Yay on both counts, that's great!
Yay on both counts, that's great!
I already responded to your news on April, but hooray!!!!!!!
So this weekend is the last weekend of our natural birth classes. I hope I'm prepared. Need to continue to do my relaxation exercises and my yoga and stuff. I'm taking the day off from Yoga today because I overextended myself yesterday. I went to my SIL baby shower and I brought too many gifts and tried to carry them all at once. I also tried to gift wrap in the back of my car and it was really windy and the tissue paper flew all over BRU's parking lot and here I am 37 weeks pregnant running after the tissue paper in the parking lot for the sake of not littering. People gave me looks like "this woman is a nut." Haha.
Anyways so my back hurts a bit today after all those shenanigans. And DH and I DTD last night and my body just needs a break.
While I was at this shower, I got the usual questions of "where are you delivering," "who's your doctor," and got the usual wide-eyed reactions when I say I'm seeing a midwife. They always say "yeah but who's your doctor?" I guess they think midwives are doulas or something. Anywhoo, my SIL and I are just so different. I love her, but she and other people keep asking me "How in the world are you going to push that baby out without an epidural?" One, it makes me sad that they think I can't do it and two, it makes me think well maybe I can't do it.
I am a weenie when it comes to pain, but I've been working on it. Sounds crazy but every time I stub my toe or get a leg cramp or take a painful BM, I use those and practice my pain management and I think its working. I do believe in my body, but people put so many doubts in your head.
Anyone else ever go through this?
Try not to let them get to you. Most women don't prepare or try to go natural. Just know that you're prepared and remember all the reasons it's important to you.
"Take the meds" is probably the most common piece of advice I get. It's often from guys too! Lol. I'm not sweating it. I know what my plan is and what I can handle. I won't have any regrets no matter what.
Thanks. Most of the time, like 98% of the time, I'm all "I've got this." It is just when someone questions my decision that they put doubts in my head. Also there was a shoulder dystocia birth video in one of my classes and that looked awful. But she did it, so I can too!
I want to have a natural birth because I believe our bodies are capable of birthing. Women have done it for centuries. I don't like medicine or doctors in general and I'm TERRIFIED of both an epidural and a c-section. I do believe that preparing yourself mentally and physically helps SO much and I think I've done that and of course will keep doing it. I can't imagine going into my birth with no tools to help me cope. I'm also so happy that I hired a doula. DH is so squemish, still after all this prep, he pulls his hoodie over his head while watching the birth videos, he can't take the whole crowning part.
I keep telling myself it will be like a combo of running a really hard 5 miles uphill and the most difficult BM I've ever had. Haha, am I anywhere close BTDT moms? I also have had painful periods my whole life, so hopefully its a liftime of prep in my favor. Plus I'm getting a baby as a reward. That is motivation enough.
I have BTDT Elizabeth! I got a million comments about having a MW & wanting a NCB during my DS's pregnancy. It was frustrating, annoying and did make me doubt a bit. DO NOT let them get to you. Almost every woman out there could do it if they prepared for it and believed in themselves. People need to SHUT UP!!!!! Grrrrr!
I'm also a total wimp when it comes to everything in life. I have AF right now and want to die on the couch because of cramping. Birthing your child is a totally different experience, I promise! That reward and feelings of I can do this and it's amazing and the thought of proving all the idiots wrong kept me going. It's also the thought that it can't last forever and if you just keep going it will be done soon and you'll have a beautiful baby in your arms to love the rest of your life really helps!
Your analogy of running 5 miles uphill plus having a really difficult BM at the same time isn't far from wrong! LOL! ;)
You can do this lady!!!!!!!!!
Yes, birthing a child is so different. I get a slight headache and have to take meds for me so I think my pain tolerance is lower. But I had a child naturally so you can do it too!
I find it sad that people there don't understand you're using a midwife. My church is made up of mostly people who go through the ob and doctor and stuff but they are at least familiar with it. Seems like it's just different there.
It sounds like you've prepped and done all the right things, so you just have to let your body do its thing!
I totally agree. I am a huge wimp normally but I made it through a very long and intense NCB drawing on my education (I too was terrified of the alternatives!) preparation, and sheer stubbornness. Your analogy isn't bad at all, either. You have totally got this! :)
Thanks for the encouragement ladies!! It helps for sure!
XP from april board:
Had an appt this morning. It was speedy and midwife prefaced it with "i have a lady in labor, so if I get paged I gotta run." Wasn't too thrilled with being rushed, but I could be the lady in labor soon so I understand. I'm still not dilated and 50% effaced. They are no longer telling me my measurements or the heartbeat, so I assume those are all good. I guess Henry is cozy in there.
I talked to her about writing me a doctor's note if I make it to 41 weeks. I've been working 60 hours a week and studying like a madwoman, I think I need a break. She agreed and said she give me a note. So I'm going to tell my bosses soon that my last day will be May 3rd if he doesn't arrive before then.
Glad your doc will give you a note if you make it to 41 weeks! Do you have your hospital bag packed and are you all ready at this point?