Sorry this is late. :( Here is your lodge and welcome to the home stretch! Looking forward to following the last few weeks of your journey and getting to know you!
Sorry this is late. :( Here is your lodge and welcome to the home stretch! Looking forward to following the last few weeks of your journey and getting to know you!
Thank Krista! and no worries, we're a quiet board lately :). I'll pop in later and post my intro and first two birth stories :)!
Welcome to your lodge!
ok so here's my first birth story for ds1 at the end i'll add some 'new' comments :) I am copying this from ds2's lodge (which i didn't know still existed!!!!! cool find here's the link if you're interested http://www.pregnancy.org/bulletinboa...rth-Lodge!***)
It really wasn't bad but some things still really, really hurt and when I go back there mentally the emotions seem so raw, geesh! Well anyway here is his story warning...it's long.
For me it starts on Tuesday July 17th. (34+1) I had a reg. appt. and since late June I had had aweful swelling. I thought it was pretty normal, it was summer, it was hot and I was pregnant. My nurse took my bp and it was 134/80, not too high really but for me it was way up. I had sat most of the pregnancy less than 110 over less than 70ish. I was surprised but not overly worried. My doc came in and asked how I was and I told her I was surprised that my bp was up. She pulled up my chart (everything is computerized) and the nurse didn't put it in. She asked if I remember what it was and she responded with a "hmmmmm..." She stepped out and I heard her telling the nurse she needed to be more careful and make sure vitals are recorded b/c this could be a symptom of other things etc. I also heard her ask the nurse about my urine and she said trace protein. All of this had me wondering but my doc was not too concerned. She said that I needed to watch my salt intake and rest, rest, rest for the week. She said she wanted to see me again the following week and to call if I had any sudden headaches or seeing spots. We discussed what would happen if my bp was still up the next week. She said they would do a 24hr urine collecting and some labs and we might be discussing induction around 37weeks.
I tried to not worry. I gave my mom a call (she lives in MO and we are in OR) to let her know there *might* be a chance that we would induce around 37 weeks but it was prob. nothing. She was literally outside the travel agents office about to book her flight out for early Sept. and asked if I wanted her to wait, I said not, it was nothing and everything would be fine, we were not going to have a baby until late Aug. Friday of that week came around and my whole face (eyelids, lips, etc.) were swollen and I was annoyed. I continued to relax and didn't want to call b/c I thought she would put me on bedrest and I had some things I wanted to get done. I had an appt. on Tues. anyway so it was only a few days away.
I asked dh to go with me to my next appt. b/c *if* we were going to be discussing a possible induction I wanted him there. Tues July 24 I stepped on the scale at the office and I had gain.... 20LBS!!! My nurse and I looked at each other, kinda laughed and she said, lets do that again, yup 20lbs! We went into the room and my bp was 149/98. I started crying. DH told me to relax, that everything would be fine, I knew that it wasn't good. My doc walked in the room, looked at me and said, I believe you have pre-e, you are going to go check in to L&D and likely not be leaving until we have a baby, I said no and cried some more! My doc is really wonderful, I hope I'm not making her sound cold. She told me that everything would be fine and that at 35wks baby is going to be healthy but small. She checked me b/c she wanted to know how 'favorable' my body would be to an induction. Thankfully I was at stretchy 1 and 30%. She said that with all my symptoms it would not be safe to send me home. We talked about when induction would be and she said it would be determined after the results of the 24hr unrine analysis but likely Thurs/Fri. We talked about Pit. and I shared my fears over not wanting an epi. She was very encouraging about being able to 'go natural' even with pit. etc. So off we went, we made a million phone calls and checked into l&d (right across the street from our doc's office) where the fun began.
Everytime I had to pee I buzzed the nurse so she could collect it. I was not 'admitted' yet b/c the nurses thought there was a chance I would be sent home on bedrest. Dh headed home at somepoint tuesday to start some things around the house and sleep at home b/c the next few days were so unknown. MIL/FIL headed up and SIL came down to our house and took every piece of baby clothes we had home, washed and organized everything and put babies room together for us. Our family really stepped in and cleaned my house (that was on my to do list, I really thought I had 5-7 weeks left). I cannot ever repay my family for everything they did for us that week.
