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Welcome to your lodge Molly!

I'm excited to get to know you better, hear more about how your pregnancy has gone so far, and read all about the last few weeks and the birth of your new little one!! Biggrin

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Thanks Lynn Smile I'm looking forward to getting know you and your experiences this pregnancy.

Nothing exciting to report which I look at as good news! My body has more discomforts that the last two, but I hate to complain when it's really not bad. I just can't get comfortable on the chairs at work and the excercise ball I sit on at my desk isn't much better. My hip and tail bone just don't like me to sit! I end up limping for a bit every time I get up. I hope to make a chiropractor appt before I have this baby. I've never gone, but both my doula and friends have recommended it so I figure why not. I'll post my info on DH, DD1, and DD2 from my earlier lodge on here so no one has to go hunting.

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I will start with a little intro and how dh and I met:

I’m 31 and dh-Elton is turning 30 on May 22nd. We met in college. My junior year, his freshman year, we met at a party. I had friends visiting, who decided to head to a different party with a college friend of mine. Elton was very slick and said he would walk me home and it wasn’t until we were half way there that I realized my friends had my keys to get back to my dorm room (I lived in a single at the time). So Elton said I could hang out at his place until they got back (I’m sure you can just imagine where this is going…). We are hanging out in his room. I call and leave a message for my friends and tell them to call me at Elton’s. Well, a lot of time passed and Elton kept trying to put the moves on me and I was resisting. I finally called my friends again only to find out that they HAD tried to call me, but Elton had turned his ringer off , how convenient. So I left. For the next few months Elton would periodically leave me a message on the message board on my door or call, but I was very standoffish since I didn’t want to be a “basketball player’s girlfriend”. The team did not have a good reputation for being monogamous. Turns out I was right to be cautious as Elton actually already had a girlfriend at our school and I just happened to work in the library with her roommate. Freshman…

Fast forward to my senior year, his softmore year; He had broken up with his “girlfriend” and would constantly try to approach me in bars and such. Eventually a mutual friend said he thought we should get together. I was of course skeptical, but kept an open mind. For a good two months, Elton would stop by my townhouse and we would talk for hours. He never tried to make a move although he would ask. He had finally proven himself to not be like the other basketball players. He was one of the few actually getting a “real” degree and was very sincere and attentive towards me. We eventually started dating but I still kept a bit of a guard up. I stayed to get my masters and we continued to date even after I graduated. By that time we realized we were in this for the long haul.

Elton asked me to marry him in May of 2003 after he graduated college. Turns out he had bought the ring the August before and waited. We were married in October 2004.

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DD's birth story and some pics:

The summer after our wedding we decided to "stop trying not to get pregnant" or as my neighbor puts it "we removed the goalie". We had heard of a number of friends that had trouble getting pregnant so we said, lets see what happens. The intention was that if nothing happened in a year we would TRY for a year and then seek help if we were unsuccessful. Lucky for us we were pregnant by month 2! Unfortunately I was pregnant for our one year anniversary trip to Las Vegas! I had to take naps everyday just to stay up until 11pm! I was very lucky to only have mild nausea and sleepiness in the first trimester and my pregnancy was uneventful. We hope to go back to Vegas when I'm NOT pregnant.

Our birth experience was not exactly how we planned. My due date was May 21st, although two u/s, one at 18 weeks and one at 28 weeks, both put the due date at May 14th. Thankfully my OB did not push the 14th as my due date. I started having NSTs every 3 days starting the week of the 14th though. I went to work on the 22nd and just felt run down so I made that my last day of work since we were in the process of moving (closing date May 31) and still had some packing to do. I don't recommend moving when you are due to have a baby!

On May 23rd I wasn't feeling as much movement as I normally did from Mary. I got up had some orange juice and eventually started to feel her move. Elton and I continued to pack and then went to the Cheesecake Factory to celebrate his birthday and then to see the Matrix 3 (he remembers that being the movie, but I totally didn't remember that). Throughout the entire movie I was trying to count kicks and still didn't feel confident that there was enough movement. The theatre was right near the hospital so I decided to call the doctor and he had me go in for an NST. Mary was fine, but I had very low amniotic fluid so they decided to admit me and start induction. I was not very happy since I knew this lowered my chances of a natural birth. I recently talked to my OB who was not on-call that day and he said he would have sent me home to drink a gallon of water and come back in 24 hours. Wish I had known that! I was given the option to go home and come back to start pitocin in the morning at 7am, but the resident at the time said "she'd be thinking about me all night" so this guilted me into being worried too and I didn't feel comfortable at the time going home since I was obviously already concerned with the lack of movement, oh the things I know now that I wish I knew then!

