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Welcome to your lodge Maggie!
Can't wait to follow your journey and meet you new little guy!

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Welcome to your lodge!

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Welcome to your lodge, Maggie!!! Smile

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Welcome to your lodge!

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Welcome to your lodge Smile

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Yay, welcome Maggie! Can't believe your lodge is here already!

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Woohoo, lodge time! Hard to believe I am so close already. Thanks everyone, I'll do the whole intro thing soon....

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Welcome to your lodge! I can't wait to share the journey with you.

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I'm Maggie, DH is Brian and we have a 3 year old DS Griffin. Long story short, DH and I met in Connecticut in 2001 the year after I graduated from college. We were kind of off and on for a while until we moved to California in 2003. We got married in August of 2007 (took us a while to make the big leap I guess). Since we had been together so long before we got married and we weren't getting any younger, we decided to start trying to have a baby pretty quickly after we got married. I stopped taking BC in October of 2007, and we started for real trying in March of 2008. I found out I was pregnant on Mother's Day, so it didn't take long! It was a pretty uneventful pregnancy for the most part. I remember being really tired and not feeling so great during the firs tri, but I would forget I was pregnant during my second trimester and was always bashing my belly on things because I'd forget it was there. I don't remember why or when, but I decided at some point early on that I wanted a natural birth. I think I read the Henci Goer book and that really was what sealed the deal for me. But Ina May's Guide to Childbirth and the movie the Business of Being Born were also strong influences. Plus, my mom had me and one of my sisters at home, so it wasn't a foreign concept. But despite knowing I wanted a natural birth, I was also terrified! I did some research and decided to splurge on Hypnobabies. It was hard to squeeze it in with a full time job, but I did my best and I do think it was helpful in labor and also helping me feel more prepared and less scared of birth. Toward the end of my pregnancy, I started getting sick with odd symptoms that I chalked up to weird pregnancy digestive stuff but was later diagnosed with ulcerative colitis. I started getting sick around 34 weeks and DS' growth really slowed down at 34 weeks. At around 38 weeks my MW sent me for an u/s because she was worried about his growth and wanted to make sure he was OK. The u/s tech told me he was only 35-36 weeks along and I must have my dates wrong! I knew exactly when I got pregnant, so I knew she was totally wrong, and then we worried for about a week because no one called us to tell us anything about the results, and finally called the MW office and they apologized profusely, I guess there was some kind of miscommunication and everyone thought someone else had called us...anyway, after the dr. looked at it, he thought the baby looked totally fine and at that point we just had to wait! I expected to go at least a week late because it seems like everyone I know does, and so was surprised when I started having contractions on his due date...so that leads to DS' birth story which I will post separately....
OK, so about a year ago, we moved from CA to VT to be closer to our families on the east coast. We started looking for jobs close to a year before we moved, but had decided we would not give up perfectly good jobs in CA and move until at least one of us landed a job back here. So it took a while, but eventually we made the big move. It was reaaalllllyyyyy hard to leave CA, we had a great community there and really loved it. But I don't regret it, we both knew we wanted our kids to grow up knowing their grandparents/aunts/uncles/cousins, etc. and not having them be strangers they visited for a week or two a year. After we moved, we decided it was time to try for #2 because I was only working very part time and was home with DS most of the time, so it just made sense. However, I wanted to wait until I was totally healthy to TTC. After DS was born, that is when I got REALLY sick and when he was about 9 months DH finally talked me into getting a colonoscopy and getting diagnosed. I lost my pregnancy weight FAST and ended up about 15-20 lbs below my pre-preg weight because I was so ill. People wanted to know my magic weight loss trick and I was like "trust me, you don't want to use my method of weight loss." TMI, but I was in the bathroom 10-12 times a day, was crapping blood most of the time and just physically not well. I was anemic, wasn't absorbing vitamins, etc. After the fun colonoscopy (actually not as bad as I expected) got the UC diagnosis and it was a huge relief, but also sucked. It was really nice to know what was wrong with me and be able to treat it, but depressing to be diagnosed with a chronic, incurable illness. I went on meds for a while and got a little better, but DS was well into being 2 before it cleared up. About a year ago, I was in remission and we decided to TTC. Didn't take the first month of trying, but we got the magic BFP in October and here I am! This pregnancy has been a bit more difficult for my physically, I think mostly because I am older? And also having a preschooler to chase around. I've been more tired, achier, grumpier, etc. This baby moves A LOT more than DS did, he was a pretty quiet baby and continues to be a very mellow child. I feel like we are going to pay for it with this one Wink My UC has remained in remission, which I am SO grateful for, and this baby is very healthy and has been growing totally normally. After some debate, DH won and we decided to find out the gender at our 18 week u/s (I wanted to wait and have that exciting "it's a...." moment at delivery). I was hoping for a girl, if I am totally honest, but we found out it is another little man. It took a minute for me to get over the fact that we weren't having a girl, but now I am really thrilled for DS to have a little brother. I've been having bouts of BH contrax for months and from the beginning thought this baby might come on the early side. I'm glad to be 36 weeks now and not have to worry about pre-term labor anymore. So, we'll see! I would really like to make it to June 28 (due date is July 2) because that is when DH is done with his crazy work schedule.
So, that is my life in a nutshell!