Wed afternoon my urine was sent of for analysis and around 5pm the hosp. ob came in (dh had just left again for the day to have dinner with his family) and said he had my results. He said an okay amount of protein would be 300mg and I had 6,850mg and with my bp continuing to rise we needed to deliver. He said that they were going to start a Mag. drip to try to keep my bp down and my doc would be over later to insert and discuss the cervadil and the induction in the morning. Doc. came in and we talked about the 'what if's'. Our hosp. does not have a nicu, *if* baby needed extra care he would be sent to a hosp. about an hour away and I would remain a patient with them until my bp was under control (hopefully not much more than 24hrs after birth). She wanted us to know all the 'what if's' so nothing was a surprise etc. So we were prepared (as much as you can be) for that.
I called dh and he headed back to the hosp. to be with me. My nurses were so nice and told me that the mag. would likely make me feel rather 'yucky' and there were barf bags put next to my bed. Within 20ish minutes of starting the mag. i felt horrible. I started puking (ugh) and was very dazed. I think I got the cervadil around 7pm. My sister and her dh came to hang out before they went to the airport to get my mom (she jumped on a plane wed. morning). The nurses were taking my vitals every hour b/c of the mag. and I vaguely remember them asking my sister/BIL to leave b/c I needed as little stimulation as possible. I felt bad, but I really had no idea what was going on. I guess it was at that point dh was told that my bp was dangerously high and we could not have any more visitors until after baby was born. They stopped telling me my bp at 160something/101. I know I saw my mom or atleast talked to her sometime on thursday but I don't really remember.
Wed. night I was very sick (puky) and had to be checked (vitals) every hour. I slept like crap and by thursday morning I was ready to get the show on the road. The pit was started at 6:30 and the ctx. were really mild, many I was not even feeling. My doc stopped in sometime in the morning and we talked about her breaking my water (she did not say it but I know it was b/c with everything we were on a 'time limit' to get baby here vaginally). she didn't think she could get the tool in at that point so she said she would be back after lunch. Dh and I spent some time talking and I tried my best to rest. I had continual monitoring for me and baby and I swear he moved all the time and the nurses were adjusting my straps every half hour or so, we got a laugh out of that. My doc came back during lunch (around 1) and I was still only a stretchy 1, during the middle of her telling me she could feel a bulgy bag but didn't think she could get the hook in there...POP my water went everywhere! It did not hurt but it was one of the strangest feelings ever, it made a huge mess and I of course apologized! After my water broke the ctx really picked up. Oh how I wanted to walk or do something other than lay on my side. Dh rubbed my back during them and my nurse was so encouraging telling me I was doing a great job etc, etc. We had discussed our wishes for a 'natural' birth and the nurses knew that I would ask about pain options if I wanted them.
3:30 I felt tons of pressure and the ctx. were getting really hard to handle. I asked to be checked and I was *only* 4-5 cm. That is when I was ready to discuss something. We decided on nubain and my nurse told me that if I imagined the ctx. like a mountain, the nubain would take the peak off and allow me to relax in between. I was exhausted and thought I had another 5hours of these ctx. left! So nubain was administered sometime around 4pm. I still felt every ctx but slept in between them. Around 6 I nearly shot up and told dh I had to push or poop or something! He called my nurse and she checked me and said your complete. You need to breath through these next ctx. till the doc gets here, she's on her way. She called out to the nurses station and made it very clear they needed to tell my doc. that baby was coming now! She was a great nurse, dh held my hand and my nurse looked my in the eyes and breathed with me through 2 -3 ctx (well really blowing out rapidly) it really helped to make me not have the urge to push.
