I'm sorry sweetie! I know how you feel! I went through the same basic thing this month except that I ovulated great and STILL didn't get pregnant. I'm confused. I understand feeling so depressed though. It's so hard to start off every month feeling so optimistic and then finding out that you're not pregnant again. I'm the same way. I got really upset and totally lost it with DH this weekend. This weekend was really horrible. I do much better when I'm busy though I agree with you that even then there's always someone else announcing that they're pregnant and it makes you just want to bang your head against a brick wall. It's just so miserable wanting it so bad it hurts and then it doesn't happen and it just feels so far away and so hopeless. It's not hopeless though I promise! Even though it feels that way right now. Was this your first cycle of Clomid? Usually if you don't ovulate your doctor will raise your dose the next month and often that makes a very big difference.
Hugs to you both. TTC is so rough, and of course that is when everyone else seems to be announcing they are pregnant, and there are always stupid ppl who say such thoughtless things.
Anyhow... my clomid story.. I has regular cycles, charted with bbt and a fertility moniter, and seemed to be ovulating, but after 6mo of knowing I was ovulating and timing bd so well... nothing, so we went in. (I had two m/c prior and had a hard time getting pg with that 2nd m/c, so ttc a successful pg was almost 2yrs). My doc did some simple blood tests, and my progesterone was slightly on the low side (depending on the doc, some would say it was fine, I think it was not. it was 12 or so) Anyhow, he prescribed clomid (I have two older kids as well) and said dh could wait on the SA until a few months after clomid. The first month on clomid (cd 3-7) my progesterone was actually lower, 11.something, so he upped the dose to 100, and then my progesterone was awesome, like 28 (if I remember right). And I ended up pregnant with twins. I ovulated (according to bbt) on cd 16 and 15.
I'm sorry that you still don't seem to be ovulating, and I hope the new doc is better, because I think an obgyn is not a doc you can just feel okay about, ya know? Hugs, I hope it happens for both of you soon!
It's very encouraging to know that someone got pregnant on Clomid. I know so many people do but it always helps to hear another story, especially when there was a struggle beforehand. My progesterone on it is super high and I actually had a follow up with my doc last week and he said I was definitely at risk for having twins since my progesterone was 35 last month and 37 the month before that. I'm hoping if it stays up like that it's just a matter of time. I'm definitely sick of Clomid even though this is only my 3rd cycle of it. Haha. Time goes by so slowly while on the Clomid. I'm confident it'll work for us pretty soon though. Thanks so much for sharing your story!
The side effects are killer, aren't they? I felt like the biggest biotch ever, just sooo moody and what not, and others as well. I did find that taking it at night helped minimize some of the side effects. Good luck!!
I know a lady from church that has used clomid for all of her pregnancies, she is pg with #5, no twins. But my good friend used it and had twins as well, and then a surprise baby after that.
Thanks for responding, dh and i went to a different doctor for a second opinion. when I asked the first doctor for my labs telling them I was moving they were very rude to me and that was pretty standard for this office so I wasn't surprised, glad to be rid of them. Went to a new doctor, gave them my history, they said the first doctor did not do any tests to rule out PCOS and they feel I should get checked to rule it out. Had a blood test done and having a pelvic US next week, I have to wait three weeks to follow up with the doctor after that. More waiting, oh enjoy Anyways, at least they are doing all the tests upfront, the more they talk about PCOS, the more if fits into my current symptoms, never had an issue with menstrual cycles before birth control though. I don't know why it would appear now. Any ideas?
I have held off on clomid until I see the doctor. my dh is being very supportive and going to every visit right now to learn more about this and be supportive. I just don't want to go through what I did with the last doctor again. It's hard for them to be dismissive of two people than just one. One nice thing is it looks like I dont have to spend thanksgiving with the SIL and the new baby, the in-laws saw that it would be too hard to host with the new baby being due so close. She is due this week and I am not excited but dealing. At least I might get a diagnosis before I have to see her again, fingers crossed!
That sounds like a great plan that will hopefully get you some much needed answers. I'm sure it'll make a big difference. Having a doctor and staff that you like and trust is so important I think. My doc's office has been wonderful to me and never treats me like I'm insane when I call them concerned about anything. It's made this process so much easier. They even act sad each time that I'm not pregnant and that makes me feel like they really care and they're really pulling for me. It definitely makes a difference. Good luck sweetie! KUP! I'd love to know how it all works out for you.
