Mara, just jumping in here to offer you encouragement!
I can't imagine how tough it is to have your hubby away from you...I took a 1.5 week trip to see my family in the next state when I was about 32 weeks along, and literally wept when we were reunited. But that is cake compared to being in a different country for an extended period! You are so strong and brave, and I'm rooting for you!
Laszlo Jacob, 11/9/11
Yay for head down! Good job baby!
Peeing is a great sign of a low head down baby. Everytime I stood up that last month I had to run to the bathroom first. Ha ha.
I just celebrated a 120/80 bp so I think yours is fine. If its slightly high for you just drink lots of water (as others suggested) and rest as much as possible.
I'm excited you're getting closer!!
SORRY I am late to the party! I am so so so excited to follow your lodge! Loved reading your birth story again. I am so happy Kong turned for you even if it means more trips to the bathroom! So glad your husband is going to be here soon! Less than 2 weeks and he will be by your side again. I can't imagine being away from him for this long, I am sure that isn't easy. You are going to rock this homebirth! So do you plan to have Beni present at the birth? Oh and that is a totally fine BP, so just make sure you are getting enough water and protein.
DS Ethan 1/29/08,
DD Lola 2/2/10
DS2 Weston 2/18/12
Good that you are napping when Beni naps. I have been struggling with that lately. My ODS is in school in the afternoons and I am always afraid to go to sleep and miss his pickup time even though YDS is sleeping.
Kristin - Mom to 3 little boys and one baby girl
I'm sure having your DH away for so long would contribute to your being tired! It's an added stress that is making your body work just that tiny bit harder. Plus, even though you have your dad and stepmom, it isn't the same as having your DH around to help with Beni. I'm sure you will be so relieved to see him in 2 weeks!
Less than 2 weeks til DH gets here!!! Whooohooo!!!!
Also... my mom is trying to put together a mother's blessing for me, which I am really excited about. The only problem is that my mom is sometimes kind of disorganized and she has left it to the last minute. So we're kind of looking to see when we'll end up having it (we were thinking this Sunday, but now it might be May 25th- the night before DH gets back!)...and I hope a few people can come. We'll see.
I think Beni will be at the birth...in the house anyway. I've asked my mom to be responsible for her during labor, so, she'll be here and around... of course it all depends on what time it all happens- if I end up laboring in the middle of the night, I won't wake her on purpose. So we'll see. I do think it would be awesome to have her around, and to have her witness her sibling's birth if she's not scared or whatever... but that is definitely part of the "plan" that I am totally ok with not being rigid about. I don't think it will bother me to have her around or anything.
Yeah, my dad and step-mom are really helpful sometimes and really absent a lot of the time. They are very busy. And I can't complain... they are letting us live with them, which is great, because we're not having to pay bills or anything. And it's not like they said they would necessarily be here to support me...so they do what they can. They both love having Beni around, and play with her when they can, but, my dad has his own (home-based) business and my step-mom runs the office, so they are pretty much always at work. It is nice though to see Beni feeling very at home with them- she gets very excited when they come down in the morning or when my dad gets home from the out of the house work he does. It's heartwarming.
As for me... last night I had a spell of insomnia! I just could NOT fall asleep! I was awake until just about 3am- and then Beni woke up earlier than usual just after 8. I did take a nap with her today, so I got an hour in the afternoon. The problem seems to be that I get that second wind in the evening after putting her to bed, and then I just don't get tired until later. Recently that has meant between 12 and 1, but last night... that was just crazy! Oh, and Kong was SO ACTIVE from about 1-3, that it was almost uncomfortable!
I've been having Braxton Hicks since about 14 or 15 weeks with this pregnancy... and in the last week or so they have gotten stronger. I had BHs from about 20 weeks with Beni. At my last appt with my midwife (that was a few days before 36 weeks), she did an internal exam to see if i would help her know the position of the baby. I suppose I might have told you that my cervix was thick and high or whatever- totally closed then. I hope that is still the case. I don't care about anything else than that baby comes AFTER my DH! I know it's not the end of the world to not have DH there... but, of course... it would just suck for him to miss the birth... it just would. But plus, I will still only be 38.5 weeks when he does arrive, and I am quite happy to go to 40 weeks. Beni was born at 39w2d, but...it doesn't mean this baby has to come faster!
I guess I have to remember that like Ariel just had weeks of contractions...and ended up going way over... so the same could happen to me! I don't think I'm having REAL contractions right now... but, it's making me a little nervous that the BHs I am having are stronger, and slightly crampy feeling. That said, I don't think they have increased in frequency. So yeah...
I'll be 37 weeks on Wednesday, so then I'll be all clear for the home birth I guess, which is good! I don't see my midwife again until the day I turn 38 weeks...it's nice to be left alone, but, I kind of miss the weekly appts!
Mara & Joel, 2009
Yay for Kong being head down and DH arriving in 2 weeks!
I hope you are able to get some better sleep tonight.
Sounds like you've got a perfect plan for DD during the birth. I agree it would be neat for her to be there when her sibling is born if she is comfortable with it. I'm a big beliver in being in the right frame of mind before you will allow your body to relax and birth your baby. Keep focusing on having your baby once DH arrives and I bet that your LO will stay put and bake until the perfect time.
~Joy~ DS1-8/5/05, DS2-10/18/10 (VBAC#1), DS3- 4/11/12 (VBAC#2!)
Has anyone ever skipped GBS testing altogether? My midwife seems really laid back about it, and I guess we've been so wrapped up in getting the baby in a good position, that we just haven't really worried about it. I was GBS- last time, but that doesn't actually mean anything does it? I know GBS can be serious for babies... so just wondering about this... if you don't test for it, do you take any other precautions before hand??
Mara & Joel, 2009
So sorry for chiming in late on your lodge. It's got to be so tough with DH gone! I hope the last weeks of him being gone fly by. DH sometimes has to stay out of town for weeks on end and it's tough with DD. I've only had to do it a few days at a time pregnant and it's early on so it's not a big deal. I couldn't imagine going through that so close to the end! Insomnia is so tough, especially if/when your mind starts racing with all the things you want to get done before the baby arrives.
I did have DD early but even still I had 'real" contractions for a couple of weeks before she came. I hope Kong keeps baking until well after DH gets home and is settled in! How awesome to have Beni around for her sibling's birth!
I was GBS negative for both of the boys but was completely surprised to find out I was positive with Eve. I think they were supposed to do 2 doses of meds (accompanying 2 IV bags!), but I had her within an hour and a half of getting to the hospital, and there was only enough time for like half the first dose. They wanted us to stay in the hospital a few days for observance, but it didn't get passed on to her. Maybe with the super quick delivery, there just wasn't time? I don't know. Just letting you know that even being GBS positive (and not getting "enough" meds as deemed by the medical community) is not necessarily cause for alarm. I think if it will ease your mind to know whether or not you have GBS, the test isn't that invasive (just a quick swab in your vag and bum). Your midwife sounds really level-headed and relaxed. I like her
ETA: Oh, and I've read that washing down there with Hibiclens gets rid of GBS.
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