My doc walked in by 6:10 and said I could start pushing, 2 pushes to move baby down, 1 for babies head and bairly 1 for babies body at 6:23pm Connor John was born weighing 4lbs 5oz and 17.5in long. Sometime just prior to pushing our nurses said that baby would likely be taken down to the nursery and evaluated to make sure he was healthy enough to stay. I remember doc. telling me his head was out but I could not look, my eyes would not open! Then he was all the way out she said here's baby! I looked down and not hearing him cry, I said "cry baby, please just cry" and he did, and I laid down from exhaustion! Dh said, "It's Connor" (the sex was a surprise) and it took me a minute to register that he just told me we had a boy!!! I was completely exhausted. I remember watching the nurses spend a little time with him and wondering why they weren't taking him anywhere. I felt very foggy and things seemed to be moving in slow motion. They then told me he was fine, apgars of 8 & 9! At some point (within 20 minutes dh went out and told the family that he was here, he was a boy and everything was fine). I know at some point pretty quickly the placenta was delivered and I did not need any stitches. The nurses were great and grabbed our camera and took pics for us. Dh gave ds his first little bath in the sink in our room and then he was bundled tight and held by his dad.
*******this one of those things about it that really hurts and gets me very emotional******
I do not remember holding him for the first time. I am pretty sure dh is the one who gave him to me. I have thought through this a million times and I cannot find that memory. I rememer watching the nurses show dh how to swaddle him, and put a diaper on but I do not remember holding my son for the first time and that hurts, really bad. In fact I really do not know with any accuracy what happened from the time he was born to the time dh went to get our parents to meet him (just after 8pm). I vaguely remember watching his grandparents meet him and then having our Sisters and their dh's come in. I remember telling SIL than my niece and nephew could hold him (she was nervous b/c he was so small), they were so careful and of course someone was right there with them. I remember the first night he slept in a warmer in our room b/c he was not holding his temp on his own. I remember my wonderful aftercare nurse syringe feeding him that first night. I wish I had taken a picture of him in his little warmer that night, he was so relaxed.
Friday is hazy too, I know we had lots of visitors and I was pumping every 3 hrs. he tried to bf w/o any success. our nurses were great and helping us feed him. Honestly I was afraid to unwrap him and hold him close to me b/c I thought he would be cold. I was still on the mag and still felt rather crappy. FINALLY fri. night at 6ish my mag was turned off and we just kept the lock thing in for 'just in case'. Friday night he was holding his temp better and he slept in his basssinett right next to my bed, i remember staring at him and thinking he was just so beautiful.
Saturday was the best day (and his only 'setback') I was holding him and he started to look gray, I tried moving him around and stimulating him and he didn't really respond. We called for a nurse and I think all the comotion got him going again. The nurse handed him back to me in a just a diaper and I was terrified, he was soooo small to me and I had not held him yet w/o being wrapped in 2 blankets. She said that I should do as much skin to skin as possible, all day if I wanted. I held him and I cried, for the first time I was really able to take him all in and I was overjoyed! His little body next to mine was the sweetest feeling. We actually selpt 'kangarooed' than night. My doc said that if all continued to go well we could head home Sunday afternoon. The LC came in and we made a feeding plan, taught me how to use the SNS. My milk had not come in yet and we were having to supplement b/c he had dropped to 4lbs 1oz and that was as far as they wanted him to go.
Sunday we were released and we had appts. the following week with the LC and our doc. (my doc is a family doc so she's our 'everything' doc). Going home was so exciting but so nerve wracking. we had had nearly 4 days of all the help we could need and once we went home it was us!!! Our nurses were encouraging and one said that she knew we were going to do great, they don't have a lot of the 'small' babies at this hosp. and sometimes they are nervous sending them home but she told us that while we were there we really showed that we would do fine and ofcourse would call if we needed any help. I really appreciated that compliment. Sunday afternoon we arrived home and got to relax with our new baby.
