Oh Anna. I'm sorry CDing has been such a nightmare for you. I wouldn't put up with the routine you're doing. That's just too much to handle right now. If its that huge of a hassle, I say throw in the towel ... at least for now. You can always sell the diapers you bought and get most of your money back. You can always put the diapers away and use them later or even on the next kid. Will you be taking this washer with you to the new house? It might be an easy thing to swap it out for a different one during/after the move. I really really don't think its a detergent thing or a hard water thing. You're just not getting the poop off and that's got nothing to do with detergent or water. Also, you don't want to drive yourself crazy figuring this out just to move and have to figure it out all over again with a new setup.
Oh, and there's no need to mix liquid detergent with hot water. Liquid detergent is already in solution. Its the powdered stuff that sometimes needs a little heat to help it out.
I can't stop. Me buying these diapers was conditional on me actually CDing and not just 'throwing in the towel' if I didn't like it. I never thought I wouldn't like it. And it's not that I don't like it. I love the idea of it and the not buying diapers all the time and the cute prints. I just don't have the money to invest in a huge stash of a variety of diapers that I would like to have and I'm extremely soured on the extra work it's causing me. I never dreamed it would be that much of a challenge just to clean them.
My CDing fantasy was that I would just collect a pile of dirty diapers and then toss them in the wash and all it would be was an extra load of laundry. That isn't what I got.
A huge stash really isn't necessary. Yes, I have a ton. But I have a problem. Besides, mine are mostly prefolds and some Sunbabies and Kawaiis I got second hand from Leigh. I've rarely purchased a diaper new (just some covers and a few prefolds). The ONE time I bought a new pocket diaper it was the diaper from my worst nightmares.
Most of the time for most people, CDing is just like your fantasy. Occasionally, it just isn't. Take Leigh's experience for example. Addy gets horrific diaper rash is CDs and for some reason its better in sposies. She had to do what she had to do for Addy's well-being and for her sanity. I'd have done the same.
I think you have to ask yourself if CDing is accomplishing anything that you set out to accomplish. If so, keep chugging. If not, then its completely fine to stop. Don't feel like you need to prove anything to anyone (even yourself) by continuing. At the end of the day, its just a diaper and you have to do what you have to do to get through the day without constantly battling poop.
Do you have a friend/family member's house you could wash them at just to see if their washer gets the poop out? If it doesn't then its possible that the elastic on the diapers is too tight and its holding onto the poop with a death grip. If that's the case, I'd return the diapers, get your money back, and try something else. A lot of diaper vendors are more than happy to work with you (except maybe Sunbaby ... I've heard they're kinda *****y).
Hey hey! Idea! You said you had prefolds but no covers, right? Why not try using the pockets as covers? I've done it in a pinch and its worked just fine. Prefolds should wash out a lot better and are usually the silver bullet when it comes to leaks.
Also, where is he leaking from? The night time Kawaiis that I have gap at the legs something fierce so I have to put a cover over them. They're older (~ year at least) so maybe they've been redesigned but that was a big problem for a little while until I figured out to put a Blueberry cover over them. Kind of a hassle but we just use them at night and they're pretty bullet proof.
I'm wondering Erin if the Kawaiis are leaking b/c they're tight at his cute but huge thighs? So compression with the microfiber? The ALL she's been using might be giving her repelling issues. I know lots of people don't have issues with ALL, but I've found mention of this rare but possible issue in a few places. *sigh*
I agree that that routine is nuts. Anna I've seen that you've posted on the local FB page about cloth. Maybe see if one of them is gracious enough to let you use their washer once to see if it helps. In WF while I was there a stranger offered to let me use her washer! Shocked the heck outta me. If I was smarter I would have taken her up on it.
I'm sorry this is such a hassle for you. Getting the right wash routine down can be the biggest pain, and then having to change up absorbancy as they grow can also mess with your routine, but that does sound excessive. I hope you can find some sort of solution, whether its going back to disposables, finding some other way to get your diapers clean, taking them to the laundromat, whatever, so that its not such a huge stress for you.
Anna, I'm also sorry you're still having such a rough time. I feel like I sort of know how you feel, because our diapers were great for maybe not quite a year, and then we just were always having SUCH stink issues. The board was littered with posts from me looking for some kind of answer to my problem. And I, like you, was just SO disappointed that I was having so many problems, when I was SO into cloth and so looking forward to using it. The good news is that I eventually figured it out (for me, it was mostly a detergent issue), and now I'm good. I hope you can figure something out!
I've finally figured out a wash routine that I think is going to work for us. Thanks to some help from a local FB group of crunchy moms. It involves Calgon water softner, and multiple cycles of washing but I tried the routine today with a couple of non-prewashed poopy diapers and they were completely clean, not even any stains!
In other news I am still having MAJOR leaking issues in the Kawaii Minky diapers. With both kids. So I'm going to try to sell off the majority of these diapers, keeping a few, and then buying/trading for some other stuff.