I have been dragging posting this as we have been working through. My dad (84) has been diagnosed with cancer. We are still working to find out more information following one surgery to remove some and a flurry of tests. He has another surgery coming up the first week in November for a second area of tumors.
First it was a battle to get him to share the news with my mom. As you all know she's had so much on her with my brother's failing health and that of her sister (my aunt that I shared with you), and her brother (my uncle -- that I don't know if I had a chance to tell you about.)
My dad reallllllllllllllllllly did not know how to tell her nor did he want to. They have been together for so very long.
After working through that with him, the next step has been sharing with all the kids. Over the years, we have had conversations about death (and our beliefs) which I am grateful for. Right now, there is no long term prognosis but unfortunately we know that we can't all live forever and cancer definitely takes a toll. I know that there is rarely a time when we are ever ready to let go.
As close as our kids are to my parents -- especially the older ones -- these were some tough discussions that I'm certain will be ongoing. Just keep them in your prayers as well.