Vicki welcome to your lodge! I'm excited to follow the rest of your pregnancy and your birth.
Welcome to your lodge Vicki!
Yay thanks for starting this for me Elizabeth! While I have time, let me do a run down of my past two pregnancies/deliveries which were pretty much like night and day!
With my first, my pregnancy was pretty uneventful. BP was always low, little to no swelling, didn't gain a bunch of weight, etc. Had one "scare" when I was measuring behind a couple weeks but an u/s showed baby growing fine. My plans were to deliver at a birthing center, preferably a water birth, and I took "mindful birth" classes which are loosely based on the Bradley Method to prepare myself. When I got to 40 weeks, my midwife checked baby and he was posterior. She stripped my membranes and tried to manually turn baby to a more favorable position. That day I had light contractions and I believe I went into actual labor a coule days after that. I remember feeling really weird pains on the top of my stomach that were worse than contractions and the midwife advised me to do pelvic turns during contractions to get baby to turn. I really hated standing up and walking around while I was in labor though and the constant pain in my stomach was getting worse and I really wanted to go so we went ahead into the birthing center.
Once we got there I walked in loops around the halls and swiveled my hips during contractions but again, I just really really wanted to lie down so I eventually laid on my side in the bed and DH laid next to me and put counter pressure on my hips every so often. Then - this is the part I don't remember - but all of a sudden I started shaking and convulsing. I was having an eclamptic seizure. My husband says my midwife was very cool and told him to call 911 and hooked me up to oxygen etc. I was taken to the hospital 5 minutes down the road where they hooked me up to fluids, checked me (7cm) and really tried to get my labor going. I do remember talking to DH about an epidural which we agreed on but sometime around then I had another seizure and baby was going into distress so we were sent for a c-section.
I don't remember much about the c-section either. I do remember seeing him for a split second and then having DH go w/ him after that.
Micaiah Philip was born at 9:56am on February 14th weighing 7lbs 15oz and measuring 20 3/4 inches long.
However, the hard part wasn't over yet. I remember in recovery, my mom feeding me jello and me asking for my baby over and over again. I hated that I had just gone through 36 hours of labor and couldn't see him. After being in the hospital for a day or so,
Micaiah developed a high temperature, low oxygen and some blueness associated with it. They quickly took him to the NICU. They were concerned he MIGHT have an infection, so they put him on antibiotics to monitor him for 48 hrs, at which point they would know his results. So I had to come home from the hospital without my baby. That was the worst couple days of my life. I was already struggling with low milk supply and having to travel 1 hour round trip every 3 hours to feed him was taxing. It was so weird to see this huge full term baby in NICU, and so wrong I thought. He ended up having another blue spell so we had to again wait for the doctor to say it was okay for him to go home. We really felt that was the best thing for him. After his tests for infection came out negative, the doctor let him go instead of having him wait another 48 hours.
We are still unsure why I developed Eclampsia so quickly. I had not been showing any signs of it (or Toxemia) in my previous checkups. Looking back from 5 years ago now though I think my body was tired of being in labor and since he was posterior I wasn't progressing and it just all put me over the edge. My mom had pre-e w/ me so it's hereditary.
Well, I wasn't planning on writing a book but ya know, I can't just summarize things! I will come back w/ Noel's birth story tomorrow. Don't worry, it's much happier!
Oh wow, that is pretty scary. I've never heard of eclamptic seisures. I'm glad everything turned out ok. Can't wait to read the next one!!
Welcome to your lodge Vicki!!!! I wanted to start this but this past two weeks have been HELL here. Can't wait to follow the rest of your journey and see you have another beautiful birth center birth.
Noel's birth story:
This pregnancy was like the last - no problems, no huge weight gain etc. This time though because of my previous history, I was monitored more closely. I had urine strips and a bp monitor to use at home, I tried to eat as much protein as I could, and I took a cal/mag supplement throughout my pregnancy to try and prevent what happened before.
Because I was seeing a nurse midwife for a VBAC and she was working full time elsewhere, we tried to do some natural induction techniques to get baby born on a weekend so the NMW was more available. However, looking back I realize this was really futile, just got my hopes up and was just uncomfortable and unnecessary. Little girl just wanted to come on her own time!