By the time I was set up in a room to start induction I hadn't had anything to eat or drink since the Cheesecake Factory at around 2pm and it was now around 8:30pm. They started me on an IV which took three nurses and multiple attempts (HELLO, I'M DEHYDRATED!!). I ended up with the IV in my right hand which made wiping when I went to the bathroom near impossible and I had a really hard time sleeping! They started the induction with cytotec with the intent of doing a dose every 3 hours up to 3 times. Well, Mary's heart rate was all over the place when they started the induction so they decided not to do another dose of cytotec and waited until 7am on May 24th to start pitocin. I really feel her fluctuating heart rate had a lot to do with me being dehydrated and hungry. Once she wasn't handling it well they also wouldn't let me eat or drink and Elton had just walked in with food for us! (another thing to ignore). That was when I first really cried hard.

I had prepared for the birth using hypnobirthing techniques. The pitocin was started right at 7am. The hypnobirthing techniques and the pregnancy ball were essential to keeping the contractions consistent and manageable, which by noon were coming every minute with little relief.

By 1pm I was only 5 cm and opted for the epidural which resulted in me going to 9.5 cm within an hour. At that time they broke my water. Within that hour I kept pushing the button to increase the epi! The epi helped with the contraction pain, but now I had awful tailbone pain and pressure during each contraction. It was another 2 hours before they were set up to let me push. My OB stopped in after his office hours just after 4pm and just in time to jump in for the delivery. Mary was not handling the contractions very well and before I even started pushing my OB decided to do a forecep delivery (can we say ouch!) with about 14 people in the room (my mom counted, ha ha). The nurse, who was awesome, said I was lucky my doctor arrived as no one uses foreceps anymore and after reading a number of similar birth stories I'm pretty sure she was right since most if not all ended in c-section. The cord ended up being around her neck and she was posterior. They placed her on my belly for a short time and then the nicu staff checked her over to make sure she was okay. The nurse then placed her in my arms. Shortly after that I started to feel myself fading and unable to hold her and I yelled for someone to take her from me as I thought I was going to pass out and drop her! The nurse rushed in, checked me out and gave me some food. I'm sure it was my low blood pressure, but I honestly can't remember. Mary was born on May 24th at 4:39pm weighing 7 lbs 10 oz and 20 inches long. Her wrists and ankles were VERY dry and even cracking so she was definitely past her due date. My placenta was in perfect condition.

Shortly after her delivery we were moved to a post partum room. The nurse wanted me to go pee so she helped me to the bathroom. While sitting on the toilet things started to fade along with sounds. I said this to the nurse and she immediately pulled the emergency cord. Another nurse rushed in and they helped me into a wheel chair to go the 5 feet to my bed. I got into bed and they asked if I would want to try a catheter. I consented because I knew I had to go bad, but my body just wouldn't do it. The catheter wasn't bad and I immediately filled the bag! Such relief! I've continued to have episodes of lightheadedness since the birth and my regular practitioner believes I may have orthostatic hypotension, which results in my blood pressure dropping if I get up too fast for example. It concerned me many times when I thought I was going to drop Mary when she was a baby, but thankfully it never came to that. I really hope to avoid the epidural this time since I believe that made my blood pressure situation worse.

Mary in the hospital after she was born, one year, two years, 3 years (almost )

I don't remember how to post new pics so I will figure that out and post more recent pics of the family Smile

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Celia May (DD#2)
June 9, 2009 8:05am
11 days past due date
9lbs 3oz 20 ? inches

At about 11:50pm on June 8th I woke up to some strong contractions that I had to breathe through. Within 20 minutes I knew it was the real deal. Unlike my previous nights of contractions, these were like strong period cramps that came every 6-7 minutes from the start. I called my mom at 12:20am to have her come up as she lives 1.5 hours away and I didn't want to take a chance that things would progress quickly. It was a good thing I called because by the time she arrived at 2am my contractions were 3-4 minutes apart and we had a half hour drive to the hospital. I was able to take a shower just before leaving. My hynobabies easy first stage track got me to the hospital. By the time I got there and into triage the contractions were 2-3 minutes apart and I was 6cm dilated.