The first few months were full of ups and downs, slow weight gains and meetings w/a GI but in the end everything was fine and he's as healhty as can be. I am so thankful he did not have to be transferred to the NICU, I would have been a wreck! Looking back, I wish I would have never gotten the nubain, of course I did not know I would go from 5 to complete in under 2 hrs. I really don't know if it was the mag or the nubain that made everything so foggy. For having to be induced at 35+3, everything went really well. I was able to deliver vaginally and I have a beautiful little boy. There are just bits and pieces that I don't think I will ever get over. I was/maybe still am mad at my body for not being able to complete the pregnancy. The health issues he had later on I blamed on myself, I always thought that had I not gotten sick.....(a million little things). I felt betrayed by my body and robbed of the labor experience that I wanted.
I feel like I've done a decent job processing my feelings and I am very exciting for this new journey. I love my hosp. (completely respectful and NCB friendly) I have the same doc as before and she knows my wishes and is very supportive. Sorry that got so long, thanks for reading!!!
I LOVE MY DOC...lol she was so calm through everything and very straight forward. she supported and respected my wishes to continue to attempt a no-epi delivery. My nurses were ANGELS not once did they suggest/ask about pain meds. they were encouraging and apologetic about not being able to let me get up and move around. My after care nurse was like a mom, she was right in there helping with everything. one of my best memories of the whole thing was watching her rock/syringe feed and talk to my little boy when i just couldn't. Like I said 3yrs ago, there are things about Connor's delivery that I won't ever 'get over' but even though they are still emotional for me, I have processed them fairly well and am so very thankful for the support we had during a scary time for us.
NEXT UP...Isaac's crazy, awesome delivery!
Ok, so as you all know I took the castor oil at 1pm on thursday. I decided to get some stuff ready b/c i was being hopeful. By 3pm I had been to the bathroom a few times and was thinking great, i took this stuff and all that's going to happen is a lot of...well...you know.
My sister was coming over to hang out and she got there around 5pm and I made and early dinner JIC. Dinner finished and I was dishing us up (dinner took forever) about 6:45 and felt my first ctx that had any pain with it. From there they were rather close together, we pulled up ctx master and they were no more than 3 min apart lasting between 30 sec and a min. We (sis and I) went out to the car to show her how connors car seat worked. I could no longer talk through the ctx and was quite surprise and frustrated with how painful they already were.
I was getting the last of my stuff ready to go b/c I had decided that we should prob. go in and get checked. I was in serious denial that I could be very far along and was scared that we would get there and they would stop and we would get sent home. For about 20 min I knelt on the floor with my arms wrapped around my birth ball 'moaning' through them. I got kinda loud and scared ds a few times. Finally dh told me I needed to go to the truck and we needed to go after the next one was over. we left our house at about 8:35pm
I had Jason put a garbage bag and towel on the seat just in case. The ctx were very intense and I was still in denial that this was 'it' LOL. about 5 min into our 15ish min drive i told dh i didn't know how long I could take the ctx thinking i had a few hours left of them. About 5 min later my water broke in the truck (yay for the garbage bag!!!)
we called l&d and were there just a few min after we called (8:55ish). they brought out a chair b/c i knew i could not walk. i also didn't think i could get out of the truck! the nurse was encouraging but forceful that i had to get out so i did (what else was i going to do!) she wheeled me very quickly and i felt a lot of pressure. she said i could be very close or complete (again denial thinking she was humoring me). we go to the room and again i didn't think i'd be able to get on the bed, the nurses helped with that too.
She moved my legs checked me and said, your complete he's coming! my doc had been called but was a little way out, she was not going to make it. one of her colleagues happened to be doing some paper work and grabbed a gown and gloves. I was already pushing. 1 good ctx his head was out and i felt so much relief i thought i was done, they said "one more for his shoulders" and i replied "what? that wasn't all of him" his shoulders were very easy and he was out before the ctx was done!
They laid Isaac on my chest and it was soooo amazing, i was in complete shock at what had just occured in the last few hours! i had a baby! from start to finish labor was about 2.5hrs. he was perfect! Jason only had time to park and hurry in so we had no camera or anything they were in the truck. isaacs first picture is the one of me holding him. B/C of how fast delivery was we did a pit. shot to prevent hem. and i took some iv pain meds after he was here for repair a 2 small tears (only 2 stitches). when she was assessing my tears it seemed more painful that the ctx so the meds were welcomed! My doc arrived after about 10 min of Isaac getting here and we had a few good laughs about the whole thing.