I went to bed at around 11pm on Tuesday night, March 2nd, but I could not go to sleep. The baby had some pretty violent hiccups that shook my entire belly, and was moving around a lot, causing me to feel pressure. So I went downstairs and did some crossword puzzles, hoping to wear my mind out so I could sleep. I went back to bed at 12:30 and slept until 2am when I woke up with contractions. I constantly felt like I had to go to the bathroom, and it felt good to sit on the toilet anyway so I walked back and forth from the bed to the bathroom a few times. I had a pretty strong contraction once while on the toilet, stronger than anything I remembered feeling with Micaiah. Finally, I sat on the bed again cross-legged and timed a few contractions. They were about 5-6 minutes apart so at around 3:15 I woke up DH. We then went ahead and called my midwives and my parents who live two hours away so they could be here with Micaiah.
We timed a few contractions which were still five minutes apart and I went to take a shower. I then lay down in the bathtub for a bit. Tim came in to check on me and all of a sudden I got nauseous and had to get out of the tub to throw up. This is when I finally believed I was really in labor. Up until this point I wondered if this was all just practice. I was worried that my parents would make a wasted trip down here and that I had woken my midwives up for nothing. But when I was in labor with Micaiah, I couldn’t keep anything down either so it was no surprise that it was the same way this time around.
Right after that, I noticed a few drips of something come out of me and I thought it was probably my water starting to break. Looking back, it might have actually broken in the shower because it was broken when I got to the birthing center and I hadn’t had any more water come out.
DH and I now started to get all the last minute things together to leave. He called a family from church to watch Micaiah since my parents were still on their way. Meanwhile, my contractions were consistently 2-3 minutes apart and lasting 30-45 seconds. To get through the contractions, I was either sitting cross-legged on the couch or lying on my belly on top of a pillow and sticking my butt up in the air when I had a contraction. I’m sure it was attractive! I also had a rice pack on my lower back to take away the slight pain there. When we called the nurse midwife again (we’ll call her Midwife C), she said to try to stay active and walk around, but that wasn’t very attractive to me. I think they were really just concerned about the baby's position and my progression but honestly looking back I was progressing just fine. DH made me do it through a few contractions and swivel my hips around for the possibility of her being posterior (since I was having some back pain). It really helped me to just zone out and focus on the contraction, then just rest as much as possible in between. I threw up a couple more times, too. I realized it was when a contraction was stronger than the ones before it had been, it made me nauseous.
We finally left the house at around 7:15am. I sat in the floor in the front seat and leaned on pillows. It was harder to focus in the car, but not unbearably so. DH would steady me when we went around a curve which was helpful but distracted me from concentrating. We dropped Micaiah off and arrived at the birthing center at around 8am. Midwife C checked me and said I was 6-7cm. Then the other midwife (Midwife L – who saw me through my first pregnancy but can’t deliver VBACs) decided to see if she could tell what position the baby was in. She tried to turn the baby during my contraction to see if it would help with back pain. Looking back I don’t think she was turned at all; I was just having mild back pain that can be normal in any labor. This was when I asked about all the liquid that I felt coming out and she said it was water, but that it had already broken and she didn’t break it herself. At that point with all of that poking and prodding she did, I was up to 9cm so they ran the water for the tub. Man did I want to get in there so bad! While I waited, DH would try to help by massaging me and I remember telling him to stop touching me. I was so focused on getting through the contractions and resting in between that any unwanted touch was a distraction. Sometimes I wanted him to massage me but only if I asked him to first.
Once in the tub, I was allowed to go ahead and push, even though I didn’t really feel like pushing. It was a slow process, but something I expected for my first vaginal delivery. I don’t think DH realized that pushing could take so long. Everyone was so encouraging, saying to wait for a contraction to push and then saying “Almost there, she’s definitely coming out, keep pushing, you’re doing a good job, etc.” DH was wiping my forehead with a cool cloth in between, and pushing against my back with all of his might during a contraction. He also kept asking me if I wanted any water and at first I did but after that I didn’t need more and I found it slightly annoying when he kept asking. Eventually Midwife L, who was coaching at the end of the tub, gave me a mirror so I could see what was going on myself. When I’ve watched birthing videos in the past, the thought of actually seeing what was going on down there made me cringe, but this really helped me to *know* that I was making progress and it made me push even harder to get that baby out! I also often put my hand down to feel her head and was surprised that it had a decent amount of dark hair on it! As I kept pushing, I realized that it didn’t really hurt at all. It was exhausting, but I didn’t feel that much pain. Maybe twice I vaguely felt that “ring of fire” feeling but I knew I had to push through it. I also realized that at this point, I was automatically pushing without even thinking about it. DH said later that he was surprised at how happy I was in between pushing.
