Welcome to my lodge. LOL. Can I start my own lodge?
Well I'm just too excited to document these last weeks of my first pregnancy. I hope to have a natural, unmedicated birth with a midwife in a hospital. We initially looked into a birth center, but the birth center closest to us has been getting bad reviews because they are under staffed and I actually called them 3x to setup an appointment and they never even called me back. I think DH is happier that we are doing a hospital birth, he was always nervous about the birth center for some reason. Our hospital is the best hospital in the state for having a natural birth. They are very supportive of NCB and breastfeeding.
I have a doula too and I've been taking natural childbirth classes that are based on the bradley method, they are called birth boot camp. Sounds awful, but they are pretty decent. I'm also really into yoga and meditation and have been before pregnancy, so I'm hoping to use those relaxation methods as well.
Two of my friends have had unmedicated births and they have been super supportive. I do still have fear of labor and birth but I think those fears get less and less each day. It's more that this is my first baby and its hard to know what to expect.
Yay, Elizabeth, welcome to your lodge! Sorry you had to start your own lodge. I was actually thinking about you and was planning to check this evening when I got home from work if anyone had started one for you, so don't feel you were totally forgotten, cause you weren't. So exciting that we are all getting so close to the end here. I think all your preparation will be really helpful. I can totally relate to having some fear of labor and birth with it being your first and not knowing what to expect. When I was pregnant with DD1, I had tons of confidence in my body and that things would go fine, but I would still wake up in the middle of the night and think "will I REALLY be able to push a whole big baby out of my body, is that actually going to work? I've never done this before so how do I know?"
I think attitude is key and the fact that you have been mentally preparing for an unmedicated birth and know intellectually what to expect in the birthing process will be a huge help in not being scared while you are in labor, so you can stay relaxed and calm, which will in turn help you to deal with the contractions without meds. And your hospital sounds great. I was like your DH and would have been kind of nervous to have my first birth outside of a hospital until I had had one delivery to see how my body did. And in my case it turned out to be good that I was in the hospital between developing the pre-e and having a tear that I ended up having to get an epidural to repair properly. Being in a hospital supportive of NCB can be the best of both worlds.
So excited to follow the rest of your journey! I know you are going to have a great labor and delivery-you can do this!
Yay - Elizabeth's Lodge!!!!!!
I can't believe you are here on this journey already! So exciting!
It's very normal to be apprehensive about birth. And as far as not knowing what to expect, hate to tell you this but you never will! LOL! each baby is very different, each birth is very different!
So what is your guess for when baby boy will make his appearance? Are you working up until he arrives or stopping at 40 weeks regardless?
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Aww thanks Rebecca, I don't feel forgotten....I know this board has been slow, so I thought I'd jumpstart things. I constantly ask DH, do you think I can really push a baby out? Lol. Hopefully all my prep will help. I also think the fact that I'm stubborn will help. Some people I know think I'm a nut for doing this without meds, and I'd like to prove them wrong. Is that bad? But most people are supportive of my decision.
Mel, I know it seems like just yesterday DH was like "Babies? No way!" Haha. My guess is that Henry comes late. May 5th, a cinco de mayo baby!
I am working up until he arrives. If I make it to 41 weeks 3 days, I will consider taking off at that point to relax before he comes. I keep hearing babies don't like to come out when you are stressed, and work stresses me out so maybe taking off would help eliminate the possibility of induction. I am going to ask my bosses to not send me to out of city meetings after 39 weeks. I have a big client in Ft. Worth which is like a one hour drive in traffic and I'd hate to be stuck in traffic and dealing with contractions.
36 week appointment update XP from April...
Had my 36 week appointment today. BP is good, baby is head down and engaged. I'm effaced about 25%, but not dilated. However he is sunnyside up so she wants me on all fours whenever possible and told me of some different sleep positions to help him flip. He's still measuring 2 weeks behind, but she thinks its more his position that might be affecting my measurements. His heartbeat was in the 140's.
Got the gbs swab today, should find out the results on monday. She checked out my hemorroids and cringed and said "yeah that's pretty bad, but I've seen worse." She says she doesn't expect them to get much better before birth, since he is low and putting lots of pressure down there. I'm not constipated at all, so I know thats not contributing to the problem. She said I'm already doing everything I can do, sitz baths, cold compress, tucks, prep H, other witch hazel treatments. She said they couldn't do anything about them until after the baby. She said we would re-evaluate then and prescribe steroids and possibly have them lanced. So yeah these last few weeks will be uncomfy. Sorry if that was TMI.
I think being stubborn will totally help you. I know I am stubborn which is part of why I wanted to do natural birth. There are good medical reasons for going natural which was certainly a part of my choice, but honestly, a large part of me just wanted to do it because so many people say it is just too hard and my reaction to stuff like that is "oh yeah, well I'll show you!" lol! I am also kind of controlling at least when it comes to my body, so I would rather be in pain but able to move, rather than paralyzed from the waist down from an epidural.
Yeah I wouldn't want to be stuck in traffic an hour from home either, I think it is smart to stop doing the out of town meetings by 39 weeks. That is one of my concerns as I have a 30 minute commute from work to home, although my work place is actually only 5 minutes from my hospital, so if my labor started at work and was going too fast for me to go home first, worse case I could just go straight to the hospital. My other worry is getting stuck in traffic en route from home to the hospital-I wouldn't be driving in that case, but still wouldn't want to be sitting on the freeway for an hour. At least with it being April the roads won't be snowy so hopefully I'll get a clear drive in.
Boo to the hemorrhoids, those suck. I didn't get them in pregnancy last time, but did get them pushing in labor and they were really uncomfortable for quite a while. I think I still have traces of them actually, but they don't hurt anymore so I haven't bothered to find out if there is any way to completely get them gone.
Sending vibes to baby to flip for you and hoping you will get a negative result on the GBS test.
If I had to pick my number one piece of advice about labor and delivery, I hear "take the meds, don't be a hero." lol! People mean well, but also don't know that there's actually benefits to natural birth that are totally unrelated to me trying to prove something to someone. I just say, "thanks, I'll keep that mind." It really makes me laugh when I hear it from dads ... like they know anything!
Anyway, sorry for that ... this is your supportive lodge!! Welcome!! I'm very excited that we have a few from our bb on here. I'll be following you and rooting for you to have a beautifully uncomplicated labor.
Sounds like a great situation for you and you have lots of support! You can do it mama!!
Have you thought about going to a chiro to turn baby? I highly recommend it - worked for my second baby! I'm going to start going this time even though baby is in a good position because I'd like to keep him/her there!
Haha Joan, yep, I've gotten that from guys too! DH's friend said "I've never seen my wife in so much pain, you're going to want the meds." Whatever!
Yes Vicki! I see a chiro 3x a week! Crazy right? I'm going to mention the baby's position tomorrow at my chiro appointment.
That's a good idea. Also, if they are Webster certified, that technique is good for getting babies in the right position.
About the Webster Technique
That also has a database of chiros who are certified. Not trying to push you to change chiros or anything, but that's something to look for to get baby in the right position.