update on me (m/c ment)

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tacie's picture
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update on me (m/c ment)

Hi ladies,

It is with a shattered heart that I write this -- we lost our baby yesterday
I am going to be going away for awhile to deal with everything and I'm not sure when i will be returning - I hope you understand.
I wish the best of luck and sticky vibes to all you ladies - you all deserve beautiful healthy babies!

tacie

janasbaby's picture
Joined: 03/19/08
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I just read this on the February BB and I cannot express how sorry I am for you. My heart is aching. Take as much time as you think you need and remember that we are all here for you when you need us.

:bighug: :bighug:

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Joined: 05/15/07
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:bigarmhug: I am so sorry to hear the news. I also had a loss recently:( Take care of yourself. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers during this time.

zeit8593's picture
Joined: 08/19/08
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I'm so so sorry. :bigarmhug: Feel free to PM me if you need to talk/vent.

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:bigarmhug:

I am so sorry to hear this news.

combatcutie's picture
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Oh Tacie, I am so sorry. I just read this now. My heart goes out to you. If there is anything you need, please pm me.

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My heart aches for you. Im so sorry to hear this.

Joined: 01/11/07
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OH TACIE!

This is such horrible news!!!!! I am so sorry honey. If I were there I would wrap you up in a big hug!

Take as much time as you need and know we are here for you my dear!!!! PM me anytime.

Sending you much love and sympathy! Again, I am so sorry!!!
XOXOOXX

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I'm so sorry. :bighug:

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You girls are the greatest - thank you!! :bigarmhug:

Well this last loss was hard but it gave me the drive to do some more searching and I found out that with PCOS you have an approx 60% chance of loss in the first trimester! CRAZY!! My RE never told me this! Made me mad when I read it. I then read that if you take Metformin your first trimester that the numbers go down to approx 20% chance of miscarriage. Of course I got on the phone and demanded to see her as soon as I could - they were going to only get me in at the end of Sept but I told them that I need to see her at the end of June or beginning of July because Calgary called and we've been accepted into the IVF program and they want us down for our first appt in Sept. I did manage to get booked for an appt with her July 2nd, but we need to give a confirmation and payment by June 30th for Calgary.
Now I'm in the land of confusion - I don't know if we should do IVF if we're going to end up with a loss again...and $20,000 gone. But the chances of loss are reduced due to the IVF procedure and them putting in only the best fertilized eggs. DH thinks we should try another round of Clomid and IUI with Metformin & progestrone if our RE agrees to it, but also to confirm we're going to attend in Sept and pay the downpayment - if we cancel and lose the downpayment then we lose it he says.
Sadly he is not the one going through the drugs and procedures so he wants me to make the final decision....and I can't seem to find an answer --- Any thoughts ???

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Joined: 08/19/08
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That's a tough one Tacie.... our situations are very different but I will say that I wish we moved on to IVF sooner. We spent soooo much money on our 12 IUI attempts that we could have been putting towards the IVF costs. However, my first IVF attempt ended in m/c and that time, money, and emotion is something we can't ever get back.

Your DH's plan doesn't sound unreasonable... sort of the best of both worlds.

Follow your heart and I'm sure you'll make the right choice for you. :bigarmhug:

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Joined: 04/04/07
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Oh Tacie, that is horrible. I hope your RE gives you a reason on why you were not told about the higher chances of miscarriage.

The only advice I can say is follow your heart. Ultimately it is you & DH's decision. Most of all, do not let anything like this come between you & DH. Stand together as a STRONG couple

tacie's picture
Joined: 07/06/09
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Thanks girls - we are going to talk to the RE on July 2nd and also get an appt for Sept booked with Calgary for IVF -- if we don't need the appt in Sept we will cancel
You ladies are the best - I truly appreciate your support and insight on things - it's great to have honest thoughts given from an outside point of view because sometimes when you're caught in the middle of the storm you can't seem to see the light.
:bigarmhug:

Joined: 01/11/07
Posts: 124

Hey Tacie!

So good to hear from you honey! I am really upset your RE did not tell you that your chances of miscarriage were that much higher with the PCOS and why they didn't have you on the Metformin to begin with?????? I hope you get all the answers to this stuff at your appointment!

I really don't know what the right answer is to give you but it sounds like the plan you mentioned your husband has is a good one! It sounds like he is a wonderful man and I could not agree more with Dawn.... STAND TOGETHER as a couple and you will get thru all of this!

I am so glad you checked in with us! I have been thinking about you so much and praying so hard for your mind and body to heal!!!!!

Sending you a BIG WARM HUG MY FRIEND!