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Here is DS' birth story:
Sunday, January 18th, 2009

My mom and some friends and I walked to brunch around 10 a.m. on the morning of Sunday, January 18th. I saw my prenatal yoga teacher there and said hello. She had been out of town and was trying to see from across the room if I was still pregnant (I was sitting).
After brunch, my mom and I went home and did some stuff around the house. I did kind of wonder if this was that last minute burst of energy you hear about before women go into labor. I had already done all my nesting the week before and had spent the last week being lazy and not wanting to do anything but sit around, but today I was scrubbing the sink, sweeping, doing laundry, dishes, etc.

Around 1:30 p.m., Brian called to say he was too anxious to stay at work (at the time, he worked 3 hours away and was gone Friday-Sunday) and was coming home. I told him I wasn’t in labor, but if he wanted to come home that was OK with me. He said he had woken up the night before with stomach cramps and it made him think he was picking up on something and he just couldn’t focus on work.

Around 3:30 p.m. I started having some irregular contractions that felt a little different from the BH I had been experiencing for the past few weeks. After a little while, I decided to start timing them and my mom suggested I start my cookies for the nurses at the birth center just in case it was the real deal. So I started baking. The contractions got more regular and were consistently about 4 minutes apart, but not intense at all yet. I took a shower and they slowed down some and decreased in intensity for a little while, but didn’t stop.

I got on the computer and spent some time playing on the internet. After a while I felt like I couldn’t sit on the couch during contractions anymore, but they were still totally manageable, and I thought it could still be a false start. I went into the kitchen to finish the cookies. I called my sister while I was doing that and she was saying she thought since I was still talking through contractions I had a ways to go. I bent over and put my elbows on the counter during a contraction and it felt way more comfortable. I felt a little pop and realized my water had broken and ran to the bathroom, still on the phone with my sister, who was excited she was on the phone with me when my water broke. I talked to her for a minute longer, and we finally realized we needed to get off the phone so I could focus on having a baby!

Almost right away, my contractions got a little stronger, but still totally manageable, no big deal. I still thought we had a long night ahead of us. We called the clinic and the midwife suggested we go to the birth center in about an hour. I was really happy because it was my favorite of the midwives at the clinic who was on call and she would be delivering my baby! We called the waterbirth tub rental place and my doula to tell them I was in labor and we’d call again to keep them posted. Brian started getting ready to go get some last minute snacks so we wouldn’t have to stop on the way.

