Honestly, it's easier to be informed about pregnancy because really, most normal pregnancies are pretty similar. With a short list of deviations that are easy to learn about if they come up. Babies? Are born with a mind of their own. You can learn all you want, but they'll still find ways to surprise you
Personally, I think you sound like you're going to do just fine. It's everyone around you I'd be more worried about! Glad your DH is coming to terms with BFing, at least.
I hate NIP, but mostly because I can never get that comfortable without a nice chair, pillows and blankets! LOL! My DH would freak if I tried to NIP without a cover so I get the whole DH thing! It's tough when you don't agree on parenting stuff.
I actually rather have those 9 visitors in the hospital than at home. At home no one ever wants to leave and it's harder to ask them to. In the hospital you can always ask the nurse to kick them out at a certain time!
I also agree with Leigh - every baby is different and has different issues so it's hard to know what life is going to be like after they are born! I have a friend who's baby is 1 week old. It's her 2nd child and she's totally forgotten how much a baby nurses and was getting frustrated with nursing issues. My advice to her was take it easy, she's only a week old!!!! I think she was expecting life to not change as much as it does when you have a newborn. So basically my best piece of advice is that your world will totally change in every way imaginable. Just roll with it!
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Mostly when NIP I was nursing in my ring sling so that kind of provided natural cover without having to go out of my way or fight with a baby who didn't want a blanket over her head. Otherwise, I just stuck to clothes that were easy to nurse in and kind of read the room as to whether *I* felt comfortable or not. Like, at DH's work function where I didn't really know anyone? Yes, I found a quiet room to sit in away from the main action. But around friends or out in real public, eh. Discreet without bending over backward was my personal policy.
How are you doing today, Elizabeth?
"Roll with it" I like that! I will definitely will try to remember that when I get overwhelmed.
I'm doing good today, woke up all rested and relaxed and then worked a really long hard day. I told them I would not rush around for anything and then I ended up rushing around helping on a deadline and staying until 7:30pm. Oh well only 3 more days at work. I told them on Friday I am just cleaning my desk and organizing my files/emails, so they best not expect anything from me that day.
I was having some contractions again today, but nothing major. Oh and I met my friend for a quick lunch today, she is due in July and our kiddos will be going to the same daycare, her DD already goes there, so she was giving me the scoop. Apparently she is having some issues there, but its too late for me to switch right now. The newborn rooms are supposed to be good, but she doesn't like her 2 year olds room bc of ratio and age mix. So I might consider getting on another daycare list soon. It's so hard, bc you just don't know what's best.
It could also be the mix of children currently in that room. My DS';s daycare had to move teachers around because there were issues with the preschool room, it was mostly a teacher not able to handle the mix of children at that time. They still have some difficult children (who actually bully my son a little) and thankfully will be gone when he moves into the pre school. DS's group on the other hand are wonderful together, they have a good mix.
I'm with you...I think it's much better to be informed and can't imagine choosing to go into it blind. When I got pregnant with
DS1 I immediately started researching birth. It just seemed really natural to me to want to learn as much as I could.
I also didn't read much about child raising or taking care of a baby. It's not bad to read and learn what you can but I also think being flexible and just worrying about finding what seems to work for you, Daddy and baby is the best approach. Don't try to fit into some expectation or something a book said should work. Baby definitely has their own little personality that will dictate how they act and respond right from the beginning. It's still amazing to me how different my 2 boys were, right from birth. Looking back now I can totally see how it was a personality thing even though I didn't see that at first, especially with DS1. I just thought he's a baby they eat, sleep and poop, right? I didn't expect the personality to come out until later but nope.
I totally would not worry about the 2 year old classrooms at your daycare yet. If you're comfortable with the infant rooms, just reevaluate as baby gets older. There are certain classes at our school that are just a terrible mix of particularly difficult kids, and fortunately we have avoided them so far (and they're in the process of breaking one up right now) but you just can't control that at ANY daycare. By the time your kid gets there, you'll know all the kids he's been moving up with, and you'll know whether you're comfortable with them at that time. I absolutely love our school itself, and most of the kids/classes--unfortunately, you can't dictate who else goes there, so there is always the possibility of a "trouble" class.
Glad you have an end in sight on work! I worked right up to my due date and then took off last time, and I have to say that that last week of not doing much besides walking a ton and waiting for baby was really stressful because I had no distractions and started obsessing (DD came at 41+1, although I was in labor by 41). So if you're still not holding a baby by Monday, make some light plans!
While I don't know what I will do with myself next week if I'm still preggers, I know that its the best option for the baby. I have been working 50-60 hour weeks for almost the past 4 weeks. I'm exhausted. A part of me thinks, once I can relax and stop the work adrenaline then Henry will decide to come.
I think I will plan to meet up with some of my SAHM friends next week, knit, clean, walk, go to the chiro, and maybe look into accupuncture. And I can always work from home if I get bored.
So tomorrow I'm thinking of getting my membranes stripped. I really wanted to avoid it, but I also don't want an induction. Have any of you ever had it done? Then I ate eggplant parmesan tonight and I think I will try pumping this weekend or a bit of castor oil. How bout those?? Have you tried them?
What??!! After all of those 60 hour weeks? I guess you like your job eh? As for the membrane sweep I say go for it. That put me into labor with my first though it did nothing wuthe my second. I think it can help kick start labor if its close anyway. I wouldn't do castor oil unless it was a last resort.And I can always work from home if I get bored.
Ha, I was kidding about working if I get bored. I haven't had a vacation since February 2012.....so if I get bored, sleep would do me good.
Yeah I'm afraid of castor oil. The EPO already gives me an upset and loose stools. So I think I will get the membranes swept tomorrow. Then sex on friday, then pumping on saturday and then castor oil sunday or monday. And of course tons of walking in between.
Thanks for the daycare reassuarnace everyone. I like that my daycare is literally across the street from where I work, so I can nurse him on my lunch breaks. My friend is a lot pickier than me in general, so I'm not too worried. But it also can't hurt to get on a couple more lists, bc some lists around here are ridiculously long with 1 year waits or more.