Welcome to your lodge! I look forward to reading your full intro including your son's birth soon!
Mara & Joel, 2009
So on to my DS's birth story
My pregnancy with DS was both eventful and uneventful at the same time. What I mean is that while we were both healthy and great the entire pregnancy, it was just plain hard because for some reason I was literally sick with him almost the entire pregnancy. I was very happy that he was a boy since I really wanted a little boy so badly. Everything about his pregnancy was truly great except that I threw up all day every day for 7 months and even at the end it still lingered. I seriously tried evey thing including meds to help with the m/s but nothing helped it. I just kind of surrendered to it and knew that he would be worth it and of course he is.
DS, James, was due June 13, 2006. I was soooo excited for him to come! I worked up until labor and then the plan was for me to take a year off with him. So basically I was in the process of training someone to take over my job around his due date. It was nice to know I was going to have lots of time to spend with him. (I say that because this time I will only get 12 weeks and then I need to return to work. Luckily my neighbor is going to nanny for us and I like my job so it's all good.) Anyway, I never really showed any signs of labor like I did in my 1st pregnancy. I kept waiting to notice contractions or really ANYTHING that would give me a hint of impending labor. I had no real birth plan except to avoid c-section and get my epidural once we got to the hospital. I definitely wanted an epidural and I couldn't even imagine doing it without one.
On the morning of June 7, 2006 I got up to get ready for work. My nausea seemed to have returned with full force over the last couple days(which I now think may have been a sign that labor was coming.) That particular morning I remember noticing how low DS had dropped into my pelvis. I started trying to get dressed and couldn't stop throwing up. I also noticed my 1st contractions even though they were not that painful. They were still coming every 10 minutes though. I called out to work simply because I didn't feel like going in 9 months pregnant and throwing up all day. My boss seemed annoyed and told me if my water had not broken yet that I should come in because I was not having the baby that day. LOL boy was she wrong. Anyway, I hung around my house and tried to rest. I called DH at work and told him what was going on. He begged me to call me to call my midwife and tell her. I remember wanting soooo badly to really be in labor that I may have exaggerated the strength & length of my contractions so she told me to come to the hospital.
Ugh I will not go to the birth center this time until I know I am in labor! That was a huge mistake on my part. DH and I headed off the hospital. His parents and sister came too. Gees. Here I am not even really sure I am in labor and I have all my in-laws in tote! My family would have come but they didn't live close by and its a good thing too. So they check me into L&D triage and get me on a monitor. Sure enough I am contracting on a regular basis, but I am only 2 cm dilated so they want to wait to make sure I am really going to progress before sending me upstairs to a real room. This was probably around lunch time. Basically, I sat or walked the halls of L&D from noon until 7pm and contracted all day. They were stupid, tiny contractions that I may as well have had at home while I could actual get some stuff done besides be bored out of my mind. At 7pm they checked me and I was at 2cm. I remember I didn't even care because I wanted to go home so bad! I was happy they were going to let me leave. They told me to call back if anything picked up or changed.
We got home and I sent DH out for food. I got in the bed because I remember being really tired for some reason. I think I actually fell asleep without ever eating. I woke back up around 11pm to DH climbing in the bed and checking on me. I told him I was feeling lots of pressure and that I had been having a hard time sleeping b/c of the contractions. He rubbed my back for a bit and I got up to go to the bathroom. When I did, it seemed like that kicked everything up a notch. Suddenly my contractions seemed MUCH stronger. I remember pulling my pants down to pee and seeing lots of bloody mucous running down my legs which quite honestly freaked me out. So we headed back to the hospital. This was around midnight. The car ride was uncomfortable just like I have read on so many other ladies birth stories. It hurt to sit on my butt so I kept trying to move positions, but nothing felt good when I was having a contraction. I finally just surrendered to a miserable ride and told DH not to make it worse with his driving.
