I choose to formula feed because i didnt have the urge to breast feed and when i did think about giving it a try my daughter had to go to the nicu after she was born becuase of my fever they had to give her preventative antibotics. I just wasnt raised around breast feeding and knew i wouldnt want to do it in front of company or in public thats just the way i am plus i wanted dh to be able to feed her.
I AM A PROUD MOTHER WHO FORMULA FED MY SON FROM BIRTH.I WILL MAKE NO EXCUSES FOR NOT BF.I JUST KNEW I WOULD NEVER DO IT .HE IS HAPPY & HEALTHY.THE FIRST TIME HE EVER GOT A COLD HE WAS 19 MONTHS OLD. SO TO ALL YOU FF MOM'S BE PROUD,WHY SHOULD WE MAKE EXCUSES WE LIVE IN AMERICA.... WE HAVE A RIGHT TO DO WHATEVER WE WANT..........
My son is ff by choice. Not mine, his. He will NOT bf. I can occasionally get him latched on with a shield, but only if he is half asleep. As soon as he realises what is going on he screams the house down and gets so distressed that I end up crying. 2 days ago I promised him I wouldn't try anymore. I have been pumping since he was born, but without him feeding I've been getting less and less milk. I'm lucky if I get enough for 1 meal a day at this stage. So he is ff. I've got to be honest, I'd rather he wasn't, and it almost killed me when I finally had to acknowledge that it jst wasn't going to happen, but there you go. My son hates boobs.
I chose to FF right from the start. I had never been around BF'ing, or knew much about it. As far as I was concerned, babies were fed by bottles. Through my pregnancy as I learned more about BF'ing I still never got the urge to try it myself. I had and still have a great deal of respect for those who do BF, it was just never for me. I'm happy with my decision, she's a happy, healthy baby and thats all that matters in my eyes.
I'm not sure if my reason counts as medical or not, but here it is..
Noah was born 4 weeks early and spent 10 days in the NICU - during that time I pumped for him every day, every 3 hours. When we was finally able to start eating, he started on a bottle. When I was given the chance to try and BF, he wouldn't latch without the nipple shield, so we started doing that. Then, the doctors told me not to nurse him more than twice a day so that they could monitor how much he was eating... so there's MORE pumping for me, which I already hated. I guess I should mention that I have a history of depression/anxiety, and so this was only fueling it. Last week I finally went to the doc about this, and was given meds and told I should not BF while on them. I feel completely selfish for thinking this, but I was a little relieved - breastfeeding and pumping were a HUGE anxiety trigger for me, and I'm kind of glad to not be doing it anymore. However, I feel like a TERRIBLE mother for giving him formula... I know that formula is fine for him, I just can't help the guilt. Hopefully soon these meds will start helping!
I guess mine story is a little bit different. With my first 5 kids, I never breastfed, or even tried. I was never encouraged to, and I had flat nipples, so I was made to believe I couldn't. I always thought formula was just as good anyways. Plus, my breasts can be very sensitive, so I didn't think I could handle,so I ff, and never thought twice about it.
With my 6'th (who is 2 1/2 mos. old) I knew I wanted to try bf'ing. I read up on, and got really great advice. In the beginning, things were great, ds had a great latch, but the nurses ended up giving him bottles because he had low blood sugar levels (I didn't know this untill later). Well, I started having a hard time getting him to latch, and he'd get so frustrated, so I started pumping all the time. I couldn't get my supply up though, and my Dr. refused tp give me meds to help. I still pump when I can, but I don't get a lot. Ds is now on formula, which I'm sad about, but wow he eats a lot! lol, he eats 6-8 oz. every 1 1/2-2 hrs, of formula!
Looking back, I wish I would have tried to BF my other kids. I am really bonded to my ds(not to say I'm not with my other dc) but bonded in a way that is so hard to explain to people who have never bf. Believe me, before I tried bf'ing, I would have thought that comment was a bunch of crap, lol, but it's true.
All my dc, including my newest ds, have had to be on Nutramigen, so I just hate that I can't solely bf, but at least he's happy and healthy
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I really have no medical reason. I wanted to bf while I was pregnant and was expecting to. I started bf right after she was born. I did not realize until after I got home from the hostpital that her latch was poor. My nipples were sore and blistered and it hurt so bad to latch her. I was so sore and frustrated that I just broke down sobbing. The nurse said to take a break and just pump. Kylee was also jaundice after she came home and so we began supplementing with ebm and a bit of formula. I went and saw a LC and she helped a bit. I went back to breast feeding and realized how much I hated it. I was exhausted, she was on my boob constantly, and I received no enjoyment from it. I would watch the clock and just hope she would finish..I dreaded feeding times. I have a history of depression and anxiety and am currently on antideppressants and I wanted to enjoy this time with my baby not feel down and frustrated all the time. I pumped and gave her formula for a couple of weeks and now she is strictly on formula.
