Welcome to your lodge! What a great intro and story. I loved reading about how you and your husband met and found eachother again after so long. Your whole attitude regarding your pregnancy and impending labor are so great. I really admire you. Can't wait to continue on in your journey with you!!
Great intro. I also love the story of you & your DH! You sound like you have an awesome outlook to birth, so good to hear. It is an amazing experience. Loving the birthing room you have set up, It looks so welcoming. TFS pics!
~Joy~ DS1-8/5/05, DS2-10/18/10 (VBAC#1), DS3- 4/11/12 (VBAC#2!)
Welcome to your Lodge!
Are you still in Arizona? Love the birthing room!
David Letterman is retiring. Such great memories of watching him over the past thirty-two years!
Thanks for sharing your story! I look forward to following you through this last little bit of pregnancy. You definitely sound like you are in the right mind set to get the birth you want.
Chase-13, Trey-11, Layton-9, Zander-5, McKay-3, Declan-1, Keely born 9/6/2012
What a great story! Thanks for sharing with us!
Oh man, I SO remember being sad about knowing my pregnancy was going to end last time! I really enjoy pregnancy in general- I am enjoying it again now- but I guess I'm not as attached to the pregnant thing now, knowing what's coming. And also, I know I'll do it again. Anyway... enough about me.
You sound like you're very well prepared for a great birth- can't wait to hear your story! And I agree with what you and Leigh said- you just can't know until you come up against it/experience it. That said, I had SO many people tell me that when the pain got to a certain point I wouldn't be able to handle it anymore- and I never, not once, even thought of drugs while I was in labor! So.... yeah... you just gotta do what you gotta do, and you'll get through it however you do!
Mara & Joel, 2009
Thank you ladies for all the support! It has been a great journey. It is good to hear that my outlook on birth is a good one - being my first time, I am just trying to do what seems most natural and I am glad to hear that it is mimicked by so many of you. It is also good to hear that it is normal to be missing being pregnant - I assumed this was the case as it is a huge transition from pregnancy to birth/having a child to look after but it is always good to hear it from others as well. Since I have been mentioning it to others I have found that several women felt this way also. We may not be having another so I guess that makes it a bit more difficult but who knows...maybe we will and maybe I will be lucky enough to feel a baby kicking inside of me again. We shall see.
It is exciting to be so close to the birth though it is a time of great anxiety as well. Getting calls and texts each day on how I am feeling and if there are any signs of labor yet is becoming difficult to handle. They all mean well and I know it is not them but the pressure I am putting on myself, but I guess I did not anticipate that it would cause this much unrest! My husband is really anxious as well - he is so so excited to be a father that the anticipation is killing him! Throughout this pregnancy he has been the most involved that a person could be and now he just cannot wait to be able to be a bigger part of our child's life. It is very sweet and I love that he will be an amazing father though the anxiety is eating him alive and that is upsetting to me. Again, I am putting that on myself - like I have any control over when she is ready to arrive - but that is how I am feeling right now. All eyes are on me and my uterus right now and it is not a very comfortable place for me to be! Haha. I need to work on ditching these feelings asap - I do not want to be pressuring myself during labor to be moving faster if it is a long slow labor and birth! Thanks for reading my thoughts.
Ohhhh I so remember this feeling... The end is so hard, even when you really, really, with all of your being want to be patient and know you should be patient, and a big part of you wants to just savor every moment...it's hard! Waiting without knowing how long you have to wait for such a huge, life changing event is just really not something we humans tend to be great at. Don't worry...it's definitely a good instinct to want to ditch those feelings, but don't beat yourself up or feel too bad for having them, either. It's 100% normal And for your poor DH...of course he wants to get his hands on that baby! And he will. Very, very soon...and then all of this anxiety and anticipation will be a distant memory.
And, if anybody's really starting to bug you with the check-ins: www.haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com
Ha! I was just going to post that website Leigh posted! It's a great one. And remember, you DO NOT have to respond to people- you don't HAVE to answer the phone or respond to messages. People will get over it. Alternatively, you could let people know via a mass email or something that you promise to notify asap when something is happening to an email address they provide. And of course, it's up to you to just email them when you're ready- when labor starts or when the baby is born. It could at least get some people off your back! I didn't mind people knowing I was in labor, so when I knew it had started, I posted on my FB for the women who had come to my shower to light their candles (each had taken one home)...and then everyone knew something was going on. Plus then I also knew I had loads of supportive energy flowing to me from all over.
Mara & Joel, 2009
I think you could use a day of just not paying any attention to your phone/e-mail and relaxing. Maybe get a massage, pedicure, take a long bath, sit and read while drinking your favorite drink, or all of the above. Unplug for a bit and it will do you some good. You could also work on visualizing a peaceful birth that is quiet and calm just to get your head back where it should be.
It's awesome that your DH is on the same track as you and so supportive, you are very fortunate.