My doula arrived shortly after we settled into an L&D room. Our nurse was wonderful and a true NCB advocate. We told her about the hypnobabies and then gave her our birth plan which she put in our chart. I was able to have intermittent monitoring and no IV. I drank as I pleased and actually never really wanted food. I was all over the room trying different positions to get comfy in (the toilet was often the best). I found it difficult to listen to the hypnobabies as I kept having to pause it to answer a question or understand what was going on or being said. Two residents stopped in to ask the exact same questions I had already answered when I came in. It was quite annoying and getting in the way of my "zone". I don't know what their purpose was as I never saw them again.

I progressed quickly, as it seemed every time I was checked I was another cm dilated. I got to 8-9cm and had them break my water as the baby was still high and we thought that might help things move along faster. Well it worked. I was 9.5 cm in no time, BUT I had a lip of cervix that would not move out of the way and was starting to swell with each pushing contraction. For the next TWO HOURS I had to keep my body from pushing during each contraction!!!! That was THE hardest part of the whole labor. I was making the loudest sounds and was in so much pain, so exhausted and didn't know quite what to do to fix the situation. The nurse, my doula, and Elton got me up out of the bed and up leaning against Elton as they felt leaning forward while standing with my hips wide and lose would help move the lip of cervix. It was SO HARD, one to stand and two to not push during those pushy contractions!! Of course this is when the anesthesiologist stops by to start asking questions and I just ignored her and the nurse and Elton gave her short answers.

Elton and my doula were AMAZING and I could not have made it without them! I was so impressed with Elton. During my most trying contractions he was right in my ear whispering the hypnobabies scripts. It really helped so much to hear them and helped me in a way that nothing else would.

Just like with Mary's birth, my OB arrived a half hour before the baby was born. He came in, got changed, checked my cervix and said the same thing about not pushing or I would damage the cervix. Ugh! My doula suggested to more than one person the use of some medication that when put on the cervix can help decrease the swelling, they all brushed it off. We both had the same thought after the birth that even if they thought it was nonsense WHY NOT TRY IT! Whatever. Within 20 minutes of the OB's check I felt the "ring of fire" burn during a contraction which I hadn't felt before. They wanted me to get through one more contraction standing and then they had me lay on the bed to check me. During that last contraction I said "I CAN'T NOT PUSH THIS! It was 8am when the OB checked me and said I was complete! THANK GOD! I pushed her out by 8:05am!

After she came out everything went beautifully. Elton reminded them just before she came out that I wanted the baby placed on my chest immediately and to wait until the cord stopped pulsating and they did exactly that! It was awesome! We were all shocked to hear that she was 9 lbs 3oz, more than a pound and a half bigger than Mary!

The OB did an awesome job with keeping me from tearing my perineum, but I did tear slightly the other way and tore a hemorrhoid. I have to say that a tear in the front has been easier to recover from than it was the episiotomy I had with Mary. They asked if it was okay to use a catheter as it would help them properly stitch given the swelling. I consented. The stitching was almost as bad as not pushing during the push contractions even with the local anesthesia. I also had some large clots and the resident working on the stitching after the birth had to push on my belly and "dig" out any remaining clots. OUCH!

Celia then nursed for 1.5 hours! She's a champ. She is a bit tongue-tied which is causing discomfort when nursing, but I had an LC help me and she thinks that it will get better once my milk is in and if not then look into getting it clipped.

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I need to re-read my old lodge, just the little bit I re-read brought back so many things I had forgotten about. That is really what's great about this forum and being able to read birth stories and remember the details like a journal.

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"molly_4711" wrote:

I was 9.5 cm in no time, BUT I had a lip of cervix that would not move out of the way and was starting to swell with each pushing contraction. For the next TWO HOURS I had to keep my body from pushing during each contraction!!!! That was THE hardest part of the whole labor.

OMG, I had that with Weston and ITA it was so hard to not push for all those hours of three different midwives trying everything they knew to try. I'm so glad yours resolved and you were finally able to push her out!

