To TEST or not to TEST????

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To TEST or not to TEST????

Hello my dear friends!!!!

So..... as most of you know I have had 2 chemical pregnancies this year and they were both really hard on me! I seem to be doing better emotionally now after our RE gave us some more hope but I still have my moments were I throw myself a good old fashion pitty party!

So.... I am 11 DPO. I have 1 test at home. It's a good one (not digital) that I bought at Target and I don't want to waste it.... Plus, I did have some cramping a few days ago and my breasts are stating to become tender and I feel like I do overy month I get my period! SO I honestly don't think this is our month even though thru this whole month I had the best gut feeling that this was it..... SO, I am at a fork in the road and I would love some opinions!

I am getting REALLY anxious now and one moment think... OH BIG DEAL IT'S JUST A TEST.. USE IT... YOU CAN ALWAYS BUY MORE!!!! Then the other part of me says... DON'T WASTE IT, YOU FEEL JUST LIKE YOU ALWAYS DO BEFORE AF COMES!

So I don't really know... One thing I do know is that I am driving myself CRAZY over it. My Hubby thinks I should just wait a couple more days but.... I don't know.I am on CD 27...

Thanks for reading!! Please let me know what you would do!
HUGS!!!

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Molly ~ First all... I'm so glad your RE has given you hope that you might have lost!!!

How many days is your LP typically? Do you normally spot prior to AF? I'm not an advocate of early testing, because I hate to be disappointed. I would rather see AF arrive than a BFN. HOWEVER, if your LP is typically 12 or 13 days, I would probably test tomorrow if you have no other AF signs. The tender breasts and cramping sounds promising!

GOOD LUCK!!!

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Thanks for the reply honey! Yeah, you are right, I should wait!!!! That is what the Feb. board said too! It's so hard! I kind of thought I would feel some cramping by now if AF was coming...... but it's tricked me before. I just am so hopeful and I have a feeling that I am getting my hopes up and then I am going to be devestated if AF does show..... I know it's not over till it's over but you know how it is..... I am not a patient person so this is killing me! I just need to distract myself for a few days!

My LP was only 9-10 days when on Clomid.... Now that I am not on it I think it's normally 12or something close to that.

I hope you are doing great Jana!!! Thanks for the reply!

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Try to wait as long as you can. But that being said, I know it's easier said than done. Try to hold out... I'd test on Friday if the witch stays away. But be sure to have a digi close by for confirmation. Wink

Wishing you the very best!

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Thank you my dear friend! It's so sweet of you to still be checking in with us!!! It means the world to me Laura!

I will hold out as long as possible. I will go buy a digital just in case because if AF is not here by Friday I will be peeing on EVERYTHING!!!! HAHAHAHA Can you just about imagine?? HAHAHHAHA

I hope you are taking great care of yourself and that you are feeling great!!! Hugs to you honey!

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Try to hold out for as long as you can. I know its hard. But try. I'm sending you positive vibes that the witch stays away.

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I am sending you loads of patience :vibes: :vibes: I am terrible for testing early too. I know the excited nervousness this last few days before testing brings. I hope you can at least hold out another 48 hours.

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Molly, you know me....I am anti test, so I say wait it out if you can. Sending BFP vibes

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Well I have behaved myself and have NOT tested!!! For me that is pretty impressive. I really want to wait until 14DPO to test... I don't think I will make it any further than that! hahaha

Thank you for all of your support ladies!!!! Being that you are all responding with the same thing it gives me more will power Biggrin

I hope you all are doing great!

:bigarmhug:

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Molly, I'm proud of you for holding out. After my chem pg in January, I didn't test in April. But decided in May that I didn't want to pro-long my anxiety if it was a BFN. In the end after talking to DH about it, I tested at 10dpo, (on a Sat when I knew we could be alone for the weekend). I figured if it was neg, I could begin preparing myself for the sadness I knew would follow. I knew that if it was positive, not to get my hopes up too high though. I just didn't want to get a call about a BFN while I was at work on Wed. I wanted to find out while we were alone, if that makes sense. :goodluck: to you girl! I'm keeping my everything crossed for you!

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I'm so proud of you Molly! Smile Keep strong!

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Im so proud of you, Molly. I knew you could do it. Stay strong honey.

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I hope this is the last time yoiu have to have anxiety over this Molly! Sticky vibes coming your way!

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OH YOU GUYS ARE SO SWEET!!!!!

Seriously! What wonderful posts to come into this morning!!! You guys are so great!

I can't even believe I made it thru last night without testing!!!!! I had that pregnancy test in my hand twice last night when I went into the bathroom...... Finally I just went to bed and turned on some Housewives of NY and vegged out.

So, I plan on testing tomorrow morning! The only downside to that is I don't have a computer at home so I won't be able to post results until MONDAY when I come to work!!!! Well scratch that.... I live only a few blocks from work so if I get a BFP I will totally come in and post it!!!! hahahhahha

I hope you all have wonderful weekends and whoever is testing...... GOOD LUCK!!! For all of you BFP's GOOD HEALTH and for all you BFN's well, there is nothing good about that so just know I am very sorry and get some rest physically and mentally.

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Molly, You are the most precious thing! :bighug: I wish you the best when you POAS tomorrow morning! I pray that you'll post a BFP over the weekend! Sending positive :vibes: your way!

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THANK YOU!!!! THANK YOU!!!! THANK YOU!!!!!

You are too good and sweet to me Laura! I just love you to pieces!

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:goodluck: tomorrow Molly! We are thinking about you and praying for that BFP! And don't leave us hanging here....get to work and post!!! Hugs!!

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UPDATE!!!!

Well Ladies..... I just went to the bathroom and I am already spotting so I don't think there will be a test tomorrow am. I am pretty sure this is it. Cramps are starting.... I am just sick over it! I just want to go home and cry. This is getting really old month after month....

SO, I just wanted you to all know! I really want to thank you all for your support because it means the world to me!!! Honestly!

Good luck to the rest of our weekend testers!!!!! I can't wait to see all the BFP's!!!!

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Gosh Molly! I'm so :sorry:. I was really hoping that this would be it for you.:( If you want to talk about it, just know that I here for you.:bigarmhug:

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Sending you some more :bighug: and some :icecream: along with them. My heart hurts for you friend.

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Thank you guys! I really appreciate you being there for me.

I just feel miserable. There is just no other way to put it. I don't even like being around myself right now. My Hubby has been wonderful but I know he is having a hard time with the mood swings but he is hiding it well. I am just so sensitive this time around. I have cried at least once everyday since saturday when the WITCH not only came but she brought some friends with her..
I just need to pull it together. I think it's because I really had a great feeling about this cycle and I was so wrong.

I swear, I don't know what we could have done any better? We DTD everyday around O time and still nothing.

Okay, I am done.... I will turn my frown upside down and go hunt down some BFP's!!! Those always make me happy and give me hope.

Thanks again!

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Oh Molly! :bighug: I remember those months that we did everything PERFECT and being so disappointed and angry that I didn't end up with a BFP. I understand your frustrations and I remember the heartache. I hope that you get some answers soon!

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Oh Molly, I'm so so sorry. My heart breaks for you. I'm here if you need to talk

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Thank you so very much you guys! I am starting to feel better about things again! Not great but better!

Dawn, when is/was your surgery? I thought it was like the 8th or 9th of this month now that I think about it. I am thinking of you. Please update when you can! I miss you!

All of you women are great and I know you all know exactly what I am going thru and I wish with everything you didn't! But thank you for everything!

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