Hi lady's I was just wondering if anyone had any advice on dealing with the depression that comes alone with infertility. My husband and I have been trying for 2 years and we have went thru every test possible and they find nothing wrong. I have taking 6 months of clomid and still nothing. I am becoming a emotional wreck. I cry all the time and I can't even talk about babies with out getting emotional. Any words of wisdom would be great!
Thanks in advance Lady's
Hey! I remember being like that. Some women have been to counseling to help with the grief of infertility. That could be an option that would help.
Sorry you feel so down.
Yes I have been there when I was TTC #1. I let it get out of control and was a nightmare to live with.
This time, I am seeing a physcologist. This helps me to be able to talk through my feelings. And makes sure I can cope much better. (Dealing with infertility the second time around has been no easier for me and my green eyed monster inside.)
Oh hun.. I've been there. Generally I just let myself have a really good cry and got DH to hold me and tell me it would be okay. I can tell you that this site helped out SOOO much. All of these ladies are wonderful and are going through the same thing. It's great having someone to talk things out with. Counseling might really do you some good. Or talk to a priest/ preacher. Know that we're here if you need to talk.
Thanks it helps to know i'm not the only one that has this going on.....
Oh no honey, You are not the only one dealing with it at all! Never fear, you are not alone.
I was such an emotional wreck on Monday that I actually took yesterday off work to try and pull myself together because the let down was just too much for me. I am thinking about scheduling some counseling appointments as well. I really think it would help.
Also, this site is a life saver to me. It's nice to come here where everyone understands just what you are going thru.
We are here for you!
I have definitely dealt with depression during the first couple years of dealing with my infertility. I still do. I think the biggest thing is talking about it with someone supportive. You have to be able to say the things that you feel, even if you are afraid that they might be offensive or etc (i.e. my SIL had no troubles having her kids while we were trying so hard). You need someone that will understand, and take your side. ~ Sometimes this isn't our SO's, since they are going through their own feelings, too... I chose to talk to my mom.
Allow yourself to be upset some of the time. You have a right to how you feel. If you need to cry, then cry. But then, try to pull yourself up & keep hope. I know, it's easier said than done, but you have to keep reassuring yourself that this will pass, you will have your family, and it will all be worth it in the end.
Like some of the other ladies have said, I found this site to be a godsend. I met a couple other ladies that were going through similar (TTC#1 for a couple years, going through treatments, etc), and the three of us banded together. That was back in 2006-ish, and we're still in touch today.
There are lots of stories of couples that go through really painful journeys, but in the end they land up having a baby - regardless of the means. I read thru a lot of journals on this site & found some of them to be really inspirational.
Where there is a will, there is a way. Stay determined & hopeful.