Finally the head was out and a few light pushes and the body slipped out and I was handed my daughter. First thing I thought was she looked like her daddy. We checked the gender to make sure she was still a girl and were relieved that she was. (I had only had one u/s and they gave me the “don’t see anything to say it’s a boy so it must be a girl” line.) I held her and cuddled her and looked at her in awe for awhile. I tried to get her to nurse but we were both so slippery that it wasn’t working very well. I was also surprised at how clean she looked, but I guess that’s because she was born into water. The cord stopped pulsing and DH cut it and took the baby while I pushed the placenta out. Midwife C had to make sure she got it whole so there was nothing else stuck inside of me. Then I was washed off and led out of the tub and into the bed.
I had a pretty good tear, unfortunately, but it was only first degree so Midwife L was able to stitch me up there. Let me tell you, NOT a comfortable experience.
Looking back at the whole thing, the labor and contractions were not nearly as bad as I thought they would be. They were never so close together that I didn’t have time to rest in between. I never had that transition stage where I questioned my body either. And even the pushing wasn’t that painful and even though it was hard work, I never thought I was too tired to keep going. Oh, and DH was very encouraging despite my jabs at him. He did perfectly!
Born March 3, 2010; 10:07am
8 lbs, 2 oz; 21 in long
I loved reading your birth stories, wow the first one was quite a scary experience. I'm glad you had such an awesome second birth. I love the pic you posted of you in the birthing tub with your baby and DH!
Aww what a great birth story!
Welcome to your lodge Vicki and thanks for sharing your stories!
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What a sucky appointment today. First I have to say despite everything, baby and I are both healthy and for that I am thankful.
To start off, they rescheduled my appt for 5:30 yesterday so a perk of that was that I met DH at work and he took the kids so I could be there in peace. Which was good because I ended up not even seeing the midwife until almost an hour after my appt time. :/ BUT I got to see MY midwife, not the other one.
For starters, after having my iron tested again last time, it was still low. My m/w always recommends specific vitamins and I had just bought some cheaper iron I found on Amazon and was taking one a day. Well, she said I should be taking 4(!!) a day of HER recommendation. So $15 later, I have a whole 30 capsules of raw iron which will last me about a week if I take 4 a day!! (I decided I would take half of the ones I have and half of hers - so 2 of each kind - a day instead to stretch it out.)
Next, my strep B test came up positive. I've never tested positive and I'm wondering about that. My doula friend asked me if I had DTD the night before because that can throw it off and it was entirely possible so I dunno. But anyway, I have to buy this hibiclens stuff and douche every day for awhile and I asked to be retested in two weeks so here's hoping it's negative.
Then the worst part, which I can't really go into detail about but due to unforeseen policies and circumstances, I will have to have my baby at home at this point. This could change and hopefully it does but if I went into labor right now, my m/w would have to come here. This is a bigger deal for hubby than for me; I can live with it, but when I told him last night, he got mad at me for not telling me that it was a possibly sooner (I had known it might be and I *did* tell him but he forgot.) and he really hasn't talked to me since.
Otherwise, bp was fine, baby measuring fine, in good position, head is low and down, etc.
Oh no, I'm sorry you are running into issues at this point I have also read that DTD can throw off the GBS test. What are your thoughts on the abx if you are still positive? I had done a bit of reading up before I got my negative result and I was feeling torn about what I would do if I did test positive. Hopefully the hibiclens will clear it up though and you will be able to get a negative test in two weeks. And I'm sorry your DH is so upset about a homebirth. I assume its because he is worried in case something goes wrong like the first time? I can't remember, but do you live close to a hospital in case you have to transfer? With your first birth,even though the seizures were scary, you did have time to transfer and wouldn't the midwife bring stuff like oxygen, etc. to your home so it would be pretty similar to being in a birth center in terms of what treatment options were available for any potential issues? At any rate, I'm sending positive thoughts that whatever the policies/circumstances are that are necessitating the homebirth will change and you will still be able to go to the birth center and that where ever you end up giving birth, it will be a smooth delivery with no complications.