We got back to L&D and they put me back in one of those little triage rooms and told me someone would come check me. I waited in that stupid room for like 45 minutes! I was so frustrated because the pain was getting more and more intense and it hurt to sit in the bed. Finally, DH went and got someone. She came in and checked me, but I was already well aware of the fact that I was in labor at this point. 6 cm she said so they sent me upstairs FINALLY.
Once I got upstairs I asked for an epidural. I could think of nothing else during my contractions. I remember feeling like if everyone would just be quiet and turn the lights off, then that would help me deal with the pain, but of course they didn't do that. They asked me 900 questions, started my IV, and so forth so I clenched me teeth and tried not to get mad. Honestly, I was like MAD because of the pain. Everyone was annoying. The nurse told me I had to let my IV of fluids finish before they would give me the epi so I had to wait another hour or so. They decided to check me before the Dr gave it to me. I was at 7cm and very relieved! I remember the whole time I had this fear that I would start progressing super quickly and have to deliver naturally.
So once I got the epi, I truly felt instant relief. I was so happy. BUT it was short lived. My blood pressure began to nose dive. I felt so crummy. I also got a fever(which I truly believe was b/c of that epi whether anyone else does or not.) They kept telling me that if my fever got to a certain point, then they would have to give me a c-section because it wasn't good for baby. I was so out of it. I went from feeling fine aside from the pain from my contractions which was a totally normal thing, to feeling terrible, out of it, and worried about the baby. They continued to monitor me closely and luckily I was progressing. I honestly don't remember much towards the end.
I remember them suddenly running in my room, turning on the lights, putting O2 on me and turning me over because the baby's heartrate was dropping. Apparently, I was ready to push because the midwife told me it was time and broke my water. When they broke my water there was meconium AGAIN! I remember being too out of it to really care at that point. DS must have been right there ready to come out because I think I only pushed 2 or 3 times and he was born. He came out before the respiratory therapist had a chance to make it to the room to work on him. I didn't get to immediately hold him because just like during my 1st delivery they needed to clear his lungs. I was so happy to see him though. I remember he looked just like I thought he would. He was perfect and perfectly sweet. He was born at 4:04 AM after about 17 hours of labor(7 active.) He was 7 lbs 1 oz and 19 inches long. Exactly the same as my 1st baby.
They did let DH and I hold him for a minute, but they then took him down to the NICU. This is where I must have totally blacked out. I don't remember getting stitched up for my small tear or anything. I don't remember them switching my room or really anything. I have a slight memory of being in a wheelchair down in the NICU and DH trying to scrub my hands for me so that we could go in and see him, but I have no memory of actually seeing him. I am not sure if I blacked out from my blood pressure, the epi, the delivery, or what? Maybe a combo of everything. All I know if that I do not want that stuff to happen this time if possible.
DS had to stay in the NICU for 5 days because of his breathing. I guess he just had a harder time than we would have thought after all the junk being in his lungs. It was hard to leave him there, but I remember trying to be grateful that it was only several days and not several weeks or even months like some of the other babies had to stay. Once we did get him home things were just fine. He was always a fabulous nurser. I almost think he made it TOO easy on me. We dealt with thrush and clogged ducts and so forth, but he was always a champ through it all. I hope it goes well with this baby too. I will try to dig up some pics of his birth and my pregnancy to post later.
Interesting how his birth has shaped what you want this birth to be like. With my epi with DS I too quickly felt worse and realized that for me feeling the pain would have been better than how I felt with the epi. I really hope (tons of good vibes your way!) that you have a much better experience this time with no NICU stay!
I hope this one breaks the meconium trend for you! Do you have a birth plan for this birth?
Mama to Kostas with the Mostest, born 07/10/07
and Marek "Cricket" Joshua, born 12/07/12
I loved reading your story Claire! I find it really interesting how you said that the pain from your contractions was making you angry. I think that's such a great assessment of how pain makes us feel a lot of times. I can't imagine how awful it must have felt with your BP dropping and all the chaos after your epi. I'm all about people doing whatever is best for their situation, but having an adverse reaction to pain meds has always been a huge fear of mine and a great NCB motivator.