I went in our bedroom and sat on my birth ball and leaned on a pile of pillows on the bed and put the Hypnobabies Easy First Stage track on my ipod. Almost instantly, I started having strong contractions and they started coming every 2 minutes. Brian was messing around on the computer trying to transfer money for the birth tub (we had to pay the balance when we arrived at the birth center). I had a really strong contraction and afterward both my mom and I simultaneously said it was time to go, we were not waiting an hour. Between contractions I made my way out to the car and stood and leaned in on the seat through a couple contractions while we waited for Brian to finish getting the stuff packed up. Finally my mom went to get Brian and said she would get the rest of the stuff, we needed to leave NOW. Looking back, I think he was in denial and panicking a little and his way of dealing with it was to focus on just getting stuff we might need. I think he put 5 pillows in the back seat! I remember being like "how many pillows do we need??" It was around 9 p.m. at this point.

It was really hard to get in the car, we had the carseat and stuff (5 pillows!) in the back seat and I couldn’t recline the seat or lean forward, I had to sit up straight and I was dreading the drive. Luckily, the contractions slowed a bit in the car and I only had two and they were not as intense. As soon as we got to the birth center, though, things picked up. We walked in the door and I was on the floor on my hands and knees. I felt kind of stupid, but I had to be in that position. The nurse said she needed to check me so we knew if she should call the midwife yet. Brian and I both looked at her like “seriously? I am on the floor moaning!” She said it can be really intense sometimes even at 5 cms, but I knew I was further along than that. We got into our room and I went to the bathroom. I locked the door because I wanted some privacy (I was experiencing the loose stool phenomena and didn't need anyone else witnessing it) and I KNEW someone would try to come in. Sure enough, EVERYONE was knocking on the door trying to get me to come out. They all thought I was hiding in there. Finally I made it out and ran over to the bed, trying to get there so the nurse could check me before the next contraction hit. She said she thought I was complete. Brian and my mom both looked at me and were smiling and saying “good job!” I had known that I was complete or really close already, so wasn’t surprised. It was getting very intense for me at this time and I was really having to focus to get through contractions.

It gets blurry at this point, but they put a monitor on (which was supposed to come off as soon as they got a good read on the baby) and started an IV antibiotic drip because I was strep B positive. I had thought I would really hate the IV, but I was so in my own world I barely noticed. Again, the IV was supposed to be in for 20 minutes and then I could move around freely. My doula arrived and came over and tried to get my attention and talk me through a few contractions. Brian was pushing on my back and both of them helped a lot to keep me focused. At some point the midwife arrived. The contractions were right on top of each other. She asked Brian if we had done anything to start labor, since it was coming on so fast (we hadn’t). Someone brought up that we should call the waterbirth place and get the tub in here. I said there was no way there was time and not to call. Anyway, the way things ended up going we couldn’t have used the tub even if there had been time….

During contractions the nurses and my doula and Brian and my mom were talking me through them, doing what they could to help me be comfortable still strapped to the monitor and the IV (bleah!) I became aware slowly that I could not hear the baby’s heart beat during contractions. The midwife announced she was going to have to switch to an internal monitor because the baby’s heart rate was dropping a lot during contractions and since I wasn’t pushing yet she was worried about him. My doula (bless her heart) asked me if I wanted time to think about it. I said no, because I was worried about the baby. My contractions were so close together that the midwife had to put the monitor in during one and it was horrible. She told me I needed to start pushing because we needed to get him out. She apologized that we were needing to deviate so much from our birth plan (we specifically had intermittent monitoring and mother directed pushing included). I didn’t care at that point, I just wanted the baby out and safe and not to end up with a c-section. Luckily, I started feeling the urge to push right at that moment and she encouraged me to push hard and helped me direct it. Her strategy was get the baby out as soon as possible.