I think it's time for you to have a nice relatively uneventful birth! Blum 3

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I need to catch up on your lodge when I have a moment! But just wanted to say welcome, can't wait to follow the rest of your pregnancy.

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Welcome to your lodge!!! I hope this birth is much more uneventful than the last two!!! the story about how you got together with your DH made me smile - love that you held out until he was more committed!!! Smile

Do you know if baby #3 is a boy/girl? Were you TTC or it just happened?

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I do not know if this baby is a boy or a girl and I didn't know with either of my first two. I LOVE surprises! Biggrin

I guess I'd have to say we were trying. We are very lucky and it takes no more than 2 cycles for us to get pregnant when we want to have a baby.

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BH pressure waves

I've had BH "pressure waves" (hypnobabies term for contractions) in the past. Lately they are pretty strong and lengthy, but only occur every few hours or maybe 3 or 4 times in a day. They are strong enough to make me catch my breath, but not painfull in the least. Just curious what others experience has been with them. I've set my mind to this baby coming late given my history, yet I'm starting to allow other peoples guesses that I will go earlier this time creep into my mind. How early did some of you start feeling strong and lengthy BH before it was the real deal.

BTW, this baby definitely moves a lot more that the prior two pregnancies and even short walks trigger BH. By the end of the day the baby feels super low causing lots of pressure, but I wake up the next morning feeling back to "normal".

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I'm no help with this question. I've never really had BH. maybe a bit of tightening, but nothing I'd consider consistent or strong. I just go right into active labor.

Maybe this baby will arrive earlier!!!

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I have had lots of BH with each pregnancy. They start early too like around 20 weeks. They have been mostly just tightening with my previous but with this one have been accompanied by a slight lower back ache and sometimes really low menstrual like cramping. I have never been able to associate them with any indication I'm going into labor. They are random throughout and haven't really increased in amount or intensity leading up to babies arrival.

I actually went in for an extra checkup at about 30 wks b/c after a busy weekend going straight into a work week with no break I had 3 days of lots of "activity". It made me nervous due to this one having the backache and cramps with BH's. They checked my cervix on u/s and doc said it was as long as the day. So no apparent changes from the check they did about 4 weeks earlier.

Anyway, all that to say IME there is no telling. It could mean something or completely nothing. I had them for quite a while last night too but nothing really painful and stopped before I even went to bed, although that was late. But nothing this morning.

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I was re-reading my lodge from last time and realized I had all the same early BH and was still tightly closed the week before I had DD2. So I'm going to assume it's all practice until I've lost some plug and had ones that wake me up!

I have an appt with my OB tomorrow. Due to scheduling conflicts I haven't seen him in 2 weeks and realized I need to have my GBS test done! This baby needs to hang tight until I get the results.

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How did your appointment go today? Hope is was uneventful and you were able to get the GBS swab taken care of.

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Hi! I'm late to the party, but welcome to your lodge! I had a lip too, but they told me to push past it...maybe that's why I pushed for two hours! Hope this labor is much smoother for you...

I had tons of BH the last couple of weeks. They were just practice. The night before I went into labor I had so many that were so regular that I stayed up until 1am to try to keep them going...of course they fizzled out and then I was just exhausted for the real labor that started the next afternoon! Just take it as a sign that your body is practicing and nothing more. You'll know when it's the real deal!

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Welcome to your lodge!
I've had tons of BH with all my pregnancies, starting at 12-14 weeks. They get pretty strong sometimes, but never seemed to have anything to do with my cervix.
I hope your appointment went well!

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How are you doing Molly?

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Hi! Appt went well. Got the GBS test and should have the results by my next appt on Monday. OB checked cervix (while he was there :rolleyes: ) and confirmed that the BHs are doing nothing. LOL. Starting this week I will have an appt with my OB every Monday and an appt for an NST every Thursday, which works fine for me. While my OB was filling out my work leave of absense forms I asked about whether it was standard to administer an IV with pitocin AFTER the birth as I was told by the nurse at my last birth. He said no as long as my uterus is contracting, we can play it by ear. I asked it a shot of pitocin was an option instead of the IV if necessary and he said yes. That's all I wanted to know, that I have choices. I told DH that so he can stay on top of looking out for me.

