I posted this earlier today on my birth board:
I've never done an official "birth plan" before. I'm really thinking of putting a very few bullet points on a piece of paper to give my nurse this time. Also, some very basic reminders for DH. I don't really have many things that I'm a big stickler about but I do have some specific things I would like to go differently this time.
So here's what I'm planning to write down and give the hospital staff:
- Plan to have a natural L&D; not wanting an epi or other pain meds. A local is fine if need some stitches post delivery.
- Would like to labor down once complete until I feel the urge to push (not start pushing just b/c I'm 10 cm)
- Try different pushing positions according to how I feel
- Delay cord cutting (like at least 3 to 5 minutes) and hopefully have baby placed on me immediately
So that's it...my goal here is few interventions during laboring, just let me do my thing. With the second and third items I'm trying to avoid tearing this time and although the pushing phase has gone very quickly for me in the past, I've never felt the urge to push and have just actively worked to push baby out while laying flat on my back. I'm thinking if I wait for the urge and get in better position then maybe it won't be as much work and I can control the exit better so I don't tear. I really have no clue on this but there is that saying about how doing the same thing and expecting different results is the definition of insanity. So just trying something different.
I'm posting it here too to get any comments, experience or advice you ladies may have.
Yeah, this is surprising to most who have only experienced term birth...which is completely understandable b/c they immediately start a clock on you to get the baby out in their timeframe due to the risk of infection. But it's very common to stop birth and keep mama on bed rest for weeks or even months depending on the gestation. Of course, it's a weighing the worse of 2 evils type of situation. Usually once you have ruptured membranes the remainder of your pregnancy will be in the hospital so they can monitor the baby and watch for any signs of infection. They also gave me IV antibiotics as a precaution. So it is still a concern just makes more sense to risk it at earlier gestations due to risk of that doesn't exceed the benefit to baby to keep growing inside the womb. They also monitor the level of fluid around the baby via u/s. The fluid can regenerate but you leak a lot too...at least I did. However fluid levels never were too low when they checked me.
Originally Posted by molly_4711
The hospital where I had DS1 is in West TN so I won't be returning there. Where I live now in East TN there are 3 hospitals for baby birthing in my immediate area. I went to the downtown one with DS2 b/c I hadn't decided (once again my procrastination got me) where I would go and when the nurse with my docs office called me back she persuaded me to go there due to me being a little early and b/c my doc had 2 other moms scheduled to be there the next morning already. Although I wasn't so early that was really a factor so basically boiled down to my docs convenience. So this will be my 3rd delivery and 3rd hospital. :)
:clink: Here's to your last week of work!
Many years ago, I worked with a man whose wife had a baby. When they arrived at the hospital, she didn't like the way they were treating her and decided to leave. The staff refused to "let" her leave so she pulled out her IV and began walking toward the parking lot, calling to her husband to come with her. He drove her to another hospital, where she delivered their daughter. The next year, they were having another baby, and they had moved so she was going to yet another hospital and joked that if things didn't go well, she would end up with two kids and four hospital bills.
Originally Posted by Clarkton
Hi! Sorry, I've been on vacation but I just read through everything except your first two birth stories--planning to go back and read those after adding my WELCOME and YAY for 38 weeks! My DD was born at 41 weeks, and my anxiety that last week was almost entirely due to my birth center's stupid (it's not their fault, but still) risk-out policy at 41 weeks. I made it JSUT under the wire, but I think things would have been a lot smoother and faster if I hadn't gotten myself so worked up about it. Glad you're not facing any kind of reason to be anxious at this point aside from just wanting that baby in your arms!
Oh, and we get put on a 12 hour clock after ROM at my birth center/hospital. So annoying. Their insurance carrier is HYPER cautious.
wow, a 12 hour clock?
Honestly, I'm a little jealous of your body, Lynn. I like my full-term deliveries, but twice my water has broken and nothing has happened so that lovely 24 hours clock got me and I had to be induced. And going from 7cm to baby that quickly sounds awesome (painful, but over quickly!)
Spacers, that is hilarious! Love it!! :D
Leigh, welcome back! Hope you had a great vaca!! :) That would totally stress me out too, I just haven't made it long enough to be under that pressure before. I have always been pleased with my doc and don't think he would go Dr Jekyll on me but I've read others experience about quickly the tune can change when you get close to the end. Last week at my check-up he talked about starting checks at 38 weeks and said that's really just so he can have some indication for those ladies who want to be induced earlier (like 39 or 40 weeks was what I gathered) and then he said but you want spontaneous labor. So I confirmed that was correct. I haven't asked any other questions about his idea of going past 40 and he hasn't brought it up. Time will tell! ;)
Virginia, yes that would be really nerve wracking to know youre on the clock and your body is doing nothing! I still have moments of wondering if my body will work the way I hope this time. Especially since things seem to be going so differently this go 'round. There are never any guaranties!
Oh and I have only ever had all back labor so I guess that's how my body tries to keep it from being too easy ;)
BACK LABOR!? Yikes...that always sounds SO awful. I'm not at all sure I'd have made it through my NCB if I'd had to deal with that! Pretty much 100% of my labor was concentrated in my stomach--I didn't even really feel a ring of fire. It was just the contractions...man, those contractions...
Really hoping that a more relaxed attitude going in this time will help me stay much more on top of it all! So...stay peaceful :) That baby will come when it's good and ready ;)
funny how it's different for everyone. almost all of my pain has been in my hips every time. It would start, completely tolerable, in the belly then wrap into the hips and intensify there, completely eclipsing the belly. I can't imagine back labor. ow.
Happy 38 weeks Lynn!
I've had back labor with DS and "regular" contractions in my belly labor with DD. The later was so much easier for me personally.