I became aware that there was a strange man in the room who was wearing street clothes (not scrubs like everyone else). I could have cared less at that point, but the midwife saw me notice him and explained she had called for back-up because of the heart rate issue (his heart rate was seriously dropping during contractions and went down as low as 50 and was at 70 for 7 minutes). We found out later that he was the surgeon who would have done the c-section if it came to that, which the midwife was thinking it might. I'm so glad she didn't tell us that at the time, I would have freaked out. I wanted to kill this doctor at the time, but he probably saved me from an emergency c-section and possibly saved the baby’s life by making me stop pushing through contractions and blow through them and take deep breaths through an oxygen mask. I also had to lie on my side and my doula held my leg up and this position helped the baby’s heartbeat, so the doctor wouldn’t let me change positions. Not pushing was the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. I wouldn’t describe the contractions as painful (that’s the wrong word, it isn’t pain, but it is totally overwhelming), but extremely intense and it took everything I had not to push. The doctor decided he needed to change internal monitors for some reason and I about lost it, it was the worst moment of the whole labor. I think the Hypnobabies helped keep me calm and focused through most of this though, and allowed me to breathe and do what I needed to do to help my baby.

Good news was the baby’s heart rate went back up. Finally the doctor gave the go-ahead for me to push again and it was the best news I’d heard all day. I pushed through one contraction and realized I was not pushing effectively (again, I think it was the Hypnobabies that helped me have the presence of mind to realize this) and on the next and last contraction I really directed my pushing. Two pushes and he was out! I was kind of afraid I was wrong and he wasn’t really out yet, but I heard everyone oohing and aahing so I knew he was. I couldn’t see him because I was on my side facing the inside of the bed. My mom said “oh, he’s cute, Maggie!” It took me a second to come out of my daze and roll over so I could see him. Even though he had been in such distress for part of the labor, he came out pink and cried immediately. His apgars were 9 and 10. I still had my sweatshirt on because I hadn’t been able to get it off between contractions because they were so close together, so they put him on my belly instead of my chest and I reached down and held his slimy warm body. I saw he had a full head of dark hair. I was still really out of it and just stared down at him, I don’t think I even said anything. I vaguely remember Brian cutting the cord. They dimmed the lights and things really calmed down after that. The room cleared out and they gave us time to ourselves to bond.

He was born at 11:15 p.m., only two hours after we arrived at the hospital and 8 hours after the first contraction!

Not exactly the birth I had imagined, but still an amazing experience and I did it with no pain medication. I used Hypnobabies and did prenatal yoga religiously every week, and I think those two things really helped. I ended up with a 2nd degree tear because I pushed him out so quickly at the end and the MW didn't have time to do all of the things she normally would do to try and prevent a tear. I also had some bleeding issues after the birth, not immediately, but a few weeks later started having gushes of red blood when the bleeding should have been tapering off. It turned out there was still a little piece of something left behind. It was a small piece and after some discussion with the dr. we decided to give it a few more days to see if it would resolve on its own before resorting to a D&C. It ended up resolving, but I bled for a total of 8 weeks after the birth! Between the stitches (which really were a bummer) and the bleeding issues, I had a hard time recovering. My mom says I was "like a pancake" for the first couple weeks, which is true. I think I was a little traumatized by the craziness of the end of my birth as well. The first 3/4 of the labor was so easy and I just couldn't ask for anything better, but the last couple hours was pretty intense, scary, painful, etc. I'm hoping not to have the decel issue this time and that we can just let things progress normally and it will be smoother.

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OK, I just have to share this...the hospital I am delivering at is very NCB, in fact the majority of their deliveries are NCBs because the other hospital in town is a HUGE teaching hospital and not so NCB friendly, so everyone who wants to go natural goes to this hospital. Anyway. We took DS there yesterday to visit just so he would know where we are and be able to picture it when we disappear off to the "hospital" in a few weeks. He was really cute, he held both of our hands almost the whole time and asked lots of questions. Anyway, we decided to sit in the family room for a bit since he will likely spend a fair amount of time there. They have children's books and we just sat and read. So, all of the rooms were in use when we were there, and since it is a NCB friendly place, we kept hearing screaming and moaning coming from the rooms! LOL! It was amazing and scary and funny and made me a little emotional all at the same time. DH was laughing and like "yeah, ladies!!! Tell it!" DS was looking around and said "I hear someone!" He didn't seem worried about it though. He kept asking to read more books. I was a little nervous it would make DS scared that mommy was going to go to the place with the screaming women Smile

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Thanks for telling your story Maggie! Sounds like it got a bit scary there at the end, glad everything worked out the way it did. With DD they lost the heartbeat completely when my water broke and I ended up with internal monitoring too. We didnt have any of the same issues with DS. Hopefully you wont this time either.