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Glad you had a good appointment. Smile Sorry the BH's don't seem to be doing much. That's great about not having to have an IV. I would love to avoid having that put in too.

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I'm okay with the BH's doing nothing. They did nothing with DD2 and I was closed tight at 40+3 and I had her a week later no problem. Smile

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Hey Molly, how are things going? I know you're getting close to your EDD! Is this baby a surprise? I don't recall you saying if having a boy or girl?

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Yes, this baby is a surprise. I love surprises!! I have absolutely no signs that this baby is coming anytime soon. I have an OB appt today at 3:30, but I don't plan for him to do an internal check, just the usual checks. Baby is super low, but that doesn't seem to be resulting in anything.
Went to accupunture yesterday and that was very relaxing. I think I'm going to have them start the techniques for induction Wednesday and if not, definitely Sunday.

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Yay, I love surprises too! DS2 was a surprise at my choice. DH said he preferred to find out but it wasn't so big a deal to him that he couldn't wait since that was my preference...so we waited. It was so much fun to me...I especially loved everyone's response in amazement and confusion that I didn't want to find out at the earliest possible moment. Wink I let DH have the choice this time since he agreed for us to have #3 when he was fine at stopping after 2. I figured it's the least I could do. Blum 3

I've never done acupuncture, I wouldn't even know where to go around here. I'm glad you have someone to go to and that it's nice and relaxing. Exciting about starting induction methods soon. You're getting close! Smile

Are you having any feelings about sex of the baby? Do your girls have any preference?

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My husband wanted to know so we attempted to find out with DD2, but she was having no part of letting us know. DH says he missed a turn so it was my turn for a surprise Smile He is actually enjoying having the surprise.
I'm trying not to guess the sex since I totally thought DD2 was going to be a boy. DD1 says it's a boy, but I'm not sure if it's just because EVERYONE is guessing it's a boy.

On another note, I'm not too convinced that natural inductions work for me. DD2 proved that. I'm always willing to try everything I can in order to avoid an unnatural hospital induction. Baby will come when baby is ready....

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Thought I would give an update after yesterday's OB appt. My NSTs and ultrasounds have been perfect and my regular OB appts uneventful. I forgot to ask if the GBS test came back negative, but I'm assuming it did. I'll confirm on Friday. I asked to decline the cervical check since it means nothing (willing to do it after 40 weeks), but OB was having no part of that and it wasn't worth a fight. Of course nothing was happening...
I left the appt unhappy this time. If this baby doesn't come before 41 weeks I have a feeling I'm really going to have to sit down with him about not inducing if everything looks great on the NSTs and ultrasounds. I'm disappointed that he doesn't take DD2's birth into consideration at all, but I'm going to be sure he does if he keeps insinuating that I will not be "allowed" to go to 42 weeks. He wouldn't even schedule an appt for me next week and wants me to call in Friday morning after my Thursday NST and ultrasound to "see what we should do next". I'm not even 40 weeks until Friday (I think it's more like Sunday based on LMP)!! I don't like that he is considering not having a regular appt with me next week. Maybe I'm reading too much into it, but I have pretty good instincts.
I get to this point in my pregnancies and wish I had a midwife...although there is no guarantee that a midwife wouldn't put the same pressure on to get the baby out in the end.
Thankfully my hypnobabies is keeping me calm, relaxed, and confident. I'm not worried about having to confront the OB if needed, I just hope I don't have to. I want to stay in my "bubble of peace".
I can't make my accupuncture appt that I have scheduled for tomorrow so I'll have to wait until Sunday to start the induction techniques. I have a massage scheduled for Saturday.

I'll let you know how the NST and ultrasound go on Thursday as well as what happens with the OB.

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sorry your doctor is getting pushy. I had OBs with my first two and MWs with 3+4. The OBs were pretty laid back, but the MWs are even more so. My MWs will not do cervical checks until 39w and will not consider induction until 42w unless medically necessary. I like it.
Good luck. I hope he listens to you.

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Ugh! Sorry you're having to anticipate arguing to get your wishes. I hope your doc surprises you, in a good way! Smile I'll be watching for your update later this week.