I can't wait to hear about your plans for this birth!
I had my 1st real contractions last night! They were not consistent at all and obviously didn't amount to real labor, but it made me happy to feel my body getting ready for this baby to come. (They ended up coming after DTD so I told DH that we are going to be doing it every night from now on! ) He seemed okay with that.
My plan for this baby, Griffin's birth, is to have it at our local birth center. I feel really lucky to have such a great resource here. Initially, I was going to stick with my OB and attempt to do it naturally at our hospital, but the more I researched my options, the more it made sense for me to just do it at the birth center. Our hospital is great and I loved my OB, but it obviously just wasn't as conducive to natrual childbirth at the birth center. The birth center is free standing and made up of 4 midwives. They have 2 birthing suites and each one has a huge birthing tub. Most women end up delivering in the tub, but they let you deliver however is most comfortable for you. The center is like half a mile from the hospital so they can easily transfer if need be as well and they work with an OB over there who pretty much still lets them run the show even if I did have to be transfered. He would obviously perform a csection if it came to that, but otherwise he lets them do their thing.
I read the Bradley Method book which I was really pushing into when I still thought I was going to do it at the hospital(we switched to the center when I was 28 weeks) since it gives you lots of tools on how to deal with that kind of birth. Now that we are doing it at the center, my plan is still to have DH as my primary support person, but really I am just so happy that I will be in a nice, quiet & dark room. They are basicaly going to leave me alone and let me deal with my contractions. They point blank ask you to write on your birth plan if you would rather be left alone or have lots of touch, massage, etc. All that I wanted when I was in labor with DS was to be left alone so I am assuming I will feel the same this time? Just peace to focus thru the pain. I am nervous about pushing since have yet to feel that without an epidural, but I trust my body to do it's thing. So that's my plan in a nutshell.
Sounds like a good plan. I must say I'm envious of you getting to go to a free standing birth center! I would love to do that! There just isn't one in the town I'm birthing in. Boo. I'm very excited to read your birth story after you birth there though
Mama to Kostas with the Mostest, born 07/10/07
and Marek "Cricket" Joshua, born 12/07/12
Same here - I wish a free standing birth center was an option! Heck, I ideally wish a HB with a MW was an option. But alas NC sucks and no MW would risk herself to deliver a VBAC baby on federal property.
I really hated people too. Even my husband since he wasn't the right kind of help that I needed at the time (he's more prepared this time!). lol.
And woo hoo for some prep contractions!
I had my 38 week appointment this morning(a day early.)
It went great! My BP was 120/72 or something like that. I lost 2 lbs which kind of surprised me since I have been starving lately! Even though I lost a little weight, the MW said that little Griffin seemed MUCH bigger than he did last week. She made a guess to humor me and said he is about 6 1/2 lbs right now. He is head down(although he has been head down what seems like this entire pregnanacy) and in a great postion for labor.
She asked if I wanted her to check me since they haven't yet and I said yes just out of curiousity since I have been contracting at night. She said I am at 3 cm and baby has dropped into my pelvis. My cervix is still pretty thick right now. This was all a bit of a surprise to me. With my DS James, I remember I contracted all day long never getting past 2 cm so I am VERY happy to be at 3 already. At least it's less work for me whenever I do go into labor.
I have to say that I can't help but be a little excited about already being at 3 cm. I know that technically it doesn't mean that he will be born tomorrow or even next week, but it just makes me happy to know that my body it working on it and I will be holding him sooner than later. This pregnancy has been such a happy time and I just can't wait for the delivery and the BFing and all the new baby stuff.
Oh yeah! I forgot to add that I am Group B Strep Negative! Woo hoo!
Here is my 38 week belly pic(hopefully it will resize if it hasn't already.) And yes, I am in the bathroom at work as always.