Oh no, I'm sorry you are running into issues at this point :( I have also read that DTD can throw off the GBS test. What are your thoughts on the abx if you are still positive? I had done a bit of reading up before I got my negative result and I was feeling torn about what I would do if I did test positive. Hopefully the hibiclens will clear it up though and you will be able to get a negative test in two weeks. And I'm sorry your DH is so upset about a homebirth. I assume its because he is worried in case something goes wrong like the first time? I can't remember, but do you live close to a hospital in case you have to transfer? With your first birth,even though the seizures were scary, you did have time to transfer and wouldn't the midwife bring stuff like oxygen, etc. to your home so it would be pretty similar to being in a birth center in terms of what treatment options were available for any potential issues? At any rate, I'm sending positive thoughts that whatever the policies/circumstances are that are necessitating the homebirth will change and you will still be able to go to the birth center and that where ever you end up giving birth, it will be a smooth delivery with no complications.
I would probably not go with the antibiotics and just have my baby tested afterward to see if they need it.
Yeah, I think he's worried because of what happened the first time. I told him the midwife would bring everything that she uses at the birthing center to our house. I think he also just hasn't mentally prepared himself for the possibility and feels rushed. He doesn't make quick decisions - it takes him a LONG time to warm up to things if he's not 100% sure of them.
Yeah, we have a hospital 5-10 minutes away; not AS close as the one near the birthing center, but close enough.
That totally sounds like my DH on the not making quick decisions. He hates to feel pressured to change quickly or finalize something until he has really digested it. He pretty much has to feel like it was his idea before he will get on board. Hopefully your DH will get more comfortable with the idea after he's had some time to think about it so he can get back to his job of supporting you!
And good luck again with the GBS retesting. I was leaning toward no abx myself if I would have tested positive which probably would have been a fight since I am delivering in a hospital setting. From what I was reading, it seems like the odds of GBS infection in the infant are really low anyway and while the abx do prevent some infections, its questionable whether the antibiotics actually decrease the mortality rate outcome.
Just read through...so sorry you're running into issues, but I loved your second birth story! The first one was scary, and I'm so glad you all came through healthy in the end!
I've never heard of HAVING to give birth at home...I hope whatever that's about ends up working out for you!
Had my 37 week appointment yesterday. Pretty uneventful. Weight was up 5lbs!!! But after not gaining for a few weeks, I guess it makes sense. And the m/w put me down a pound lighter because of my clothes. :) I'm right at 25lbs gained.
Still the same plans for a home birth. DH plans to go to my appt next week and talk w/ the midwife about logistics. I'm most worried about what to do with the kids because the family we had planned to watch them isn't close to our house; they're close to the birthing center. And I can't have DH leaving for an hour while he takes the kids away, that's just not happening. So we'll see...
Got the home birth check list, it's basically the same as the birthing center one used to be; now they just have you pay $20 for a "birth kit" that takes care of it but for a home birth you have to buy things individually.
Another concern is I'd really like another water birth but we don't have a tub in our bedroom; it's in the main bath which isn't at all close to our bedroom and is small so not a lot of room to move around and labor. For some reason this time I'm picturing being on all fours on our bed but we'll see.
My friend had her baby yesterday. It was her first and even though she went into labor on her own, it was long and slow, she eventually got an epidural because she was so tired, and I'm not 100% sure but she might have had a c/s. :( This is a girl who really wanted a natural childbirth and read and watched everything to prepare herself; we spent a lot of time talking about it. I do really hope she was at least able to deliver vaginally because having to be a VBAC these days is not easy. :( I'm planning on going to see her at home on Monday.
I've spent the morning trying to get all the kids' toys into one room and the nursery cleared out so I can start getting out baby things. I still have everything up in the attic. And I'm wore out! I just can't do as much at once and I usually can.
Sounds like the appointment went well, 25 lbs. is not a lot to gain for pregnancy so sounds like you are doing great!
Would it be possible for the family watching your kids to pick them up, or do you have anyone close to you who could drop them off for you?
So sorry to hear your friend had a difficult time with her labor. I hope she was able to have the vaginal delivery after all of that.
Sounds like you got a lot done, I hear you on the not being able to do as much. I am so big at this point and I get BH when I do too much, plus my energy just seems to disappear really fast.
I also want a water birth, but just recently my hospital changed the rules on that. You can labor in a birth tub but they are supposed to make you get out for the pushing. It's the hospital rules not the midwives. My midwife says people still have water births because getting out is not always something a woman can do.
I hope you figure something out with your kiddos.
Sorry to hear about your friend. Gosh, I hope that is not me. I think I would be so disappointed in myself. When you plan and plan, you expect things to go your way, but sometimes they don't. Hopefully she had a vaginal birth afterall. Hope her and the baby are doing well.
Did you hear from your friend? I hope she had her vaginal birth. I also hope she doesn't beat herself up too much over the epidural. I feel for the ladies with the loooooong labors. No shame in needing relief!
As for you, is a small pool an option? Seems like it would be much roomier than a tub anyway. I hope you can find something for your kids too!
Yeah you might check into renting a birth pool. I know a lot of the doulas rent them out here for $50-$75.
I rented a birth pool from my midwife for my water birth. I know a lot of midwives will rent to other midwives and many midwives have birth pools for rent for their clients and what not. If all else fails you could buy one of those kiddy pools and your kids can use it later. :) I was worried about my boys too with my home birth but they slept right through everything. I worry about having 3 kids for my next birth. I like calm atmosphere so I know the boys will have to be out of the house.
I am sure you can figure something out. My next door neighbor volunteered to watch the boys for me when I was talking to her about my worries about the birth. Never thought she would be up for it but she looked forward to it. Just ask around, you never know who might be willing and able to watch the kids for you.