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My MWs won't do anything until 40 weeks and then pretty much only on request--they would certainly not push any checks or sweeps if I wanted to decline them! Unfortunately, their hands are tied at 41 weeks and you risk over to the hospital, but my understanding is that you can still pretty easily insist on going to 42 without any intervention, you just have to have a daily NST. And the MWs are still your primary care in the delivery room--it's just AT the hospital and subject to their rules. Still, much better than most traditional OBs, I think.

Sorry you're dealing with such unnecessary pressure at this point. I hope you're able to get him to back off some!

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Just went to accupuncture where they did all the induction techniques and gave me tips on what to do at home. The acupuncturist seems pretty confident I'll go into labor tonight. If not I'm to go back tomorrow after my NST. Just in case he's right in going to make sure everything is set to go Smile

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Also had fresh pineapple for dessert tonight, we'll see Wink

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I hope the acupuncturist is right! If you have a baby in the next 24 hrs and I don't I'm getting some pineapple! Oh and looking for an acupuncturist. Wink

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I highly recommend the accupunture. You can start now Smile Even if it doesn't induce labor it is a nice quiet relaxing time.

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Molly, how are you doing? Did you speak with the doc yesterday? I hope you aren't getting any unneeded pressure...
Any baby coming soon indications going on?

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"Clarkton" wrote:

Molly, how are you doing? Did you speak with the doc yesterday? I hope you aren't getting any unneeded pressure...
Any baby coming soon indications going on?

No indications baby is coming soon although I am liking the idea of the supermoon helping out!
I did talk to my OB yesterday and he doesn't want me to go a whole week without seeing him now that I'm getting past my due date and I'm "old" yes, he really said that! I had to laugh. He wants me to have him paged on Monday at the hospital and he'll come up with a reason for why I need to come in and see him :rolleyes: No biggie. I'm going to be very clear that if he is able to to a sweep I DO NOT want my ROM.
I had accupuncture 3 days in a row and although it has helped with my sleeping and moving baby down, no sustained pressure waves. Everytime I go to the bathroom I'm hoping to see some plug...but nothing...
I had an amazing massage from a good friend of mine and she wouldn't charge me! She spent at least 2 hours on me! It was so wonderful and I enjoy spening time with her.
Back to the accupuncturist tomorrow...hoping it's the last time since it's getting expensive...

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Yeah, my doc brought up the AMA thing too. Sad Good luck today seeing the doc and I have fingers crossed for you that it's not much longer. :goodluck:

How awesome about your friend giving a free massage! Smile

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Hi Molly! Sorry to just be jumping in now! I'm having trouble taking on more than one thing at a time, hehee!

How are you feeling today? Don't let the pressure get to you! In Israel it is perfectly normal for 50 year old women to have their 7, 8 or 9th child or more! without pushing any extra interventions! "Old" is relative to what's accepted and what they're used to seeing. You're fine!!

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I'll be sure to post what happens at with my OB. I do believe the accupuncture has helped lower the baby which is resulting in lots of preassure and even some mild contractions, but I think if there is no change in my cervix I'm going to have to stop going. It is getting way to expensive to keep it up.
I'm not worried about the "old" thing, I think it's funny that if I were 34 1/2 it wouldn't even be mentioned, but because I'm 35 1/2 it matters.

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Called OB this morning and since I'm still feeling lots of baby kicks he is fine with seeing me Wednesday, but asked me to move my NST to tomorrow instead of waiting until Thursday. So my NST is at 1pm tomorrow and my OB appt is 10:45 Wednesday.
In other good news I've been having more regular pressure waves, some pretty strong, never less than 10 minutes apart. I'm hoping it's a good sign of more to come soon.
My kids are at grammy and grampy's house until the baby is born and DH and I are bored already without them around! It is nice to be able to nap when I need to and get work done from home.

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Hi Molly, sorry I am just now catching up. I enjoyed reading your birth stories. Your first birth sounded a lot like mine. I so wanted a natural birth and got stuck in the pitocin trap. Glad you got a natural birth with your second even though it sounded hard. That story gives me hope for future births, should I have more. Hope this third one is easy peasy for you.

Good luck with your nst tomorrow. How nice to be kidless for awhile before adding a newborn to the mix. Hope your contractions pick up and your LO decides to come soon.

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I'm just catching up too, sorry!