I have grieved this and feel very guilty for not being like other ladies who derive so much enjoyment from it. I love giving her a bottle and looking in her eyes...I bond so much more that way.
With this baby I have decided to stick with formula feeding because I want to. I see the women in the mall that are BF and they have to stop and plop a booby out infront of all these ppl, worry about leaking and pumping so that they can work, or running home every few hours so they can feed their baby, and I just cant bring myself to do that. And I want my husband to be able to feed the baby as well. IMO I think that bottle feeding is actually better than BF.
This is exactly how I feel and one of my main reasons for leaning towards ff.
I had been planning to breast feed, but ended up in with an emergency c-section, so was not able to start BF as soon as I wanted. I was told that I could give him a formula bottle and he would still be able to breast feed. Well, he never took to it. It made both of us upset and he is thriving on the formula! For 2 weeks I mixed formula and breast milk, but now he will not even drink the mix, so I have gone with just formula. He likes it and is growing well, which is what matters!
When I was pregnant with my first son, my mom was pretty much "forcing" me to breastfeed. I didn't really feel the urge to, but she laid so much guilt on me that I felt like I had to. When he was born, he latched on great and the first few days were OK. But I didn't have a very good supply, and as a result, he was always hungry and screaming. He ate about every 45 minutes, all day, everyday. And I'm a very shy person, and wouldn't breastfeed around other people, so I was constantly holed up in a bedroom. I couldn't go anywhere, because as soon as we got somewhere, he'd scream to be fed. I was so depressed, all I did was cry. My nipples were horribly sore and bled, and I also had a constant leak of breastmilk. I had to change my nursing pads 10 times a day. Also, he wasn't gaining hardly any weight. Finally when he was about 10 weeks old, I switched him to formula. He did great, he slept through the night, and he could go 3-4 hours between feedings. As a result, my mental health improved greatly.
This time around, I knew from the start that I wasn't even going to bother breastfeeding. Maybe that's selfish, but I think my sanity is just as important as my baby's health. And my second son is now 10 weeks old, he's been FF from the start, and is thriving amazingly. He's gaining weight (7.4 at birth, up to 12.13 now!) He sleeps through the night, and is just as healthy and happy as any BF baby. And he loves me just as much as any BF baby. Alot of people have told me that I'm selfish for not BFing, but screw them. I don't have to make excuses. My baby is healthy and that's all that matters. They're my boobs, and if I don't wanna whip 'em out in public all the time, that's my decision, lol.
DH Chris, DS Calvin-6; DS Major-2; DSD-Dustye-9
With this being my first baby, I decided to try breastfeeding. Needless to say, we had issues from the get-go. My son's latch was poor, resulting in jaundice when we brought him home, so I hired an LC. She basically told me that she thought my son was slightly tongue-tied, which was preventing a good latch. She kept pushing the issue of taking our son to an ENT doc and getting his tongue clipped. Fortunately, our pediatrician didn't feel that he was tongue-tied, but was willing to give us a referral if we really wanted to persue the procedure. Needless to say, my DH and I were NOT willing to get our 2 week old son's tongue clipped in the name of breastfeeding. At the LC's suggestion, I continued to put my son on the breast for 10 minutes, pump 10 minutes, then supplement as necessary. Although, my son was getting all breast milk, the whole process of "trying" to BF, and immediately pumping every 3 hours, was getting quite old. So, I decided to try pumping exclusively. It was working out really well, but my milk supply didn't seem to be keeping up with my son's demands and it was beginning to become difficult to pump every three hours, especially since my son has been sleeping through the night since he was 7 weeks old. Sleep is precious and I was finding it harder and harder to get up in the middle of the night, just to pump. I was hoping to continue pumping until my son was 3 months, but again, the supply was diminishing. My son is now 11 weeks old and I just decided to stop. I have about 70 oz of EBM frozen, so I will continue to use that with the formula until it is gone. My son is doing fine on the formula and I definitely feel like a weight has been lifted off of my shoulders. I refuse to beat myself up over the issue, or feel bad that I didn't BF my baby for longer. Bottom line, I tried, it didn't work out as planned, so I am moving on. I was a bottle-fed baby and I turned out just fine!