Reality check for me.

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Reality check for me.

I think, I am actually dealing with infertility.

Or maybe it's just sinking in now. I saw a second RE, who basically concurred with my first, that IVF is my best chance of conceiving. In fact, he said he thought we'd have only a 10% chance of conceiving with IUI, at best. And then there's the whole risk of ectopic. I asked what are my chances now, trying naturally, and the answer to that was 2-3%, and that's if the tubes are open. It's not ZERO, I guess.

Even my husband was shocked at that number. This doctor wants to get my surgical report before going any further, so his estimates could change. The problem is that my tubes were damaged with endo, and even with surgery to open them, he says the adhesions will come back. It's been a while since surgery so who knows what things are like in there.

Truth is, I don't know if we will do any fertility or IVF. I now want to, but my husband does not agree.

That is most of my story. It's been a rough few days for me since the consultation. I was so hoping we'd do this naturally. But in a weird way, I feel like I can relax a little about wondering half the month, am I pregnant? Probably not! I think I'll be a little more prepared for the disappointment now.

Sorry to all the rest of you who are struggling. I hope you get your miracle too.

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*hugs* It's hard to come to that conclusion isn't it. When I had my first RE consult over 2 years ago, I was given the "unexplained" infertility diagnosis. My DH thought it was great at the time because nothing was wrong. I knew that it wasn't good news. At least DH understands now! I had a lap and HSG done in June and found out I have one blocked tube and endo.

I hope your DH comes around though. It's harder for the guys to understand. My DH was VERY against fertility treatments unless he had proof they were required. Now he's ok with doing IUI. We were given a "less than 1%" chance of conceiving on our own as my right ovary is dominant but my right tube is the blocked one. I almost always ovulate on the right. They said my chances might be higher if we can force my left side to ovulate, so we are trying injectibles with IUI next cycle.

I hope you can get some answers though. I also got a second opinion and was glad I did. Maybe you need another HSG to check your tubes?

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:bigarmhug: It is so hard to finally reach that point where you can acknowledge that it's more that just "taking awhile." We've got the same Unexplained IF diagnosis, and it is so frustrating to not be able to DO anything or TREAT anything.

I'm glad that you've gotten the 2nd opinion, and he'll be able to give you more specific info after he sees all of your information. Hopefully he'll be able to give you more optimistic numbers. Once you have a full picture, you and DH can really sit and look at your options and decide what is best for you.

:goodluck: Hopefully we'll ALL get our miracles soon.