind. We found out that he would deploy for the third time a year to the date after he had gotten home from his second deployment. This time to Afghanistan. I chose to move to his family in West Virginia, which didn't go well, so on block leave before he left, we moved down to North Carolina. I was not on good terms with my family, though they were close by. So I got an apartment and pushed forward planning an HBAC with our son.

Once more, long story short, I labored at home for a very long time and then transferred in for another c/s. This time was easier to deal with for some reason because I had called the shots and been involved in my care. There was nothing else I could have possibly done. I had worked out, eaten right, went swimming nearly every day, walked stairs in labor, you name it I did it! So John was in Afghanistan and came home a week later to help after my c/s. He didn't get to see his new son again until he was 10 months old.

Once he got home in July 2011, it didn't even take months... more like weeks, and I was pregnant again! I had a fantastic OB who is as close as a doctor can be to a midwife in his philosophy, and in Alaska, HBACs are harder to find a provider for. So we planned a VBA2C, and that is exactly what we had in May 2012!

In December of 2012 we PCS'd to Ft. Campbell, and just a couple of short months later, I found out I was pregnant again! I have been thrilled with my options for midwifery care here in Tennessee, and we totally based our home purchase off of where I would be able to birth at home. I knew right off the bat it wouldn't be a hospital birth. BACH (military hospital) won't allow me to VBA2C, and neither will Gateway, and I'm not driving to Vanderbilt to be forced to wear monitors the entire time when it isn't evidence based. So we chose Sheryl Shafer to attend us, and the birth is quickly approaching. She is an incredibly experienced midwife in the area, and we will be paying out of pocket for her care. She attends breech, twins, vbamc, and she's been practicing for over 30 years. I loved that she asked me the HARD questions in our first meeting: what if something catastrophic happens? I told her that I would then need her support more than ever, and likely wouldn't get much follow-up if the same thing happened and I was being seen in a practice. She tells me stories, we chat, I get to hear about the recent births she has attended; surprise twins, a mama who delivered at 26 weeks (baby lived because Sheryl acted fast!), a surprise single footling breech... She is everything I think of when I think of a midwife. The perfect combination of practical and willing to use medicines when called for, and encouraging good nutrition, herbs, and exercise.

All of my full-length birth stories can be read here: http://www.pregnancy.org/bulletinboards/birth-stories-lodges-92/sylvia-justus-bunnis-birth-stories-693910/

Appointments:

10/14/13 - BP was 120/70, I'm still about 6 lbs under my pre-pregnancy weight, and because I have been afraid of having a super fast delivery, Sheryl left cytotec in case of hemorrhage since that is probably my biggest fear. I have a feeling it will go fast, and what if she doesn't make it and I bleed? So now I don't have to think about that anymore Smile All around great appointment as usual. We talked about vaginal exams, and when they might be indicated. Unless anything is out of the ordinary, we will probably skip exams. I am just continuously blown away by her vast knowledge and experience. Almost getting excited!

10/24/13 - Donna (Sheryl's assistant who also has her CPM) came for my appointment this time. BP was 118/68. We did the GBS swab. Results were negative as usual. I've never had it before. She mentioned baby getting lower, but I don't think engaged yet. Measuring 40 weeks.

10/30/13 - Sheryl came this time. Still measuring 40 weeks. She says not engaged yet but I do feel like baby has at least dropped a little even if not completely engaged. Everything is good.

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Yay and welcome to your lodge. Someone else to stalk!

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Sounds awesome! Tennessee does sound like a great state to give birth in. Your midwife sounds fabulous. I remember when my midwife left a baggie of syringes in my fridge, that it hit me, "OMG, I'm really going to have a baby here. There are medicines here for it." Blum 3 Get back on your computer on a regular basis now, OK????

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So glad you have such great care and things are looking good so far! What's your guess on when baby will make an appearance?

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I feel like probably around 11/15. LMP EDD is 11/5, u/s is 11/7 and my midwife has 11/11 on paper.

I'm starting to get lots of pressure and discomfort front to back down low though. Par for the course with it being #4? Wondering if this could all still go on for weeks?

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I have no experience with #4. I didn't get that "down low" thing going until pretty late with both of mine, so here's hoping that means this one might not string us all along for weeks, LOL!