I am so excited to see the first of our July lodges! It is getting so close!!!!!

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Welcome to your lodge! Thanks for sharing your story....I love birth stories! I look forward to following your journey these next few weeks!

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Welcome to your lodge, Maggie!!

Thanks for sharing your story!! Sounds kinda scary, but I'm so glad things worked out in the end!! And your DS is so cute! Glad he didn't get scared with all the moaning, laboring women!

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Great idea to take DS to visit the hospital now so that he is comfortable.
TFS your story. I'm so sorry that it got crazy at the end of DS1's birth. I'm glad everything turned out ok. Hopefully it will stay nice and peaceful this time around. Yay for a NCB hospital!

What part of CA did you guys used to live in? I totally understand wanting to be closer to familly. We want to move back to So.Ca in a few years for that same reason. Its hard to be hours, or states in your case, away from family.

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OK, had my 36 week appt today. Decided to go ahead and get the GBS swab and hope it is negative so that we just don't even have to worry about declining anything. If it's positive, I guess I'll decide then whether or not to decline the antibiotics. The MW checked my cervix while she was at it, and I am 1 cm and 50% effaced. I know it means next to nothing, but the way I see it, 1 cm down, 9 to go! Hopefully not much more happens for a couple weeks though, I'd like to make it to 38 weeks anyway. My belly has dropped so much, it almost looks silly. He is super low in my pelvis. Still posterior, but less posterior than he was, if that makes any sense. I'll just keep doing my cat/cows!

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Wow - what a birth! Thanks for sharing your story! I hope that things go much more smoothly for you this time around!

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Welcome to your lodge! And thanks for sharing your birth story. It was interesting to read. Great job doing it all natural and very cool you used hypnobabies and it helped so much. I am going to try and go the hypnobirthing route this time around and I hope it helps me a lot also. I did my first three births completely natural just doing my own thing...didn't have a method or anything to help me with it, so I am excited to be trying hypnobirthing this time around. I hope this next birth for you goes more smoothly and not too rushed or intense or sometimes scary. Looking forward to following you on your journey!

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That birth does sound like a whirlwind, thankfully the doc was willing to try other options than just jumping to a c-section. I hope this birth is much more calm for you.

Cindy

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"lifeisgood" wrote:

That birth does sound like a whirlwind, thankfully the doc was willing to try other options than just jumping to a c-section.

YES, I am eternally grateful to that OB. Even my MW was thinking c-section. I think a lot of OBs in that situation would have gone straight to c-section. When he came in, the first thing he said to the nurses was to "turn off the pitocin." They just stared at him and one of them was like "she isn't on any!!" My body was just having crazy strong contrax all on its own...so I think he figured he would try a few other things first since it was probably unlikely my body would squash the baby to death all on its own, and THANK GOD it worked. Now that I know how much women who try for VBACs are up against in the medical community, I am so glad I am not having to navigate that with this birth.

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I was getting a little nervous earlier. I just felt so "off" and almost ill, and the baby was really putting some serious pressure on the ol' cervix, plus I was having a lot of BHs, some painful (nothing new there though). Realizing that I seem to have bouts of regular BHs every evening around the same time, so that is good to know. Now I can just expect it and not worry every night Smile Anyway, the BHs have stopped for the most part, just one every once in a while, and I'm feeling better. Whew! Not QUITE ready for baby to come yet. Give me another week at least please! Now off to attempt to sleep, which is getting more challenging by the night! Rolling over is such a production lately Smile

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Hopefully you can prepare for them with a nice bath and lots of water Smile

Cindy

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A better idea than rolling over is to sit completely up, turn your entire body, and then lie back down. It's easier, first of all, and there's less risk of pulling a muscle, and it's also less likely to turn the baby. Keep pillows between your knees and under your belly, too.