I would probably not go with the antibiotics and just have my baby tested afterward to see if they need it.
Yeah, I think he's worried because of what happened the first time. I told him the midwife would bring everything that she uses at the birthing center to our house. I think he also just hasn't mentally prepared himself for the possibility and feels rushed. He doesn't make quick decisions - it takes him a LONG time to warm up to things if he's not 100% sure of them.
Yeah, we have a hospital 5-10 minutes away; not AS close as the one near the birthing center, but close enough.
That totally sounds like my DH on the not making quick decisions. He hates to feel pressured to change quickly or finalize something until he has really digested it. He pretty much has to feel like it was his idea before he will get on board. Hopefully your DH will get more comfortable with the idea after he's had some time to think about it so he can get back to his job of supporting you!
And good luck again with the GBS retesting. I was leaning toward no abx myself if I would have tested positive which probably would have been a fight since I am delivering in a hospital setting. From what I was reading, it seems like the odds of GBS infection in the infant are really low anyway and while the abx do prevent some infections, its questionable whether the antibiotics actually decrease the mortality rate outcome.
Just read through...so sorry you're running into issues, but I loved your second birth story! The first one was scary, and I'm so glad you all came through healthy in the end!
I've never heard of HAVING to give birth at home...I hope whatever that's about ends up working out for you!
Had my 37 week appointment yesterday. Pretty uneventful. Weight was up 5lbs!!! But after not gaining for a few weeks, I guess it makes sense. And the m/w put me down a pound lighter because of my clothes. I'm right at 25lbs gained.
Still the same plans for a home birth. DH plans to go to my appt next week and talk w/ the midwife about logistics. I'm most worried about what to do with the kids because the family we had planned to watch them isn't close to our house; they're close to the birthing center. And I can't have DH leaving for an hour while he takes the kids away, that's just not happening. So we'll see...
Got the home birth check list, it's basically the same as the birthing center one used to be; now they just have you pay $20 for a "birth kit" that takes care of it but for a home birth you have to buy things individually.
Another concern is I'd really like another water birth but we don't have a tub in our bedroom; it's in the main bath which isn't at all close to our bedroom and is small so not a lot of room to move around and labor. For some reason this time I'm picturing being on all fours on our bed but we'll see.
My friend had her baby yesterday. It was her first and even though she went into labor on her own, it was long and slow, she eventually got an epidural because she was so tired, and I'm not 100% sure but she might have had a c/s. This is a girl who really wanted a natural childbirth and read and watched everything to prepare herself; we spent a lot of time talking about it. I do really hope she was at least able to deliver vaginally because having to be a VBAC these days is not easy. I'm planning on going to see her at home on Monday.
I've spent the morning trying to get all the kids' toys into one room and the nursery cleared out so I can start getting out baby things. I still have everything up in the attic. And I'm wore out! I just can't do as much at once and I usually can.
Sounds like the appointment went well, 25 lbs. is not a lot to gain for pregnancy so sounds like you are doing great!
Would it be possible for the family watching your kids to pick them up, or do you have anyone close to you who could drop them off for you?
So sorry to hear your friend had a difficult time with her labor. I hope she was able to have the vaginal delivery after all of that.
Sounds like you got a lot done, I hear you on the not being able to do as much. I am so big at this point and I get BH when I do too much, plus my energy just seems to disappear really fast.
I also want a water birth, but just recently my hospital changed the rules on that. You can labor in a birth tub but they are supposed to make you get out for the pushing. It's the hospital rules not the midwives. My midwife says people still have water births because getting out is not always something a woman can do.
I hope you figure something out with your kiddos.
Sorry to hear about your friend. Gosh, I hope that is not me. I think I would be so disappointed in myself. When you plan and plan, you expect things to go your way, but sometimes they don't. Hopefully she had a vaginal birth afterall. Hope her and the baby are doing well.
