I had back labor with DD1, I remember so clearly that I didn't notice it until I got an epidural and then it was all I felt and there was nothing I could do about it (i.e., couldn't change positions, etc.).
I'm so happy for you that you are here at 38 weeks. I know you mentioned reading my lodge with DS2 and all the waiting I was doing. I was induced with DD1 and doubts about whether my body could spontaneously go into labor crept in A LOT, especially as I got to 41+weeks. I was so excited when it happened naturally. It will happen for you too. Patience is not easy when the clock starts ticking after your "guess date", but you can do it! Just know that your body knows just what to do and will go into action when baby is ready.
Molly & Elton 10/2/04
Mary 5/24/06, Celia 6/9/09
Baby #3 due 6/21/13
It's true...it's so hard once you're farther than you expected. I'm thinking about just working until I go into labor this time (I have an office job that isn't particularly stressful)...that last week of sitting around at home last time was TORTURE, plus it'll make my leave last longer...I felt like every day off with no baby was being wasted. If you have a lot of time to kill, try to find as much as you can to take your mind off the anticipation!!
Lynn I loved reading your birth stories! My hospital had a 12 hour rule on the water breakage. But had I not come in, they would have never known. Bad decision on my part. If my other midwife were on call that night I know she would have told me to stay home. But low and behold I went in because I had lots of blood and meconium in my waters and had to labor at the hospital and was put on the clock. She let me go to 13 hours before starting pitocin. I was totally rocking my labor until then too. Pitocin contractions suck.
I had belly contractions but for some reason having my back massaged in labor still relieved a lot of pain. I hear back labor is intense. Hopefully you have another one of you quick and easy labors. But not too quick of pushing. That seems hard. I'm sure when you are in pain you just want to push through it. It sounds hard to push slowly.
I was hospitalized for 5 days after my water broke. Ours broke around the same time (33 weeks). Unlike you, I had no other signs of labour and I was not dilated. They told me once I got the steroid injections that if labour started, they wouldn't stop it but I was going to be induced at 34 weeks. They take a different approach if your water breaks preterm. At 33 weeks 5 days, my daughter stayed 3 weeks in the NICU. If she made it to 35 weeks, it is unlikely she would have had to stay. The NICU nurses said they usually get the suck/swallow response at 34 weeks and that was our biggest challenge in getting DD2 home.
When I had DD1, nothing could have prepared my for the intensity of the contractions (1 minute in a contraction, 1 minute rest). When I was felt like I couldn't do it anymore and asked for the epidural, I was ready to push and was done a few minutes later. When I had my loss, I had 4 hours that physically felt like the last 4 hours of my labour. I felt like I was prepared for that when I had DD2. She was different. I guess I had back labour with her because it was constant and it was getting worse. They monitored me and in 30 minutes detected 2-3 random contractions. They were resisting checking me because of the infection risk but because I was in agony, they did and I was 5 cm. They wheeled me to L&D. One nurse said I should ask for the epidural now if I wanted one and the other nurse kept saying I had done NCB before and I could do it again. I was there alone and the idea of going through another 4 hours in that much pain was unthinkable so I said yes. He was going to get paged after they got the monitors set up. I said I had to go to the bathroom first and I sat there for about 5 minutes because the effort to get up in that pain was too much. However, I became aware that I felt "stretchy" down there and that if I didn't get off the toilet, the baby would be born there. Within 5 minutes, DD2 was born. After she was born, they said I'd had an abruption and that is why it hurt so much so suddenly. No idea if that is true.
I have no idea how people don't push once the pushing urge is there. The nurse asked me to wait so the doctor could come in the room and waiting through one contraction was my limit. There was no way I was waiting through another one.
With DD1 I was prepared to go early because I was early. With DD2 I was prepared to go to 42 weeks and I was in complete denial that I was having her early.
DD1 July 2008 (41w3d)
November 2010 (13 weeks)
DD2 August 2011 (33w5d)
These little ones sure are unpredictable! I never would have thought I'd be sitting here pregnant and quickly approaching 39 wks. I do hope to not see 42 though
Yes--if my water breaks at home and I have no reason to be worried about it (I'm in the full term window, it's clear, and labor is starting or well underway) I'm totally not telling them and putting myself on that ridiculously short clock unnecessarily! I didn't have any choice last time because it broke mid labor after I'd already been at the birth center for, oh, 8 or 9 hours. (Didn't speed anything up like they said it might, though). The fact that each labor and delivery is so different is both wonderful and slightly terrifying to me...I definitely want it to be different than last time, but hopefully in the BETTER direction
Glad you're hanging in there, Lynn! Stay peaceful...
Quick drive-by posting...I feel like something is happening today. Been having lots of BH type of contractions all day. I don't think it's anything timeable but they started early this morning and have continued and usually it's more isolated than that and mostly in the evening. They have been accompanied by some minor but low cramping and a bit of lower back ache. But the bigger deal that has me excited is that when I went to the restroom just now I had a pretty decent blob of mucous with and it was tinged with brownish red.
I was checked yesterday at my appointment but he was really gentle...it didn't hurt at all and I definitely didn't have membranes stripped or anything. So the color could be from the check.
I'm telling myself this could all stop at any point or when I go to bed and then have more days of nothing. So who really knows?
More than the BHs, I think the loss of some plug means you have a good chance of this baby arriving in the next 48 hours!! KUP!
Molly & Elton 10/2/04
Mary 5/24/06, Celia 6/9/09
Baby #3 due 6/21/13
good luck! I hope it's labor starting!
I had some bloody show well over a week before DS2 was born, but I did dilate to 2-3cm when it happened, with just "BH". With DS1 I had bloody show and my water broke 36 hours later. DS3 never had it.
big boy 12.8.07 @ 39+2 7lbs 8oz, 20.5" BFed for 13 months
middle boy 8.12.09 @ 39+4 7lbs 9oz, 21" BFed for 13.5 months
little boy 4.26.11 @ 38+4 6lbs 14oz, 19.5" BFed until 26mo and restarted at 30mo!
baby boy 10.25.13 @ 41+0 8lbs 15oz, 21.5"
8.16.12 & 12.16.12