Thread: ~*~ Kyla's (ftmom) lodge ~*~

Very interesting intro and birth stories! Thanks for sharing. It stinks that you don't like your DR. or OB. I am sorry if they are being pushy and not working with you well. And I am sorry to hear that they are pushing induction. I will look forward to reading your update on your current pregnancy and situation. Hope you can choose the birth you want and they don't succeed in pushing anything on you.

Welcome to your lodge! TFS your birth stories. I'm sorry you're feeling pressured about induction; is that because you have GD again? IIRC you're keeping that under control, so there should be no need to induce. Stay strong, you've done this twice before, so you know more about your own body than the doctor does!

Yes, they want to do an induction because I have GD, even though I am well controlled and have had no issues. I am supposed to start NST's twice a week soon, so as long as those continue to look well, I am going to push them back to at least my due date. DH isn't hugely comfortable with me going much longer than that, but doesn't think I will anyways.

I am just feeling like the Dr's this time dont trust me, or what my body is telling me during the pregnancy......which makes me really nervous about how things will go during the birth. Hopefully this one will come just as fast as big sister and brother did, and we wont really have time for anything

Welcome to your lodge! I loved your stories. I'm sorry you're Drs this time are being so difficult, I hope you can get the birth you want.

Welcome to your lodge! I enjoyed reading your intro and birth stories. That is a bummer that your DRs are already pushing for an induction. Stand your ground and stay firm in your decision not to be induced!

Welcome to your lodge! I enjoyed your birth stories, it sounds like your past pregnancies have gone well despite the GD so those doctors need to lighten up. I'd be aiming to arrive at the hospital as late as possible, maybe you can walk the grounds a bit too to make sure you aren't too late.

Cindy

I enjoyed reading your birth stories! I hope your OBs back off and you get the birth you want, sans induction!

OK, I have a bit more time to comment a bit more. I remember a couple of months ago that you were *already* concerned about your doctor *already* saying you would need induction, so I'm guessing it's the same one. At that time, you expressed concern about him making good decisions at your birth. I think you need to very strongly consider your options now, and switching doctors should be your #1 option. If this guy isn't taking into consideration either your prior birth histories or the fact that you are keeping your GD under control with diet alone, then IMHO he's not truly looking out for your or your baby's best interests. You are going to be fighting with him every week, which a pregnant mama shouldn't have to do with anyone, especially her doctor, or you are going to be giving in to things you don't want or need, which a pregnant mama shouldn't have to do. I know you have a weird local ordinance that restricts doctors from accepting another doctor's patient, but I would just start calling them all & explaining the situation and say that you NEED to change NOW and hope that one of them is willing to put a patient's right to decent care above a stupid law. (Also might as well call someone in government about getting a waiver and/or eliminating that ridiculous ordinance, too, while you're at it!)

Your second option would be to have a heart-to-heart talk with this doctor (and maybe bring your DH but only if you think he'll back you up) and say that he needs to get his head out of his *** immediately and start dealing with you as the educated, informed, and empowered woman that you are. This paternalistic "little mommy needs to do whatever Big Doctor Man says" attitude from him needs to stop. You are the one in charge of your care and your body, and he needs to respect that. There WILL BE NO mention of induction unless your condition deteriorates. Write down your major points & concerns

Third option, and I'm not sure if this *is* an option in your area & with the Canadian health care system, but you can always just stop going to him. Arrange to have weekly or biweekly NST/BPP tests on your own, monitor your BP (you can buy a decent monitor at the drug store for about $40) and blood sugar on your own, and take your chances in labor with the hospital's residents or on-call OB.

Bottom line, if you are keeping your GD under control with diet, that alone is greatly minimizing your risks and routine NSTs and BPPs will be able to keep track of baby's growth and how well your placenta is functioning anyway. If baby starts getting "too big," especially if it's too big around the abdomen, or if your placenta starts degrading, then you consider your options. There is absolutely no need for him to be pushing induction on you at this time. You don't need that stress, and you have the power to make it stop. Good luck!!!

Got a massage today, and it was heavenly! They had the special pillows where you can lay on your tummy, and it felt like baby was just floating round in there instead of laying on my pelvis. I need some of those for my bed

I also got about a foot cut off my hair. It was getting kind of gross and way too long, so I chopped it off to shoulder length and got it layered. Figured if I didnt get it done now, I would end up cutting it all off in labour, as I have been so hot! So far I like it, but I havent had to 'do' it myself yet, so we will see. I am a very low maintenance girl

At this point I havent actually seen my own Dr for 6ish weeks, as he is away. So the topic of induction hasnt actually come up with him recently. It is the OB who keeps mentioning it. But he also keeps saying that he is not the one who will be there when I am in labor, and is not in charge of my care.....though he keeps ordering tests for me At this point I am in wait and see mode.