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Mama to Kostas with the Mostest, born 07/10/07
and Marek "Cricket" Joshua, born 12/07/12
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Mara & Joel, 2009
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DS 1 b. 1/19/09, DS 2 b. 1/12/11, DS 3 b. 3/3/13
Boys are down for their naps so i'll try to get this done now. I've never had a lodge before so excuse me if its too long-winded lol.
I'm Amber, 26, and DH is Chris, 36. The first time we met I was around 12 or 13. He worked with my mom so I had met him a few times when she had work friends over or if I was waiting for her at work. The summer I graduated and turned 18 (2004) my mom and her boyfriend broke up, so her and I moved in with a girl she worked with close to where they worked. Because of that there were lots of get togethers with work friends after their shifts (they all worked in a restaurant). Chris had recently started working there again after being gone for awhile. Being around each other so much I'll admit I developed a bit of a crush, and did not hide it at all lol. DH tried to keep things platonic, he was good friends with my mom and didn't want to come off as a pervert because of our 10 year age difference. After a few months my mom saw that I was not going to drop it, so she gave him the green-light to date me. We started dating in Dec 2004. We got engaged in July 2006, and no I don't have some romantic proposal story. We had been dating for a year and a half, my mom had moved out with her new boyfriend months before and my roommate was getting a place with her boyfriend who had moved in with us after my mom moved out. I thought we should move in together but DH didn't want to until we were married. I told him he needed to think about what he wanted out of our relationship because I knew that I wanted to be with him but if he wasn't sure about us then maybe we needed to rethink things. I gave him some space and he came back after about a week and said we should get married. That was my proposal lol. So since we were engaged he felt better about living together so we got an apartment together. We had planned on getting married the next spring, but the more into wedding plans (and prices) we got, the more stressed I got and the higher my anxiety got. His brother lives on the other side of the country and I had never even met him at this point, so when we heard he was coming home for xmas that year we said the hell with it and decided to get married while his brother was visiting that Dec. We decided this in Oct so needless to say the pressure was on. Dec. 15/06 we got married at the courthouse with just family and close friends present, and then had a nice dinner at the restaurant where he worked lol.
I wanted babies right away but we decided to wait a year. I went off the pill in Dec 07 and got a bfp in Feb 08. Around 10 weeks I started feeling like something just wasn't right, I just didn't feel pregnant. Of course everyone told me I was crazy, in a well meaning way. At 13 weeks (Apr 08 ) I woke up and was bleeding. We went to the ER and found out that I was miscarrying, and that the baby had stopped developing at 9 weeks. I was crushed. I literally took a week off work and spent the entire time in bed. It took a couple months for my cycle to come back, but in July 08 I finally got AF back. Aug 08 I got another bfp! I was of course a paranoid wreck, but made it through and we found out baby boy was on the way. I had a totally easy pregnancy, no issues, no complications. The usual aches and pains and discomforts but nothing out of the ordinary. I started my mat leave 6 weeks before my due date because I knew I'd be a SAHM after, and this was my last chance for a little vacation. I was due April 19/09, the day before DHs bday, so naturally he was gunning for baby to share a bday with daddy. Baby had other plans and after a long labor Mason Christopher was born via c-section on April 21, 2009, 8lbs 6oz, 21.5" long. My recovery was easy and quick and pretty painless, I was surprised how quickly I bounced back.
Continued in next post.
Now shortly before Mason was born DH decided to join the army and had started the process. We found out that he was to go to basic training for 3 months for Aug 09, when DS was only 3 months old. Off he went and it was just me and baby for 3 months. We did quite well by ourselves and DH was lucky enough that he didn't miss any of the really big milestones being away. Mason was a very easy baby aside from some early BFing issues. DH came home Nov 09 and we decided to start TTC #2 since we wanted our kids to be fairly close in age and we got so lucky with DS. Well Dec 09 we got our bfp! I was pretty surprised since I was still BFing and hadn't had a PPAF yet. The pregnancy was physically harder, I had pretty bad sciatica starting at 20 weeks, which was just terrible. Aside from that it was pretty textbook and baby boy #2 was due Aug 23/10. Since DS1 was 2 days late I was fully anticipating going to my due date. The 2 weeks before my EDD were hectic, we had family visiting and DS had to have surgery, so things were crazy, and I told baby that he had to wait until after everything was done and taken care of to come out lol. He listened but still came a bit early, Aug 17, 2010 Isaac Alexander joined our family. He was my (difficult) VBAC baby weighing in at 8lb 8oz and 20" long. The labor was shorter but he was posterior and the back labor just about killed me. I ended up with a lot of tearing and an episiotomy. The recovery was different, not better or worse just different. It was overall shorter but the pain was much more intense in the beginning, especially since I tore a few stitches.
Isaac was also a very different baby. He was very fussy and cranky at first. We eventually found out that he had eczema, which was making him itchy and miserable. Once we got him some meds he was a completely different child. He was still very high-maintenance compared to his brother, which is why it took us until his first bday to commit to trying for our third. So Aug 2011 started the baby train, and we got our bfp in Sept. Around 5-6 weeks I started spotting and this went on for about a week before going in to the ER to see what was going on. It took over a week to get a definitive answer but I was indeed miscarrying again. The not knowing was the most draining part of the whole thing because I had suspected as much when I started spotting. Since it was a much earlier m/c than my first my body did its thing quicker and I had AF back in Nov. In Jan 2012 we started off the new year on a high note with another bfp. This one took and here I am, anxiously awaiting baby boy #3's arrival. This pregnancy was so different I thought maybe I was finally getting my girl, but nope. Its been pretty easy so far, definitely easier than last time physically.
I had always wanted a drug-free birth, it just never worked out, with DS1 the long labor and eventual c-section put a crimp in that plan, and with DS2 the back labor from him being posterior was just too much for me to handle. Plus my labor always seems to start as I'm going to bed at night, so I'm always insanely exhausted from lack of sleep. I'm hoping that this little guy is more co-operative, I know what position he's in right now and I will be trying to ensure he turns the right way once my labor starts. I'm not doing anything to speed things up or push things along, aside from drinking RRL tea. I have a feeling he'll be early like Isaac, maybe somewhere around 38 weeks. Watch him be late lol!
If anyone would like to read my full birth stories or see my spaces from my pregnancies, I have them saved in a general journal I started after my BBs started dying off. Here are my keepers.