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Ah yes, "rolling over"... More like bouncing, groaning, grunting, heaving... At least that's what I look/sound like Smile

Definitely a production!

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"Spacers" wrote:

A better idea than rolling over is to sit completely up, turn your entire body, and then lie back down.

I think this is basically what I do, which is what makes it such a production! I have to wake up completely to switch sides, which is about every hour because after an hour or so on one side, my starts to hurt and wakes me up.

37 weeks now! Fully cooked. I feel like it could be any day, or I might still have a couple more weeks. I have always thought since early on this baby would come a few days or a week or so early, so we shall see. I know just because I think he's coming early he will be 2 weeks late and I will have to deal with being induced Wink My parents start their "rotation" at our house starting this weekend to be our babysitters, emergency drivers, etc. while DH is really busy, so I just hope he at least waits until then to make his appearance!

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So turn it around, start planning on him being late so he'll show up earlier. :biglaugh: When does DH's schedule slow down? The end of the month? Will he get some time off if the baby comes before then?

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I figured I'd post a few pics!
Here is DS the morning after he was born. He was a scrawny little dude!:


Here he is the day we went home, in his going home outfit:

Here I am at 34 weeks with DS:

And here is me at 34 weeks with this baby:

I have a really good one of DH, DS and I right after DS was born...I have to see if I can find it...

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Aw your DS is super cute!! And you look great!!

I totally feel you on rolling over in bed, too! Or just getting out of bed to pee at this point! I walk like a crippled lady for the first few steps before I'm fully moving! And I always lay back down on the opposite side I woke up from, otherwise I'll wake up soooo sore! I'm now to the point of constantly using my wedge between my knees because otherwise it's almost like there is ouchy pressure on my labia or something! Lol Sorry, so TMI! But that's how I feel. So I can commiserate!

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Well crap. Painful contractions a little over 5 minutes apart. This has been going on maybe an hour. Usually my evening BH contrax are long gone. I am really hoping they stop. I drank tons of water but they are still happening. I know it seems so ridiculous to NOT want to be in labor, but I really don't want to have a baby tonight! For a variety of reasons, this particular moment is not good. Even waiting until tomorrow would be better. Send me anti-ELVs, LOL!

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Now my back is starting to hurt during them! Noooo. Please stop, please stop. Maybe I should just go to bed and hope I wake up tomorrow still pregnant? Smile

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Glass of wine??? Or do you have a baby already??

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Went to bed and things slowed and eventually stopped. Whew! But that was a wake up call, time to pack the hospital bag!

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Whoa - glad things stopped for you!! And yeah - next time a glass of wine just may be your ticket... LOL

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Happy to hear things settled down for you! Now pack that hospital bag Smile

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I'm still having contractions today, but waaay more spaced out and not as painful. I am packing my bag today and trying to get the last minute stuff done that I thought I'd still have a couple weeks to do. Now I'm not so sure!

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I hope this baby is just messing with you and you DO still have a couple of weeks for life to settle down... but at least you'll have your bag packed now. Smile

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I am SO having DH pick up a bottle of wine on his way home tonight in case it happens again! Good idea. I actually told him I wanted to have some wine on hand for the ride to the hospital because I may want to slow things down to make sure we make it there. I can just FEEL that this baby is going to practically come flying out and hit the wall on the other side of the room, lol. Once this gets going, I think it is going to be very fast. I really wish I were having a homebirth mainly for that reason. Of course, just like with how I will go 2 weeks late because I'm so sure I will go early, I will probably have a long labor just because I think it will be fast Wink
Oh, and last night after a stronger contraction, I said to DH "oh, man, giving birth is going to hurt!" I had kind of forgotten what labor contractions feel like! It made me more anxious in some ways, but less anxious in others because it reminded me of what to expect. Sometimes fear of the unknown is so much worse than the reality, KWIM?