Did you hear from your friend? I hope she had her vaginal birth. I also hope she doesn't beat herself up too much over the epidural. I feel for the ladies with the loooooong labors. No shame in needing relief!
As for you, is a small pool an option? Seems like it would be much roomier than a tub anyway. I hope you can find something for your kids too!
Yeah you might check into renting a birth pool. I know a lot of the doulas rent them out here for $50-$75.
I rented a birth pool from my midwife for my water birth. I know a lot of midwives will rent to other midwives and many midwives have birth pools for rent for their clients and what not. If all else fails you could buy one of those kiddy pools and your kids can use it later. I was worried about my boys too with my home birth but they slept right through everything. I worry about having 3 kids for my next birth. I like calm atmosphere so I know the boys will have to be out of the house.
I am sure you can figure something out. My next door neighbor volunteered to watch the boys for me when I was talking to her about my worries about the birth. Never thought she would be up for it but she looked forward to it. Just ask around, you never know who might be willing and able to watch the kids for you.
Well, I found out my friend did have a c-section... and it was because they said her pelvis wasn't big enough for the baby to fit through. And the baby was just under 7lbs so not big at all. I'm really sad for her because I don't know what this means for future babies. I mean, I've heard that before because doctors just want to get the baby out, but she labored for over 24 hours and had a midwife and a doula and they still said that. I'm going to see her today so I will probably get the full story then. I just want to offer her my support and love and make sure she knows that she did an awesome job anyway. I can relate!
Anyway, I might ask my midwife about options for the birthing pool. DH fully expected me to be in the bathtub but I told him to be open to me not being there. It seems a lot easier for clean up purposes though. Not sure about a portable tub though w/ cleanup.
We're going to go ahead and nail down our home birth first, but I do have some friends who are pretty close that DH might be able to drop off there. No one can really pick up our kids because that would require car seat switches and honestly it's just easier to take them somewhere. I'm really really hoping that I labor through the night and the kids aren't even awake/barely awake when I give birth. Then maybe someone could just come here and watch them.
So my Saturday was good! I got to go out by myself for the afternoon - got my hair done, a pedicure, and a two hour massage! Woot! Unfortunately the hubs doesn't like my hair, says it's "not a pregnancy hair cut" but oh well.
I posted this on my BB but posting it here too:
So last night I didn't sleep well at all. I got up to pee and all kinds of pain just rippled through my body. Ech.
On Saturday I found some pink tinged show in my underwear and then this morning I had more of it and diahhrea to boot. Also baby must have been pressing on my cervix because he/she had the hiccups, then would move around and ouch!
Anyway, I'm wondering about the show because I've been using hibiclens because I'm strep B positive and it's a red color... but I do it every other night and the pink show comes up the second morning, not the morning after I do it. I've also been having heavier discharge in general and I know the loose stools can mean labor.
I don't know if this is it or not; I would be surprised because I'm just at 38 weeks and my others waited until 40+ weeks to come.
DH is a little nervous because we still need to talk to the midwife about delivery options so we're going to try to meet w/ her today if we can. I feel like so much still needs to be done. I've been pestering DH to get the clothes down from the attic the whole weekend and he hasn't done it yet. It's frustrating to rely on someone else because I really can't do it myself.
Here is a picture from this morning:
Also, it seems like every time baby moves quite a bit, I feel pain down low - through my cervix probably and also lower back. I did have some light lower back pain in labor w/ Noel too. Sometimes it feels just like that...
If I see the midwife today I might ask her to check me.
Doesn't sound like it's going to be long now!
Is that your new haircut in the picture? I think it's cute!
What the heck is a 'pregnancy haircut'? Your cut is really cute, short and practical too. Besides, it'll be a 'mommy haircut' mighty soon.
(LOL...I was wondering that too!)
Yes, that's the cut in the picture. Who knows what DH is thinking, I guess he doesn't think it goes with the pregnant me. I told him that at least he had only a few more weeks of that!!
Anyway, midwife checked me and I'm not dilated, baby is still pretty high, cervix is thick so sounds like just painful BH and pure practice. I bet this baby will follow in my others' footsteps (40+5, 40+6).
But we are now officially prepping for a home birth unless something changes!