Glad you are feeling more pressure waves and the kids being away sounds heavenly! Wink Maybe that baby will come tonight before the NST tomorrow!!

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I was 42 when I was pregnant with Weston and neither my midwife nor my OB was concerned about it at all. They both said they'd prefer an educated, active, healthy mom at 42 than a younger mom who eats crap and sits on the sofa all day and isn't willing to make any decisions on her own.

If you & DH get too bored, you could always do a little BDing to help encourage that little person to come out. That's always a lot more fun without the littles around! Blum 3

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Sounds great!!! Fingers crossed for you that this peace and quiet is just what you need to get going...

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NST went great. LOTS of fluid for the BIG baby. They only mentioned it as fair warning for when my water breaks there will be a lot of fluid. Baby is way down in my pelvis. Yeah! Not nearly as many pressure waves today, but I'm still hopeful that there will be some change in my cervix.
DH and I will be BDing to help move this along. It would be a lot more fun if it weren't so much work to get in a good position!! ROFL

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Glad the NST went well today. LOL, I hear you on getting into position. It's a lot more work than fun at that point in pregnancy! Wink

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Back from the OB. Zero change in my cervix. No sweep possible.
Good news is that my OB is not pressuring me at all (is even fine with changing the due date to 6/23 instead of 6/21) and will plan to see me Monday after I've had an NST on Friday. I will not be questioning the change.
I'm sad and discouraged though. I was so hoping I wouldn't be in this position again. I keep thinking of my hypnobabies track that says the baby will come on his/her birthday and I will be patient. I did that already last time. It's hard to ignore the clock that is now ticking.
Anyone try cumin tea? It's one of many natural induction techniques I've read about. Accupuncture is too expensive at this point. I'm hesitant to try some of the herbal suggestions when I don't have a professional to help me determine the proper portions. Another reason why I wish I had a midwife at this point. Nipple stim and doing the deed are on the menu for tonight and every night until this baby gets here!

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Good luck with the nipple stim and DTD! I hope it works for you.
With DS2 I walked around at 2-3cm and pretty effaced for a couple weeks. My doc was amazed to see me back each week. I tried pineapple, meals with lots of fresh oregano, was drinking lots of red raspberry leaf tea, DTD at least nightly, hiked several miles (really, at 39 weeks pregnant), and probably a few other things I've since forgotten. None of it did anything. The hike didn't even help my cervix change at all. Then one morning I woke up in labor and he was born before noon. So... I think there's something to "baby will come on his birthday". I hope your baby is ready for his/her birthday soon!

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I agree with the above. I also have said many times that my only regret from my last birth was not being more relaxed about the whole thing even with a clock ticking. I really think my anxiety over that stupid clock made my labor much longer and more painful than it otherwise would have been. Do what you need to do to get that monkey off your back. Nobody can force you to induce, right? Nobody is going to kidnap you and strap you to a table on a certain date. Baby WILL come. The more at peace you are with letting things happen they way they're meant to, the better. What can worrying do aside from cause your body to tense up and flood yourself with stress hormones? I know it's WAY easier said than done, but I think relaxing about it is probably the #1 most effective natural "induction" technique there is. Smile

Personally, I did just about every natural induction in the book and none of it really did anything. Well, the blue cohosh may have, but that's serious stuff--I probably wouldn't dose myself without medical advice, and even my mws didn't recommend it until 41 weeks. None of the other herbs or walking or DTD did anything except bring on unproductive BHs. Hang in there...you're so close now. Baby WILL come.

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Thank you both very much. I needed to hear that others tried every induction method with no luck until baby decided. I did that with DD2 and I don't think anything helped. I need to get myself over this funk I'm in right now and get back on the relaxation path and remembering that I'm not 41 weeks yet and there is still plenty of time. I think today is a day for that good cry before birth and move on.
Just found out my DH's boss had a C-section after a 'forced' induction on her due date Sad Good incentive for me to stay on the path of letting nature take it's course.

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((big hug)) I'm sorry there was no apparent progress but I'm sure your body is working toward that day. I was already feeling the calendar pressure before 40 weeks so can imagine how much more you are now. :(. So glad your doctor was cool and not adding pressure. I really hope you find yourself in labor soon and that you're successful at relaxing until that time. Smile

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