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Try not to stress about the contractions, etc. Do your best to stay relaxed, get what has to be done done, and visualize the ideal birth scenario whenever you start to worry.

Cindy

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:bighug: Glad things settled down. How is your baby positioned? You might be having some strong waves to try to get baby into a better position.

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Try to relax and get some rest. I hope things settle down a bit more until you are ready to have your baby.

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Last I knew he was sort of half-posterior, like he was still deciding whether or not to turn anterior. I've been doing cat/cows and spending time on hands and knees every day to try and get him to stay anterior. I had a MW appt today and it was uneventful...she just said I am in the "action zone" and it is very common to have bouts of contractions at night after a busy day and the best thing to do is just drink some water and go to bed. She said I pretty much have to trust that I will just "know" when they are real labor contractions...and in the same breath told me I should call for anything regular because my first birth was fast and they want me to make it to the hospital in time. Whatever. I guess at this point I'm just not going to stress about it. If he is meant to be born an accidental unassisted homebirth or in the back of our truck on the way to the hospital, so be it. We will have a story to tell!

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Some advice from someone that had an unplanned/unassisted home birth just keep a little bag near by just in case. I had nothing to suction my daughters nose and had to do a little back pat to help her clear some junk out. Better safe than sorry Smile

Cindy

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Yay, Maggie. You are getting close.

Hope he turns anterior for you-- but you may still have some time.....I'd just keep doing what you're doing and not worrying. He'll sort out the position later.

I also had an unplanned unassisted home birth-- all was just fine. Babies that come that quickly are usually totally healthy and ready for the world!

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I've never had an unassisted delivery, but with the speed of my labors, it was a very real possibility. Take some time to figure out what you would do if it happens. That alone helped me relax and not worry about it.

How excited to be getting so close!

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I have no advice, but just wanted to chime in to say hang in there!! Biggrin

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Cindy, I'd like to hear your unassisted story sometime! I've read Audra's...I love those birth stories Smile And good advice about having some stuff on hand just in the unlikely event it does happen. DH actually went through all of the training to be an EMT, and then bailed at the last minute because he didn't want to take the test (which I thought was so stupid...after all that work, he just bailed...he regrets it too). But in any case, he feels like he would know what to do if he had to deliver the baby (I asked him to brush up on it also), plus my mom is a nurse and she'll be around too. I have already thought about what I would do if it became clear that birth was imminent and there wasn't time to get to the hospital, and it does help to kind of have a "plan" in the back of my mind. I really wanted to have a homebirth anyway, but I've posted before about how there aren't any HB midwives available in my area right now...there's only two of them and it is summer (busy season!) so they are both all booked up Sad I would love to be able to just stay home and not have to worry about driving 40 minutes to the hospital!

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Well, we made it! My sister and dad were here all weekend and my mom comes tomorrow to start her "rotation" at my house in case of baby. I am relieved to not have to worry anymore about being alone with DS when I go into labor. DH starts staff training this week and will be gone 12 hour days for most of the week, which stinks, but everyone knows the situation and knows he may have to make a break for it if he gets "the call." He is hoping we make it to the 24th when staff training ends. It could go either way. When I tell people my due date (July 2) they almost always laugh and say something along the lines of "yeah...you are NOT going to make it to July 2." I tend to agree, I feel like it could be any day and the idea that I could still be pregnant 2 weeks from now seems impossible. Hmmm, how about the 26th?

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I'm glad you now have constant companions Smile It just put me in shock that July 2nd is only two weeks away, where is my summer going?

Sandi - Thanks for pulling up my lodge, I always enjoy reading it.

Cindy

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Joined: 12/29/03
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6/26/12 sounds like a good birthday. Blum 3 I'm glad your family is with you now, that has to be such a relief!

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Joined: 08/21/02
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6/26 is a great birthday! Our 2nd DD, Callie, was born on 6/26. Fingers crossed!

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