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~*~Kristin's (knhoward) lodge!! ~*~

Welcome to your lodge! Looking forward to learning more about you and following the rest of your journey!

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Thanks for setting this up. I will come back and post more hopefully later this afternoon. But I'll do the briefest of intros now.

I'm Kristin, DH is Donald and we have 2 boys now, Jacob (4.25 years old) and Rheneas (2.25) years old. We are expecting our 3rd boy and due May 17th. We are under a midwife's care for this pregnancy for the first time. We are super happy and excited about it and have received wonderful care so far.

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Welcome to your lodge! I look forward to learning more about you and following your journey!

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Welcome to your lodge! Are you planning a homebirth with your midwives?

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"Spacers" wrote:

Welcome to your lodge! Are you planning a homebirth with your midwives?

Yes, I am planning a homebirth. I have all the supplies ready. My other 2 were hospital births with epidurals for me, so this feels like totally foreign territory. My DH is very supportive of it and I have a doula as well. We live 5 minutes away from the hospital so if there turns out to be an emergency then we are close by. I'm getting really excited, but I still have over a week until my due date and with my first 2 I went 10 and then 8 days past my due date.

I was supposed to see my midwife this afternoon but I got bumped until tomorrow because she needs to go to a birth. I have not been checked yet this pregnancy with regards to dilation etc, and I'm not sure if I will be checked this time. I'm torn about it, since I know it doesn't always tell you a lot about when the baby will come.

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Hi Kristin! Looking forward to following your journey!

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Welcome to your lodge, Kristin! Looking forward to following this journey with you. How exciting! Smile

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Welcome to your lodge! I look forward to following you on this journey. How exciting to be planning a homebirth with midwives. Smile

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Welcome to your lodge! Yay for 3 little boys! Cant wait to follow your HB journey.

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Welcome to your lodge, Kristin! Can't wait to follow your birth story!

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Welcome!

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Welcome to your lodge! I look forward to following your journey!

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Thanks ladies. I am having trouble sleeping tonight (It's almost 4am now) I've been finding myself waking up in the middle of the night and laying in bed trying to fall asleep for ages. I just decided I might as well come downstairs as I'm not sleeping. At this point I keep on thinking about the birth and also what life is going to be like with 3 young children.

Today a friend of mine threw a birth blessing ceremony for me. We had about 10 of my friends over to wish me well for the birth. There was a Henna artist so I got henna done on my belly (I will post a picture once I get it from my friend) Everyone was instructed to bring a bead special to them and then we made a big necklace out of it. I got to wear a flower crown and had my feet rubbed with essential oils by my doula. It was a lovely event where everyone got together to wish me well. We were all sent home with candles to light once I am in labour.

Just wanted to add the belly picture (pardon the awful stretch marks!)

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Wow, that blessing sounds wonderful!!! And I LOVE the henna!!! I want one! Smile Hope you can get a nap in later, since you were up all night!

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I didn't realize you were having a homebirth!!! How very exciting!!!! Love the henna! How fun that you had a blessing. I did one for a friend of mine and it was a lot of fun. It was fun to see the different beads that people brought and the meaning they had. I also loved the lighting of the candles when my friend went into labor.

So why did you decide to do a homebirth this time around? Will your kids be present at the birth?

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What a beautiful belly, love the henna! Hope you can get a nap today. :sleep:

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Love it...just beautiful! We did the bead thing too and my DD loved inspecting her "mojo" during diaper changes. Smile

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"emansmom" wrote:

I didn't realize you were having a homebirth!!! How very exciting!!!! Love the henna! How fun that you had a blessing. I did one for a friend of mine and it was a lot of fun. It was fun to see the different beads that people brought and the meaning they had. I also loved the lighting of the candles when my friend went into labor.

So why did you decide to do a homebirth this time around? Will your kids be present at the birth?

