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    Quote Originally Posted by laneybug1 View Post
    I'm honestly feeling pretty down. I have a history of anxiety and depression so everyone has been watching me closely for antenatal depression. I have been off work for 2 weeks, starting my third and I'm feeling really alone and isolated. Everyone keeps telling me that it will get better when the baby comes but what if it doesn't and I get full blown post parting depression? I haven't had a depressive episode in a few years and I've been med free for almost as long but it's something I'm starting to get worries about. DH and I were living together through the last episode so he knows what to look for. I try to get out every day but I don't get a lot if human interaction. I do have a lunch on Wednesday with a friend from prenatal class and I'm going to make a list of people I can call when I'm feeling really down. But there just isn't a lot to do here.
    To the bolded: Then you talk with your doctor and get on some meds. There are many that are safe while breastfeeding. Check out Dr. Thomas Hale's Infant Risk website if your doctor isn't sure. Depression isn't something to fear or to feel ashamed about; it is a physiological imbalance of the chemicals in your body. Your body will be going through a bunch of physiological and chemical changes in the next few weeks, and it might just need some help getting over the hump. You can't be a good mom to your baby when you aren't feeling good, physically or emotionally. (That's also why, if you have a c-section, you take your pain meds by the clock for the first week at least. Pain interferes with milk production, and it interferes wtih bonding.) And then you make sure to take care of yourself in all the other usual ways and when you're feeling stable, you can try weaning off the meds and see how it goes.

    I'm glad your DH is on the watch for this, and both of you should be aware of what is normal & what's not. It's normal to cry for no apparent reason, it's normal to miss being pregnant, it's normal to want to stay in bed snuggling your baby, it's normal to not want to sleep because it's so much fun to watch your baby sleep, and it's normal to feel like you're never going to lose the belly that still looks pregnant. It's NOT normal not be able to stop crying, it's NOT normal to not want to sleep because something bad might happen to the baby, and it's NOT normal to want to stay in bed because you can't fathom expending that much energy. Keep an open line of communication and ask him to check in with you if you seem a bit off even if you don't say something, kwim? Also, see if there's a local new moms group so you can get out with baby and meet some moms who are going through the same things you are.
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    Stacey had some great points above. I would look for a new mom's group too. I'm sure they'd let you join before baby gets here!!! 18 months after DS's birth I realized I'd had PPD with DS. I had no idea when I went through it that I was actually depressed not just the baby blues. But with DD's birth I went "whoa, what the heck, that wasn't normal with DS was it!". Basically I'm saying your DH knowing to look for it is a great thing.

    Are there any prenatal yoga classes? Or are you crafty - take some knitting, cake making, or some other class right now?
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    Feeling much better this week. I was able to keep myself very busy. I had a midwife appointment today and she attempted a stretch and sweep but I am 0 cm dilated and I was high and posterior. Honestly, I know that it has no bearing on when I'll go I to labour but I just hoped that I would have seen some progress. We'll try again next week. There's still time for her to come before Christmas and if not, I think the 28th would make an awesome birthday.
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    glad you are feeling more positive!
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    I was rooting for you yesterday to have a Winter Solstice baby. To help with your boredom....

    How are you sleeping these days?
    Where is baby going to sleep after her arrival?
    Have you chosen a name, or are you waiting to meet her first?
    If you've chosen a name, does anyone IRL know what it is?
    Does baby have a nickname?
    Do you have a nursery? What is the theme?
    I know you're planning a homebirth, but did you pack a transfer bag or just make a list?
    Do you celebrate Christmas? If so, what are you plans with and without baby?
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    I Hope your absence means you had the baby. Looking forward to getting an update from you.
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    thinking of you this week!
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