Sounds like you are set up for following your other births. Sorry about all the pains though. As for the pool, renting from my midwife it came with a cleaning kit. A pump to pump the water out and everything. It was actually an easy clean up and the midwife did all of it. I don't even really remember them cleaning it up and I was right next to it the whole time.
Either way you will have a great birth! Your birth last time was amazing!
I meant to ask about a birthing tub - I will have to see!
Went to Target today and took some things back and bought some more things! So fun! I got a foam mat for the baby room, Aden + Anias blankets (which were on sale for $30 plus I had a 20% coupon so they were like $25!), a couple toys, etc. I even got a cute monkey sorting toy for my baby for Christmas! And I'm planning on buying a bunch of things online as well so I can use my 10% off registry card on all of them. Woot! So excited!
Looks as if my water broke at about 2:30am this morning. Contractions are still irregular (at 7:30am) but I've had some strong ones. Plans have changed so I'm going to the hospital. I'll try to update there.
Vicki asked me to xp this for her here:
And its a.... boy! Judah was born at 8:30 pm today. 8 lbs 4 oz 21.5 in Labor was long and pushing was intense but I was able yo do it all nsturally with no complications. I will try to post a pic from my laptop tomorrow. Elizabeth you can c&p this to my lodge too.
Congrats Vicki!! So glad you got the birth you wanted with no complications. Sorry it was long and intense! Rest up and enjoy snuggling little Judah! Can't wait to see pics!
Congratulations!!!!!!!! Looking forward to hearing all about it...and, of course, pics!
Looking forward to Judah's story when you both are ready!
Congratulations!!! I can't wait to here your story and see pics!
Ok, here it is finally!! It's edited for Facebook, so just fyi, the "signs" were that I lost my mucous plug parts on Saturday and Monday.
Judah's Birth Story
Signs of labor really began on Saturday the 6th. I don't need to get into the details; if you've had a baby, you know what kinds of signs to look for. I was able to enjoy a haircut and color, pedicure, and massage that day which was perfect timing, unbeknownst to me.
On Monday I had more of the same signs of prelabor and also felt a lot more pressure and what felt like mild contractions throughout the morning. I had a doctor's appointment later that day and told my midwife about it. She checked me and found no dilation or softening and the baby's head was not noticeably low. Since I was only 38 weeks that day, I wasn't surprised and honestly was a little relieved. I figured baby was waiting until after their due date just like their brother and sister. Later on I chalked the contractions up to just feeling painful Braxton Hicks and kept making plans to go shopping and do all of my usual activities for the week.
On Wednesday morning at 2:30am I woke up suddenly when I felt what I hoped was NOT me peeing myself. I got up to go to the bathroom and Tim, who had been on alert since Monday, asked me if everything was okay. I said “I'm not sure.” He prodded me more and I told him I thought my water might have just broken. I felt like I was still losing small amounts of it.
So we called the midwife who said to get some rest and keep her posted. I tried to lay down and sleep but my mind was so busy thinking of all the things I needed to do that it was hard to relax. Tim never went back to sleep. After about an hour, I started having contractions – ones that hurt more than the ones I was feeling on Monday. However, they were very infrequent, and apparently I was able to get some sleep between them because Tim said he heard me snoring a few times. They stayed at about 4-6 every hour for quite sometime. I called the midwife again and she basically said it sounded like I was in labor so we started making preparations. We made arrangements for the kids and I packed bags (of course none of them had been packed yet but it wasn't a big deal because my contractions still hadn't picked up much). I wondered if I should eat something because I was hungry but in the past, I've gotten sick during labor and I didn't want to just throw it all back up so I decided not to eat anything.
I wanted to labor at home for awhile but the kids were now awake and needing things and because I tested Strep B Positive, I needed to go to the hospital asap so I could get in the required two doses of antibiotics that, if not administered, would require them to run tests on my baby to make sure him/her didn't get infected and possibly keep us there longer which I wanted to avoid.
After we dropped off the kids, we headed into the hospital. I munched on some peanuts on the way since I knew I wouldn’t get a chance to eat anything once I got there. At the hospital I was checked to make sure it was my water that was leaking and learned that it seemed like I had a small tear in my water bag, was 5 cm dilated and 80% effaced! Hard to believe that it can change so fast in two days! By this time it was about noon and I started my antibiotics about 15 minutes later.