Yeah, we decide on a homebirth because we thought it would be more peaceful and much calmer. Also, my last hospital birth the nurses did not listen to my wishes and when Rheneas arrived they didn't put him right on my chest, they took him away to be cleaned up and weighed, despite no medical problem and my request beforehand. I was so disappointed in it. I also was annoyed by all the other women in triage who were loud complainers and it was quite a distraction for me. And lastly, there's nothing like sleeping in your own bed and being in a familiar environment. It's a FB secret though, mostly because SIL is very concerned about us having a homebirth so my DH told her we weren't :rolleyes: My last 2 pregnancies I also had BP problems that would have precluded me from having a home birth. Before this pregnancy I lost 40lbs and my BP was normal. I was much healthier going into this pregnancy. We also live 5 minutes from the hospital, so if there is an emergency we can get there quick. We trust our midwives to make appropriate decisions.

I don't want the kids to be here, unless they are sleeping. They are very needy and clingy right now, and I think TBH they would make things stressful for me. Our nextdoor neighbour who they are good friends with the kids has agreed to take them for the birth (and it's right next door, so they can see their new brother right after the birth)

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Congrats to you on losing the weight, getting your BP under control, and having a plan that you're comfortable with! That is great. I think it's lovely when kids can be at a birth of a sibling, but, I'm not one to push it- and if it's something that will make you uncomfortable or stressed out, I think that is great that you're honoring yourself first. Go mamma! And with them being right next door, it couldn't be more perfect! Smile

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Sounds like great reasons for a homebirth! I am so so so excited for you!! Have someone take lots of pics!! I wondered why I missed that you were having a homebirth but I totally understand keeping it a fb secret when you have people who disapprove and will make rude comments. How great that the kids will be right next door so they can come back over when you are ready for them. I can understand not wanting them there especially if you think they will distract you.

I am just so darn excited for you!!!!!

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I love the henna tattoo - that is SO cool! I have never heard of a birth blessing before, but that sounds absolutely amazing!! I love the idea of it!! I have tons of pregnant friends, I might have to throw one for someone!

So excited to follow your homebirth journey!!

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Wow - sounds like you are in a great place and ready right now!! I love the henna tattoo - the blessing sounds very cool... what a wonderful way to prepare to bring your baby into this world... Biggrin

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I didn't have my boys at my home birth for the same reason. Their energy would have just been a distraction for me. I fed off of the calm atmosphere while laboring. It was exactly what I needed. They were in the other room sleeping though and as soon as they woke up they got to meet little brother. Smile It was perfect actually. I love the henna! I got a henna on my belly as well the week before I went into labor. I loved it! I plan on getting another one with my next baby as long as we still live in the same house and my neighbor is up for doing it or having one of her daughters do it.

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So I had an appt with my midwife yesterday. Things seem to be going along well. She confirmed I was GBS negative, which is great because I am allergic to penicillin and that is the only antibiotic they would administer at home. My blood pressure was 120/70 which was normal for me. Baby is now lying in an oblique position though, with his head kind of near my right hip instead of in my pelvis. His bum is up near my left ribcage. She advised me that I should call her immediately if my water breaks before contractions because it could be a dangerous situation. My doula is coming over tonight to help me with some exercises I can do to try and get the baby into a better position. He has been in this position for several weeks now.

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Hope you can get that baby positioned better without any drama. Yay for GBS -!

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I'm excited you're having a home birth Kristin! I wish you all the best of luck! Babies have sure been in weird positions it seems like this year- on my BB lots of moms, me included, had babies who were head up for most of our pregnancies.
I hope your little one turns down into a great birthing position!

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I'm excited you're having a home birth Kristin! I wish you all the best of luck! Babies have sure been in weird positions it seems like this year- on my BB lots of moms, me included, had babies who were head up for most of our pregnancies.
I hope your little one turns down into a great birthing position!

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Well - I had a very tiring weekend. Had contractions Friday night for a lot of the night. Just crampy and annoying. Then they disappeared Saturday and Sunday. Then Sunday night I had a couple of contractions about an hour after I went to bed. It's frustrating. I've never had contractions before I was fully in labour with my first 2 births.

I am very ready to be done at this point, but at the same time I realize I could have 2 more weeks left!

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Hang in there! You will be holding your baby before you know it and you will forget how uncomfortable you are now. Were you early, on time, or late with your other births? That may indicate what this one will look like, although I know each labour is different. Try to get some relaxation in.