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Totally hoping I don't string you ladies along for several weeks Biggrin But not trying to get my hopes up. Ugh wish me luck! I'm going to be showing houses this afternoon, and I am hurting already!! I had a moment of panic last night thinking "we are REALLY about to do this. I'm REALLY going to have the baby at home this time. We're REALLY going to have FOUR!" I don't have any feeling like it will be like Justus' marathon labor. If anything, I'm a little scared of it going really fast. With Bunni I was complete in about 6 hours, my water breaking felt like it slammed me from nothing into transition, and that was hard to wrap my mind around. I can't imagine how intense anything shorter will be, except I do know being at home will make a HUGE difference.

If anyone wants to find me on Facebook, just shoot me a PM and I'll give you my name/email to search by.

OH and I don't think I mentioned... We are not have a doula this time (feeling very comfortable with my midwives and hubby), but we WILL be having a photographer. She comes highly recommended and my MW says she is very good at blending into the background while catching those candid shots. She will have video equipment too. I'm excited about that part!

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Sounds like everything is going well, great to hear! Sounds exciting about the photographer & video!

Are you kiddos excited about the new baby?

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YES! Every morning they wake up and ask if I've had the baby yet lol!! If all is going well, we plan to have our oldest daughter present when I have the baby. I found her to be a great comfort when I labored with Justus. She is so care-free and a total care-taking personality. She is not super sensitive either, so I think she will be just fine. She already told me she is going to brush my hair and bring me water

ETA: I also LOVE that when people ask them when the baby will be here, they respond with "whenever the baby decides to come". It's amazing how much they absorb at such an early age. And I have vowed that my girls will see a midwife unless there is ever any medical need to see a more advanced practitioner like an OB.

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sounds awesome! It really is amazing how much they absorb from what mommy/daddy does and says! I hear my voice in my kids all the time! The other day my DD (who turns 3 in December) used the word Fabulous correctly! LOL! it was really funny!

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I keep stalking this lodge hoping this one will decide to come a tad earlier than his/her siblings. How are you feeling today? And happy LMP due date!

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I don't feel like anything at all is happening lol! I had ctx that kept me up the other night. Nothing painful really, just noticeable. But no mucus, no nothing since then.

Those of you who had mucus kick up in previous pregnancies, did you do the same with each pregnancy? #2 and #3, mucus picked up about a week before. So that leads me to believe I'm at least a week out still.

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no idea on the mucus, not something that happens to me. I actually go into labor suddenly with basically no warning!

Are you keeping yourself busy or just enjoying the last moments of this pregnancy or getting really ready for baby to come??

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Another week, you think? I guess its par for the course for you and your babies. At least yours are well baked! KUP, please!!

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I'm no help. I'm pretty sure I was getting gobs of mucus plug all the time at the end with Tiven, for weeks & weeks, even though I never had any dilation at all. With Weston, I was 1cm dilated and had a cervical sweep on Friday morning, which triggered lots of bits of mucus over the day, and on Saturday morning I had a huge chunk that was seriously like a real plug, the size & shape of a freaking banana slug but pinkish. So gross! And then nothing more until Monday when labor started.

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Mel, that's the other thought that crosses my mind, that I'm going to be totally shocked when it happens. We all know each labor and birth is so different so I have learned to never expect the same thing to happen twice lol!

I've had a break the last day or so, but I've been so busy showing houses that the time has flown by! I don't even really feel 40 weeks honestly. I'm not miserable by any means. I had some really significant pelvic pain but it has completely let up!

Who knows when it will happen!!! In any case, it won't be more than a couple of weeks and I'm having trouble wrapping my mind around that lol!

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Maybe baby is shooting for the awesome 11/12/13 birthdate?

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"Spacers" wrote:

Maybe baby is shooting for the awesome 11/12/13 birthdate?

That would be way too cool of a birthday!! Nothing exciting today though lol! 41 weeks by LMP.

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*checking my watch*

*pondering what time zone you're in*

*giving up and asking Google*

Come on, baby, you have about nine hours to get here on a fabulous date that you'll be delighted to write down for the rest of your life! Blum 3 That should be plenty of time if you get things started soon! :biglaugh:

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Haha! Still no baby. I had an appointment today and nothing new really. BP was good, baby's heartrate was good. ROA. I'm measuring 39 weeks and have measured 40 for the last several appointments, so she says baby has dropped slightly but still not engaged. And I'm proud of myself, I turned down a cervical check! There was no pressure from her at all, but she said she would just offer at this point if I wanted. I think it would do nothing but discourage me right now, so I declined.

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At what point, if any, is she going to start getting worried & pressure you to do something? Here you simply can't have a homebirth after 42 weeks unless you're already in active labor when 42 weeks hits. That really does put pressure on at the end and I would have loved to have just coasted through those last weeks instead of worrying if I was going to miss the window.

