Welcome to your lodge!
Welcome to your lodge!
Oo! I have a lodge! Cool!
Last two births had a lot of prelabor, but I'm hopeful that wont be the case this time. Right now, baby is vertex, head engaged, sporadic contractions, and I started losing my plug a couple days ago. Hopefully that means that I have less than a month left this time!
welcome to your lodge!! Can't wait to follow your story!
I'm one day away from 37 weeks and the prelabor is playing games with my mind! This last week I've started having minor, but real, contractions--like strong menstrual cramps. In the last 24 hours, they've picked up in frequency to the point that I just couldn't pull myself out of bed this morning. I don't have to breathe through them or anything, but I do have to stop whatever I'm doing and focus on them.
I've also lost part of my plug, and I can tell that baby is VERY low. Every BH contraction pushes the little guy against my cervix.
On the one hand it all sounds like things are getting ready to go. On the other, I'm trying to ignore it because my body did this kind of stuff for a full month with each of my other boys.
I'm going to have my mw check me at our next appt (Friday) to get a better idea of what is or isn't going on.
I just realized I should probably give a little background info, since that's what other ladies do in their lodges.
I'm 28, and DH and I have been together for 11 years. We have two boys already (ages 4 and 2). I've also suffered three early miscarriages, so this is baby 3 and pregnancy #6 for me. This baby is another boy, and were all thrilled, especially ds1. We live in eastern California.
Both my previous births were unmedicated and pretty fast, but they were both induced with castor oil because my body just doesn't like to take the hint to go into labor. Ds1 was born in a planned hb at 42 weeks. I had dilated to 6cm over the preceding 6 weeks, but showed no signs of going into labor on my own. I was also fully effaced. Once we got contractions going, ds1 was born 8 hours later at 10#10oz. His head wasn't moulded at all, and I only required seven stitches.
Ds2 had me nervous. Everyone said baby 2 is always bigger than baby 1, so I was determined not to get to 40 weeks with him. Ds1's size had caused all kinds of difficulty both with nursing and pediatrics. When I started having signs of prelabor with ds2 at 37 weeks, I promptly started to encourage things, but to no avail. I lived with contractions every two minutes for a month, which meant i was n bedrest while caring for a 2yo.
This time, we were not able to pay in advance for a hb, and I had no doctor, because we had been living overseas and only returned home as my third tri began. I was finally able to get an ob who agreed to induce me at 40 weeks on the dot. The night before my induction, I took some castor oil and that got things moving. At a certain point, I decided we had better get to the hospital while I could still get down the stairs safely. Then I transitioned at the top of the stairs. I didn't recognize the shaking for what it was, though, because it was snowing out and I just thought I was shivering. When I got to l&d I was dilated to 9. A few minutes later, my ob arrived. I started pushing while he was putting on his gloves, and ds2 was born half an hour after we arrived and only 4 hours after labor started. He was 9# 4oz, and I had no tearing.
While the birth went really well, I really hated the hospital experience. There was this subliminal message that the whole parenting thing was just too hard for an individual to handle. I wasn't allowed to do anything with my baby without a nurse looking over my shoulder. The nurses and doctors were lovely people, but the culture of the institution was just awful. On top of that, insurance reneged on my maternity coverage, and we were turned down for emergency coverage by MediCal for being too poor, so we now have the better part of 6k in medical debt to pay for what amounted to half an hour of work that I did. Looking back, I wish I had recognized transition and birthed at home--as recommended by emergency unassisted birth guidelines (your not supposed to move a woman who has transitioned).
This time, we're planning another home birth. I would love to labor spontaneously, but I would also love not to have a month of prelabor! This time, I would like to try laboring on my knees, and I would like to catch the baby myself. But most of all, I would like to wash my baby myself after the birth. I wasn't able to the first time because my mw was worried that I was bleeding too much, and it was against hospital policy the second time.
Wow you have had some quick labors/births. And some big babies! Sorry to hear your hospital experience was bad. I'm glad you are getting to do a home birth this time. I wouldn't worry about going late. It's your 3rd baby, it could happen much quicker this time. And you just hit full term! Sounds like things are moving in the right direction!
Thanks for the encouragement! My babies have been big, but DH and I are big too--I'm 5'8" and he's 6'3"--so it's all relative.
So true. Me and DH are small. I'm 5'-0" and DH is 5'-9". So, I'm expecting a small baby, but who knows, I could be surprised!
So do you guys have a name picked out for this little guy? Do you work or are you a SAHM? What do you have left to do before the baby arrives?
I'm a SAHM, which is what I've always wanted for my life. However, I do take on occasional admin jobs for my dad and my uncle. We're also a homeschool family, so I have both our boys with me all the time. We're getting ready to start kindergarten with ds1 in a few weeks.
Most of what I want to have done before baby is done. I still need to make a big batch of soup to get us through lunches for the first week. I also have a stack of the boys pants that need patches on the knees. I'd like to do that before the baby arrives, but I'm not so sure that's going to happen--and it's not a big deal if it doesn't. DH still needs to dig out and assemble the bab swing, and he also needs to get out the baby carriers so I can wash them. Otherwise, we're pretty much ready!
Just had my 37 wk appt, and everything's looking good! I'm 2-3cm and 60% effaced. Baby is at 0 station. I described the clusters of contractions I've been having (they subsided yesterday afternoon), and she said they sounded a lot like "dropping pains". She thinks baby is going to relax for at least a few days, but that I could go any time after that.