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Sounds like you had a wonderful birth blessing. Love the henna!
Yay for being GBS negative and being all set for your HB. Sorry to hear that you had a tiring weekend. How is LO's position since your appt.?

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How you feeling today?? More contractions?

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How are you feeling today?

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Well I don't feel great today - but no contractions really. Yesterday I spent a good 4 hours walking around. I think I hurt some muscles doing that, plus the baby seems to have dropped very low. All that leads to some very uncomfortable pains in my pelvis area when I stand. I normally walk to the library with my boys on Wednesday but today I had to drive, I just couldn't do the walk. As the day progresses things are feeling a bit better though.

I go to the midwife tomorrow (I will be 40 weeks) I think her plan is to check me and do a stretch and sweep if possible.

I don't know how I can last another week or more. My first 2 pregnancies I worked full time at a desk job and I could sit down and rest when I needed to. This time I am a SAHM and it's so physical. I'm constantly chasing after my boys and bending down to pick them up, lifting them in and out of the car etc. I feel like I'm always running around to their activities too (They do preschool, gymnastics, library storytime and music class) plus any other playdates. Not sure if things will be easier with a newborn, but at least I won't be as physically uncomfortable and DH will be home with me for a month after the birth (he refuses to take off work before the baby arrives)

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I'll bet the on & off contractions this weekend were trying to get baby into a better position. Baby dropping is a good sign that it happened! Do you have anyone who might be able to take your kids for an afternoon? If not, I say forget the playdates & social activities, plunk them in front of the TV, and everybody just be restful today.

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"Spacers" wrote:

I'll bet the on & off contractions this weekend were trying to get baby into a better position. Baby dropping is a good sign that it happened! Do you have anyone who might be able to take your kids for an afternoon? If not, I say forget the playdates & social activities, plunk them in front of the TV, and everybody just be restful today.

You took the words right out of my mouth! There is a time to be a great, involved mom...and there is a time to say "You know what, I'm 40 weeks pregnant. Watch as much Sesame Street as your little hearts desire." Biggrin

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I have been taking advantage of tv time in the late afternoons Smile They do watch tv from 4-5 or so until daddy gets home while I rest and put my feet up (and sometimes sleep) My boys have such a short attention span for things I feel like I need to be constantly "entertaining" them. It actually makes my day easier then the alternative (when they whine and cry for me to do things with them)

I hope you guys are right about the contractions getting the baby in position Smile That is almost my sole source of anxiety about my pregnancy and the homebirth - that I will have to go to the hospital because of baby's position. I will have to discuss this further with the midwife tomorrow (if she finds the baby is still not positioned right)

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If your midwife doesn't think baby is in a good position, can you see an OB for an external version? If not, check for a chiropractor who is trained in the Webster Technique, it's a simple adjustment that opens your pelvis & gives baby more room to turn on his own.

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Oh Kristin, I know how frustrating baby positioning can be! At least baby is not fully breech, right? Are you spending time on hands and knees? Have you thought about the Rebozo type maneuvering? I hope tomorrow's appt brings good news!

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Last appointment I had at 38w5d the baby was "Oblique" So kind of partway between the right position and transverse. So head is down, but not in my pelvis. The bum is on my left side up high. I'd never even heard of the position before it happened to me. The other boys were head down just how they were supposed to be. I have been doing some thing that my doula suggested. Some stretches for my pelvis area, and also kind of going on my hands and knees on an incline. I think it has helped a bit, but I have a feeling baby moves in and out of the position. Sometimes I feel like the head is way down in my pelvis and other times I feel it up more. It's actually more comfortable when he's up because my bladder isn't so compressed. One of my least favourite things about pregnancy is the impact it has on my bladder.

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Happy Due Date Kristin!!!! Hope that little guy is getting himself into good postition. I agree try and get into a Chiro as soon as possible because they can really help with good positioning!

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I hope that your LO is in the right position when it's time for your birth! But I wouldn't stress about it if you feel that the baby is moving in and out of position - I think that your body will make sure baby is in position when the time is right! But it definitely wouldn't hurt to do whatever you can to ensure it.. Smile

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Happy Due Date!