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As long as she collaborates with her physician once I hit 42 and he is on board, then I don't risk out of home birth and don't have to transfer care. She has been around so long and is such a wonderful midwife, that he pretty much backs her judgement on everything. We will also start biophysical profiles at that point and more frequent visits. That was my very first question at our first meeting, given my history of late bakers. She said it wouldn't be a problem and not to worry about it. Another friend of mine just went to 42+4 with no pressure. It's an incredibly nice feeling!

On a good note, I was up about 5:30 with ctx every 3-4 mins. No mucus or anything and they've slowed down a bit since my littles are up and about, but still coming. I fully expect them to stop at some point today, but maybe gearing up for the next couple days???

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What the heck is going on? Had the ctx night before last. They picked up again last night. Then about 1 am got to every 2-3 mins and lasting a minute and 20 seconds or so. I took a bath and really wanted to sleep so thankfully they spaced out. Now I've been having about one contraction every 20 minutes to an hour but the intensity is crazy have-to-work-through-it style. They are so far apart but so intense when they do hit. Anybody had this happen before? I'll take it since I know each one has got to be doing major work. But this weird non-pattern with really hard, long contraction is foreign to me!

Still no mucus or show.

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"krazykat" wrote:

What the heck is going on? Had the ctx night before last. They picked up again last night. Then about 1 am got to every 2-3 mins and lasting a minute and 20 seconds or so. I took a bath and really wanted to sleep so thankfully they spaced out. Now I've been having about one contraction every 20 minutes to an hour but the intensity is crazy have-to-work-through-it style. They are so far apart but so intense when they do hit. Anybody had this happen before? I'll take it since I know each one has got to be doing major work. But this weird non-pattern with really hard, long contraction is foreign to me!

Still no mucus or show.

My guesses are it's either a positioning or lack of abdominal support issue. If you are sure baby's in a good position, then try belly binding to help out your abdominal muscles and get baby lifted up & held in a bit more. I described it in Virginia's lodge, here and here. It's a common problem in you multiparas! Blum 3

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It was such good advice, I posted it twice! :biglaugh:

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Yeah I agree with Stacey, probably a positioning issue. Sad

Strangely enough I didn't have regular contractions with DD until I was already pretty far along. But mine were from 4-10 minutes apart, not as far as you are describing.

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KUP!! I don't have a clue but it sounds like progress! Excited for you!

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Had just a little bit of pinkish show this morning. Was in and out of sleep from about 3-7 am with contractions 10-13 minutes apart. Intensity has picked up, need to breathe through but have spaced out again.

On a side note, has anyone tried the Anne Frye method of measuring dilation by fundal height during a contraction?

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Lots of very thick, pink mucus! Contractions are still all over the place, but I don't think we have much longer.

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Sounds promising! I didn't hear about that method until after Weston was born, but I do remember my midwife occasionally keeping her hand on my belly during a contraction so maybe that's what she was doing. I wasn't terribly concerned with dilation, more with how I was doing & feeling, until after my water broke and we were dealing with meconium. Before that, even though I think I posted on here what my dilation was at one point, it didn't really get into my brain. I hope you can get some good rest in, and then after that, that the contractions settle into something good & productive for you!

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Totally just had an accidental unassisted hba2c at 12:14 am! Meet Calista Marie, 7 lbs 15 oz and 19.5 inches long born at 42 weeks on the dot I'll post a pic when I can.

Active labor/transition was only an hour. The only people there were my hubby and our photographer. My water never broke and baby was born in the birth tub completely in caul after just 5 pushes ❤

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Soooo excited for you! Congrats!!! Biggrin

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ARIEL!!!!! I'm soooooooo excited for you Biggrin

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Yay!!! :woohoo: OMG I can't wait to hear how that happened! Congrats, mama, and Welcome to the World, Calista!

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Congrats!

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WTTW Calista!! She is gorgeous and looks super chunky!! I'll be excited to read the whole birth story when you get a chance to get it written up!

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Now that you are a family of six, I don't expect your detailed story any time very soon... but photos would be fun when you can.

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COngrats!!

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Wooooah! Congratulations!!! Looking forward to story/pics when you can! Smile WTTW, Calista!

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WTTW Calista! Congratulations Ariel! So cool that she was born in the caul!!!! had a feeling it would be crazy quick after all the contractions you'd been having to prepare the way!