I took the castor oil at 40+3 b/c honestly it was an AWESOME day to have a baby. sister (who was the only one who could watch connor) already planned on coming over and after that day (thurs) she is pretty hard to get a hold of at work. i figured if it worked, great, if not, oh well. Obv it worked. Dh told me JUST A FEW MONTHS AGO, he didn't really want me to take the castor oil and felt like i just 'did it' and he didn't like it. I was shocked, he never said anything when we talked about prior to me doing it! In the beginning of this preg. he said he would rather that not be on the table of options and i said ok. He has since changed his tune some (he's getting antsy lol) but it's not something I would consider again until after 40 wks (obv). Everything about Isaacs labor/delivery was awesome and he was a very easy baby. It was so precious to get to hold him right after birth and he nursed before we ever took his stats. It was incredible!!!
I will talk about this pregnancy and 'plans' for this labor/delivery tomorrow :)
Welcome to your lodge! I'm going to admit I didn't have the energy to get through that first story, but your second one... wow! That was quick! It sort of just shows what we're capable of when we don't actually realize what we're dealing with, if you know what I mean?
Anyway... looking forward to hearing more about this pregnancy and plans for birth!
Ahhhh a feb mom with a lodge! This is becoming so real! We are going to have babies soon!!
Wow I can see why you would get emotional thinking about your first birth. What a rollar coaster! I think you are a rockstar for having both pit and mag andonly having nubain! I don't think many other women could be that strong!! You talked about your trouble bfing him, were you guys able to have a bfing relationship? It sounds like although his birth was not ideal it went as well as it could!
Wow #2 was fast! Holy moly! I though my 5 hour labor with my second was quick but you take the cake! Glad you were able to have the birth that you deserved!
Can't wait to hear about your plan for #3. My midwives have told me that #2 tends to be the most efficient birth and that after that subsequent births are like a "wild card" they could be short or long or inbetween. Have you ever been told that? I don't know about you but I hope I get a nice quick one again! Lol
Wow! Your first birth was quite a ride. Sorry about everything that happened with your first birth. That was a crazy fast second birth though! Are you hoping for a slightly calmer birth this time?
YES i have so heard that #3 is a wild card I am hoping for the shorter end of things still but....idk
The road to Colin :)
We thought we were done with #2, we got rid of everything hehe. After a long conversation on a 4hr drive home we decided we wanted more kids and that I could deal with preg. to have more kidlets so here we are. Luckily, our 'big' stuff was given to my sister who was just about done with it when we decided to ttc so we got lots of gear back. It took about 8 mo but here we are. We are so excited to be welcoming boy #3 in the next weeks and look forward to getting to see who this little man is. His brothers are excited and my oldest frequently asks if Colin can come out!
This pregnancy has been nearly the same as my first two (minus the pre-e of course). I get the good fortune of being sick the whole time unless I take meds. Unisom/b6 is my miracle worker. The big negative for that is I am exhausted, I think the unisom makes me over tired.
I started seeing 2 mw at our hosp that's 5min away and I liked them so much. At 20 wks I had a minor freak out b/c the hosp. is kinda sketchy and realized that there's no way I could possibly go into surgery there. I trust my body but you cannot prevent the emergencies and if I was delivering somewhere that I don't trust going into surgery it wouldn't be a good mental place for me to have this baby. So, I switched out to my old practice (my doc from the boys has quit delivering) and starting seeing the doc who happened to be there and deliver Isaac. She's great, supportive and has told me more than once she excited to see me through labor and delivery :)! The only little thing we have dealt with is glucose in my urine. I didn't fail my 1hr test but it was on the high end and much higher than my first two preg. so i went ahead and have been doing a modified gd diet and it fixed the glucose within two weeks. My next appt is tues, I'll be 37wks and on weekly appts, which I am hoping will make time move a little faster :)!