Had an Ultrasound and lab results are in... PCOS. They put me on metformin for 2 months with a step up dosage for comfort. Same day i went to the doctor and got my diagnosis my SIL went into labor. My husband wanted us to see the baby. Went to the hospital both are doing alright after c-section. She started talking about how they are going to try for Irish twins and have another one by this time next year. Not exactly what I wanted to hear. She could barely take care of her own dog before the baby and she is on maternity leave to 2 months and still asking my husband to leave his work in the middle of the day to help her out and now she wants two.
I'm probably just being cranky because I have been put on a no/low carb diet and I am miserable because I am a carb-aholic and love bread. Everyone in my family is shocked that I am pre-diabetic because I am not very overweight just like 15 pounds but they dont understand that its the hormones that are causing the insulin resistance. The doctor will not put me on Clomid for two months at least so I won't be getting pregnant anytime soon. I feel like have been hit by an emotional train and I cant keep feeling this way. I feel like this will never get better. The first doctor was sure that the Provera would jump start things, when that didn't work the Clomid was a sure thing. Why am I to believe that Metformin is gonna work for me? Right now I am batting 0 for 2. How much more can I keep getting my hopes up just to have them crumble again and again.
I understand how you feel sweetie. When I was diagnosed with PCOS I had no clue that was a possibility. I wasn't TTC or anything and just had a routine ultrasound. Right now I can't remember why I had one but I know it was a routine thing for something. They found multiple cysts on both ovaries. I'd had cysts before most women get them at some point so I really didn't think much about it. The doc's office called and said they thought I had PCOS. At the time I thought that you couldn't conceive at all with PCOS. I found out later about the insulin resistance which thankfully for me isn't that bad. Sometimes my blood sugar does weird things. It'll drop randomly and I'll nearly pass out or it'll be just barely high. IR keeps you from ovulating somehow so that's why they give you the metformin. I know of a lot of women who have taken metformin and gotten pregnant without even taking clomid. I think it can make a really big difference. My doc keeps most women who are TTC on 1-2grams. I'm on 1gram now. He also had me take the metformin with another drug called actos for at least three months before we were allowed to try for a baby.
I think that more than likely the drug will make a big difference for you. If you've been having trouble with PCOS for a while with obvious signs or anything I think it's likely you'll see a difference very soon. I know it's hard to hold on to hope sweetie but I hope that you'll be able to. I have a hard time with that myself sometimes so I completely understand. It's hard to have hope when it feels like a door is being slammed in your face every where you turn. I promise it'll get better!
As for your SIL...she sounds like one of those women who just has no clue. She has no clue how much she's hurting you or she doesn't care and she has no clue what it takes to be a mother and take care of a baby. She probably thinks once they're not babies anymore that they get real easy. It's hard to be around people like that when you want a baby so bad and you know that you'd do a better job. I'm sorry you have to go through this, but just think when you have your baby your baby will be so much happier and so well taken care of. Things will get better.
MT GYN made me go for all the testing prior to trying the Clomid the 1st time, and that was bc I went a year of trying with no luck, we passed our test so I did 3 rounds of Clomid 50mg, than 100mg, than 150mg all of which failed. I let it get to my head and took a 2yr break, saw a RE last month had to retest bc it was 2yrs later.....passed all testing again and I'm now starting on 150mg Clomid with IUI set for the end of the month! I been told its not a a fix to everyone...good luck
Thanks girls... over my freak out. We told both sets of parents about what is going on and thankfully very supportive. My parents told me that they will make sure they have plenty of carb free or low carb foods for thanksgiving. A carb-aholic is told low carb a week before thanksgiving, so my life right now. My parents even said that if we ever needed to try more expensive treatments like IVF and could afford it, they would help us out. They can be really amazing sometimes. We are getting better with dealing with our new reality.
I am going to excise my SL for a while and focus on my life with my husband. Hope she keeps her distance. Thanks for your support, needed it this weekend.
On another note, I have been on 500mg of metformin for a week now and I have had some spotting the last two days. Anyone go through that? The plan is to have me on 2000 mg by the end of the month.