Yes, I was getting both the worried updates and the "I have news!" updates from her...worlds collide!
Exhaustion/lack of sleep is the WORST way to go into a long and stubborn NCB...if I learned one thing from my last experience, it was to get as much rest as possible leading up to labor, ESPECIALLY if I think it's starting (I stayed up until the wee hours the night before I actually went into labor trying to keep some early contractions going, which didn't even work, of course, and then had a 24 hour labor starting the next afternoon. The exhaustion was the main thing that almost did me in). I totally understand that feeling. You failed in absolutely no ways...I'm just sorry that you had such a rough time emotionally, and have such a major healing process to go through now! You will heal, though--my SIL had a 4th degree tear due to a posterior baby with her first, and she went on to have two more kids, both vaginally. Just take it easy on yourself and let your body do its thing.
And your baby? Is ADORABLE. Seriously, I don't think they come any cuter. Congratulations again!
I think you did great!! I remember towards the end of my labor thinking that I could understand why people get epis for long labors. Even though I was handling contractions fine, I was getting really tired of them and tired of having to concentrate and zone out and such. So really, I would have done the same thing.
I really hope you heal quickly from your tear. I don't ever like looking down there after childbirth until after the six week mark. I really don't need to know what it looks like, thank you very much!
I can't beleive your family stayed there so long!
I also think you did great! The cost part sucks...I would have totally thought of that part too! But you will recover, physically and financially. I can't imagine going through a long labor and am quite sure that would be the point I would consider an epi. It's exhausting and I don't think I would have the endurance if I wasn't blessed with short labors. I'm sure you learned so much from this experience that will help you have a better one the next time.
Henry is totally handsome! I hope you are enjoying mommy hood.
You did great Elizabeth! Like Lynn I'm blessed with fast labors, actually so fast I never have a chance to even consider an epi. In your position I totally understand the decisions you made.
That's so tough about the financial issue on top of everything else! I hope you heal fast!
PS: I'm also in the same group with Leigh and Kayla! I laughed when I realized that the mommy that she was worried about was actually you! Small world right?!
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Generally, unless birth is imminent, narcotics aren't a good choice. They make you loopy more than they help with the pain. So I think you absolutely made the right decision about that! And on so little sleep and with such stresses going on (24 hours and then c-section? Horrible policy, shame on Texas!) you absolutely did a great job deciding to take a bit of a rest to let your body do what it needed to do.
I'm sorry you had such a bad tear, but you *will* heal. If you aren't feeling better soon, then get checked because sometimes the dissolvable stitches don't dissolve or the removable stitches get removed too soon, etc. It's better to take care of those kinds of things sooner than later.
And I'm so glad they were able to suction your little guy. My daughter had tons of meconium and she fought them off so they couldn't suction her. So they did an x-ray and found that she had both swallowed and inhaled it, so she was on two different antibiotics, an IV, heart monitor, and oxygen in the NICU for three days until they decided that it was breaking up and she wasn't going to get an infection. My son also had a lot of meconium but he just laid there & let them suck to their hearts content, LOL!
He's absolutely adorable! You should be proud. Take a bit of time to mourn the loss of your ideal birth, but know that you did a great job with the birth you and Henry had.
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Oh, and if they gave you Dermaplast? And told you not to overuse it because it will start to hurt rather than help? That's good advice. Take that advice. (<----voice of experience )