For the next few hours, I labored on the ball leaning against the bed. My midwife Barb and Tim took turns massaging my back and helping me visualize the baby moving down.
Time went by pretty fast and at 3:30 the midwife checked me. I was at a 7 – only 2 cm more than I was four hours ago. Then they started my next round of antibiotics, hoping that this is what baby was waiting for and that once I got them in, maybe my contractions would start coming faster. They were still coming every 4-5 minutes. After that, the midwife kept checking baby's position and she said he was moving a bit posterior so we tried some positions to get him to move back in a better position. He was moving around a lot and she kept asking if I felt any pressure but I wasn't. My contractions never got very close together even though we kept hoping they would. Maybe that's why I was progressing so slowly. But at least I was progressing! And it also made the whole long labor more manageable. I think God just knows what he's doing and how much I could handle! Barb checked me again (not sure at all what time it was) and I was at a 9. Somewhere in there I had some Italian water ice; I was SO hungry and a lot of times my hunger is what distracted me from concentrating on contractions. I was still worried about throwing up though so I declined a second water ice.
Despite all the different positions, I just really liked rocking on the ball and leaning against the bed so that's where I resorted to. A couple times the baby's heart rate went way down during some contractions and the midwife said the cord was probably getting compressed. I was starting to get really tired of labor and just wanted to push this baby out. I was really just trying to focus through contractions and then rest in between so I was so zoned out and really wanted to come back to reality again.
Eventually I got checked again and I was at a 9.5, so Barb tried to have me push through the lip.
Now with Noel, the pushing phase was a welcome relief; this time it hurt like Hades. It was hard to do at first; I really think my body doesn't feel the pressure to push until the very very end because I had no desire to do so; in fact it hurt way more to push. Despite being in labor for 16 hours so far, the pushing part was by far the worst part. The nurse was worried about my next dose of antibiotics and the midwife said “She's going to push this baby out in 15 minutes, we won't need it.” It helped when Barb started getting all prepped to catch the baby; I knew it had to be soon and that motivated me a little more to push.
Baby was still presenting posterior and Barb was trying to get me to push him into a better position but he just wasn't having it. At one point, his head must have been right in my back because I felt such awful strong lower back pain through one of my contractions. I realized that if that's what back labor really felt like, I would never make it without meds if it was like that the entire time! Just those few seconds of it were excruciating.
Finally, his head was coming and I felt the irresistible urge to push. This is when it got really intense. I started yelling because it hurt so bad and I'm NOT a vocal laborer normally! I kept saying I couldn't do it and that it hurt! Tim was holding my leg up and even though my body was telling me to push, my mind could not get past the pain. At one point, Tim said, his head was halfway out and I just stopped pushing and that totally freaked him out. Barb said the cord was around his neck so we needed to get him out which totally helped me push through the ring of fire that I definitely felt this time around. Even when his head was out, the cord was around his arm as well so everything happened all at once and he was born just like that!
I don't remember who announced that he was a boy but since I was already leaning towards that anyway, it was just confirmed in my mind.
Judah Patrick was born on April 10th at 8:15pm (RIGHT when my third dose of antibiotics was due) – 12 days early! He didn't get weighed/measured right away because they encourage skin to skin and nursing during the “magic hour” after birth. I did really want to know how much he weighed though since he was early and asked the nurse and midwife what they thought. He was pretty chunky so we were guessing at least 8lbs! Sure enough, he weighed 8lbs 4oz (my guess!) and was 21.5in long.
I was really anxious to get into my actual room so I could eat – I was STARVING. There were snacks in there and the nurse got me a fridge pack with a sandwich and stuff. I was up for awhile and of course Tim was out.
Yay! Sounds similar to my labor in a lot of ways. Glad that other than a few dicey moments it all turned out well in the end...congratulations again!
Congrats Vicki! I enjoyed reading your birth story. I have not experienced pushing to be an urge I couldn't control or a relief with either of my two. I remember thinking when pushing with DS2 that it hurt alot more than I remember with my first. He was 2.5 lbs bigger too. I hope I get an urge this time. Glad his birth went well and you were able to do it the way you wanted.