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~Joy~ DS1-8/5/05, DS2-10/18/10 (VBAC#1), DS3- 4/11/12 (VBAC#2!)
Thank you so much for the warm welcome. I know I have a bit of catching up to do. Sorry if it is way way too long. I basically put our life story and the events of the pregnancy so far here. Not sure if this is too much for this sort of thing but feel free to skip all or any of it. I guess I feel a strong urge to get caught up here - all the women on the May board know me so well! Haha.
B (my husband) and I met in elementary school. We knew each other prior to fifth grade but that is the class where we really hit it off - I had a crush on him...he had fun being a boy. We went to the same junior high school though we did not have any classes or really stay in touch. We met up again fifteen years later through facebook. It turned out we were living nearly identical but separate lives - backpacking the same countries, reading the same types of books, eating the same types of foods (vegetarian), studying a lot of the same topics in school, and believing/studying in the same types of spirituality. We both happened to be living in Arizona at the time...a long way from Illinois where we grew up. We met up for dinner and ended up talking the entire night...both of us knowing that we were done searching. Though the next couple of years held many trials and tribulations, B asked me to marry him on September 1st 2010 on the playground at the elementary school where we grew up together. We were very happily married in May of 2010 - the most perfect and happiest day of my life. Only three months later on September 1st 2011 we found out we were unexpectedly expecting - exactly one year to the day that he asked me to marry him! So, here we are, enjoying our honeymoon and first pregnancy.
We told my sister in law first. We both thought of her immediately and could not wait to share the news with her. We Skyped with her only a couple of days after receiving the positive tests. We decided to tell my father in law and Mother shortly thereafter. Right now, being so close to the end of the pregnancy my sister in law, mother and aunt are the ones who are texting and calling regularly to check in on things because they are so excited. It is great to know that we have such great support from our family.
This pregnancy has been really great. The first trimester was difficult as I was very nauseated all of the time and I had gotten bronchitis just before we found out we were pregnant. I was sick with bronchitis for the first three months of the pregnancy making things much worse than I think they would have been. The remainder of the pregnancy has been amazing. Since entering the second trimester and continuing into the third, I have been comfortable, happy and healthy. I have been taking every precaution possible to ensure that I have been as healthy and comfortable as possible and it has worked! (not that I do not have my "issues", it is just that I take them as they come and realize that whatever I am feeling is exactly what my body needs me to feel at that point) I have loved having a little person inside me moving around - just incredible. I, honestly am beginning to mourn the end of pregnancy. I have been struggling with the idea that I will no longer be able to feel her little movements and kicks inside of me. I also will miss having my husband feeling my belly and talking to it. I really love this part of being pregnant and although I am super excited to have our little girl out here with us, I am also sad to be moving past that part of life for now. I know that it will pass, especially as we get to hold and be with our daughter but for now, I am in the process of enjoying these last days while working on letting go of the way things have been.
We have been planning a natural home waterbirth since we found out we were pregnant. We work with two midwives at a practice somewhat near our home. They also have a nurse with them who is great. She is a midwife also but not a CNM and so, cannot practice legally here. She is a great asset to the team - very kind and caring. We also have a doula that we are working with. We met up with her for the first time about 3 weeks ago but hit it off pretty well. We have been texting back and forth the last couple of weeks in an effort to be more comfortable with each other and it is working. I look forward to having her at the birth. We have our birthing room all set up and ready to go (see photos below).
I very much look forward to having a natural birth. My husband and I believe that a woman's body knows what to do and how to do it and does not need the assistance of all of the medical procedures that are "necessary" nowadays. I am pretty good with uncomfortability and pain so I am not really worried about the pain of labor or birth (Perhaps I am naive about this). So far, in these last couple of weeks I have had some swelling, slight cramping and some back ache. My plan was to not get checked at all prior to being in labor but I started to get worried that the change in symptoms was related to something other than being close to birth and wanted to see if there was any changes being made. At our 39 week appointment I had a cervical check and I ended up being 2cm dilated, just over 50% effaced and at a +1 station! I am pretty pleased to have made so much progress without being all that uncomfortable. We thought that, with those numbers, she would be coming early but there have been no signs of labor yet. I am surprised but I was ready to go to 41, 42 or more weeks if necessary. I will be pleased if that means my body is silently preparing even more and that it will mean less labor pain and shorter labor. If not, that is fine too. I look forward to going through this transformative experience exactly how it is meant to be. No short cuts. I look forward to knowing what it feels like to work through labor and birth with my amazing husband there every step of the way.
Our Daughter's First Picture at 20 weeks. We decided that we wanted to do the 20 week ultrasound but not any others in order to keep the pregnancy and birth as natural as possible and minimize any possible damage. Isn't she beautiful??
This is my latest belly bump photo. This is me at 38 weeks LMP due date.
Our Birthing Room
These are some photos of our birthing room all set up.
What a great intro! LOVE the story of you and your husband. You sound like you are in the PERFECT place (mentally, emotionally, preparation-wise, etc) to have an incredible birth experience. I can't wait to hear all about it!
The actual experience of labor definitely surprised me--it's not about being naive, really, just one of those things it's not really possible to fully "get" until you've experienced it--but I got through it just fine and so will you.
(PS, just curious, where were you in Arizona?)
I lived all over Arizona but I only visited Tucson a handful of times.
Last edited by B.A.Hubbard; 05-01-2012 at 01:13 PM.
Welcome to your lodge! What a perfect intro! I love your story.
What a great story about how you and DH got together - it sounds like fate had a huge hand in that! Sounds like you have all of your ducks in a row and all you can do now is wait for baby to decide to make her appearance!