Glad you had a boring appointment! Those are the best.
I can't blame you for wanting to stay home as long as you can. Hopefully your DH ends up not panicking and you can stay home for a bit.
I packed so much freaking stuff that I never used. You won't need much, especially since hospitals have stuff to make up for anything you *need* and forget.
What's your OB's reason for wanting you to come in right away? Did he spell out any actual risk you'd encounter staying home for awhile? In all likelihood, if you were to run in upon having your first real contraction, he'd just send you home. I vote for staying home as long as possible. Still, you should have DH on board. Having to hide your labor or having him pestering you to go in will not make it easy to relax.
Sounds like you're pretty good on the hospital bag. Are you going to bring stuff for Kole? I also found that I brought lots of stuff to the hospital that I didn't use last time!
I hope you can relax, and that your DH can too... I think staying home a.l.a.p. is a good idea! I was in active labor (already involuntarily pushing) for my drive to the hospital- which was 15-20 minutes as well. I was on my hands and knees in the back seat. There is no way I would have been able to SIT. I also figure, if you get pulled over and a cop seriously sees you laboring like that in the back seat, they'd probably be more likely to escort you the rest of the way to the hospital, than give you a ticket, don't you think? I do.
Mara & Joel, 2009
Erin, he doesn't want me laboring at home because of the previous c/s. He wants me at the hospital from the beginning just in case there is a uterine rupture. As much as I adore my OB, he seems a bit scared of the rupture issue. I figure that if I was one of those very rare people who had that happen it would be more likely to happen further into the process and not so much in the beginnng stages. I really think that if I went in at the beginning they would keep me when they would normally send someone back home just because of the previous c/s factor.
I think I can keep DH from freaking out until I'm in actual active labor though, especially if I can get my mom up here before I go into labor.
Yeah, try to stay home as long as possible. It would be a shame to be on the hospital clock just because of their fear. Just explain to your DH that in order for you to relax and get labor going at the beginning, you need to be in a calm familiar environment (home). Maybe get him to agree on a common point that you will go in. Like pressure waves every 5 minutes for an hour, or when its getting hard to walk and talk through waves. You guys are close enough to the hospital that if there was a true emergency you could get there really fast if needed. I hate it when they treat VBAC moms like ticking time bombs.
~Joy~ DS1-8/5/05, DS2-10/18/10 (VBAC#1), DS3- 4/11/12 (VBAC#2!)
I think coming up with a clear agreed-upon point you can feel good about will help you stave DH off as long as possible. My personal trigger was when I thought "a 25 minute ride sounds manageable right now, but in the very near future, it would really suck." but hopefully you can come up with something a little more specific (like 5 minute intervals for a hour, as Joy suggested--although I was stuck at that point for about 20 hours, personally) to give DH something measurable to wait for.
I agree to wait it out at home if you can. Really, your risk of rupture as a vbac is no more than your risk of complication in any other labor and birth. There are certain signs, like extreme pain, pain that doesn't go away in between contractions, bleeding, etc that all indicate something being wrong. I'll be a vba2c and my OB agrees that it is in my best interest to wait as long as possible. Also like PP said, you are very close to the hospital if you need to get there asap.
Honestly, I've thought about not really mentioning to my DH when I think I am in the beginning of labor. I know he will be nervous and excited, and I really just want a calm, relaxed environment. I know he totally supports me, but it's so important in the beginning to rest and have privacy. I can't remember where I read it, but it says when you think labor is starting, don't turn the lights on and get up out of bed or wherever you are. Don't wake your partner. Turn the lights down and get into a warm, cozy spot, and your labor will progress much more quickly. That's my plan!
ETA: For example, the risk of cord prolapse is 1 in 37 (2.7%), or nearly ten times more likely than that of rupture.
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Ariel & John: Military Family since May 17, 2006
Sylvia: 12/18/08, Justus: 9/17/10, Bunni: 5/11/12, Surprise Baby: Guess Date 11/5/13
37 weeks! I'm officially full term! Now it's all up to Kole! Anytime you're ready little guy!