Do you have any hunches about when or how he might arrive? Any days you *don't* want him to arrive? Has he been named yet?

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Happy EDD!

Hope you get some time to put your feet up today. Glad LO is head down and heading in the right direction.

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Happy guess date! Hope you're feeling good today!

I want to know the answers to all of Spacer's questions too. Smile

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"Spacers" wrote:

Happy Due Date!

Do you have any hunches about when or how he might arrive? Any days you *don't* want him to arrive? Has he been named yet?

Thanks! I have a feeling he'll be here either tomorrow or Saturday. I guess there is no specific date I want him to arrive, the sooner the better in my books. I suppose for convenience the weekend would work best for DH because then he could work tomorrow. This weekend is a long weekend here in Canada. Monday is a holiday. So if he works tomorrow and the baby comes after work he will have 4 weeks off starting next Tuesday. I'm excited to have him home and will definitely need his help.

We *think* we have a name chosen. I will announce it when he is born, because it's still subject to change. We've had a lot of trouble coming up with a boys name that we both agree on! We used our favourite names (and family middle names) for our first 2 boys. It's a very traditional name.

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Just wanted to update on my appointment today. Midwife took my blood pressure and it was 130/70 (which she was happy with) The baby is still in the oblique position. She told me that if my water breaks without contractions page her right away as it could be an emergency. She said check my vagina for the cord and if I think I feel it call 911 :eek: She also said to basically go on all fours with my pelvis elevated on a slant.

She then checked me, and it was very painful. I'm not sure if that is normal, I don't remember that feeling from my other kids. Anyways, I am 4cm and 50% effaced. It's somewhat comforting to know that the contractions I have been having are doing something. I realize it doesn't really tell me when the baby will come, but it's more progress than I have ever made this early on.

Only sad news from the appt is that my midwife is off call until Monday morning at 8am. So, if I go into labour this weekend I have to call my backups. It's okay, one of them is a friend of mine, and the other I have met and seems nice. I'd really like my own midwife to be there though. I guess we'll just have to see how things progress.

We talked about the plan for the next little while, and I will go in and see her Monday (if the baby is not born) and she will do a stretch and sweep. It was nice she offered to come in on her holiday to do this. Next Thursday if I make it that far I will go for an ultrasound (Biophysical profile) and I suppose depending on the results they will go from there. I really hope I don't make it that far though!

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Happy due date!

And yay for some progress! That is awesome!! Although I hope baby waits until your midwife is back. Wink I hope baby turns for you soon so you don't have to worry so much when you go into labor!

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If I remember correctly, once I started dilating past 1cm or so, that is when the checks started to hurt - so it probably has a lot to do with the fact that you are 4 cm already. Congrats on your progress - it really does mentally help when you know that all of those contractions are actually doing something! Smile

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I never had checks just while pregnant...but I did get checked a couple of times during labor, and I definitely remember that not being a nice feeling. So sounds like that could be normal- as Melissa said too.

How you feeling today???

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"Marite13" wrote:

I never had checks just while pregnant...but I did get checked a couple of times during labor, and I definitely remember that not being a nice feeling. So sounds like that could be normal- as Melissa said too.

How you feeling today???

Totally exhausted from being up the better part of last night with contractions. My doula came over this morning to do some kind of pelvic release. DH stayed home from work too so I could get a bit of rest. This afternoon we ran some errands and tonight we plan to go out for dinner. Hope this baby gets moving into the right position. I don't know how many more nights I can take of contractions with no baby

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Damn, I just typed a whole reply & it disappeared! :evil:

You need to get that baby into a better position. Probably your muscles are too lax & can't hold baby "up" so he's more prone to slipping sideways. Try using a pregnancy belly band or postpartum support belt. If you don't have one & can't borrow one from someone, then get a couple of the widest Ace Bandages you can find & wrap them around & around, starting at the bottom & working your way up your belly. And check out more ideas at Spinning Babies:

http://www.spinningbabies.com/baby-positions/all-positions/oblique-head-in-the-hip

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